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Family / Re: Questions For The Ladies by Denise216(f): 9:01pm On Nov 27, 2012 |
lastpage: That's manipulation and pretty much makes men look like idiots. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Questions For The Ladies by Denise216(f): 3:20am On Nov 27, 2012 |
noble_gas1: Doesn't have any bearing on my perspective either way. |
Family / Re: Parents Publicly Shame Sexually-active Girl With Sign by Denise216(f): 9:32am On Nov 25, 2012 |
So they're embarrassing her for being bad parents. Typical. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Questions For The Ladies by Denise216(f): 8:56am On Nov 25, 2012 |
maclatunji: 1. Do you accept that the husband is the head/leader of the home? 1. No. 2. Is she doing something wrong or just something he doesn't like, there is a difference. 1 Like |
Car Talk / Re: INNOSON MOTORS - World's First Black-owned Car Manufacturer by Denise216(f): 6:34am On Nov 25, 2012 |
LOZENGE: no one is diputing that. but the fact remains thtat its the first of its kind in Africa. common guy lets commend this laudable achievement But its not a first for people of African descent. Innoson Motors is a post-colonial achievement and that is where the emphasis should be placed. Innovation without the conditional assistance of the West and an equal, international partnership without Western consent or benefit. 1 Like |
Car Talk / Re: INNOSON MOTORS - World's First Black-owned Car Manufacturer by Denise216(f): 10:23pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
Siena: |
Car Talk / Re: INNOSON MOTORS - World's First Black-owned Car Manufacturer by Denise216(f): 6:49pm On Nov 23, 2012 |
Innoson Motors isn't the first black-owned auto-maker in the world. |
Romance / Re: Why Most Guys Avoid Marriage by Denise216(f): 12:23am On Nov 18, 2012 |
tpia1: Thx. |
Fashion / Re: Natural Hair by Denise216(f): 8:59pm On Nov 13, 2012 |
^^^^^ I wanted to show African women so no one can make any excuses. Cancer survivors and people with conditions are except from my Natural Hair guilt trip. Now for AA women. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xetgZhwPyD4&feature=plcp https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zz0xvC08bY8&feature=plcp https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h0JV0YDztOY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qJfjTrTx6VI https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YUt4F2bFOJ4 1 Like |
Fashion / Re: Natural Hair by Denise216(f): 8:50pm On Nov 13, 2012 |
kandiikane: ^shut da phuck up! I have to keep it as we say "100", buying hair isn't something to brag about. Caring for you own (growing) hair properly retains length. Wearing your own hair naturally also lends to the assumption of good hygiene (weekly cleansing of product build up and debris, a pleasant scent, relative sheen, etc.) I'm not calling you unclean NOT AT ALL. But the care of purchased hair is different from the care of growing hair and very different from natural hair. Less washing, heat applications give a burnt hair smell, conflicting textures, and dullness from product build up, plus products attract debris and trap smells in the hair. Wigs are better but there is the unnatural density, shine, and length. You'll look like you're wearing a wig. Yes, I am purposely trying to turn you off of adding hair to your head . Natural Hair isn't a cult but the more the merrier. How about a little hair p-o-r-n?These are African Women by the way. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MBD2NGnYRWc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cJf70Gv_PAc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y2FwNQ4zB-A https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YBJWlwf7Z4g&list=UUdP5sfmaASghh-7Jg2OPQgg&index=3&feature=plcp Some African Women talking about it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYhBXZ9cwRc |
Fashion / Re: Natural Hair by Denise216(f): 1:00am On Nov 12, 2012 |
nagoma: No need for semantics. The hair that grows from your scalp is a better than the alternative. So for the sake of the discussion ownership implies grown by you. |
Culture / Re: African American: Ask Me Anything....I Think...lol! by Denise216(f): 6:35am On Nov 11, 2012 |
buzzedoffbeauty: I believe there are many things people assume about African Americans a.k.a black americans ( black is a color not a nationality by the way). You wouldn't believe some of the questions I've been asked over the years for instance.... I could be somewhere with a nigerian lady, usually in the age rage of 30's and up and has recently come to the states, a person I don't know from Adam can walk by and I'm asked....why is she talking like that? lol! Like I have the answer for the general population of black women.... I'll say...I don't know, then the women may say but.... it's your people....ugh ......interesting. My fam is from MS! Since you're Southern, what do you like most about Southern AA culture? |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 6:24am On Nov 11, 2012 |
~Royal~: |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 6:23am On Nov 11, 2012 |
Blyss: I'm talking about 1 man and 2 conflicts narratives based on the sex of the listener(s), unhappily married with men but happily married with women. Marriage doesn't serve the purpose it used so men and women finding themselves unsatisfied in the union doesn't surprise me a bit. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 11:37pm On Nov 10, 2012 |
Blyss: The married men I know don't like to share what they enjoy in their marriages with other men. Ironically when there are women around we hear how awesome is at home and how much fun they have with their wive and kids. Is there pressure among men to keep the good stuff secret? Does it make them look weak if they enjoy being married? What is up with that? |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 11:26pm On Nov 10, 2012 |
shymexx: I used white men's opinions of black men to show how similar they are to black men's opinions about black women. But again, you already knew that, the other readers do too. I think you're looking for a way out of the exchange without having to admit that your perspective of black women and their priority issues is wrong and quite sexist. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 11:09pm On Nov 10, 2012 |
Blyss: i forgot..lol |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 6:14am On Nov 10, 2012 |
shymexx: I don't fall for cheap shots. So much for a robust rebuttal. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 2:22am On Nov 10, 2012 |
If you want to do a comparative analysis - compare how white men feel about the hierarchy of priorities of white women, against how black men feel about the hierarchy of priorities of black women... White men don't demand equal contributions from the white sexes while males maintain a dominate position. White men aren't claiming to be experts on the issues that affect of white women either unless they support them. But their views on race are very similar to black men's views on gender. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 1:59am On Nov 10, 2012 |
shymexx: I hope so because you have to do better than this. No one who read my last reply to you would even think for a moment I was calling white men superior, and to be honest I don't you did either but I'll play ball. I was actually showing how similar your perspective on black women and their issues is similar to how white man view black men and their issues. It doesn't matter the difference in race and culture between you and white men, the dismissal is the same, the arrogance is same, the marginalization is same, and the denial that any for the former exists in your perception is also the same. This renders that section in your last commentary completely void for this part of our exchange-sorry. The gender filter I'm referring to is using your perception of the female gender to dictate what should be a valid concern for them. Age isn't a good comparison because it comes with experience and the average human brain doesn't fully develop until the age of 25. Gender doesn't come with more experiences, just different experiences and differences in male and female brain function aren't substantial enough to warrant dismissal on those grounds. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 1:23am On Nov 10, 2012 |
stillwater: Not necessarily but I do think healthcare disparities and quality of life issues for black women are more pressing than courtship. Unfortunately if black men and black women share a platform those issues will be shelved. I think we can agree that the few issues (from a very long list) that I stated earlier can't be shelved, its matter of mortality for black women now. Black men can organize themselves and pull their resources around the issues that affect them anytime they want to. Plus we can all agree that when someone is healthy and "happy" they're more likely to secure intimate companionship anyway. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 5:34pm On Nov 09, 2012 |
shymexx: I don't know if the other readers caught what you just did. You didn't address the gender filter, the lack of inquiry on your part about the hierarchy of priorities for black women (you can't even begin a diagnosis without asking questions to begin with-arrogance), or the dismissal of black women's issues by black men using the same blueprint white men use to dismiss the racial disparities of black men. In other words he gave himself the authority to be dismissive to the concerns of black men and "correct" your perception of race just like you're giving yourself the authority to be dismissive to the concerns of black women and "correct" their perception of inter-sectional discrimination. The justifications he'll use to do so doesn't matter, just like your justifications for being just as dismissive and attempting to "correct" a black women's interpretation of consistent provocation and disparities in crucial facets society. They're equally damaging to the groups concerned and that is all that matters. My analogy isn't flawed because I'm drawing parallels between interpretations. One more thing that might slip past the casual observer. You qualify yourself as an authority on black women because of your proximity to them (in this case familial). Not only do I possess that same qualification but the actual experience of being one. Therefore if there is someone in a better position to offer commentary on black women between the 2 of us, based your own formula, it would be me or black women more than black men. For some reason you're debating me despite having lesser credentials, again based on your formula. Either you don't really ascribe to your proximity qualification formula and just threw it out there or your perception is in fact skewed by gender bias and can't be seen as objective by any standard of reasoning. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 11:07am On Nov 09, 2012 |
~Royal~: The diagnosis of a single patient based on their individual symptoms from trauma, abuse, of chemical imbalance by a healthcare professional one thing. Using race and gender, both a result of genetic pairing and chromosomes, isn't recognized in mental health practice. I believe doing even trying to would get you sued. But I think he is looking to a cultural analysis, "black" being used in place of culture but for the same reason. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 10:52am On Nov 09, 2012 |
~Royal~: I just had to show my father your comment, he said and I quote "Damn Right!" 216 is my Birthday, 2/16. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 10:27am On Nov 09, 2012 |
shymexx: For the same reason a white man is in no position to construct a hierarchy of priorities for black men. He will be working from a position that benefits his group, not yours. He'll consider it his duty as a white man to "correct" your perspective of systemic racism and de facto discrimination because you as a black man have a chip on your shoulder and thus incapable of seeing reason. In his mind if you black men would just work on dressing nicer, not disturbing "decent folk" with your behavior, and tried to get along with white men instead of being stuck in the past you black men would be fine. Only instead of using the gender filter you use on black women he'll use a racial one to judge the validity of your statement, after all he (1) sees your blackness as a burden that he is lucky not to have to shoulder and (2) believes that he is more informed on your situation than you are based on his limited experience or perception of racism, not your lifetime of exposure and analysis. Swap "white man" or "black man" and "black men" for "black women" and its just about fit. Keep in mind this white man is trying to tell you what you should care about based on his own interpretations because he didn't think it was important enough to ask you. |
Romance / Re: Why Most Guys Avoid Marriage by Denise216(f): 5:08am On Nov 09, 2012 |
I believe single men don't have an incentive to marry these days, lower birthrates in modern cities suggest single women are starting to feel the same way about motherhood. Aside from traditionalists quality of life is becoming a priority over social obligation. Its great for the economy too. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 4:46am On Nov 09, 2012 |
shymexx: There is no innate anger, just a critique of the status quo and no you're really not in a position to diagnose black women, "I think" isn't a recognized credential. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 6:02am On Nov 08, 2012 |
shymexx: Fine I'll take the hit on the spell check, not a big deal. Not being in the UK makes me unfamiliar with British grammar, kind of like AA women's history to a black man living in the UK. But it is a rant meant to solicit a certain response. The idea isn't to get you to agree with me. I think that is another arrogant assumption on your part. You don't get to set priorities for black women and asking me to address an issue that is trivial compared to other issues is again, arrogant and even intrusive. I never said black women didn't care about beauty, I said they have bigger fish to fry. Just like relating to black men romantically is trivial. My opinion is that black women should distance themselves from black men in identity and platform. I haven't heard a good reason not to keep this premise. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 4:12am On Nov 08, 2012 |
shymexx: This is a rant so I know I can't take this as seriously as I would the price of gasoline or what kind of creamer to put in my tea. Look at the language; "Your lot" (I had to correct your typo if that's okay), "inferior complex", "lost identity", pretty much anything to solicit an emotional response. I'm going to tell how I avoid falling in to that trap. You could say we're having a huddle over the internet. The way I keep from getting upset about what black men have to say about black is............*whispering* I don't care what black men think about anything that pertains to black women-period. This applies especially to black men I don't know personally. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 3:57am On Nov 08, 2012 |
shymexx: No, Civil Rights came first and the Black Power Movement developed during that time frame due to young black men's dissatisfaction with non-violent activism. HBCUs and black businesses weren't started under the auspices of Black Power, not when 6 of the oldest HBCU's were funded by whites, white men to be exact. The You can romanticize the impact of Black Power by giving it a new address and international virtue than but we know what happened in the US and what it didn't do. I don't recall stating Civil Rights was a good idea, just not as bad at Black Power and the impact of Black Power on Black women. Integration would have happened on its own but the opportunity to stabilize black neighborhoods was passed on, that is the main flaw I see in Civil Rights. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 1:57am On Nov 08, 2012 |
shymexx: And there is the script; black women mad at black men and not white men. I didn't take your statement out of context, it put it right were it belongs-under the black male perspective, a very narrow interpretation of black female life before Civil Rights. Since you haven't studied the history of black women in the US, because you're not interested not because the information isn't available, you opt for the more convenient narrative and repeat it. Just like bringing up beauty as the main cause for black women's frustration with racism or interpreting black women's reaction to consistent provocation as innate "anger" and not a critique of the status quo are examples of arrogant dismissal. Nothing about the Black Women's Labor Unions that they created to negotiate higher wages or their labor strikes. Nothing about the schools built by and for black women to train them in Domestic Sciences (their phrase not mine) so they could work as maids, like there is something wrong with being a maid, and nothing about black women using their earnings to fund their organization, charities, and take care of their families. As if is some how they resented the means by which they contributed to their families and communities. On the record most of this stuff happened as early as 1862 and that is my HTML speech to you. There are issues more pressing for black women than being promoting like white women for their beauty, trust me. The charge of worshiping white people is odd considering how pre-occupied black women are with what black men are doing and saying. Hopefully as time goes on and the idea spreads black women will spent more time worried about their quality of life and not some cheap shot from yet another black comedian. |
Culture / Re: Are Black Women Realy Always Angry? by Denise216(f): 1:09am On Nov 08, 2012 |
shymexx: That wasn't really my point but that is something you can argue with him on his blog. My point was that black men tend to not take black women's issues seriously despite equal contributions. In my opinion the whole Black Power Movement was a bad idea. It got nothing accomplished and since it did no internal policing left the gate open so that criminals were able to run off the black middle class and exploit the vulnerabilities of the black poor and elderly. Notice how your tone changed though, you're not even writing to me anymore, you're giving a speech in HTML..LOL. There are quite a few women you referenced that I don't admire at all because their "contributions" were superficial. They didn't build any schools, they didn't start any businesses, they didn't reduce criminal activity in their neighborhoods, they didn't promote sexual safety or responsibility among black women, and they definitely didn't make sure black women learned about the accomplishments of black women before them. Probably because they were black-male identified. Ironically the black women before them did a lot more with a lot less. BTW, marching with MLK isn't a big deal because it wasn't his march (you should read about how he just so happened to give a speech at the March on Washington while the scheduled speaker, James Baldwin didn't). Tubman did her thing in the late 19th century...........when black abolitionist women had a (say it with me) a separate platform and identity. See how I just brought you back on topic? |
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