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You mean pretty makeup + AI picture lady...

Jealousy, envie, compétition, evil..

onyinyechi225:
Its A MAN’s WORLD AFTERALL..💁🏻‍♀️

There’s is always gonna be another naive or Desperate woman to fill in that Vacuum🤦🏼‍♀️

However, Most times the Divorced woman is rather condemned for life and Labelled “Terrible or Substandard” even if she happened to have ran for her dear life!.


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As usual the victim mentality...

Antoeni:
This Guy Chop Emmanuelle Nor Be Small,
He Should Always Remember That He is Nothing Without Emmanuelle

Emmanuela is equally nothing without him....

vr0xen:
I don’t like the way he treated denilson igwe believe me these guys are so diabolic and fetish that guy denilson igwe was a bunch of talent today he is gone probably to Bermuda Triangle. With the spirits of heroshima and Nagasaki

Since he was a talent why isn't he at the summit after the spilt..Wuna too like for put mouth for where ei no concern wuna

lildush:
You guys don't understand wat he means...wat he's trying to say is... He will use drones more to carry out defence activities the minister of defence will not be involved much. I will do same to. Because the military is compromised. I will not send soldiers to the war front anymore.. I will only use drones.. u gerit?

Do drones fly on their own? Will there not be someone to procure and operate them.

lildush:
You guys don't understand wat he means...wat he's trying to say is... He will use drones more to carry out defence activities the minister of defence will not be involved much. I will do same to. Because the military is compromised. I will not send soldiers to the war front anymore.. I will only use drones.. u gerit?

Do drones fly on their own? Will there not be someone to procure and operate them.

Sowore stop living a delusion. Even if this was tied down to Presidential Street Contest of your Street you would still not win. Okay, let's narrow it down to family President of your family, you still would not win..

Antoeni:
Why Always The Men Dying? This is One of The Reasons Men Should Take Their Well Being Serious, Take Very Good Care of Yourself

He is old and cant live forever. Several actresses have died recently too..

Good actor.
I remember him in one Dollar and Old School Mama G

Freshtruth:
Don't blame the young man some father's are wicked to their own my own father build 2 big hotels sold the 2 hotels for no reason mind u I was suffering badly as a son of a rich man if u no dey the family no blame the young man .

You can build your own hotels and sell them too..May God never give even to my worst enemy a son like you. Little wonder your father cut you off. You sound like you were fathered by a neighbour.

funnyDM:
You are at a point where delaying the decision is already becoming a decision on its own. Both women are asking you to meet their parents because they likely see the relationship as moving toward commitment. If you continue with both while unsure, the risk is that someone eventually gets deeply hurt — including you.
The confusion you feel is normal. Attraction, attachment, and compatibility are not always the same thing.
Here’s a practical way to think through it.

1. Stop asking, “Who do I love more?”
Instead ask:
Who gives me peace?
Who brings out discipline and purpose in me?
Who fits the kind of future I want in 5–10 years?
Who handles conflict maturely?
Who genuinely respects me?
Around who can I be fully honest?
If money became hard for two years, who would still stand well with me?
Which relationship feels stable instead of emotionally confusing?
Love alone is not enough for marriage. Stability, character, respect, and shared direction matter heavily.

2. Fear of making the wrong choice may actually mean you are avoiding pain
Part of your fear may not be “What if I choose wrong?” but also:
“What if I hurt one of them?”
“What if I lose someone valuable?”
“What if the one I leave later becomes more successful?”
“What if marriage changes everything?”
That fear can keep a man stuck between two lives for too long.
But maturity sometimes means accepting that clarity comes with sacrifice.

3. Observe who is truly compatible with your future
The nursing graduate and the polytechnic graduate may both be good women. But marriage is not a beauty contest or certificate competition.
Watch for:
Emotional maturity
Financial attitude
Respect during disagreements
Family values
Spiritual beliefs and lifestyle
Temperament
Loyalty
Ability to build with you
Ask yourself:
“If attraction reduced tomorrow, who would still make a strong life partner?”
That question reveals a lot.

4. Do not meet both parents if you already know you can only choose one
Meeting parents in many Nigerian families is seen as serious intention. If you are still uncertain, avoid giving both families strong expectations at the same time.
Instead:
Be honest with yourself first.
Take a short period to decide intentionally.
Reduce emotional juggling.
A man cannot think clearly while emotionally feeding two serious relationships equally.

5. Create a private comparison — not based on emotions alone
Take a notebook and divide it into sections:
Quality
Woman A
Woman B
Peace of mind


Trust


Respect


Communication


Shared future goals


Family compatibility


Emotional maturity


Supportiveness


Attraction


Ability to endure hardship together


Be brutally honest. Patterns will start appearing.

6. Ask yourself one uncomfortable question
If today both women suddenly disappeared from your life forever…
Which loss would truly break you the most — not because of ego, beauty, or benefits — but because you know that person genuinely fits your life?
Sometimes your heart already knows, but your fear keeps creating noise.

7. Once you decide, be clean and respectful
Do not keep one as a “backup option.” That creates long-term guilt and confusion.

When you decide:
Commit fully to one.
End the other relationship respectfully and clearly.

Avoid manipulation or false promises.
That is part of becoming serious in life.
You do not need a perfect choice. You need a wise, intentional, honest choice.

Finally, a beautifully written piece on nairaland. I wish this forum had ten of the likes of you in articulation and wisdom. I have copied this down to share with my daughter...You made a lot of sense and I am certain someone close to me will benefit from your insightful contribution..Thank you for your input. I am 47 and can resonate with that much you wrote

translux:
Back in my higher institution days, I was dating two ladies at the same time. One was a Christian while the other was a Muslim. As time went on, I realized I needed to become serious with my life and make a clear choice between the two.

Deep inside me, I knew the Muslim lady truly loved me so much. Her love was genuine and sincere. But because I was a Christian, I felt it would be better for me to continue with the Christian lady and let the Muslim lady go. It was not easy for her at all, and honestly, it was not easy for me either, but I believed I was making the right decision then.

So I stayed with the Christian lady. After some time, I suddenly noticed she stopped calling me and no longer picked my calls. I was confused and kept wondering what went wrong. During the holiday, I decided to visit her at her house so we could talk face to face. When I got there, she simply told me she was no longer interested in the relationship. That was how everything ended between us.

A few weeks later, I heard from a reliable source that she was already engaged to another man.

Life moved on, but something unexpected happened that same year in December. One evening, I heard a knock on the gate downstairs. I went to open it, and to my greatest surprise, it was the Muslim lady standing there. She had come back into my life.

From there, the rest became history. Today, we have been happily married for about 16 years, and we are doing very well together.

The biggest shock came years later, around 2020, when the Christian lady suddenly contacted me again. She said she was having serious issues in her marriage and needed someone to talk to. I allowed her to visit me in Lekki. She opened up about many things happening in her home. I advised her to try her best to manage and save her marriage, and I also supported her with some money before she left. That was the end of it.

Life has a funny way of working itself out. Sometimes, time and nature choose the right life partner for a person better than we can ever imagine ourselves.

Wow...The story of your life beautifully written in eight paragraphs...I am glad to read you found happiness or rather happiness found you..

Pootle:
how about you talk about promotion from nigeria national league to the premier league. enough of this foreign football we cant grow like this

Who is stopping you from talking about the Nigeria National League

This is serious. Let me tell to the gods and get a diagnosis

Fight, quarrels and insults go soon start..lol

ogaemma:
A man who have not been cleared by the court for stealing billions of Naira of public money is winning a primary election.
How was he screened in the first place?
How did he pass his screening?
Why is the EFCC silent.
This can only happen in Nigeria.
When we say Nigeria is useless, some will say why are we demarketing Nigeria.
Nigeria is practically dead and useless.
We need a new country.

A testament to your opinion and analysis doesn't matter..You might want to reconsider your beliefs.. 😂

Stupid..A Nigerian movie directed by Teco Benson and featuring Nkem Owoh, Okey Bakassi. jide Kokoso....

Nastrademus:
He's talking football banter, you're talking about his village and life, you're the zero here for taking it personal, let's learn to respect people and their opinions

His opinion, respect it too...

AllBlack:
A club bigger than your entire village in wealth and DOCUMENTED achievements is not a serious club?

Who are you? How serious is your whole life multiplied by 5,000? Zero..

You made my day.. 😂

How a lady choses to be in the limelight for the wrong reasons beats my imagination...

Daeveed:
Can you just do all these things somewhere else? And who is his or her right sense keeps pushing this thing to fp? It's now getting very annoying. If you like have lizard or crab nobody cares abeg.

You care and that's why you are on this thread

Half-brother and not stepbrother ...
Passport and not international passport

None of the viruses you quoted have their origins in the years you quoted. The hanta virus has been known to man since 1978. Spread from rodents to humans some parts of the US experienced outbreaks as far as 1993. By the way the COVID outbreak you mentioned started in 2019 hence the name covid19

Goddyrichie:
papa u and my dad are agemate it’s good to give birth early my dad gave birth to me at 19 I’m going to turn 27 this year I never even ready to have a girlfriend talk less of have a child person wey life dey score 1-0 no fit think that kind thing nw

I command you to go and have a child .. 😂
It's easier to see many 19 year old mothers compared to fathers.
Kudos to your dad for having you be a part of this Earth. You would have been born in pluto had he not impregnated your mum 27 years ago.. 😂😂

Darekiki:
Listen with your irrelevant post.
I click to comment why such post on front page in the morning. Has you have the right to post I have right to condemn it, if it is irrelevant.
WHAT POINT DOES YOUR WASTEFUL QUESTION MAKES?
Comparative methodology which is futility.
Does asking for season of every fruit makes any reason to themselves. Than every fruit is at best in their season..
So whichever the age you gare birth. Thank God.
Let's talk about adding value to society

Listen with your irrelevant post.
There are thousands of different people on Nairaland, each one with their own preference. What is wasteful to you is meaningful to another person.
Creating of threads is free on Nairaland, you can go ahead and create meaningful threads that bring value to Nigeria.
I gave birth at 26, if that's going to prevent you from having an appetite for a month, make it three months..

I have Netflix premium, Amazon prime and Canal + full package running automatically. Yet it's been over a month I watched a movie .

Darekiki:
This is irrelevant. Nigerians should always think to add value to the society..
Such question only make those who are yet to give birth feels somehow.
And why doing comparison?
You are given the opportunity to post something meaningful. Yet you can ask questions such as
HOW CAN THE YOUTHS PREPARE AHEAD FIR THE FAMILY.
OR WHAT TO DO IN EARLY CAREER TO FOOT BILLS AT HOME.

There are several topics on Nairaland. Yet you chose to click on an irrelevant topic to write an epistle. According to your logic pregnant women shouldn't go out of the house cos those who aren't will feel somehow. What a mindset...

I got legally married at 23 and wish I had a child immediately. I had my first child at 26. She is now 20 and I am 46. At a height of 1m80 most people think she is my girlfriend when we walk together.

Hezmatosky210:
Imagine the kin people we have on this platform
Anyway, 'This Is Nairaland'

That's his experience..No need to be pained..

YujiroHanma:
As we were about to take off, the plane tire burst and the plane naa slide on the runway and bombed. I was the only surviver out of the 1268 people on the plane. I really thank God for save my life that day, I can never forget. February 31st 2018...Glory be to God

A chosen has been spotted.. I am a chosen, who are you?