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At least Yoruba and Igbo did something without tribalism for once. Just saying we should look unto the bright side.

Nothing will happen. Any sin commited by religious leaders is automatically swept under the carpet and the victims blamed for tempting the abusers into using brutal force to "correct" their sins.

happybee:
So when the item arrived, she couldn't notice the television was fake.
No be every body get small brain na...

What should she have done? She paid already na.

Those justifying or saying she deserved it need to burry their heads in shame. Nigeria go better, Nigeria go better yet 90% of Nigerians are either corrupt or support criminal activities. So sad.

Religious fanatics will always stand by their MOGs even if they were caught defiling a newborn infant. They will rather kill the victim for tempting their MOG or sweep the evil deed under the carpet claiming everyone sins. Going by that logic, why then do they call for the arrest of criminals at all? Or is it that the sins of some are pardonavle and explainable while the sins of others must be punished by the law?

Nowenuse:
Lol, no you are misinterpreting what I said.

I and my father are not quarreling or having any kind of issue with one another. We are at great peace.
The point is that we are not just close to each other. We can stay 6 months without seeing each other or calling. I don't care and perhaps he doesn't as well, but if I am away for such a long time, I and my mother would call and video call almost on a daily basis. As I make my money, I show preference to my mother more and him less. That doesn't mean I ignore him or he doesn't pray for me. No. He and my mom are still together and while I hug my mom passionately and shower her with gifts as soon as I return home, I just say Hello dad, good day.

You cannot expect me to force a relationship with my father now all of a sudden after so many years of us not being close.

If I do not miss my father one inch after not seeing him for 6 months, tell me why I should cry or be pained when he is dead. I won't even feel it. But my mom? I pray I never witness her death until I am old and she is very old too.

Got it

Nowenuse:
I once told my brother's wife that if my father dies today, I may not really cry or feel serious pain. I will only cry when I see my mother's tears cos only her tears can break me.... My inlaw rebuked me as if I said something abominable
Life is a give and take my friend. African fathers should never expect to receive what they never gave.

My dear, you are very wrong. You will cry and cry and wish you had thought of making peace with him. Talking from experience. If you will listen to me, please take this advice... Be at peace with him. I am not saying forget about your emotions, I am saying thank God for life and look past the pain he caused you. While he is still alive and when you guys can talk without fighting or annoying each other , buy him something to make him happy, kneel in front of him and ask him to bless you. You will comeback to testify the goodness of God. That is the message I gat for you.

Mariangeles:
30mins max is enough.
Plus, your beans cooks faster without the need to add potash and you save gas .
You're welcome

Thank you. Omo that beans ehn, I cooked it for 2 days. The more I cook the harder it became it was a one off thing so I thought it must be the beans cos all along I never experienced such.

Guest007:
Public safety announcement


Threats of suicide has become an avenue to beg and maybe scam so tread with caution when trying to help op.

https://www.nairaland.com/5437068/guy-nairaland-going-commit-suicide

I have been scammed on NL too by such but I don't pay any attention to those kinds of posts anymore. You will know them when they tell you they want cash or the want some equipment that they will use for work eg car, machine etc most times they know that people won't part with cash but if you buy them the machine they will sell it. To do good Don tire person but God dey.
This OP ain't asking for free cash, he wants a stable income through employment.

genq:
Lobatan

You welcome.

Mariangeles:
Soaking beans overnight takes the sweetness out of the beans .
The beans becomes over soaked with water and does not soften .

Really? Wow, so I should just soak for a few mins then? I mostly doo moinmoin with mine. No wonder my beans no free done the last time oooo . Thank you

genq:
Lmaaaaaaooooo! How did we go from throwing insults to lifting holy hands

"tool of the destroyer" indeed.

NL is pure jokes I swear. Lol.

You threw the first insult dear. I never said anything to you. Go back and check your mentions. I did not see you until you saw me. Stop looking for a reason to justify your failures and whitewash your true identity. My hands are always lifted in holiness

genq:
My point exactly. Meaning she's a liability.

Like I said earlier, OP should be glad she's now her parents cross to bear. His calls and visitations should suffice for now.

You àre just a tool of the destroyer. She doesn't work as at when OP lost his job, which you don't know the reason behind her unemployment nor the history of her job search and you consider her a liability. OP also does not have a job, cany provide for his kids the simple basic necessities as his wife is unemployed but because you know his job search hussle he is not a liability. Do you know if she is also looking for her hussle? Do you know if the family was just hit by this catastrophe at the same time?
Like I said before, the demons in you are specially projected at breaking homes by planting seed of hatred in the heart of husband's. Your plans have failed. God pass you. Op will settle bring back his wife and be happy for her move when he looks back to this moment. Shame on you.

genq:
Are you dumb? Didn't you read where he lost his job.
Where did he mention that she's ever worked?

Are you stupid? Don't you read where he said they have kids who need basics of life that he nor the wife can not provide at the moment without help? Where did he mention that she never worked through out their married life? A man lost his job and home. Wife decides to move the kids and herself to the village where they have shelter without bothering about rent yet you are here complaining that she is wicked. Do you want the kids to sleep in the streets? Sometimes you people reason like fools.

genq:
The joke's on HER really - a grown ass woman who went back to her parents house with 3 children. Lol.

Why can't she fend for herself? Its 2019 for goodness sake - should a woman's sustenance still rest on a man? What did her parents send her to school for? Where is her sense of accountability?

Now her poor aged parents are burdened with having to feed their adult girl child in addition to three extra mouths because she's proven herself irresponsible and unable to cater for herself without her husband's salary.

Such a shame.

Why can't she fend for herself? Did you ask the poster why he can't fend for himself without people's support or because she is a woman she should carry 3 kids on her head while going out to hussle? Or she should ask the man to stay home and care for the children while she goes out to look for job? Your yeye stinks shior! At least she has poor aged parents who are in better position than her to get help from. When your own daughter faces challenges feel free to kick her and your grand kids to the gutters because she failed you.

Aurelius1:
She left for her parents place in the village along with the kids. I still call and visit once in a while

My grouse is that she didn't tell me before she left
I am just concerned about getting back on my feet. that's all

The way you wrote it was like she divorced you. So you two are still in contact, you go visit whenever you can afford to. She left without telling you maybe because she felt that you will not allow her go so she got there and let you know where she is. Every marriage has its ups and downs you also make some decisions too that she might consider rash but you guys resolve it. So abeg, stop looking for every reason to self pity. Stay strong, pray and fast that God will help you pass through this phase with wisdom. The worse thing that can happen to a man is when he passes through fire without getting his red glow. This is time to draw to God. Seek his face without looking for who to throw under the bus. Basing your trust in man's help through pitiful stories or bashing other people won't cut it. Learn as much wisdom as you can from your circumstance. Don't think that your frustration is yours alone. While self pitying, remember that your whole family ie wife, kids also get affected by what you are passing through so be understanding of their own emotions too. All the best.

genq:
I've just seen your previous thread on being homeless. Your wife must be unemployed too.

Sorry but you put yourself in a terrible predicament when you chose to marry someone who couldn't contribute financially. Most stable homes need two healthy incomes.

Don't you think the same way he lost his job, she could have lost hers too? ITK

genq:
Perfect example of the decrepit mindset of the average NL female. How dare you jump into these incredibly stupid and baseless conclusions?

Joke's on you. She left for her parents just like I thought, he still calls and visits so she clearly did not dump him but men like you who hate to see women happy will never consider anything besides a man's opinion. Shior! Ask the woman her own side now and mouth will open in wonderment.

Miss placed priority.

She left as in she divorced or she left to a place she believes would give her chances of surviving which you declined because of reasons best known to you or for ego sake?
Cos I have seen men suffering but will not allow their wives go to her family home where she can get some support, accommodation etc. They say NEVER the woman gets tired and leaves anyways for her sanity sake and then the men start crying foul saying she abandoned them cos they are broke. And I am like....... Oga sir, why being selfish?

So tell us how she left. Before we consider that part of the story. If possible we want to hear her own side of the story. Cos some men can stubborn to advise but when kasala burst they expect someone to endure the result of their decision with them.

obembet:
I have read series of argument on nairaland and other forums but it still baffled me why many children considered mother first before thier father. I'm a young lady too, I have feelings for my mom but my dad always been thier without any excuse.
mom is more important from birth till you go to school. After that it is the father who takes care of your education, guides you in your career. At least in my case this is true because my mom was uneducated. My dad teaches us and guides all his children to succeed in life. Without my dad I will lose my path and fail in life. Therefore, In my case my father was a good man. My mom gave me life but my father taught me how to live.

What's your views?

Cc Lalasticlala
MissyB3
Fynestboi
Dominique
mynd44

So because she did not go to school and lacked the knowledge and finances to guide you in education matters she lost value points to you? Who told you that people simply love their moms or dads because of 9 months in the womb or financial power? My friend, its because they saw their dad's or moms in action, they know who will give up everything to be by their side when push comes to shove. That is why they decide to choose. That my dear is different from who kids bond better with. In the case of bonding it only depends on which parent they relate easily with on a good day, in a family of 4 kids given the same physical and financial support, some will be more bonded to dad while some to mom but they will not choose one over the other cos they both did their best to raise all the kids at home.

It's in the DNA. Agbero dey naija since na.

amamkingchimex:
beans has never purged me. I used onions(a lot) red peppers, red oil and seasoning cubes with oil.

Maybe the beans or 1 of the ingredients used was preserved with some kind of chemical which did not sit well with your system. Try presoaking the beans. I always soak my beans overnight before cooking.

amamkingchimex:
i cooked it and it purged me o. Do u have an idea why it is so.

What ingredients did you use? Does beans purge you naturally? Did you add akaun?

I once chatted with fellow Nigerian on a foreigners group online living in the same city as me. The guy was all cool until he found out I was a fellow Nigerian he just japka I honestly don't blame him sha, the avoidance of Nigerian is the beginning of wisdom.

They prolly plan to keep him the way they kept zazaky and his wife.


Where is Atiku, In my mind they have you in their plans. Better watch it. Leave it for God or you will be thrown in jail and another man, someone who has not even thought of politics will take the throne in your place come 2023

silento:
I know but had u ever called someone on phone only for her to be shouting lambo show them fire

that part got me



@Topic The way you have planned to hurt her will return back to you unless you have shown her in the past that if she doesn't change you will be forced to leave her. If not, believe me, it comes back to haunt.

Evil abound in all tribes. Hope she recovers fully

Makes sense

I know that women can lie to protect their loved ones. So I can't say much about this ish. Until I know where those "her"pads were found inside the house, I shall hold my peace. Her pant, a lone pant in an empty room....... OK, the pads, is she on her period or its from her last month period she also kept 1 inside a wardrobe in an empty room too? Let EFCC do it's due diligence and set them free if not found wanting.

orunmila144:
mad man. I am sure if you ask him to sweep streets in naija he will slap you

Lol. If Naija made sense to him I am sure he will sweep it to get govt attention

ChieduJoshua081:
Both you and your friend up there are brown cows. She is more important to the world than you and your whole family. I hate nonsense

Is that all?

chiedozie198100:
a useful idiot u mean?

Because of her age I will spare her the idiot part