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LeeSantos:
This is really tough.

but I will advise you as I would to my sister..

It's not too late to call it off, for so many reasons.
but I will list some.
1. you will be deprived of enough finance to run your home. His money will be going to more women.

2. you're at risk of contacting vulnerable diseases. if he contacts HIV you won't know, because married couples don't do this test regularly after marriage.

3. You will be Derain psychologically and emotionally, thinking about so many things from how to keep your family intact, manage your husband's so he doesn't bring disgrace to the family, always thinking of the life you has always wanted.

4. There will always be regrets in you occasionally. "If I had known"

5. You life may be cut short due to his anger issues. most marital death had always being a mistake. it's the devil's work, I didn't mean to.

6 and lastly. just know you can be in a polygamous home knowingly or unknowingly. your husband can get other women pregnant,

7. it's very very hard for a man who commits adultery to change. very hard. in order for more to change there must be a negative encounter.

like a drunkard who was nearly crushed to death by a trailer, would easily quick. but even if you catch a promiscuous man In another woman's house that won't stop him.

Peace of mind is all we need to life long.

But if you think you can always fast and be prayerful. you should go ahead with the marriage, maybe one day God will answer your prayers

it's late oga, did you read the part that says that court marriage has been done. Legally they are married already.

The Bible didn't say he who find a wife, it says he who finds a good wife
Read it again. Proverbs 18:22

Drabeey:
Marriage is ruining alot but the bible said "he who finds a wife...."
I understand, A wife in this context is a good and virtuous woman. The last one marry since 2000. She still dey her husband house.

There are many job scammers in Nigeria and more especially in Lagos State. One such Job scammers is M.H. Solutions. They have gone by different names but this is their current name. Their current office address is 4b, Toyin Street Ikeja, beside Inter Guide Academy and opposite Victory Home school.

These people's method is very and highly professional and by that the time you are aware of what is happening, they must have scammed you of some money, big or small.
They send interview messages to people using different names such as Esther awaken, goal getter consults, Golden Eagles Holdings, and much more.

Personally, I received a message from the so called Esther Awaken, to come for the interview at 4b, Toyin Street, Ikeja Lagos, Besides Inter Guide Academy. Below is a sample of the message.

I got to the venue precisely 7:26 A.M. all the way from Kola. By the time I got there, about ninety job applicants were already seated waiting for the interview to begin. I was amazed at the number of individuals that have gotten there. This is a description of the building: It's a three story building, with the name Trapezium. The ground floor is occupied by a company named Tobugs Textile. The first floor is occupied by this job scammers that go by the name M.H.Solutions but no sign post on their floor. the second and third floors are empty.

At the entrance, one of them who posed as security asked for the evidence of the invite, I reached out for my phone and showed him and he asked me to step in. Another one gave me a seat to sit. I applied for the position of an administrative assistant. By the time I was seated, I looked through the small crowd that came for the interview, and wondered whether I stood a chance at all.

We sat according to the time we came in. After about 30 minutes, they brought an attendance book and asked each one of us to write our names, location and address and code number (the code number was in the message that they sent). When the applicants have all written the required information in the attendance book, they asked us to come upstairs for the interview, line by line.

Anybody that gave any perceived attitude, they will ask the person to leave. By the time we were sited in the interview hall, yes I will call it a hall, though a mini hall, we should be about 50 in number. There's a projecting board in front of the hall, a mini laptop, a medium sized speaker, there are two small air conditioners hanging on the right wall of the hall, about 60 plastic chairs, and in the middle of the hall, up the ceiling, a camera.

Before the hall was a reception room where we were given another book to write our names, addresses, time we came in and we signed in at the sign in column and we submitted our CVs . The reception room has a table with a flat screen monitor and a CPU. It also has one metal seat that contains three persons at a time.

As we were all sited in the hall, (now this is how we were sited: the chairs were arranged at each side of the hall, three chairs per row and they were 10 rows on each side, a walk through space was created at the middle for easy movement) they asked us to put aside our phones. When the seats have all been taken, they left the room.

One of them returned and asked some persons to leave, obviously the persons were making use of their phones. Later one of them a supposed HR personnel, a woman in her late twenties wearing Ankara long skirt and blouse and a hijab, came in and starting from the first row at the right hand side, called names from the submitted CVs.

If you are called, you step into the interview assessment room where you be asked silly questions like date of birth, address, occupation and age. That's how they called out everyone. If they feel that you will be a problem to them, they ask you to go home, if not, they ask you to return to the hall. By the time they were done with that, another woman who by look could be in her early thirties, wearing a black trouser suits and black high heeled cover shoes came in.

She wore a tag that says 'head of HR team.' She greeted and addressed us about our attitude after which she called in her so called supervisor who came in and preached to us the benefits of working for the company that we will work only for two days in a week ( Tuesdays and Fridays specifically) after which he introduced yet another person whom he said is the boss.

A short black man with beards. The boss came in and did the final brain washing, showing us passports -which I now suspect are fake - that the company got for him and how he traveled to Dubai and Myanmar and how he has bought a latest Lexus this year, paraded the keys round halls and drummed into our ears how this could be our lot this year.

At the end, he said that we could only work for the company when we have attended their training which will hold on the 16th of January, 2021, that's the following day. But we will show commitment by paying the sum of four thousand Naira for training fees. Some individuals mentioned that they can't pay. And they left immediately.Nine of us paid 4000 Naira after which they reduced the money to two thousand at which two paid 2000 Naira and later three paid 1000 Naira.

Before you pay, either by cash or transfer, they will call you out and asked you to state why you want to pay, and some persons mentioned because they want to get a job and help their families, and so on. Note that while saying these, the applicants are facing the camera.

Some applicants who didn't have money to pay and who stayed back, were asked to come for the training only when they promised to bring the money. After which we left but not without signing out. And it was when I returned that my eye cleared. I never went back to that place again.

I know some of them are here and they would come to defend themselves, saying they sell GNLD products and that they are being accused bla bla bla, please don't listen to them, make your research about them, some persons have paid for the products and haven't received them til date. Don't fall victim please.

I regret to say that I paid two thousand Naira, for the mentioned training. I was really foolish to have fallen victim to such nonsense. Thinking about it I feel so ashamed of myself. That's what desperation causes. I was really desperate to get work, I finished from university last two years, finished service mid last year and have gone for several interviews that didn't yield any positive results.

I started teaching late last year but we all know how the educational system is battling right now, plus the pay is nothing to write home about. I am not using these as excuses to fall to such trap, but please all job seekers, let's calm down, avoid desperation, beware of job scammers, any job interview you go for and the low gentle voice in you ask you to leave, please and please, obey that voice and take your leave, you will save yourself so much embarrassment, shame and much more.

At last we will be fine. Thanks.

Since you have noticed this habit and it is not approved by you, why don't you calmly end the relationship? Don't come with 'I am not dating him statement'. Go find out what dating means

Did you notice that the place u quoted said of those who hate me. so that has to do with parents and children who keep on breaking God's rule okay. quote author=Ogonimilitant post=90902706]
“You shall not make for yourself a carved image—any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth; you shall not bow down to them nor serve them. For I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me, but showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments.”
Exodus 20, 4-6[/quote]