JoannaSedley:
Kids never forget that.
The much kids do for fathers like this, is to get him a bottle of St Remy or Johnny Walker once in a while to invoke and pour libation to his ancestors very morning.
They always die alone while their wives ends up humping from one vacation house to another.

Humping. Been a while that word came to mind. Reminds me of Bobby brown. But your allegory a wicked one.

Amitez:
The bulk of the debt was piled by the minister of 24hrs darkness. We niw know the debt is $1.53b. Sanwa-olu should come and increase to $3.5billion

alarmist spotted :

thesicilian:

Is it menstrual period?

boss

Despite the hea y monthly Inflow

Interesting read

Wow

Destiny derailment starts. The kid even looks petrified, everyone she doesn't know wants a piece of her glaze. So much for altruism in this world.

Barca fans won't like this

Stop yours first. # Onnoghen

Lol

ImaIma1:


But he on the other hand doesn't see anything wrong with his actions and mindset. To him, he has to be a god in his home. He will love only when it is convenient and wouldn't want to be disturbed with the process of running the house.

His upbringing has made him selfish. And he already has divorce as an option even before getting married. Not everyone should get married. Selfish people should not bother themselves with marriage

Why stress yourself my lady

Kindheartedd:
I really really appreciate you all for your comments and time. He has read most comments alone, and I have done same.

We'll both sit to read them one by one later today.

He won't comment because he asked me to post while he sit to read how people see his act.

Thank you elders of Nairaland Family section.

Let's us K ow where we got it wrong after you both read through. Finally I suggest he tells you how he feels when he feels upset with you. This way he doesn't bottle up things too much and expresses himself when it has piled up. I think people call it effective communication in marriages.


Please find this book and read it

Talk your way to an intimate marriage. Dr Harvey sumfin. Any couple that read this book would be glad they did.

Your hubby loves you but his way of doing a few things an be very petty. Do not seek any form of distance with him. Work thru your issues privately, do not be to open to counsel. Receive sound counsel only when the counsel edifices and is positive. Even counselors are dodgy. God bless your union.

ImaIma1:


But he decided to follow his dad's footstep even if he probably saw his mum stressed. It shows he regards women very lightly.

Mental awareness. Until people become conscious of their destructive tendencies and empathise with their actions, change is impossible. Actions are poured out for our " internal mould". Unless these moulds are broken either by external brute force or personal will of the doer, their mental pathway continues making it impossible for change to occur or even the possibility of them K owing their actions are wrong. It takes Grace for one to be attentive to personal misgivings

K

lilwetdick:


it is true, most of them cannot eat well but spam everywhere with i need a fuckmate ad

Smh

Sweetcrush:
They haven't come across dudes like me who'll treat thier Bleep up.��

lilwetdick:
I have lived in many part of Nigeria and i have come to the conclusion that women living in lagos and Edo are the most aggressive of all women in Nigeria.

can you imagine that most of these set of women are so rude to everyone, i remembered buying some stuff from a woman here in lagos, just imagine the type of rudeness i received like i was begging her, i just took my money somewhere else, she started asking me why i went away, i just looked at her like a fool..let me not talk about edo women from toasting to customer service, it is war and stress, customer service is just non existence, extremely rude and aggressive. why these behavior among these set of Nigerian women? is it a Nigerian thing that a woman is supposed to be rude and aggressive to everyone they meet?

It goes deeper . It's both psychological and mental instability.

can not afford to eat well

ImaIma1:


Ok. We see where you learnt it from. Upbringing really plays a major role in marriage. Most ladies should observe their men's fathers to have an idea of who they are marrying and what they are getting into.

Different strokes my lady. My father was abusive. In fact all the great guys I see today many had abusive dad's. Self realization and cognitive ascendence helped us understand things better in order to chart a different course than our dads.


Best guys for ladies to date..

Guys that are on the path of awareness, mild and positive self consciousness and improvement, this breed strives to be better day in day out. Anything less is a no brainer.

UjuJoan2:


These are not 'small issues' . . . these are HUGE issues.

1. You married an abusive man with no conscience and empathy. Do not stoop to his level by shouting back and fighting him. Learn to ignore him. He knows the right thing to do but chooses not to, there is nothing you can do about it. making it an issues will only add to your blood pressure. And fighting and quarreling will only lead to you guys raising violent children.

2. Reduce your expectations of your husband . . you want him to put his clothes in the laundry basket, help with chores, do school work for the kids e.t.c. and these are ALL his responsibility but he chooses to abandon them to you, someone he thinks is NOTHING. You need to show him strength in these areas where he has failed.

I believe every woman who chose to marry a NIGERIAN man should be ready to carry his responsibilities as well, since our culture encourages men to be lazy and dependent on women. Of course they think it makes them the head and in-charge, but in truth, there are only displaying weakness and indiscipline.

If you are lucky like some of us, great . . . . IF not, then resign yourself to fate and don't let it bother you.

3. You are taking too much on yourself, why not get a full-time help? Even if it's a young child.

Before I got married, I used to think I will live without helps, but it was not a realistic expectation . . the children come quickly, the pressure of work is high and the husbands are usually non-nonchalant. So I got help(s). . . .Full-time! You are lucky you work from home so you can efficiently supervise them. You can still bathe your kids to avoid accidents, but they can dress them, feed them, load the washing machine, and other chores that contribute to your pressure.

4. Your husband TRUSTS you, he just doesn't want to acknowledge it because for some reason he think it will make you better than him. HE has this need to control and subdue you. He is very insecure and if you let him, he will keep bringing you down to his level. In any case, if he doesn't trust you what difference does it make? Stop letting that bother you. Face your home and concentrate on improving yourself and your business.

Try not to lose yourself in this marriage because it will not be worth it!!!

OP as much as I don't disagree with this Individual, I beg you to not follow the counsel numbered one. Ignoring your husband would escalate issues, Incite avoidable anger and make these simple issues complex. Never approach issues from a combative standpoint. That would lead the journey a wrong path. Do not be combative with him this way, rather report him to someone he respects


Getting him to pour out pent-up energy and discharge is a way for him to process his internal energy which he doesn't know he has issues with. Though there's need for his attentiveness to his own destructive habits to be brought to his attention. This is your prayer point. You know what to do.

Thrash. Keep trying to unsettle innocent ladies with your whorish thang

ighedosajam2018:
What are u into and what happens if I did not get my returns as at when due

You'll get your funds Sir. I'm into multiple ventures. Do you mind calling me up let's discuss?

Ann again

Talk to me today.