escortafrik: Hello guys, I really need your advice because I’ve been turning this over in my head and I don’t want to make a mistake.
So a bit of background… I’m in my final year at the university, just trying to finish with good grades and figure out what’s next for my life.
A close friend of mine introduced me to her cousin a few months ago. He’s doing really well for himself, stable, calm, and very intentional in how he carries himself.
We got along pretty quickly and things moved from just talking to a serious relationship faster than I expected, but it has been good so far.
Now the situation is this… he wants me to move in with him.
At first, I thought maybe it’s just excitement and love growing fast, but he’s been consistent about it and says it’s because he sees a future with me and wants us to start building our life together properly. I do like him a whole lot , and part of me likes the idea of us being together in that way, like a real couple sharing everyday life.
But I spoke to my friends and they are not having it at all. They keep telling me that once I move in, it might reduce the chances of marriage happening, that men can get too comfortable and stop seeing the need to “formalise” things. Even his cousin who introduced us is saying I shouldn’t as well but I’m quite surprised because this guy has been so good to me in every aspect of my life.
Now I’m stuck in the middle. I don’t want to act based on fear, but I also don’t want to ignore advice that could save me from future regret.
So I’m asking honestly… what do you think I should do in this situation?
From a man's point of view, please don't. If he is so desires that you both start living together, then first, let the TEST OF TIME prove the genuineness of his love for you. And secondly, let him and his people meet your family and pay your bride price.
Oyindamolah: Computer village is becoming something else
Ahhh fam… this one is not just story — it is documentary evidence of “Hope is expensive in Computer Village” 😂💔 in 2013
So I had been managing my loyal Blackberry Bold like a village elder holding onto tradition. But deep inside me, I knew 201X (whatever year it was) was not for keypad suffering again. Everybody had upgraded. WhatsApp was now behaving like it had pride. I said no, my own glory must also locate me.
That was how I entered Computer Village with confidence that could scare small children and a budget of ₦10,000 + “faith in God”.
I told myself: “Today, I must leave here with Q10. My life must change by force.”
Ah.
I saw one guy on the street. Sharp sharp, he showed me Q10. I held it like I was testing destiny itself. Screen bright, buttons shiny… I even did small fake serious face like I knew specs 😂
The man now said: “Oga, make we go inside shed. Agberos dey here.”
I said no problem. Anywhere where upgrade is involved, I am mobile.
But I should have known danger started when he wrapped the phone inside white handkerchief like say na sacred artifact from Vatican. I ignored it. Love is blind. Upgrade is more blind.
Inside shed, negotiation started.
Him: “₦15,000”
Me: “My brother, I brought ₦10,000 and destiny. Choose one.”
He sighed like experienced scammer and agreed. That was my first warning: why too easy?
He collected my phone, nodded like engineer, then said: “Let me stop bike for you so agberos won’t disturb you.”
At this point, I felt VIP treatment. I said in my mind: “Yes. This is how successful people move.”
He gave me handkerchief.
Me: “Wow… packaging is premium. Even Apple no reach this level.”
I entered bike like Elon Musk of Allen Avenue.
I told bike man: “JUST GO. DON’T STOP. I AM NOW A BIG BOY.”
This is where my downfall accelerated.
I held that handkerchief like passport to America. I was already imagining how I’d show my friends: “Guys, I upgraded.”
I reached Allen Avenue. Jumped down like billionaire in a hurry.
Opened the cloth slowly… suspense like Nollywood final scene…
Inside: B29 SOAP.
No screen. No buttons. No WhatsApp. No charger. Just… pure hygiene and disappointment.
I looked at the soap. The soap looked at me. Even the soap was embarrassed for me 😭
I poked it like maybe it will receive call. I turned it upside down like maybe network is hidden underneath.
Nothing.
Just soap living its best life.
I just stood there like: “So I sold technology… for skincare?”
At that point my soul left my body briefly.
I didn’t even shout. I didn’t even chase anybody. I just entered bike again like returning item to destiny.
Back at Computer Village, I was walking like a man who has seen the truth of life.
One guy even had the audacity to ask: “Broda, dem no give you cream?”
I almost collapsed.
CREAM?? 😭😭
So not only did I buy soap, I bought incomplete package?
At that moment, I accepted my rank: I am not “Q10 owner” I am not even “phone upgrader”
I am: Soap Premium Investor (Loss Edition)
And since that day, my aunt’s phone has been my emergency relationship. I borrow it like someone borrowing oxygen.
Moral of the story: If somebody wraps your “dream phone” like suya in white cloth…
just start praying immediately. 💀
You have a way with words. It is at the point of being vulnerable (when you least expect it) that they strike. May we not meet this set of wicked people.
Caaz: I was craving Banga soup with starch,but i cudnt get starch so i used Akpu to substitute starch. Meanwhile the mister of the house loves eating Rice, so i used one stone to killtwo birds as lunch,to burst his head further, i say make i run his meal with hero lager beer as the man of the house
A lil breakdown. Here lager beer(1000) Banga 500 Icefish 1700 Space 300 Maggi Onions Salt( Banga fish... 400
Rice...i calculated each cup(5 cup) 1000 The Rice i actually bought a paint at the rate of 4k....so each cup would be pegged at #200. Redoil 400 Gender/garlic 300 Meat 2000. Bottle water 300
Total money spent...7900 naira only.
Impressive! Please which market did you buy this? And state?
DyshApp: A man has taken to X (Twitter) to share a costly and disappointing first-date experience, revealing that he spent over ₦100,000 on food and transportation only for the relationship to fizzle out immediately afterward.
In his post, he explained that he went on a first date where he spent ₦109,000 on food and an additional ₦18,000 on a Bolt ride.
Despite the grand gesture, the connection didn’t last.
He recounted some of the frustrations from the date, saying that they first ordered food worth ₦90,000, which they couldn’t finish.
Only for her to order more stuff, then pack the whole food, the leftovers, and the newly ordered ones home, without asking if he cared for any.
Reflecting on the experience, he advised caution for future dates, promising never to involve himself in such again.
He concluded his post with a blunt takeaway, saying he thinks he’s better off alone because he’s tired of meeting ‘funny’ people.
The post has since resonated with many online, sparking conversations about first dates, expectations, and the modern dating experience.
His tweet read;
“Went on a first date two weeks ago. Food 109k, bolt 18k. Now we aren’t talking anymore. Learned to never do that again. If you aren’t going on a walk or to a restaurant I recommend, and you recommend more expensive ones, I’ll ghost from there.
First ordered food of 90k, which we couldn’t finish. Only for her to order other stuff. Then they packed the rest of the food, and she took it all without asking if I cared for any. ngl I’m better off alone. Tired of meeting funny people.“
My advice: First time date: Meet at a quick service restaurant and order snacks and drinks. Be observant. Your assessment of her would determine if she's someone you want to have a relationship with.
If she's a wife material, then you can lavish your wealth on her.
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And surprisingly till now you haven't deemed it fit to delete this thread? This is unfair of you. I suggest you delete this thread.
Did you know these everyday things actually have names? 1. The space between your eyebrows is called a glabella. 2. The fresh smell after rain is petrichor. 3. The plastic tip of your shoelace? That’s an aglet! 4. A rumbling stomach is a wamble. 5. A newborn’s cry is vagitus. 6. Fork prongs are tines. 7. The light you see when pressing your eyes is phosphenes. 8. That little plastic table in a pizza box? It’s a box tent. 9. The day after tomorrow is overmorrow. 10. Your tiny toe is minimus. 11. A champagne cork’s wire cage is an agraffe, while meaningless "na na na" in songs are vocables. 12. The space between nostrils is columella nasi, and the hole where your sleeve attaches is an armscye. 13. Struggling to get out of bed? That’s dysania. 14. A messy handwriting is griffonage, the dot over an "i" is a tittle, and feeling sick after overeating is crapulence.
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Great job, OP!👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Fun Fact: Did you know that the Yoruba word, 'didirin' used to describe an extremely sluggish person, actually has an English version? It's 'dithering' (although used as a verb) For example: "Stop dithering and do what you have to do fast.'
kelvinmnet: Another option is to drive the car there for him to diagnose it. He is always very busy because he is good. Also, why not try scanning the car and share the codes here. Scan the transmission too and share the code.
Dantedasz: Good day, My sincere advise to you is to be patient and wait for Mr Kenny. I am talking from experience. There are very few good Mazda mechanics around. Do not fall into the hands of quack mechanics that will mess up your Mazda. The fact is Kenny is so good and he works only on Mazda vehicles so his work shop is always jam packed with vehicles. He is relatively honest in my opinion. I repeat be patient. Maybe you should do a voice call instead of WhatsApp messaging.
kelvinmnet: The message doest show if he has read it or not. He may not have read it. But if he doesn't respond by tomorrow, I can send tou the Ibrahims no.
Hello bro. Happy Sunday!
Please he hasn't replied. Perhaps you may want to do me a favour by calling him and asking what I did to him to warrant his action.
I'll appreciate it if you can supply another person's number. Thank you.
kelvinmnet: The message doest show if he has read it or not. He may not have read it. But if he doesn't respond by tomorrow, I can send tou the Ibrahims no.
kelvinmnet: He is always very busy. Is the car movable to his shop? If yes, then I think you should go there.
I have Ibrahim's no though but I would prefer you to through his boss directly...to avoid any stories. Just be patient with them.
When you get to their shop, you will understand better, they are alwaysss busy.
I appreciate your gesture bro. You are so kind.
What baffles me right now is the fact that this man reads my messages but doesn't reply. I am attaching a copy of the WhatsApp messages I sent to him today.
kelvinmnet: Maybe its Ibrahim, (the one with bow leg) or the other slim guy...they are both good.
Good morning bro. I haven't heard from him. I've been calling him since morning but he isn't reachable. However I sent him WhatsApp messages and it showed he had read them. I don't know the reason for this.
kelvinmnet: You welcome sir. Please keep us updated on the progress of the fix.
You are so kind, sir. Thank you. I have spoken to him and he is sending one of his staff members to inspect the car tomorrow. I will keep you updated on the development.
Good morning great people. I am based in Lagos. Please I have a Mazda 3 hatchback 2007 model When driving and revving it the tachometer shows high (at times getting to the red zone) but it doesn't accelerate and jerks too. Please does Mazda have a service centre in Lagos? I would be grateful if you shared the address with me. If not, is there a Mazda technician who can check the body control module of the car and solve the problem?
Good morning great people. I am based in Lagos. Please I have a Mazda 3 hatchback 2007 module. When driving and revving it the tachometer shows high (at times getting to the red zone) but it doesn't accelerate and jerks too. Please does Mazda have a service centre in Lagos? I would be grateful if you shared the address with me. If not, is there a Mazda technician who can check the body control module of the car and solve the problem?
cushman: Well, i have very few to read of James hardley Chase novels. Among my most wanted list are; Meet Helga Rolfe and meet Mark Girland.- Chase's two most powerful lead characters.
One of my favourites is Trusted Like the Fox. Coincidentally, you share the same name with the antagonist of the novel.
Lamanii22: Okay thank you I really appreciate your comment, I’m willing to sort the payment, the school is rather affordable and it’s close to our house… I just want her to start blending with other kids and learn more, it would also help her speech… plus we are expecting another baby soon and this pregnancy is not easy like my first…. So it’s really tiring, I can’t really teach her much, I only play coco melon for her… plus my toddler is too clingy, she rather be by my side than my mil…. This is why I need her to start school…
Please beware of Coco Melon. It can be addictive and affect your child's cognition.
Romance › Re: He Wants Me To Move In by deife(m): 11:02pm On May 13
