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Based on a quick look on all NLers, it seems like there are certain qualities everyone's looking for in a mate. Nail the perfect combo of good looks, quick wit, and career success and you've got the perfect formula for attracting a partner, right?

Well, it's partly true: Research shows these aspects (physical appearance, humor, and ambition) are certainly attractive to potential romantic partners. But it turns out, a bit of benevolence may be what your dating game’s missing. One large-scale study found that more than 10,000 men and women from around the globe consider kindness—yes, kindness—to be one of the most important qualities in a romantic partner.

Here’s why your reflection, your paycheck, and where you stand in the social pecking order can’t hold a candle to the quality of your character.
Why Kindness Matters Most

Numerous studies corroborate the appeal of kindness. Even small gestures, such as giving a stranger a flower, lending a close friend an ear, or simply doing someone a favor (like carrying their groceries), can enhance our likeability and increase others’ willingness to commit to us.

And it seems to translate to physical attraction. Research shows that genuine trustworthiness, authenticity, and reliability may even boost our sex appeal. Being a kind and honest person can cause people to perceive your face and body type as more attractive.

By being authentically kind, we can also positively influence others’ moods, foster warm feelings of connectedness with friends and family members, and soothe folks when they’re stressed. And really, who doesn’t want those qualities in a date!?

Evolutionary psychologists believe that kindness survived natural selection because it allowed for stronger parent-child bonds and enabled partners and tribe members to stick together—all crucial abilities in our ongoing fight for existence and proliferation.

Finally, being nice won't only benefit your love life: Recent studies suggest that people who do nice things for others on a regular basis are happier, healthier, and may even have longer lifespans.6 Cue: letting go of every excuse you’ve ever given yourself to be a jerk.

Sign Me Up!

Not sure whether your niceness factor is up to snuff? It’s not always a function of what we do for others; it’s equally about how we think and what we say.

1. Adjust your mindset.

Have empathy and compassion for where someone else might be coming from, instead of reacting to what they’re saying or doing solely based on how it affects us. Meaning: Consider that she may not actually be blowing you off if she says she has plans with her work buddies and can’t grab a drink. Or keep in mind he may really like you, but needs time before he feels comfortable meeting your parents.

“Being kind can mean giving people the benefit of the doubt instead of jumping to the conclusion they’re a bad person or harbor malicious intent,” If she’s being a bit standoffish on the first date, try easing back a bit and approaching her more warmly rather than writing her off as frigid. Or refrain from assuming he’s no longer into you just because he sounded distant on the phone. (Though it never hurts to ask someone what’s going on in that moment—or, if they’re too emotional, once they’ve cooled down.)

2. Put it into words.

Expressing gratitude (“I’m really thankful we met,” “I so appreciate you meeting me for dinner tonight”), verbalizing what you admire and respect about a date or friend (“I love the way your mind works,” “You have a wonderful sense of style,” “You give incredible hugs”) or offering a mate encouragement (“You’re getting so good at learning how to make me feel amazing in bed”) are spoken versions of kindness, Cole points out.

Find something you truly consider positive about another person—without, of course, falsely praising their every characteristic. And while it may be easier to focus on the superficial (“I love how sexy you look in that outfit”), pointing out a person’s beneath-the-surface perks makes a much more significant impact.

Post-date, it never hurts to text them to make sure they arrive home safely to show that you care about their safety. And don’t hesitate to break that ridiculous 24-hour-no-texting rule with a simple “Hey, thanks for a really nice time tonight.”

Finally—and this also comes in handy during those slightly awkward, quiet moments of a dinner date: Ask questions—about their job, their weekend plans, their new nephew. Flexing your niceness muscle also means demonstrating a genuine curiosity about the other person's life, Cole says.
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JimiCoker:
Hehehehe. More like;
Kid: Mummy what are you doing to daddy's tummy??
Mum: Daddy's helping mummy to get rid of her wrinkles and flabby jowls.
Kid: Wow thanks dad, you're so generous

kikikikikikiki
Badt guy!

JimiCoker:
Naah, you should see my wife. She's as fresh as a newborn baby with sparkling white teeth.
You're welcome honey

I imagine your kid catching you while she gives head!
kid: Hey mum! wah are you doing there?
mum: kid, just helping dad in waxing and scratching his joystick.
kid: mum, what is joystick?
mum: will you common get out, we are busy!

Youngpo413:
I find it difficult to cum during bj,no matter how "professional" the blower is...maybe its just me though.

Let the blower use VUVUZELA...
I trust you go cum within 5mins

Mikkyboy008:
Same with me mehn.And she knew it as well but that day,she made it her job(a blown one) to make me cum.20+ minutes into deepthroating and voila.

Yuck...
#vomits

JimiCoker:
There are essential proteins and enzymes in se♏en which;
✔ Boost the body's immunity
✔ Have whitening effects on teeth
✔ Bond with cells in the epidermis which results in a kind of skin-tightening effect, which gets rid of crows feet and sagging jowls.

Some studies suggest the essential oils contained in se♏en may have anti-aging properties...

Your wife don get probs already!

Hehehehehehhhe


ok ooo

I thought the thread is dead?
I wanna close my thread please...
Oya, everybody OUT!!!

issoriteg




Now its time lagos needs alternative transport apart from land!
By the way, whats delayin this cable car project?

With that, it will be hard for the tanker drivers to use cable too...lol

The best i can do is to help you cry!
Who cares to join!

datigbogirl:
So na 4:30am you leave house? no be thief go attack you but na winch!!!

Them haters be like... soon we gonna get him...
But God gat my back!

Shall we pray!

vizkiz:
nah, I am always having my water warm before taking my bath

And does the water in the pix seems warm to you?

ipledge10:
smh...u cant bath in harmattan

I know say some people go form their life enter hell fire!

Cutehector:
hehehehehe.. Yes i must

I dey wait for counter attack!

LLVelly:
Lekpa girls şüçk it to get fat

And how did you kow

Cutehector:
laugh my ass out... Na this period u go see the real skin color of most girls... Their original face

Kikikikikikikikiki

Omo ale lo fe ya!
Must you xpose them?

To the PDP, “INEC declared Bello winner just to satisfy President Muhammadu Buhari and the APC. INEC has made a mockery of itself and the entire electoral process”.
“The declaration by INEC that one Yahaya Bello polled the highest number of votes is an embarrassing travesty of the nation’s democracy and electoral process.

Now i know that PDP is more confused than APC!

The MESS wey dem make for ministerial screening never do them!

Cutehector:
because u bath like dat

Ko matter!


Since cologne don dey, who go notice?
Thanks to the HAUSA guyz!
ROTFL

Ewo loshi gan nan!
Must you make me LOL!

minasota:
I hate lagos

And we love lagos!

And those thieves will still not be found!
As if they werent walking the lagos street!



This ikorodu ting is now getting outta hand!
Thank God i left home 4:30am!

This FFK needs some help.
Nigeria, a funny country too though!

A country where you steal #30k as a lowlife
and you are caught and hanged to die and no govt
will judge...
And you make $1billion vanish in d govt acct in a month and you ll
as a well known and you ll be praised and be a free man. The important thing is,
make sure you are not caught!

adaksbullet:

And that was the only thing you picked, right?







We know your type... i need not defend my self!

ernesty20:
stop pretending, sweety. It is not always a good thing.

please let her knw!

minasota:
Setup!d question

stwpid comment

BossBae1:
Same reason why guys love to suck pu*** guessing

And what is still that reason?






Its like you are more mature jare!

adaksbullet:
whot are u say noun?...........english plis

Simple english you cannot reading!
Why did u go school gan nan!





ok... just enjoy the thread and have fun, thats all!

zaragal:
I would have replied u with enough insult...but u are not worth my time...spending my time on a damage brain like is a waste of my productive monday...go get a life

Oro nan dun... oo fe ke!


Oya swerve left abeg!

KashyBaby:
Not really...but u keep quoting me tho...

..and u chose to reply my quotes
some quotes can be ignored you know...
Maybe mine is an exception!