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loyalnaijaluv: Hello all I am new to this site I am an African-American female who have been dating and apart of the African culture for about eight years when I was 19 I met this African guy from Burkino-Faso and he showed me a whole different concept on how a woman should be respected and treated every since then I was hooked I wanted to know more as i started attended African events and going to the clubs i started coming across more and more Nigerian men and I eventually fell in love with one and we married have been for 3 years but I think because he has been in the states for so long he is becoming Americanized in my opinion and it has left our marriage to a seperation I wanted a Nigerian man to stay away from African-American men for many reasons in the first place but overall I enjoy Naija men and its where I will stay Yoruba is my preference.

Myne White: Marriage is about agreement and about working together, so how can one do this if they don't know their own personality?

As much of a romantic as I am, I agree that love needs some work if a couple is to match themselves as partners and teammates. For instance, my hubby's organizational skills help us to remain on point with our finances and various schedules, and my more chilled outlook keeps up the fun and spontaneity. But there's something else I like which I think is also necessary, we can switch it up. Like when he gave me a birthday surprise, or when I'm the one driving some of our responsibilities.

I don't put much stock in talk of gender differences or roles, I'm more about knowing who you are as an individual. And then as a couple with your SO, you find out what works for you, with mutual respect. This makes you appreciate that a different perspective from the other person in a relationship is not a gender war, or a call to battle, it could be just another aspect of their personality to discover.

Myne White: Marriage is about agreement and about working together, so how can one do this if they don't know their own personality?

As much of a romantic as I am, I agree that love needs some work if a couple is to match themselves as partners and teammates. For instance, my hubby's organizational skills help us to remain on point with our finances and various schedules, and my more chilled outlook keeps up the fun and spontaneity. But there's something else I like which I think is also necessary, we can switch it up. Like when he gave me a birthday surprise, or when I'm the one driving some of our responsibilities.

I don't put much stock in talk of gender differences or roles, I'm more about knowing who you are as an individual. And then as a couple with your SO, you find out what works for you, with mutual respect. This makes you appreciate that a different perspective from the other person in a relationship is not a gender war, or a call to battle, it could be just another aspect of their personality to discover.

sanb: Most people don't go into marriage with divorce at the back of their mind....

Marriage is like knowledge and you never stop acquiring knowledge. You learn something new everyday when married and you can't stop learning about your partner on a daily basis.

binger: To get a divorce from your spouse because love has died is like selling your favorite car because it ran out of petrol...there are a thousand and one reasons why you should remain with him/her,you just need to see beyond the present situation

chucky234: The couple in love is committed
to always putting each other first in
their relationship with each other.
The first thing you notice in all highly
successful loving relationships is that
those who purport to be in love
recognize that their relationship is not
about you and me, it is about US.
Discovering that YOU are not the center of the universe is the hallmark of a great relationship. Actually putting another human being number one is a powerful indication that you are truly in love.

binger: okay...since everyone is talking,i guess i should start talking...

ItsModella: tolerance tolerance tolerance tolerance tolerance

This is one thing a lot of people neglect before going into the union called marriage.
They think marriage is all about love...I love you, I love you, I love you.....awww, that's so sweet but let me welcome you to earth.
A key thing to ask yourself before going into marriage is "Can I live with you? Can I tolerate your ideologies even though I might not believe in them?"
Things like this go deeper than love.
Love is not enough to make a marriage work and last. All the smooching and romancing dissipates after 2 years.
Tolerance is the key. You need someone you love but at the same time you're compatible with. The big question is;

CAN I LIVE WITH YOU?

binger: Has the conference started? D-Ex,you didnt include chucky's name as a speaker,why is he speaking?? Where is MBJ and the other blogger??

flanrey: IMO, the only thing that'll make a marriage work is when you see your wife and children as people you just have to live with no matter what happens. Hence, you dont get to expect too much or get disapointed when your spouse acts up

chucky234: Because only few will pass the examination if the exam is to come first before certification, or how many of those women with nagging habits will pass the exam.
lol

Beync: marriage is the only institution one cannot graduate from. It's either u fail and fail out or u progress to the next level

chucky234: Marriage is the only institution where certificates are awarded before sitting for the examination,hope you all know why.

flanrey: The certification and the experience are two separate things

alutacontinua: D-Explorer, where're u? When is the program gonna start?

freecocoa: Honey you are the one leading na.

freecocoa: Somalian ke?
Aww your lips are so warm.

freecocoa: You na my love.
You are me one and only.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Boring.
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freecocoa: Then my boyfriend should have broken up with me a long time ago.
I can't even remember how many guys I playfully flirt with on here .