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The beauty of this Season is that we've got speakers that will be delivering content base on personal experiences. . .and what better way to learn than from people that has beared the scars and enjoyed the gains. . .it promises to be a loaded evening. . .you sure gonna be adding to your knowledge!

Alright people, here we go! It's the Nairaland's Singles and Married e-Summit holding right here. . .all audience get seated as we add value to lives. That's right!

Alright, microphone check!

LOL. . Ok noted bro! LOL

Yeah! It's about time. Nairaland’s Singles and Married e-Summit Season 2 going live. This year’s Singles and Married e-Summit features personalities that has paid their dues on this forum and worthy of recognition on this platform. They probably don’t make noise but wisdom saddles their postings. By popular request, I’m presenting again, one of the speakers of the 1st Edition:

MEET THE SPEAKERS

MRBROWNJAY is a late 30s laid back French/Nigerian guy, who has lived all of his adult life in the entertainment business (DJ), traveling the world and meeting people from different background and cultures. MBJ is not the conventional speaker as his views may sometimes "be out there" to many, but he will always bring a valid point to support his point. He has turned down MANY marriage request (lol), not because of fear like most would think, but because of the understanding and RESPECT he has for the institution of marriage, as well as himself.

Many would ask how an unmarried guy could ever give anyone advices on marriage.... and the answer is very simple: it takes way more than being married to UNDERSTAND the mechanics of marriage. He's on the FOCUS: Choosing a Life Partner


and introducing

VIVIANC
Vivianc a very fun, passionate lady, full of life. A go getter, free thinker and a Babe In Total Control of Herself. She is very single btw, infact, she describes herself as sassy, single and satisfied. You may ask, "What does a single girl know about "Towards a complete relationship?" My answer is, "Everything." You see, a complete relationship has to begin with yourself, first! She believes she can talk to someone out there. She believes someone can learn from her experiences, her mistakes, her losses, her gains, the lessons and knowledge she learned/gained through it all. Her philosophy about relationship? Love yourself first, then love a man when he has proved to you beyond all reasonable doubt that he is worth it. Watch out as she would be taking on the topic FOCUS: Towards a Complete Relationship.

SAGAMITE
Sagamite supposed real names are Kamoru Kasali Morufudeen Alao-Akala popularly known as ‘Omo Iya elewa shisan’ in Agege. A.k.a Saga Saga, Sagacity, Professional Ashawo, Omo Baba Eleko, Baby Father, Fuku faka fuku faka lovemachine. From somewhere in Sagamu where he believes he's a God! Professionally, he's into advising senior executives on how to drive their business to be profitable and as the ladies man on the romance section that specializes on giving advices strictly to men in regards relationship, he has proved himself via his content to be on the list of speakers for this edition. He's to take on the FOCUS: The Men's Guide for a Lasting Relationship.

You can't afford to miss this! It's going live at 7pm. Expect something unusual, it does gonna be a combat of knowledge extremist. I’m looking forward to lives that would be empowered via these good contents. Stay glued to this thread . . . it’s the Nairaland's Singles and Married e-Summit Season 2. . .Don’t Miss This!

Nasygee: @ d-explorer,wot is d full meanin of LDR.

Long Distance Relationship.

[quote author=#1-stunner]Dis write up is d best...... Andre i luv u m sorii [/quote]

zeeayinita: dis is jst exactly wat i need nw... tnx OP

Good to know.
Glad it was timely. . .thanks all!

Drive512: Its quite impressive and educative

fasho01: Great write up!

Odunharry: Nice article

laivwire: Thanks op. I need to work on some listed points tho

Speakdatruth: i lyk yo articles anywaz. nyc one

Good to know. . .thanks!

Thanks for following my write-ups bro

Watching a promising relationship die a slow-death could be a tough feeling to bear. In my recent article - 25 Warning Signs of a Possible Breakup In Your Relationship, I made mention of clear signs that we often ignore or pretend to manage while we experience hard time with our partners. But in this write-up, some points could be silent but a termite eating up the pillars of your relationship bit by bit. No relationship dies in a day and the moment you see more of the mistakes of your partner, the more uninteresting the relationship becomes and the bitterer you are. No doubt, everyone is bad at something but when you chose to love, you can only get better with necessary adjustment. Making a relationship work is about making efforts. There is no justification for your weakness as you can be almost perfect if you put in some efforts. An absolute change could be difficult but a positive adjustment is possible. If you've ever ran on a default mode lifestyle before you decided to build a relationship, the moment you do, knowing you aren't alone, knowing it takes two to make it work, an immediate shift is expedient. Satisfying the (wo)man you really love should be considered along your decisions. But before a relationship would hit an all time low, these are highlights that could lead it there.

1. Issues not discussed – There could be some areas you desire to have your partner change or get better at. If you choose to keep mute about it and you such keeps receiving your attention and you just can't ignore, it kills relationships slowly.

2. Lies – Well, this cannot be overstretched. The more you lie to your partner, the lesser he/she trust you, and when trust is gone in a relationship, that’s trouble!

3. Not sharing – No one forms a relationship by themselves. It takes two to get at it. A balanced relationship demands the effort of the-two involved. It’s about what you-two bring to the center. The pressure would be one-sided if one person chooses to be greedy. Sharing is one of many things that powers a relationship and makes it balance.

4. Romance Wanted – Absence of romance in a relationship makes it boring. There are ways to get at this, read Crazy Ways to Spark-up Your Relationship. Romance is sensual and not always sexual. Identify those things that could create an intimate moment, things that sponsors good connection between you-two and starting doing them. The importance is simply to keep the attraction alive.

5. Blaming Your Partner - Yes! Keep blaming your partner for everything that’s wrong in your relationship and watch it die slowly. When you see more of his/her faults, there will always be something to complain about and the more the complains the more the relationship would lose its value.

6. Lack of Communication – Not in the area of phone calling or text messages though also important but specifically in the awareness of things to do or how to do them. Both parties must be kept abreast of what’s coming. Make your moves, schedules, work or some family related details clear to your partner. Always keeping them in the dark brings about uncertainties that could cause regular misunderstanding in a relationship.

7. Cohabitation – It’s one of the easiest ways to make your partner get fed up with the relationship. When you become too regular, so many things could lose its value and get lost accordingly. Read The Dangers of Cohabitation.

8. Pretense – You seem to be too cool at everything because you want to impress him/her, that’s trouble! Whatever happens to being you should be reversed. Your partner could take it as being nice or tolerant. In a real relationship, no one is a cell-mate, you just be you!

9. Poor Timing – Whatsoever is sharing your quality time with your partner needs to be transferred on another time slot. Having the space for regular conversation strengthens your relationship and if it’s an LDR, you either could talk regularly on phone or pick a day or two in every week for this. Good time spent together reveals a lot, strengthens the bond, secures the relationship and it helps in no little measure.

10. Too Many Expectations – You want her to know what you want without saying it? You expect him to remember almost everything even when he has got several matters demanding his attention? Yes, we are in love and you sure mean a lot to us but we are human as well. Expect more and see more faults, expect less and you will be able to appreciate your partner more.

If there are issues not discussed in a relationship, it could make both partners keep hurtful secrets and in-turn produce beautiful lies. Blaming your partner while you appear to be without fault doesn't make you in-charge but out rightly discharging the strength of the union. Cohabiting, though allowed in many countries is one major reason relationships will always lose its value quickly and another reason men and women would be used and abandoned. Somethings do NOT go together with a relationship and do remember that the best of relationships comes with several sacrifices made.

SOURCE: http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2013/11/10-things-that-kills-relationship-slowly.html

To everyone looking out for this event, date adjusted for complete speaker's presentation and due attention please! 16th Nov., 2013 (Tomorrow) same time. . .Thanks!

arcbabe: What is she suppose to do in such a scenario?

Nothing! Just one of those break up stories but. . .not too fast, she could stay put. Just some twists in ladies head.

DrKlever: Op I'm my early 20s, a medical student nd I recently met dis gal nd feel in love wit her. Our relationship is 3 months nd I noticed so many of ur signs in her. Her frend who liked me b4 jes started hating since we started dating. She wud b telling her silly tinz about me wc r not true. She wud giv excuses 4 nt being wit me, sumtimes I even feel she doesn't love me but jes attracted 2 me cuz I'm very handsome. She even said no sex wc I obliged cuz I'm a virgin anyway. Wat shud I do about dis relationship?

You've had some good advise here and just incase you need further help, you could PM me. Stay good!

Every relationship has its high and low moments. Even at times, not foreseen, things could suddenly change to a point of disbelief. Ugly surprises do occur in relationships but the fact remains that they do give us warning signs. Nobody wants a split in their relationship, hence, we ignore these signs especially when we either feel safe in it or we don’t want to let go. The important side to this is that, making a relationship work isn't a lone decision. It takes you-two to get at it – making efforts and showing commitment. No matter how unexpected a break-up seem to have happened, it always come along with alerts – various warning signs, and they could be silent or just too obvious even when you ignore them.

In one of my most-read article – how to save a dying relationship , I highlighted proven and practical ways to revive a seemingly dead relationship and before making this content, I understood that every stage of a relationship comes with uncertainties and the possibility of surviving at such moments would depend on the strength of the both parties. It would be a matter of concern if you or your partner chooses to deal with it alone. Break-up do happen, even to promising relationships, it’s mostly prompted by contrary influence, incompatibility or inability to compromise some standards. Whichever way it comes, there are signs foretelling the possibility of a split in your relationship and from my experience as a relationship counselor, I've gathered 25 signs for both genders that should get your attention.

* When his excuse is always the same or contradictory.
* When he stops doing what he did to get you.
* When you’re often compared to his ex.
* When he loves his privacy.
* When she starts keeping sensitive secrets.
* When she makes important decisions without your consent.
* When she gets mad at minor issues.
* When you’re alone and nothing seems missing – You ran a whole day without his thought going through your mind?
* When he introduces you as his friend and not his girl/woman.
* When he no longer cares about important matters that concerns you.
* When he always find a fault about you to defend/justify his action(s).
* When you take your friends as more priority than him.
* When he replaces regular calling with text messages.
* When she’s not always happy around you.
* When it’s only sex that keeps your relationship alive.
* When he gives you no attention because of his friends or job.
* When he’s not in any way jealous about your males or concerned about the calls you receive – This isn't insecurity, it only shows he's keenly interest and the fact that he can’t afford to lose you.
* When he no longer seek your opinion or careless about them.
* When she communicates less with you but complains more.
* When she’s being controlled by her mother.
* When he doubts every excuse/reason you give.
* When she settles for you alone and avoids your family/friends.
* No discussion about the future or he plans his future without you in the picture.
* When she ask for a break regularly.
* When both of you finds it difficult to make collective decision(s) or remain on the same page on important matters.

These warning signs are for our caution. If you don’t give them good attention, it could result in a sudden break-up of your relationship. If you ever experience any of these disturbing signs, have a good discussion with your partner and try never to ignore it. In a relationship, you’re truly happy when your partner is happy. A one-sided affair will always find its way to hit the rock. The good side to this is that these signs can be swiftly identified; it’s either what he/she stops doing or what he/she starts doing. Whichever way, don’t let the negative signs be, don’t manage any, don’t prevent or ignore, cure them! Heal your relationship of little faults because it could form a breaking point for more trouble.

SOURCE: http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2013/11/25-warning-signs-of-possible-breakup-in.html

lertee: Why. Is there a need to open another thread for that?
You can give simple answer to one of the questions.

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lertee: What is the criterion for choosing those writing or speaking? [/size]
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[quote author=D-Explorer]The formation of this e-Summit is unique in a way that posters with quality content, vast experience, consistency and impressive track records are contacted to present lines on diverse topics.
DX

190: yawns!!


Assu or is it assu are on strike na e- submit romance una dey talk smh

Try harder! Yeye boy.

Agrika: @ op, nice one, i would like u to address the areas of child sex selection, infedelity and how to avoid it and also on ways to spice up your sexlife in marriage, most especially for the newly weds...hope am not asking for too much

Not in any way! I like the mentioned areas though i'd prefer you identify which of the speakers is to take note of your request.

lertee: What is the criterion for choosing those writing or speaking? I mean the three names mentioned?
Were they voted by forum members?,chosen by you? Nominated by forum members? Did they volunteered for the talk?where and when did they volunteer? Open or closed ballot?
Or why would you rather impose them on forum members?
[size=3pt]Too many kweshons[/size]

Please create another thread on this and call my attention.

mysticgal: Dx is this really real

Yes dear! So real.

Idowuogbo: DX, u weird! As in, weeeeeeeeeeeeird.

Deres something creepy about u.

If that's a definition of someone adding value to virtual life, you're damn so right girl

MRbrownJAY: count me in!

Thanks MBJ! Pending removed. PM replied!

190: U never still marry na online u still dey find wife

smh

Get off my back, clown!

Nnekacherry: Hmmm.. What's going on here..

Oh Cherrypie my 3rd love, it's been so long. You good?

xynerise: U finally made it an e-summit?

Yeah bro, just had to. . .this period, i could only wish for more months. LOL. Next year, God willing

fabulousfortune: Op wat's d use of dis thread

Getting everyone ready for the main event and raising areas you would like any of the speakers to address

It’s another year and it’s getting bigger and brighter. It’s the Singles and About-to-wed e-Conference Season 2 now rebirth to The Singles & Married e-Summit.

I was thinking this year’s e-Summit is going to be held offline; was working towards it until my schedules became unfriendly. Yet, I’m looking forward to the 3rd edition coming up next year by His grace. The Singles and Married e-Summit was launched last year with speakers like Myne White and MrBrownJay gracing the platform and chucky234 hosting the e-Event. It was a success and I’m inspired to do this again. The formation of this e-Summit is unique in a way that posters with quality content, vast experience, consistency and impressive track records are contacted to present lines on diverse topics.

This year’s Singles and Married e-Summit features personalities that has paid their dues on this forum and worthy of recognition on this platform. They probably don’t make noise but wisdom saddles their postings. By popular request, I present again,

MrBrownJay
FOCUS: Chosing a Life Partner

and introducing

Vivianc
FOCUS: Towards a Complete Relationship

Sagamite
FOCUS: The Men's Guide For a Lasting Relationship

Mark the digits 1 and 5 and the month, November, going LIVE from 7pm is the Singles and Married e-Summit Season 2 on 15th Nov., 2013. Expect something unusual, it does gonna be a combat of knowledge extremist. I’m looking forward to lives that would be empowered via these good contents. Don’t Miss This!

Before then, you can post below the areas you would like any of the speakers to address in regards to their topic.
Have fun!

DX

MRbrownJAY: the above in bold is highly laughable............

I once asked if there's a 'smart girl' and the answer is always negative. None!

@OP, Some people fall in love and some people grow to love whichever one you belong, i would say the latter last longer. From your post, I deduced that he's not good looking but a Christian. Young woman, i know we can be choosy when we've got choices and even at our 'shakara' stage, but be aware that what makes a relationship last is on the inside and NOT on the outside. That young man will score high in another woman's list, so, don't pity him by "giving him a chance." Open your heart to love him, he could be the best you ever had.

Mindependent: It's not archaic, it's a fact. Each person on earth only has one true life partner. If a guy breaks a girls heart, it was never love to begin with and the girl should consider herself lucky that she didn't end up with the wrong guy

Don't go about your life with that horrific view of a relationship, there's nothing of such.

@OP, It's a supposed period where you get to build understanding and marriage pillars in your relationship. I personally don't believe in courting. . .even if you're with a lady for 10 years, you still don't know her.

Amya: Lol!

I think it's time we go on vac. . .away from scary faces. Sweety, pick any country, Kenya, Mali, Somalia. . .just any!