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Chillisauce:
Both of you should go to bed if you have nothing else doing.

And do it fast !

Ewere maka ihe ikpu na eshi agaghi ara ya.

@ Op since you have come to your senses, I rest my case. No matter what, never you come to a public forum and call your husband a monster...there are better ways of presenting your case if any...and stop using that 12 year old girl as a nanny. Best of luck.Ciao. Sayonara. Aloha

[quote author=mutter post=29881279]But OP, How could yoube sleeping when your husbandwas out.
Do you know how risky that can be, he might get attacked while bannging to enter the house.
[/quote)
Excellent points! Here comes a woman who still thinks straight.
The obviously biased female posters here are trying to justify the Op who has shown herself as a child abusing monster because she is female. This is an obviously wicked woman who has absolutely no single regard for someone's little female child and venomously converts a mere 12 year old baby girl to a beast of burden in her home coming here to accuse another of being a monster. For your information child abuse is the worst kind of abuse! The Op should be immediately arrested and prosecuted for child labor and abuse!

Sophyrocks:
. Who is more of a monster between the two? ?

See question! Oh you have finally admitted she is also a monster. I rest my case.

repogirl:
Dinachi when so many people oppose your views, maybe there is something wrong with it....

thinkingbee, men lose temper and can act irrational sometimes, but when he choses to lay his hand on his wife, that is the greatest disrespect.

As for those saying child abuse and whatnot, a twelve year old is almost a teen ager, most twelve year olds are in JS3. What if she were her own daughter and she asked her to babysit her siblings, would that be abuse also? Beside this was just a temporary arrangement till the return of the nanny why acting like all hell broke loose?

I began taking care of my younger ones at the age of ten, when ever my parents and aunt had to be out, I was left in charge of my two younger ones for a while. Did I die? Abeg people should take it easy while throwing stones, many of you are quilty of these things but you come out here and form saints.

My point is Op makes it look like she's one innocentina somewhere being pummeled by a beast when her little story shows that she is cruel to children too!

[quote author=Sophyrocks post= He calls a woman a monster and tries to chip in the "Child abuse" issue simply because she tried to protect a child from being beaten.[/quote]Common sense is not common after all! I am not surprised you are unable to grasp the basic tenets of logic here. The female monster in chief@ Op set up that poor brutally abused 12 year old girl for beating by her husband by employing her as a house help. She is the one who due to her atrocious wickedness took someone's 12 year old daughter and turned her to a beast of burden... If not for your blind hatred for anything male, you would have understood that.

fem29:
Dinachi how can you condone this what is wrong is wrong!. She was very right to stop him beating up the child he could have seriously injured her in his anger. Sounds like she is right to call him a monster!

She started it by hiring a mere 12 year old girl! Haba! That is child labor and abuse now. Sounds like both of them are monsters then! See, the Op should take a chill pill and tell us what is really happening in her love nest turned hate nest. And I insist on calling her a monster if she keeps referring to her husband as one. Either way both of them are part of the system.

TheMadame:
Mr dinachi,
Please give this a rest. I beg of you. Every thread/arguement does not have to be US versus THEM. Why not treat each case on its individual merit and give your honest unbiased advise.
Yes,thinking bee was wrong to hire a 12 year old and she has admitted that it was a stop gap measure till her real nanny returns from holidays.
Her description of her husband is that of an angry,violent man. She at least needs a kjnd of temporary seperation from him till he gets his act together.

She lost me when she refered to her husband as a monster without giving justifiable reasons. I hate it because to me it looked like she is a woman who have an uncouth mouth. From experience women are more inclined to report issues in their relationship to a third party and sometimes times when you investigate closely you discover they are actually the aggressors but only came to report because they were overpowered by their physically stronger partners. In any case, since she needed advice, it therefore behooved on her to give a clearer picture of the situation so that she will not fall into the trap a second time even if she ends up leaving her current husband.

IyawoToBe:
I'm sorry but I didn’t order a glass of your unsolicited advice

There she goes again.

IyawoToBe:
Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww! You repulse me... I pity the unfortunate woman who will end up with you. *spits in disgust* Tufiakwa!!!

@ I yawotobe, be careful you don't end up like the Op. Look well before you leap! Permit no distance between you and your husband. And never ever refer to your husband as a monster.

red101:
Are you for real?
You sound like an expert 'pounder.' How many women have you sent to the hospital or grave?
God will remove that monsterousness from your heart and this woman's husband (hopefully soon to be ex-husband) heart.



Kudos to you. Like I said earlier, if you know his place of work, you can set up a meeting with his boss or employer to give them details about his abusive ways. It will be even better if you had physical evidence (scars, pictures etc) A bad recommendation like that can often be enough grounds to fire or sack him. He will quickly realize that his actions come with consequences.

Hello! How you dey? Expert pounder? Yes I am! I love to pound yam

@Op is your husband on drugs or alcohol? It is very difficult to fathom a husband going physical on his beloved wife except in self defense and vice versa. So give a clearer picture. What is your role in all this mess?

torchwave:
I did not read your comment but it is obvious to any reader that guy is just another faceless wife beater, molester, abuser trying to protect his brother of the same evil blood by justifying his brother's action of physically abusing his wife.

I can never lay a finger on any girl no matter. I have sisters and cousins who have pushed me to the limits many times...but I take pride in the fact that I never let my anger control my actions. I believe any man who lays a finger on a woman is less than a man. If it becomes a habit, then he is a beast.

So what is the great justicication for punching and slapping and beating a woman?

Shut it! You should be embarrassed already. So you encouraged Op subjecting a minor to child labor and abuse? I do hope you are not the type that enjoys inflicting pain on children, because that is the height of wickedness. Her story doesn't make any sense and I have asked her to clarify some points to no avail. Did she attack the husband physically to warrant him transferring the cane from the poor girl to her?

striktlymi:
The only thrash I see here is the one you are spewing.

Don't be silly! This is a woman who remorselessly turned a mere 12 years old girl child to a house help. Is that not child labor and abuse? And yet she had the guts to come here and accuse the husband of being a monster.@Op you never talk true! Come what evil have you been perpetrating to turn your household to a war front?

The woman is an abusive beast who should be chained in an underground dungeon..The man should divorce her Asap!

Why do women beg men for money?

thinkingbee:
@dinachi u deserve no words in return.

Thanks for all the great advice and contacts, I really appreciate it. I ve sort of found peace in letting go of revenge because vengeance is really not mine. I just wish there was a way to teach him a lesson so he never hurts any woman again.

I have given up soo much of myself for him. I gave everything which has never been enough.
The physical abuse have become countless, my family members live far away. No one for him to revere cos my father is late.

Am trying to get another apartment for me and the childrenn...financially I ll be fine.
This last time he came home as usual late, I was ill so I went to bed. No nanny at this time because she s on break but a small girl that I train, looking after the kids when I go work in the mean time.
He knocked we couldn't hear because the generator was on, we finally opened, he stormed in with two canes and started beating a 12 year old that was helping watch d kids all day and might be tired. I tried to protect her then he pounced on me again....cane, belt...blows to the head.... the memories it'd terrifying..

Thanks everyone, am better now.

Perhaps you don't need any advice at all. I will never tolerate anybody coming here in the public to run down their supposed beloved spouse without at least showing clearly they are not at fault. I can only comment based on what you wrote.. If I got you clearly, you were not the original target for the pounding. How did the 'annointing' transfer from the girl in question to you? Did you confront your husband? Did you attack him in a bid to save your girl and put him on the defensive? Give a clearer picture and stop calling your husband names.

ireneidiva:
What makes her a feminist?

That boy was killed because he is male! Most feminists transfer their frustrations with their husbands to their male children. It is a complex.

Busybody2, you won my most profound respect for calling a spade a spade..Honestly I hardly need to add to what you have said..You are a great woman. Your hubby is indeed truly lucky to have you! My grouse with most female posters here is usually the double standards they apply whenever a man is at the receiving end of domestic abuse and violence...

@ Op file for divorce immediately citing emotional abuse of yourself and your son. If she retraces back her step and you see genuine change then maybe you can reconsider.

Your wife is not supportive and with a woman like that you can only go downhill!

TheMadame:
Sir, this is uncalled for and totally unfair.

Sorry I sounded so harsh but how will you really react to a MARRIED woman who calls her HUSBAND a monster? Birds of the same feather cluster together! Only a monster will seek out and marry another monster! Besides calling her husband a monster is verbal abuse. This shows that she herself is also an abuser and therefore also a monster. Meanwhile, she didn't give us any hints of her own part of the saga. Until she comes clean, she should carry her monster ass out of this thread. Monster ko monster ni

I love the community for doing the needful! God will bless them for putting that wicked feminist bitch out of her misery.

OP, immediately divorce her to clear your head first and foremost before you even think of doing anything! People let us understand Op. He h comes up with excellent ideas, wife shoots it down immediately but does not come up with a better one. It is very simple, the wife is an abusive unsupportive woman. And to make matters worse, she even abuses their SON! Pray tell what did the boy do to her? The woman is an excruciatingly wicked woman who should be shown the way out! Even if the husband is not self motivated, can't the wife encourage him and be there for him? Now even when the man makes plans, this same wife will still discourage him. I don't know what else to call her apart from a witch!

Onila and her Ashawo mouth!

O my God ! What is this? Divorce her immediately and look for a gud humble woman who will appreciate you for who you are. Women plenty nyafu nyafu that are praying day and night to get a man half as gud as you...She doesn't deserve you, period. Why why why did you give that ungrateful wife ten million? Collect your money back Asap! Meanwhile what are the things you have passion for? What ever business ideas you have should be based on your passion. Best luck!

If your husband is a monster, then you are also a monster! I totally abhor it when you female monsters cause problems in your homes and come here to blab. Tell us your own faults and the evil you perpetrated before you come here to disparage a great gentleman like your husband. Witches like you have been attacking their husbands at will and generally causing mayhem, when the man in a bid to save himself deals you a handsome blow to reset your brain, you come here to spew thrash.. Wet dat your husband sef, let me give him a high five! He deserves a God bless you pat in the back!

TWO things stand out...Loyalty n fidelity.
1, The wife is not loyal.(hoes aint loyal) for people like me who value loyalty very high...She messed up big time.
2, Fidelity..this one is doubtful.

CONCLUSION: She complicated issues when she hid the fact the was collecting money from her husbands 'enemy'. My advice, let him go..i strongly suspect she was also sleeping with the guy. Support the divorce. The woman does not deserve him, period!

From here it can only get better...Gods abundant blessings! May Divine favour continually wake you up in the morning and put you to bed every night. Permit no distance between both of you...

No man worth his salt will waste his time on this thread knowing full well that it was primarily set up by feminists and lesbians to challenge and disparage the authority of a husband in the house.You pretend you don't know what a head of the home entails. Didn't you have a father while growing up? What was his role? Hypocrites everywhere! I am outta here.

Any lady arguing about this brilliant points from the OP is guilty as charged! Don't mind all these lesbians and feminists. NEVER expect the truth from them!