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BusinessRe: 8 Daily Habits That Quietly Waste Your Money In Nigeria by Day169: 7:19am On May 07
"Black tax"! undecided
.. twenty characters more needed.
FashionRe: Rate This Fashion Style by Day169: 7:17am On May 07
Impractical!
..can she raise her arms or run in an emergency? undecided
CelebritiesRe: ‘I Nearly Died In That Fight’ – Carter Efe Protests Unpaid N50m Prize by Day169: 12:08am On May 07
I hope he (Mr Carter) is aware that Mr Taiwo (the taxman) is coming for 25% of the prize money.
.. plan well we'll o!
PoliticsRe: List Of Nigerian Governors That Are Eyeing The Senate by Day169: 11:57pm On May 06
RuMiRgO1stSon:
All these craps are going for the Red Chamber, and we Nigerians expect anything to better in this country?
Lord save Nigeria
1.Governor Abdulrazaq wants to go to Senate.

2.Governor Uzodinma wants to return to Senate.

3.Governor Buni wants to go to Senate.

4.Governor Abiodun wants to go to Senate.

5.Governor Sule wants to go to Senate.

6.Governor Fintiri wants to go to Senate.

7.Former governor Wamakko wants to return to Senate.

8.Former governor Goje wants to return to Senate.

9.Governor Mohammed wants to return to Senate.

10.Governor Yahaya wants to go to Senate.

11.Former governor Amosun wants to return to Senate.

12.Former governor Yahaya Bello wants to go to Senate.

13.Former governor Okowa wants to return to Senate.

14.Former governor Daniel wants to return to Senate.

15.Former governor Abu Lolo wants to return to Senate.

16.Former governor Dankwambo wants to return to Senate.

17.Former governor Kalu wants to return to Senate.

18.Former governor Tambuwal wants to return to Senate.

19.Former governor Ortom wants to go to Senate.

20.Former governor Aliero wants to return to Senate.

21.Former governor Yari wants to return to Senate.

22.Former governor Lalong wants to return to Senate.

23.Former governor Nyame wants to go to Senate.
I like the way you put it.
They all want to go to the Senate, but it's up to Nigerians to decide on how many will succeed if we can put on our thinking caps and not yield the lure of 'stomach infrastructure'!
PoliticsRe: Senate Restricts Its Presidency To Returning 10th Assembly Members Only. by Day169: 4:32am On May 06
So what will happen if they're all voted out and not returned or the returned senators choose to remain as "bench warmers"? undecided
FamilyRe: Most Women With Big Ass In Igbo Land Grow The Ass After Childbirth by Day169: 9:56pm On May 05
fineboynl:
What I noticed in igbo land. Majority of the women with big ass. The ass appeared after child birth. Not one not two but reoccurring things.

If they should you their old pictures you will surprised and even deny it.

In fact any girl or lady with big ass go and investigate 80-90 % already have kids. This are my observation because of the fact i love them big. And when i ask questions and investigate the majority of them the big ass appeared after child birth. Although some might have a little bit if it but it grows large after giving birth to 1 or 2.
You must be a lucky person indeed since you know just where to find your spec!
You have them made just for you. wink
FamilyRe: Facts About Men Like This by Day169: 9:29pm On May 05
From the picture, you can tell that their favourite luxury designer brand, "Tummy-Hillfiger" is for a reason! cheesy
PoliticsRe: Despite Certificate Forgery Scandal, Uche Nnaji Joins PDP For Guber Bid by Day169: 7:12pm On May 05
It exposes how our politicians think, in a certain way that differs from the norm. undecided
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Michael Jackson Will Be Burnley’s Interim Manager Until The End Of The Season by Day169: 10:23pm On Apr 30
.. interesting. After Scott was told to 'beat it', now comes Michael Jackson.
Why? Well, I guess it's just "human nature "! cheesy
CelebritiesRe: Mercedes Benz Sues Osimhen For Alleged ₦142m Debt by Day169: 11:49pm On Apr 29
I like the way this article is written.
It kind of absolves Osimhen of deliberately refusing or neglecting his financial obligations.
In order words, he can be forgiven for this 'misdeed', provided he resolves the matter quickly, and moves on to greater achievement.
PoliticsRe: Samuel Ajose Picks APC Nomination Form For Governorship Seat In Lagos by Day169: 10:07am On Apr 29
.. in other words, 50 Milla don go be dat
CrimeRe: Police Reel Out Multiple Achievements In Tackling Crime (Video, Photos) by Day169: 8:06pm On Apr 26
If the NPF can curb the menace of harassing innocent citizens without cause by it's men, then that would be a worthy achievement! undecided
PoliticsRe: President Tinubu Congratulates Governor Umo Eno On His Birthday by Day169: 5:30am On Apr 25
Starhearts:
U wey pple knw his real age ..
Wht have u achieved with ur real age

Just online toothless dog dat can't bark...
Doing cho cho cho cho everywhere online.. but , Facebook, Twitter nd Instagram
I haven't said anything negative about the governor, but since it's your stock in trade, I'll let it slide and move on to other things!
Next.. wink
PoliticsRe: Davido Appointed Youth Mobilization Lead For Osun Governorship Campaign by Day169: 9:17am On Apr 24
Keme4Real:
Family affair. Small time Davido go enter politics too
Sheh you know, e don too sure! 100% cheesy
PoliticsRe: Davido Appointed Youth Mobilization Lead For Osun Governorship Campaign by Day169: 9:15am On Apr 24
Smart move!
.. one show every weekend till election day should do the trick. cheesy
PoliticsRe: President Tinubu Congratulates Governor Umo Eno On His Birthday by Day169: 9:13am On Apr 24
They should have let us know his age na.. be it real, official or even sports age, we won't mind. cheesy
Anyway, happy birthday, Mr Governor!
CrimeRe: Court Clears Duke-Abiola, Slams Police With ₦100 Million Damages by Day169: 8:09am On Apr 24
The NPF will soon start a national mass mobilisation to raise 10 times the that amount under a fictitious guise.
Sadly, the law abiding public will pay for it! undecided
PoliticsRe: “he Did It Deliberately”: Donald Duke Accuses Atiku Of Sabotaging Opposition To by Day169: 6:28am On Apr 23
I'd rather say, he did it "inadvertently"! undecided
RomanceRe: Involuntary Single Ladies In Nigeria: What’s Really Going On? by Day169: 7:24pm On Apr 22
essentialone:
You just described a whole demographic that nobody wants to talk about because it makes everyone uncomfortable.

*“Involuntary single ladies”* — fine, educated, stable, ready… but still single. Not by choice. By market failure.

And you’re right: they’re everywhere. Hospitals, banks, law firms, tech companies, church choir, weddings. The complete package with an empty ring finger. And it’s not because “men are intimidated” or “their standards too high”. That’s lazy gist.

*Why it’s happening — the ugly truth about the dating market now*

1. *Too many options, zero filters*
Dating apps + Instagram + LinkedIn = everyone is accessible. So men keep “shopping”. Why commit to 1 great woman when 10 “maybes” are in his DM? He promises today, disappears tomorrow because tomorrow brought a new option. Women do it too, but men drive the ghosting stats.

2. *Serious men marry early, unserious men stay in circulation*
The guys ready for marriage at 28-32 lock down fast. Who’s left in the pool at 33+? Mostly: players, wounded men, perpetual “I’m not ready”, and broke men looking for a sponsor. So these solid women keep dating from a pool that’s already filtered for non-commitment.

3. *Timeline mismatch*
She’s 29-35, educated, stable. She wants kids + marriage in 2-3 years. She dates intentionally. The guy she meets is 35, “still finding himself”, “not under pressure”, wants to “see where it goes”. He can waste 2 years because his biological clock isn’t ticking. Hers is.

4. *She adjusted expectations, but the bar is on the floor*
These women already lowered standards: “Just be God-fearing, have work, and want family”. That’s bare minimum. Yet they still meet men who lie, cheat, can’t communicate, or want her to be mummy + girlfriend + ATM. So “adjusting” doesn’t help when the market is broken.

5. *Strong women get punished, not rewarded*
A doctor/nurse who paid her own bills, has her car, no drama, gets called “too independent” or “masculine”. Meanwhile, the high-maintenance, jobless babe gets chased because she “needs saving”. Some men don’t want a partner. They want a project. So the stable woman gets ignored.

6. *Women don’t approach, men don’t propose*
Culturally, she still can’t say “I like you, let’s date seriously”. She has to wait to be chosen. But the men choosing are unserious. So she’s stuck hoping the right one finds her in traffic.

*What happens to these women?*

You listed it:
*Some settle* – Marry the barely-available guy because “better than nothing”. Resentment later.
*Some give up* – “God when” turns to “God abeg”. Career, travel, cats, God.
*Some still hopeful but tired* – They’re dating but numb. Every new guy feels like another interview that will end in “we’ll see”.

And the worst part? *It’s not their fault.* They did everything “right”. School, career, character, prayer. But the market rewards vibes, not value.

*What the market isn’t saying out loud*

1. *Men are scared of responsibility, not strong women*
Marriage, kids, bills, in-laws — many men in Nigeria are running from that. So they date the stable woman, enjoy her peace, then run when she asks “what are we?” Because she represents adulthood.

2. *Attention is cheaper than commitment*
It costs a man ₦0 to say “you’re wife material” in DM. Costs ₦5M+ to actually marry her. So he distributes free compliments to 20 women and commits to none.

3. *Many women are involuntary single, many men are involuntary unserious*
He’s 38, still in situationships, telling people “good women don finish”. No, bro. You met 4 good women. You wasted 6 months each because you can’t choose.

*So what’s the way forward for these ladies?*

Because “just pray” isn’t a strategy.

1. *Stop dating in the general pool* – If every guy in your DM is 33+ and “not sure”, your pool is contaminated. Meet men through married friends, professional networks, places where commitment is pre-screened. Farmers market vs Night club.

2. *Time-box ruthlessly* – “I’m dating intentionally. In 3 months we should know if this is heading to marriage. If we don’t, I exit.” Say it early. Unserious men will flee. That’s the point.

3. *Stop adjusting, start requiring* – “God-fearing + has job” is not enough. Add: “Can plan a date, communicates daily, introduces me to friends in 2 months, talks about future without sweating”. If he can’t, next.

4. *Date younger if values align* – Many 28-32 year old men are more ready than 38 year olds. Age isn’t maturity. Stop capping yourself at “must be older”.

5. *Consider location arbitrage* – Harsh but true: Nigeria dating market is brutal. Some women find serious men when they relocate to other locations in Nigeria, or even to abroad. Different pond, different fish.

6. *Build life without waiting* – Buy the land, freeze eggs, travel, start business. So you choose marriage from abundance, not desperation. Men can smell desperation and they run.

*What men need to hear too*

If you’re a serious guy reading this: These women are not scarce. They’re just tired of auditioning for clowns. If you meet one and you’re ready:
1. *Say it early* – “I’m looking for a wife, not a vibe.”
2. *Move with clarity* – No “let’s see how it goes” for 1 year.
3. *Match her effort* – She’s stable. Don’t come with chaos.

Because right now, the best women are going single while the worst men stay in rotation. That’s how a society collapses.

*Bottom line:* The dating market don change, yes. Less clarity, less commitment, more options. But options without character = poverty.

These women aren’t “unlucky”. They’re in a rigged game. Solution isn’t “try harder”. Solution is “change the game or change the players”.
Your brilliant write-up should be published as "A Compendium of Modern Day Relationships"!
You'll make millions in copyright royalties. cheesy
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Rosenior Sacked By Chelsea After Three Months In Charge by Day169:
It came "naturally" for a team of Chealsea's pedigree. I believe they should've stuck with the previous manager (Enzo Maresca). Football no easy. (.. even the 'goner' manager is now sweating)
PoliticsRe: BREAKING: Adelabu Set To Resign As Power Minister over Governorship ambition by Day169: 8:15am On Apr 22
Sheh e "shock" all of una?
.. the guy wey no give us power, na him wan go collect power for Oyo?
Na real O.Y.O dem dey! cheesy
PoliticsRe: Oyo Guber: Adebayo Adelabu To Resign As Minister Of Power - Aide by Day169: 7:48am On Apr 22
You just never can tell. In his quest to seek power in oyo (or remove power from oyo.. grin), he might end up leaving 'power' for the rest of the country and so a blessing in disguise! cheesy
PoliticsRe: Governor Alex Otti Reportedly Moved Abia's Debt Profile From191.2 Billion To 48b by Day169: 7:39am On Apr 22
That's the true mark of a banker who's skilled in debt and resource management along with a commitment to serve his people! cool
TravelRe: Will My Age Affect My Visa Being Granted?!! by Day169: 7:50pm On Apr 21
Keep your head up, 'Youngie'. You only need to fulfil the set criteria to obtain your visa!
PoliticsRe: Onanuga Lists Military’s Successes Against Terrorists, Bandits, Others by Day169: 7:35pm On Apr 21
There is little logic in arresting 'armed' militia fighters, knowing that these are responsible for decimating the military and innocent citizens! undecided
PoliticsRe: I'll Beat Tinubu Flat in an Election - Dino Melaye Drops Bombshell by Day169: 6:05am On Apr 21
Bombshell? cheesy
.. not even a 'banger ot knockout', more like the "bisco" firecracker! grin grin grin
PoliticsRe: Now That Peter Obi Is All Set To Lose The ADC Nomination And VP Slot by Day169: 4:42am On Apr 21
In my opinion, Peter Obi may have made a cardinal mistake by defecting to the ADC to join the other heavyweights.
In our political clime, there is a tendency for aspirants who lose at the party primaries to decamp to another party there by splitting the votes of the opposition.
If Obi had envisaged his alliance with Kwankwaso, he should have moved over to NNPP to join him rather than both moving to the ADC.
That way they would've had a headstart and an early focus on the presidential elections thereby avoiding all the distraction going on in ADC at the moment.
PoliticsRe: Dapo Abiodun Is Buying, Manipulating His Way To A Senatorial Seat - Wale Onifade by Day169: 4:26am On Apr 21
Politics is a dirty game of power, money, subterfuge and perhaps violence in this clime. Thus the governor is employing every "ordinance" in his arsenal to achieve his political objective.
If Senator Daniel is confident of his popularity with the Ijebu people then he had better decamp from the APC to contest the seat on the platform of another party!
PoliticsRe: If You Give Us Food, We Will Vote For APC - Lagos Tout by Day169: 6:05pm On Apr 18
bmd1010:
Just give us food, if you give us food, we’ll vote for APC, I want to chop out of the money too and Tinubu will use 12 years”

Just take a look at this mess bruh !! See who these people dey sign

Dem don dey recruit tout enter politics
Look at the nuisance this one is committing in the society

A mind is surely terrible thing to waste! undecided
PoliticsRe: Lagos 2027: Jandor Consults With GAC Members by Day169: 6:02pm On Apr 18
SmartPolician:
Jandor should calm down because they won't give him the ticket. Meanwhile, I would love to see ADC choose Funso Dohety over Gbadebo Rhodes-Vivour. Mr. Dohety is a fine gentleman whom I strongly believe will reposition the state.
As a matter of fact, I think Doherty and GRV can be paired for a formidable opposition.
Foreign AffairsRe: UK Prime Minister Says He Will Not Yield To Trump by Day169: 10:21pm On Apr 15
'Kia' is saying it clearly as it is.. no need to "stammer! " cheesy

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