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DAramis:
That is a big red flag bro. You still sure you want to put her in plans about your relocation?

For now focus on seeing the safe delivery of the pregnancy and please due try and save money to run DNA on the child when born (To be actually sure it is yours bro).

After confirmation of the ownership of the baby, you can decide on what next to do.

Another point you might be missing is that, your lady might actually be a Nymphomanic
. A dangerous situation if you are not one cause you can't keep up. Try and watch the movie on that bolded name to understand better.

NB: Though not an excuse, and I am not holding any brief for her, but I have been told by a woman (an ex), that pregnant woman are the horniest (most sexually active and dripping wet women).

She joking told me she will demand my magic dick multiple times in a day whenever she want. 😅😅😅😅

She is, and she quoted to me before, that a pregnant lady can’t possibly be having affair with a different man, only the man who got her pregnant.

I guess it was all a cap. Cause for a girl wey just discover say she dey pregnant, normal girls would be scared and be thinking, or even depressed. But this one is already screwing around just 1 week later she found out.

When ever we just issues, she dey always threaten say if i commot, she go remove the belle. Na why i just park, I don’t know if its worth it or not

DAramis:
Leave those acting like saint on the forum. Reality out there is different from fantasy and wishful thinking.

Some men married their women because she got pregnant. And everything turns out good for them. Others marry virgin, and they become wayward later in life.

There is no formula to these things.

NB: I am not saying you should marry her. Just be responsible for the pregnancy since it is yours according to you, and observe her. Other things can come later (2 years , 5 years or even 10 years later). Your obligation lies to the child for now and most probably to offer her all the support she will need while pregnant.

I tell am make we go traditional way, that it is the only way i can trust her. And i meant it

Na so this girl begin tell me say that after a week she found out she was pregnant, she cheated (affair) with 3 times, twice with a work mate and once with a friend.

Like bro, a pregnant woman still screwing around? She said its cause we havent gotten close then

Omo eh, i no say na red flag, but the pregnancy nko?

Yes i will take responsibility, but these kind things dey pain sha. Even if you no send the girl, the fact she is carrying your baby will make u wanna be protective

Yugoslavia247:
U go cry better cry
No worry oo.
Olosho wey marry dey go holiday
After vacation na work.
One thing dey sure?
U will be blamed at the end of the day by everybody.
Today and tomorrow.
Even the gal go blame u.

U go cry better cry

I tell am make we go traditional way, that it is the only way i can trust her. And i meant it

Na so this girl begin tell me say that after a week she found out she was pregnant, she cheated (affair) with 3 times, twice with a work mate and once with a friend.

Like bro, a pregnant woman still screwing around? She said its cause we havent gotten close then

Omo eh, i no say na red flag, but the pregnancy nko?

Saybal:
This boy is not in his right senses

ok?

Yugoslavia247:
I dey tell u say u go cry.
Better cry ooo
Make sure to quote me
Stolen meat dey sweat but na when u keep ur own meat u go get sleepless nights.

U go cry gan.
Lol
U go too cry

Nawa for you. Na your fellow man i be

Who no dey do mistake? Who never knack girl wey get man?

If you wan drop advice, drop am like who dey mature. No dey use your past experience dey attack me.

Yugoslavia247:
U go cry

Las las u go accept that pikin.

Your church and family go put mouth.

U go cry better cry.

Make sure to quote me then.

I go forever accept my pikin.

Na poverty dey give una that mentality say anyone wey born go leave em pikin or dey avoid responsibility.

No wahala, anyhow e turns out, i go sure have my pikin. i go share you pictures here.

No be me do you bro. I seeked advice from the elderlies and the experienced, not pouring the pain from your past experiences on me

Yugoslavia247:
Someone that fuc.ked. other guys while she was dating.
You that bleeped while she was dating.

You believe the pregnancy was yours.

Truly she knew why she did not date you.
You are not a man yet.

You could not even date her because you were a weakling and she saw u as a tool.

But worse is you are now a fo.ol.

Because you will regret your life.

You will live in constant mistrust.

What makes you think you are the only fuckmate?

Someone u did not date?

Someone that hardly keeps a relationship and it is because of you

Fwb is so easy. You know why? It jas not sense of commitment or responsibility. You know why married men are called responsible and marriage is used to tame wayward adults? It has so much responsibility overload.

You think u can shoulder her excesses that other guys ran from within a month.

Someone that has no emotion or knows what dating entails.

I always say this the motive of a relationship is far more important that starting.

If the motive was fwb then it will always be as such and regrets go full am.


U why we have many single mothers

The gals want to chop the money and guy want to Bleep kpekus
Belle enter they cant keep it together

What is the issue? The motive.

The guy will want that kpekus without responsibility and the girl wants more money with no responsibility.

After some time they start forcing each other to be responsible while being irresponsible at the same time.

Chaos
Fight
Hate
Disgust
Ends it all

Whether it is your child or not. You will pay the price

You made alot of irrelevant comments here and ‘slow’ assumptions

Your comments sound so personal, like you’re trying to take out the anger of your past experience on me.

If you actually took your time to read the post, you’d see where i pointed that i always decline whenever she asks us to be in a relationship. Someone here said “why buy the cow while you can always get the milk”

Listen again, we are childhood friends, and naturally meeting alot would bring sexual temptations. I no dey pay her and she no dey ask me for financial support.

Is she the one to see me as a tool, or me as a guy to see her as a tool?

I never said i was the only fukmate, i only asked if pregnancy can calm a girl down

Bro, no be me hurt you. I only shared and asked for suggestions

MrCork:
No. Your Sister sir. I used to date her. Real talk!(no oofencsse)

Okay

MrCork:
Ok Daniella...is she lightskin sir??

You dey suspect your babe?

Uptheante:
What if DNA test shows that you are not the father, at the end of day, what happens to all you have spent to take care of her during the pregnancy & delivery?

Na when we go hear say “justice for chioma”

Dzzzz:
When you Dey shoot sperm inside like Rambo you no remover history lesson..Oga shut up and be responsible..

Oga read before you comment. Nobody dey talk of taking responsibility.

Girls are used to telling guys to pour inside, especially when she knows she no dey the period wey pregnancy dey possible

Uptheante:
That's not a reliable way of determining that you are responsible for the pregnancy.

DNA test is the best solution

How sure are you?

Cause aint no way im spending or taking responsibility that long without confirming paternity, if i should wait for dna

Uptheante:
How are you sure the pregnancy is yours, since you said she has other male friends that she has sex with?

Scan bro. Tho i go still do dna, but we did scan to determine the age of the pregnancy vs the day we both ‘met’ last

Ibkay32:
The post title, "Advice on getting a friend pregnant," is misleading. At first glance, it sounds like you're asking for tips on impregnating a friend, which can be confusing and even amusing. A clearer title would help prevent misinterpretation, especially if the post gains more visibility to make it to fp. Consider something like "Seeking advice on a friend’s pregnancy situation" or "Need advice regarding a friend’s pregnancy." Clear wording is essential to ensure the message is properly understood.

I thought the title might be catchy

macphilip:
my Wife changed her's immediately we got married, I never asked her.
It made me to respect her the more

in as much i feel scared asking a man who joined nairaland when i was only 6 years old…. Hope the union turned out to be the perfect marriage u wanted?

DAramis:
Okay bro.

As for the third paragraph of mine,you don't need to marry her to do that. Just throw it to her as suggestions and see if she will do it herself.

That it is to cut her off from situations that will tempt her back to those lifestyle she is planning to leave. It may only takes a hi, and maybe old picture of them together (she and ex together) to re-kindle the old flame between them. She shutting them off completely seems practical and logical

Thats very true. Cause last time she posted a twerking butt video, the replies to the status were all related to her “coming over”. You have strong point here.

Thanks alot bro. Just trying to take it slow, to avoid her aborting it

Helpout12345:
All I will say is that both of you fit each other.

Cheats should marry cheats, faithful should marry faithful, virgin should marry virgin, rich should marry rich, poor should marry poor etc.

Do fast, go and marry her.

My body count as a man wey don pass 23, is less than 4. So abegi, i can’t settle out of pity. I deserve better too.

If I consider advice from the experienced ones, we fit regret the marriage

DAramis:
Though your last paragraph seems noble, but I do hope it will not affect your source of income?

You don't have to relocate to a new state with her if your business or work is there where both of you are currently. You can simply change your house address, street or town where you guys will be new faces in the community and start afresh together.

In addition,get a new sim card, and give to her (then destroy the one she has after she gets her parents and important contact out. Also shut down her social media platforms (deactivate it completely including her WhatsApp)....I mean everything. After giving birth,she can set up one to document her new status as a mother.

These are practical steps to cut her off the old beastie or ex that don't add meaningful thing to her life. If she is intelligent,she will never protest against this approach because she will know it is for her own good.

The second paragraph, yes, relocating was already part of my plans before it happened. I just had include her in the plans.

The third paragraph, yes, but i’d be able to do that when i pay her bride or do the necessary. Then I know say, na woman i don pay for.

checky619:
You can’t turn a hoe to a house wife, but men never learn, sorry for the poor child you’re bringing to this world out of unah useless immorality. Life no get manual, you will learn

Useless immorality? You don’t need to be rude. No body wey no dey bang woman wey e never marry, e dey very for guys in a particular age set. Lets be realistic, na only online everyone be saint

DAramis:
Forget about that unfortunate guy's suggestion. Bro, most women do change after pregnancy....they may change for good or for bad.

Example, eleganza company owner, heard the woman was an Ashh..wow before she married the old man (allegedly). But now she is sitting tight in the marriage. Same with other young ladies or people out there (hence it is called a hoe phase).

My personal advice, sit her down and have heart to heart discussion with her on the need to cut off all relationships or friendships with her male besties and exs. (She can make new ones within your circle of friends). That you are willing to give her permanent contract (marriage) only if she will be willing to be committed to you and you alone.

Any form of cheating (not necessarily sex, but sex chatting with an ex or bestie, you will check out of the relationship and send her packing....you don't care how long you guys are married). In general, just let her know your deal breaker in the relationship with having sex with another person once you become an item is non-negotiable. Also let her tell you her own deal breaker and see if it is what you can keep to (you know some women will tell you no form of female friends even when they know you will never cheat with the said lady).

Once this has been sorted out, be with her till she give birth, observe her during nursing child stage for at least 1 year before you can finally talk about doing wedding with her. If her culture or family members don't support her having child outside of wedlock,you can take the gamble and go ahead with it.

Just make sure she knows she will lose you in a jiffy once she messes up. It will keep her on her toes.

Second option and the easiest
Be a deadbeat dad and forget about her and the pregnancy

The second option doesn’t sound easy bro. I really need custody of my child.

I’ve told her a little about this, and in return, she said that if she stays loyal and i cheat, she’ll just run away with my baby.

Thanks alot for your input. Its one of the most helpful so far.

I’ve decided to take her to a new state, new people, new life. Then watch her closely for a year.

frozen70:
I believe the pregnancy will calm her down and she will be ready to settle down

You can also let her know that it's a tabboo in your family for a man to be married to a woman and the woman will never sleep with another man

Tell her the consequences

Thanks alot

Mariangeles:
So, why you come dey get doubts now? Una two na the same.
Even if you end up with another person, you dey likely to cheat on that person with her, same as her.

I dey get doubts now cause that same girl is carrying my child. It’s very natural for a guy to be concerned on her past behavior.

Cause if i ignore them, the same way i team with her to deceive other guys, i myself might be in line. I’m just looking out for myself.

You a lady, you can answer this. Does pregnancy make a girl stay a one place and focused on one guy? (The stomach never big)

Mariangeles:
Is her name Kesaa?



A case of why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free, right?
Anyways, we read, we don't judge.

Dont get me wrong on this, as you’re a female too.

I value her friendship, we help and supported each other. Why risk it on relationship when i know say she still dey enjoy her youth age? If we had gone into a relationship, we for don quarrel years back

Mariangeles:
Is her name Kesaa?

u don dey investigate? 😂😂

torqque7:
Just dey play..if you like follow this simp advice na you go cry last last no worry yourself,go marry Olosho you go learn..Oga collect your baby move ahead of you know what's good for you. You see problem korokoro but you want put hand inside based on galadima wey you be na..no worry we dey here de wait you cries of pain when e set..

I no really get plans or mentioned plans to marry am.

Cause for a girl that always has postinor 2 in her bags and still says she forgot to use it after we met, i never understand

Is it possible to get custody of my baby? Cause I don’t think she will let go easily

Talismann:
they are both jokers and f**ls. They will suffer terribly eventually

You don’t need to pour your frustration here.

70% of males and females that age, tend to behave like this. I no be pastor

verminnel:
You are both still young, and judging by what u put up there's a very high probability she's not yet mentally mature to build a family dynamic. Forget the initial pregnancy / baby excitement, when u both encounter real life challenges living together as a couple there's every possibility she will miss her single life. Focus on raising the child together but don't move too fast in regards wifing her until she's proven herself worthy.Remember talk is cheap,anyone can say anything.

Thanks brother

drstranged:
Pregnancy is not a requirement to marry a girl. But you must take responsibility for the child if it's yours. On the part of marrying her, you must understand that this girl doesn't respect commitment and a time will come when the initial excitement and hype of her marriage to you will die, and see finish will enter, and then she'd start seeing you as nothing and cheat on you with different guys. Her character of sleeping with different men says it all. So it's up to you, if you can endure your wife and mother of your children cheating on you and possibly getting pregnant for another man and having you father that man's child, then go ahead. Wisdom is profitable to direct!

I get your point and thats my sole concern. My problem again is that, I don’t know if they she will let go of my baby if it doesn’t work out. I wan keep custody of my child if anything goes wrong, is that possible?

Mindlog:
You have always known her to have multiple sexual partners of which you are one. even when you are aware she is in a relationship.

A baby is on the way, the most important person in this situation is the baby and you both should develop health coparenting skills, so your child will have a better start in life, even if you both don't end up getting married.

We plan to move in together throughout the remaining months till she delivers, make sense ba? She no want her relatives to know

Mindlog:
You have always known her to have multiple sexual partners of which you are one. even when you are aware she is in a relationship.

A baby is on the way, the most important person in this situation is the baby and you both should develop health coparenting skills, so your child will have a better start in life, even if you both don't end up getting married.

She’s doesn’t always tell me if she’s currently in a relationship or not, she only brings it up when it goes south or needs advice.

Her last relationship ended because she visited me, the guy noticed and asked her, she said nothing happened between us. The guy just shook head and moved on, cause aint no way you visit a dude and say nothing happened. Even if he is gay

Thanks alot for the advice brother

Nonexisting1:
Since the baby is yours, you must take responsibilities. This is no debatable. If I were in the dating pool or believed in marriage, I would go for the devil I've known for 9 good years rather than the angel I knew nothing about. Women treat their male friends better than they treat their boyfriends and you have also known and seen her finish. The only thing now is that you will not beat karma. As you knew she had boyfriend and was fuccking her while she lied on the phone, another man will likely fucck her one day while she lies to you over the phone. Karma is a bitch brother.

Taking responsibility isnt the topic here, at all. Ofcourse na my child, i no fit leave am commot.

Me seeking for advice, is for the possible future. Thats why i added “getting belle for a man, does it make the girl change?”

Shes been my friend for years, i know her well, she knows me well, so i no go see am as see finish.

Yes you also have a great point. I’ve known and trusted her for years as a friend, going further with her shouldn’t be hard

id4sho:
Abort

can u throw more light to why you advised so?