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Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 9:02pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
Then sit down with her
And you guys should talk
Two wrongs don't make a right

ok then.. I hear you.

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:56pm On Dec 15, 2018

rame18:
lol

IK himself.

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:56pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
Are you going to fix it

only if she stops doing what she does that pisses me off

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:46pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
Am taken

who took you?

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:46pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
Naaaa
Only if she permits me.
Which you know she wont

who is she

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:45pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
Answer let me go and sleep
or I won't talk to you on this forum again

what was your question again?

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:44pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
What's no
Is that how you run away easily
Surprise

me run ke.. Watsup.. I like you.

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:42pm On Dec 15, 2018

rame18:
lol e no fit bomb me

Bomb go soon explode for your head. Face your front.

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:42pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
Is that an assurance because I would be very happy
Just because of me
And wait you really thought that after finding out your a foodie I would still ask you to come join?
You lied
Big lie

you being stingy

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:41pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
before yoh will finish my food

you will feed me

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:40pm On Dec 15, 2018

rame18:
Dingbang and Tanyloe you people are derailing this beautiful thread, do you want me to call the mods??

no o..

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:34pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
Lol
Don't come again

why?

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:33pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
I would love it
If you settled you problems
Sometimes it's through hot fight that you know your really in a true relationship
Talking from experience
What your taking for granted someone is praying for it
I see you as a gentleman
act like one
And as for the food
No come
I go chop alone

oya na.

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:17pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
That's the truth
Make I go chop
I dey hungry
Care to join

i'm a foodie . wink

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:15pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
j

That's the truth

okay.. I hear you.

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 8:13pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
That's proves you never loved her at first
Because if you did..you would know how it feels to stay a minute without calling the person you love

na so.

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 7:53pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
I don't know you
but I feel you need help

naah..

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 7:52pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
I agree
But I can't never leave my man
Even when his the most annoying man ever
Fights
Disagreements
But how yoh handle what's happening is relationship

thats true .. But at this point for me, its best we leave.

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 7:33pm On Dec 15, 2018

[quote author=TanyLoe post=73876401][/quote]smiles. You know nothing

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 7:23pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
wow
Who was the manipulative one

we werent compatible at the end..

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 7:09pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
I guess your posting from experience?

And what will you call a man who loves breaking up and coming back asking for forgiveness?
And are you in a relationship?

no. Officially I am single , I just broke up with my girlfriend.

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 7:04pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
I wish you knew that

of course I do.

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 6:43pm On Dec 15, 2018

TanyLoe:
I am or was in a relationship with a guy
The truth I don't know if we have broken up yet
He hurts you with words but won't apologize and even if he's at fault he won't still apologize
He makes you trust him and then he used it against you
Dose that mean he is a manipulator?

yes he is a manipulator. He knows your weaknesses and uses that against you. Please stay away from him, date someone who understands how to run a relationship like a company

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 6:18pm On Dec 15, 2018

1Sharon:
Nice thread OP. Deep stuff, this can happen with parents and friends too.

thanks so much. You are right about that too

Career › Re: How To Achieve Your Financial Goals With A Single Income Source by dingbang(m): 1:26pm On Dec 15, 2018

True..

Politics › Re: Peter Obi Lied On Foreign Direct Investment-fdi by dingbang(m): 9:51am On Dec 15, 2018

At least he made a

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Politics › Re: PDP Governors React To Peter Obi's Performance At VP Debate And Proud Of Him by dingbang(m): 8:33am On Dec 15, 2018

Peter obi/Yemi Osinbade 2019...

Celebrities › Re: Princess Shyngle Breaks Silence On Attempted Suicide by dingbang(m): 8:20am On Dec 15, 2018

What is making her depressed?

Politics › Re: Things Will Be Harder Than Before, President Buhari Warns Govs, Leaders by dingbang(m): 5:11am On Dec 15, 2018

Buhari is God's punishment to Nigerians

Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 3:47am On Dec 15, 2018*

11. They're Always Just Joking

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This is a manipulation in two parts. The first part is the one where they say hurtful things or criticize you, but it's you're fault for getting upset because they were totally just kidding. It doesn't matter how cruel they were, it only matters that you're too sensitive and can't take a joke. The second part involves making jokes about you in public and in front of others. If you respond negatively in front of others, you're making a scene or ruining the fun. This is a way to get their digs in and grind you down without having to take accountability.

What to do:

You don't have to worry about ruining the fun or being too sensitive. It can be a difficult thing to confront your partner when they hurt you, and to risk looking like the bad guy, but standing up for yourself is important. Even if the manipulator will likely try to shame you for it.

The more you recognize manipulative behaviors, the more you'll be able to shut them down. If you're dealing with a serious manipulator, though, adds are your best bet is to split.

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Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 3:46am On Dec 15, 2018*

10 They are calm, cool and collected.

https://imgix.bustle.com/lovelace/uploads/1102/dc329b70-f063-0133-800a-0e31b36aeb7f.jpeg?w=646&fit=max&auto=format&q=70

When something bad happens, there's conflict, or things seem to be in chaos, is your partner super calm? This can be a manipulation that makes you feel like you're overreacting. It can make you feel like you can't trust your own emotional reactions. It's a way your partner controls your emotional responses. They determine when a situation warrants an emotional response. Otherwise, you're just being dramatic, or silly. Because they're super calm. They can call your mental health or maturity into question, and over time, you might not even realize you're looking to them for how to respond when something happens.

What to do:

If you're a person who falls for this manipulation often, you might need therapy to help you get back in touch with and trust your true emotional responses. That's how damaging this manipulation can be. In the moment, the best thing you can do is go with your gut and remember that you don't have to justify your feelings to anyone.

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Romance › Re: 11 Signs You Are Being In A Manipulative Relationship And How To Fix It. by dingbang(op): 3:45am On Dec 15, 2018

9. Killing them with Kindness

https://imgix.bustle.com/lovelace/uploads/1102/dbc924b0-f063-0133-801c-0e31b36aeb7f.jpeg?w=646&fit=max&auto=format&q=70

Kindness as a manipulation is especially damaging because it makes you question people's motives every time they're nice to you. An easy example of this is the classic scenario where someone gives another person a gift or a string of compliments and the other person says, "OK, what do you want?" A more damaging form of this manipulation is something like, "you're just so smart, I don't know why you don't go to school" when the real motivation is to have a partner who makes more money and not their happiness. Or, "I did all of this nice stuff for you, it's the least you can do" when confronted with something you don't want to do.

What to do: Kindness with an ulterior motive is not really kindness. You can say thank you for the kindness, but still not give in to the controlling aspect of the manipulation. If you spot it. Remember, no shame if you don't catch it. Manipulators are sly like that.

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