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snapscore:
Nope. That's the reason I mentioned you should ask her why she's afraid.
Maybe she's scared you will marry another wife after or scared a divorce might happen. According to Islam, she has the rights to demand in a marriage contract that you shouldn't marry another wife and a compensation if a divorce happens. This is within the Islamic marriage contract.

snapscore:
Salam alaykum

You can try to talk to her about her reasons for wanting a registry. You can let her know that she has the rights to demand certain rights in the marriage contract. For example, she can stimulate that you give her a certain amount monthly or give her a certain amount should divorce a happen.

AbooUthaymeen:
if what is meant by "registry" is documenting the marriage and recording it, then this is something that is required, so as to protect people’s rights and prevent tampering with marriage. but if registry means, you'll be given some laws contrary to the shareeah like you can't divorce if need be and so on then she should "park well"

There is no such thing as "nominal" Muslim, you are either a muslim or not.

If what you mean by "dating" is you just know each other and nothing else, or you are engaged (Islamically) then no problem, but if you mean the normal "boyfriend and girlfriend" stuff where you hug, kiss, sleep over at each others place and so on, then I'll implore you to fear Allâh and stop it and also do tawbah on to Allâh for the past sins, HE(Al-Gafoorur raheem) is ever ready to forgive and forget, any relationship that starts with harâm does not have the barakah of Allah in it as scholars have explained. I'm saying this because you asked for "sincere" advice.

now, here is a personal opinion and advice, which will start with a question, is the woman you are about to marry ready to learn about the deen? because if she is not, i wonder what you want your children to learn from her in terms of the deen. if her deen is not sound, is she willing to make her deen sound? Imam Ahmad(rahimahullah) was of the opinion that a man that wants to marry should look at beauty first(now not necessarily "super beauty" i hope you understand me), because you need something to look at that will be keep you attracted and guard you from immoralities, then after you're satisfied with her looks, then check her deen, if her deen is not ok, then cut off the marriage. the point is, that deen is important, you should marry with the intention of "I want to help you make jannah, and want you to help me make jannah", if her deen is not good(and she is not willing to learn), who would wake you up subhi incase you don't wake up? who would tell you that you are entering haram in case backslide and so on?

The prophet said, marriage is the best enjoyment among the temporary enjoyments of this dunyah IF YOU MARRY A VIRTUOUS WOMAN. look carefully who you want to marry and dont make a mistake, divorce is not as easy as it sounds.

this is a sincere advice from your brother in islam.

salam aleikom.

OLAJADON:
I think she is just feeling insecured but from my own little knowledge I don't think Islam support registry......the best I can say is try making her see things from your view

P.S I don't think she is spiritual because a muminat should be able to understand the reasons why you don't want these things even before you said no.

my opinion tho

cutiepie25:
Mine is 30th november. Any mate in the house?

adetwin:
If it persist that means your keyboard needs replacement

bigt2:
your keyboard is faulty

searching4love:



THIS IS WHY I WILL NEVER MARRY A NIGERIAN LADY. THEY ARE FULL OF IMMORALITY AND NOT ASHAMED TO DISPLAY IT IMAGINE A GIRL BITCHING RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER FAMILY AND INLAWS. THIS IS A SHAME AND I WILL RATHER DIE SINGLE

akinsadeez:
Honestly in terms of transportation he has tried with those buses.

However I am not satisfied with his performance within these past four years. Overall he has not done enough. The problem is just that with the current situation there is no way he won't win second term ticket. Unless there is a singular committed opposition, Ajimobi will break the jinx. This situation where you have three contestants vying with him will play into Ajimobi's hands. Ajimobi will win some sizeable number of votes while folarin, akala, and ladoja will split votes among themselves. If the three candidates can come together and present a unified candidate like APC has done with buhari at the federal level, then they will win. otherwise the three of them will lose.

chibic:
When a woman starts sleeping around,this is what the husband gets...she's even lucky she have a man that is interested in having s.ex with her all time when most women are being starved of s.ex by husbands who keep plenty girlfriends..I'm not surprised cos when a man decides to focus only on his wife and ignore other women,that's when the wife will start sleeping around cos she has a man tha doesn't play away.