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raphy: Hi. Friends,I was thinking of going into a long distance relationship with a girl.. I know its not easy,both I can do it .what do you guys think?

It's not about what we think but what you want. If you must do LDR, try and understand your nature (emotions, body etc). Not everyone can handle distance esp with someone you really love.

Yield: Varies. Personally, I would want to be with someone for at least 2 years before getting married. No rush.

That's too long, she needs a grand-child

Lexaccord: Can I have your email please. Thank you

coachdexplorer@gmail.com

Nice thread Sanb. Good to be on your list.

After I wrote crazy ways to spark up your relationship , the feedback revealed that most men wouldn’t do some domestic duties that comes with maintaining their relationship regardless of the situation. It made me wonder how various relationships would survive where there are segregated responsibilities or roles that men MUST not take. Just as I believe in ego, I also believe that some things if occasionally done doesn’t kill a man’s ego – they only cause maximum effect – they brightens the union and quickens the connection. The general problem in relationships often commences when our partner fails in their supposed responsibilities. For instance, if a woman’s “compulsory” duty is to make breakfast and dinner, what happens the day she comes home late and tired? Would she still go ahead and prepare the meal? Remember she made breakfast before leaving and not making the dinner was probably an occurrence she couldn’t control. Now, here is the logic: the time that would take you, the man, to wait and rant about that unusual lateness, the meal of you-two would have been ready and served. Let me make this clear, when your partner does something unusual, the best you can do is to manage the situation with some considerations. There are issues that could be properly managed in a relationship with good understanding of the situation and your ability to do that makes her respect your personality the more. The ways to a woman’s heart is NOT necessary the gifts, flowers and whatnot, it could be your sense of understanding, judgment or your response or reaction to issues that affects her. Now, let’s look into 30 things men must know and these points I gathered from my years of consistent counseling.

1 - A LITTLE “THANK YOU” COULD STRENGTHEN HER.

2 - EVEN WHEN SHE KNOWS SHE’S BEAUTIFUL, SHE WOULD LIKE TO HEAR IT FROM YOU SOMETIMES.

3 - A LITTLE KITCHEN HELP KILLS NO EGO.

4 - EVERY LADY WANTS A MAN THAT CAN PROTECT HER – SHE NEEDS TO BE SAFE AROUND YOU!

5 - TO SOME LADIES, COLLECTING MONEY FROM YOU IS JUST YOUR LITTLE COMMITMENT TO THE RELATIONSHIP AND NOT A DO OR DIE THING.

6 - ANY LADY THAT REMINDS YOU OF HER EX WAS NEVER INTO YOU.

7 - YOU NEVER CAN WIN A LADY’S HEART BY SPENDING, IF YOU DO, THERE’S A BETTER SPENDER TOO.

8 - JUST AS YOU’VE GOT A WEAKNESS, SHE DOES TOO. HENCE, YOU MANAGE HERS, SHE MANAGE YOURS.

9 - YOU CAN PUSH A LADY TO A BREAKING POINT BUT WHEN SHE DOES, SHE’S NEVER THE SAME PERSON YOU KNEW.

10 - WHEN SHE STARTS KEEPING SECRETS, THERE’S SOMETHING YOU’VE DONE WRONG.

11 - SHE’S NEVER TO PAY THE BILLS, AND IF ANYTIME SHE DOES, SHE’S NOT TO CONTINUE PAYING.

12 – SOMETIMES, LISTENING TO HER OPINION CONFIRMS HER POSITION IN THE RELATIONSHIP.

13 - BEING HER MAN IS NOT JUST PROTECTING HER AT HOME BUT EVEN FROM YOUR FAMILY.

14 - ON A FIRST DATE, PULLING DOORS AND CHAIRS IS PART OF A GENTLEMAN’S DEAL, JUST DO IT!

15 - IF YOU LOVE KIDS, YOU’RE SURE WINNING HER OVER.

16 - INTIMACY IS NOT ABOUT YOUR PERSONAL SATISFACTION, SHE MUST BE SATISFIED TOO.

17 - IF SHE DOESN’T RESPECT YOU, SHE WON’T RESPECT YOUR FAMILY.

18 - THE SPOT YOU MET A LADY COULD TELL A LOT ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIP AND ITS FUTURE.

19 - IF SHE BRINGS HER FRIENDS HOME OFTEN, IT’S NO JACKPOT, IT’S A FIDELITY TEST!

20 - YOU SHOULD KNOW WHAT TURNS YOUR WOMAN ON; WOMEN AREN’T THE SAME IN BED.

21 - DON’T REPLACE SEEING HER WITH REGULAR CALLING AND TEXT MESSAGES; YOUR PRESENCE KEEPS HER SAFE.

22 - SOMETIMES YOU DON’T TRY TO WIN AN ARGUMENT, LET HER HAVE HER WAY - SHE COULD DISCOVER HER FOLLY.

23 - EVERY LADY HAS A BEAST IN HER, IT’S EITHER YOU CAGE IT OR UNLEASH IT.

24 - IF SHE DOESN’T LOVE YOU AND HER FAMILY DOES, IT’S NO COMPENSATION, LET HER BE!

25 - YOUR POTENTIAL IS NOT A GUARANTEE THAT SHE WOULD STAY WITH YOU, WORK HARD AND CONVERT IT TO SUBSTANCE.

26 - WHAT YOU DID TO GET HER, YOU MUST CONTINUE DOING IT TO KEEP HER ELSE YOU LOSE HER.

27 - SOMETIMES HER BODY LANGUAGE COULD BE DIFFERENT FROM HER SPOKEN WORDS, TRY TO DECERN.

28 - TO ALWAYS IMPRESS A LADY WITHOUT SPOKEN WORDS, DRESS WELL!

29 - IF YOUR HANDSOMENESS BROUGHT HER CLOSER TO YOU, THAT’S A FLING!

30 - MARRIAGE SHOULD NOT BE A PRISON FOR HER, ALLOW HER EXPLORE HER POTENTIALS, REMEMBER, SHE’S GOT AMBITIONS BEFORE SHE MARRIED YOU.

31 – IF YOU TELL HER NOT TO WORK BECAUSE YOU’VE GOT MONEY, WHEN YOU’RE BROKE, YOU WOULD CALL HER – LAZY!

32 – AWAY FROM PERSONAL WISDOM AND EFFORTS IN THE RELATIONSHIP, DON’T FORGET PRAYING TOGETHER!

A safe landing I guess? Yeah! In my active experiences as a relationship coach, I’ve gathered these important points which would be updated regularly. There is this excessive applaud that goes along with being a man. This has shut the mind of so many men from lowering some standards or compromising even if little. So many men wants to win in their relationships at the expense of the happiness in the union. So many men are powerfully driven by ego even at the detriment or pain of their partner. So many men wouldn’t listen, so many men are aggressive and arrogant. The fact remain that, in a relationship, the real man is the growing man; not a static or one-sided oriented person who wouldn’t adjust his status when needed or compromise when necessary for the happiness of the union. When we say, a woman is a weaker vessel; it doesn’t mean she’s weak in the brain or hands – it only means, more than you imagine, she needs strength from you. How you handle her will determine how she handles you. And if at all you’ve been really bad to her and she has been good still, you’re only pushing her toward a break-down where you would no longer have the same woman you once knew. Allow me stop here; this isn’t a book . . . LOL! For the ladies, please read 16 Raw Truths Ladies Must Know. Happy living!

SOURCE: http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2013/12/32-things-men-must-know.html

olusolami: D explorer...skydeep...
**rubs eyes** am I seeing clearly?!!

U guys still here?!

LOL. Rub again dear, we're together here

iyatrustee: I tot u had left nairaland and xynerise for me for gud?

Omoge, you still around the section?

skydeep: No room for that . I thought you are married?

LOL. Smart you

[quote author=Maria-Goretti]You might just get too busy for that.[/quote]I know i've not been good at calling, but not this time! I would be off now and then later i sure will. . .be ready to smile for me, huh?

[quote author=Maria-Goretti]sure thing[/quote]Alright dear, I will dial it later

[quote author=Maria-Goretti]um, yes and no.[/quote]You still on the 39 last digits?

[quote author=Maria-Goretti]Then we better tell Nigeria that we are not related blood-wise. We have deceived them enough.

Time for truths D-ex.....[/quote]You've got in trouble for my sake? LOL

skydeep: My man is endowed and always around

LOL. Ofcourse, i won't take you off him, just a side thing

[quote author=Maria-Goretti]yea, been a while.
Babysis is grown now.....how about you? crazy work hours?[/quote]Grown enough to be my girl? LOL. Too bad we don't do incest in Nigeria. LOL

[quote author=Maria-Goretti]Those memories are sure not going anywhere.

clown? yea, sometimes its like that.[/quote]That was really a crazy side of you. You good babysis? Been a while we talked.

skydeep: Even a lost battle?

You meant a challenge for an option? I meant o-p-t-i-o-n, like, when the desired isn't round?

[quote author=Maria-Goretti]what a surprise!
[/quote]Hope you've got no memories of Cathaliya? You're such a clown really! Imagine. LOL

sexymoma: D-Explorer...... From his comment one would know that he is an old man

Where was i? Old man? Where is Dyt?

skydeep: I wonder why you made the move initially?

Sometimes we try out options

skydeep:

Taah! Park go one side make we know those wey remain. LOL

caseless: *yawns* and somebody said i'm a home wrecker!

I think they are right

[quote author=Maria-Goretti]keep searching!
no time remember?[/quote]Maria? You were Cathaliya?

skydeep: It is self-explanatory

LOL. You no serious!

skydeep: Don't be greedy Mr.

Meaning

skydeep: Really? Miss you guys too. . How is family?

You guys? It's just me missing you not 'we'.
Yeye! LOL. . .and family means - time to change the convo abi? I got you there! LOL.

skydeep: He(xynerise) owns me everywhere .

I understand how he's gonna feel if you didn't rebut that. . .LOL

skydeep: You are welcome


longest time

Yeah, I miss you around too!

caseless: and her husband shall take u outta here...






are u vying for the coveted post of moderator

Who? Xyne? Taah! I own Skydeep here, he got her at home

Skydeep brought me here!

Well, after a week NL break in honour of you and your logical writings here, i think i'm alive again. By His grace the Nairaland Singles & Married e-Summit Season 3 shall be dedicated to your memory. Sleep well Vivianc!

[quote author=Donalð Genes]Where is Dexplorer,Nairaland commissioner for women affairs? This question begs your attention[/quote]See title!

Oh, this is now true.