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RomanceRe: You Never Know With Women by downcasted: 9:52pm On Nov 23, 2011
^Lord have mercy dude!
You had to summarize the whole word for word
You sure do have time on your hands - you dont have to preach cos i already understand the steps
Ive taken so far in letting go, an intermediary stepped in between us and kind transcends information between us both
and we have both decided to talk things out

I think my GF jst wanna enjoy life/club/do anything without any boundries and i have decided to give her just that but at a price - which i would reserve from this forum
if we happen to ever get back together- so thank you very much for you help oga landlord  cheesy
RomanceRe: You Never Know With Women by downcasted: 9:15pm On Nov 23, 2011
sexkillz:
[color=#000055][size=14pt]Therefore, stop the holier than thou attitude! You called it off already. You both were wrong in different ways! Stop blaming her solely! You are not the only one in a long term relationship abeg. . . [/size][/color]
Funny how u change from been helpful to been hateful

I am not acting holy

Where have i said i wanna leave my girl till the last bit of pages where i noticed

she is still currently dating that dude as we both speak

thats the reason i decided to let go cos she still wont let go of that dude

as we speak right now, she is in a club somewhere - dont know what shes doing there

Ive been awaiting her call since 7PM and its 9.14PM now and im still awaiting her call

I would keep waiting just to for us to talk tins over and thats all -

I came to NL not to complain but to simply seek advice on what to do next cos i have already know where i made mistakes

so please dont call me out smiley
RomanceRe: You Never Know With Women by downcasted: 8:39pm On Nov 23, 2011
kelz88:
Sometimes these bad guys are loaded, and the women might be willing to sacrifice marital bliss for material things.

Yes she left me for deciding to study in europe for a boy who is in 400L doing yahoo yahoo
this isnt the first time its happening so what else huh
RomanceRe: You Never Know With Women by downcasted: 8:38pm On Nov 23, 2011
sexkillz:
[color=#000055][size=14pt]. . .As if the downcasted was innocent of all accusations! He had a role to play in what happened to him!

End of Discussion![/size]
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Yes and i admitted it

I never admitted to cheating on my woman or anything

I came out and stood by my fault and admitted it

Yes im temperamental and ive since admitted it but that doesnt mean i have to go about cheating on her

No matter what i did does that Justify her actions into dating another dude for a month and sleeping in his house for a month

even while i was in Nigeria, her cheating doesnt concern me and ive since forgiven her what concerns me is her letting the dude go

cos as we speak she still sees the dude hence i had to simply go

No body is perfect inclusive of yourself, I aint, she aint and everyone here all have their weakness - My weakness isnt cheating on my woman

I Understand hers is cheating on me and willing to forgive her but the truth is has she forgiven herself undecided
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 8:34pm On Nov 23, 2011

Every one is refering to my story as pitiful
Its all good, i wish the lady in question would simply grow up and face her future
One problem i have always had with her is she depends on the NOW so much rather than the future
I believe in investing in my future and she believes in seein results now
that has always been the problem between both of us

for her to start dating a dude now all for the cash to block her courses etc etc
while claiming to fault me out as been proud and temperamental after 5 years of been with her isnt just fair
I clearly understand now the reasons why they always say most ladies esp within that age bracket are never ready to face
the realities of life - maybe when shes 25 then she would be ready and willing but then it might just be too late as i might have long dissappeared
She has always been the type that think she can walk into any office and get what she wants, wear a short mini skirt and stand on the road and the first guy to drop buy would be her husband, she always believes that cos i stayed with her for 5years probably the next dude would stay with her for eternity, i am a guy and know exactly what dudes do these days to girls - for the fact that i choose not to roll down that path of play boyhood doesnt mean im a fool or that i aint smart but rather because i rather invest my time into sometin postive and something meaningful instead of wasting my time littering around, Its either the cash or my woman or my education or family any other things are all secondary - too bad she decided to distance herself away just for a random 400L dude who she claims is more caring than myself and has some illegal source of income to spice up her up keep-

I still do love this girl but not ready to share my lady under any circumstance, so far these threads have sprang up as a result of my story not because im weak but because this is someone i have truely dedicated spending the rest of my life with
thats why its so painful

The recovery process has since began and im fine smiley

Thank God for threads like this as people begin to see my side of the story
Im not claiming to be mr.perfect, i have my faults as well which i admit
It takes a man to admit his mistakes and learn from it which is exactly what im doing
I started this thread just to seek advice on how to get my 5year relationship which a yahoo yahoo boy took from me and nothing else


Her cheating on me has greatly affected me as i now a stark devoted drunk
I drink anything drink able just to get her away from my system, beer, vodka, alomo even cider
all these from June this year when i started noticing she was cheating on me, i took the habit straight into my family and they were shocked to their knees, i remember drinking alomo one evening while her number was switched off and it rained and got myself drunk and ran AWOL into my family house knocking down everything even in her presence  to the shock of my family, I never had an oath with this girl but seems her cheatin is gettin to me even up to the last nerve of my body system and i simply cant xplain whats going on

I think my GF jst wanna enjoy life/club/do anything without any boundries and i have decided to give her just that but at a price - which i would reserve from this forum
if we happen to ever get back together

Thanks for the following threads as it was indeed helpful to me

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-810019.0.html#msg9618692

and

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=807212.msg9595832#msg9595832

RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 8:05pm On Nov 23, 2011
^Thank you smiley
RomanceRe: Difference Between Boys And Men In Relationships by downcasted(op): 8:02pm On Nov 23, 2011
^Thank you smiley
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 3:13pm On Nov 23, 2011
@Iyatrustee

Please this issue has been settled and swashed!

Moderators please kindly lock this thread up!!
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 2:18pm On Nov 23, 2011
my guy i read thru your story and was deeply touched because i was once in your shoes but i have gotten over mine and moved on since. thank God u have not even done anything on her head and please dont even think of going further to do any introduction by december on that NaughtyWoman whose worth nothing because i promise u, u will regret all your life y u married her and i can assure u that the marriage won't last up to one year before u people start seeking for a divorce.
Thank you sir, But to be sincere i wont appericiate you calling my woman a bi[i]t[/i]ch- she might no longer be mine after 5years but i still care about her enough to stop the name calling - if you notice i have since defended her throughout this thread with people calling me several names but the reason i started this thread was advice on how to get my woman but since she was already long gone, i decided to forsake what i have so much hoped on,although i have had 3 people already told me that marrying this girl would result in disaster, i always believe in working things out - what ever her reasons are for acting that way are all up to her - she is a graduate today and its my greatest Joy knowing the role i have played in her academics right after her parents (im not been boastful but just proud of my very little effort i have contributed to the life of someone i was in love with)

I have defended her through out this thread and my point of starting this thread was not to paint a black image about her because no body sincerely knows her anyway, No woman is perfect and i believe i too am at fault in her present day dilemma
first i believe my temper and attitude had a role in this, i am very temperamental but i always admit my faults and mistakes and always do my best to work on them, we might choose not to be together today again but i can also admit that i am also at fault of maybe declined communication from my part as a result of excessive work load during that my 1year in academics as distractions wasn't something i tried to get the best value results in my education, things were always cool with us till June this year when we had issues and out of anger said a couple of words to her but never to the extent of thinking it would push her out there

I have since August realised my mistakes and she was 100% the reason why i was back in Nigeria just to rekindle things and work things off from there, 3 weeks were spent trying to adjust her head back to me but she was gone, i didn't even have time for my family as a result of things affecting me , her father has already informed me not to bother coming again for the introduction and as a result i cancelled my ticket which was already booked.

What i just couldn't understand was even during my stay in Nigeria, she was still seeing that dude and sleeping at his, even when i left she decided to go back and continue, while i was about travelling back to Europe she was busy with the dude in his house telling him bout her introduction this December (why should she) i dont know. we dated for so long that i dont need to seek information but rather information seeks me- i wish i could print screen conversations with peeps who are close to her while hiding their identity it would have been quite useful as even till yesterday people are still swearing that she is still dating that dude

My leaving her today doesnt have to do with her cheating on me but as a result of her still seeing that dude despite everything has been agreed from our ends, i have had uncles, aunties even from here in Europe call her, pastors, reverends back in Nigeria intervene in this issue and they have all asked her various questions while she has continually sworn that she never dated that guy even to MEN OF GOD, aunties, uncles, friends, even her close friends, till i had hard copy proof of her with the dude (pics) of them together right together in his home vicinity and decided to come out and ask her to defend herself on that issue then  she decided after 4months to say the truth that shes been to his house, never Were Intimate with him but only kissed him, taken off her shirt but not trousers ( I sound foolish saying this )

I have stopped talking with relations who have all warned me about this same girl and im a laughing stock amongst friends even in Nigeria coming all the way down from europe to fight for a girl i left behind over a 400L student, but i close my ears to all these and im not concerned - I have always secretly respected her for never one day looked another dude in the eyes not to mention receiving calls from males etc throughout our dating while i was in nigeria, how she turned to this monster over night is still a misery to me

Im doing OK and writing down all my experiences in a Journal just to ease the load on my head, Her family who has always been on my side now hates me as a result of her own doings, i have no idea why she now choose to report everything that happens to her family (Im no longer concerned bout what they say) - i have seen re-adjusted my life and starting afresh and this time knows what i want from my next relationship should the need arise. I cant understand how a good girl could turn bad all within a space of 10months and decided to stick doing bad

and the annonying thing to round this all up is no one is talking about her cheating on me but rather she is angry over what i really dont know, i dont know if its the part of listening to people telling me my girl is cheating on me or sumtin, i believe in my well laid future and sincerely dont want to be infected with any sorts of vulnerable disease as a result of not listening to anyone out there (sorry to offend anyone who decides to take this offensive) but im a well laid 1man 1 woman kind of person till she decided to make it 2 men in her life - since she so much loves the dude and doesnt value what she has after 5years over a swollen mouthed skanky looking infected dude then thats her ish.

She built a solid foundation with me so if she choose to scatter everything then another lady would simply continue from wherever she stopped and i wish her all the very best with her so called new man

Im off to work


[size=28pt]Thread closed!![/size]
RomanceRe: Can Somone Ans Me? Why Boys & Girls Started Frndship With Love & Ended With Tear by downcasted: 3:45am On Nov 23, 2011
After my last 5year breakup

I looked for tears - I couldnt find any

Love isnt for the strong

I guess im not strong enough to love smiley
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 3:42am On Nov 23, 2011
RomanceDifference Between Boys And Men In Relationships by downcasted(op): 3:41am On Nov 23, 2011
A BOY keeps a password on his cellphone while a MAN is confident enough to say "baby can u answer that for me"!! A BOY runs the streets & chill with his friends while a MAN is enjoying time with his woman planning ahead for their future! A BOY complains about spending too much time with his woman, a MAN plans vacations & getaways because he is wise enough to notice tomorrow isn't promised! A BOY has pride after arguments, a MAN has heart & emotions, A BOY beats on his woman, a MAN massages & caresses his woman! A BOY screams gold-digger for the simple things a woman want, a MAN screams unity! A BOY tells his woman all the things she does wrong, a MAN acknowledges his woman's hard work! A BOY tells his woman she is pretty, & a MAN tells his woman she is beautiful! A BOY will read this & think this is about him & a MAN will read this & thoroughly acknowledge what he needs to fix in his relationship

Im so proud to say after my last 5year relationship here

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-806457.0.html

- Its thought me a lesson to be a man and sensitive to the female gender smiley


wish i cud have her back smiley
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 3:09am On Nov 23, 2011
Jenifa_:
AMEN.
and may God also grant you your cyprian soulmate and heart desire.
Thank you smiley
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 5:11pm On Nov 22, 2011
Omolola1:
erm. . .

I just read dis story again, and i must confess, itz touching!

Where iz d OP sef
come update us na
*my ears re itching o*
There's no update
Wished her the best of luck and her heart desires
Im done trying and fighting
May God grant her a man who would love and cherish her more than i did for 5years smiley
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 2:17pm On Nov 22, 2011
Iyatrustee would you simply get real, this aint some Joking issue angry
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 12:11am On Nov 22, 2011
TexasGal:
I feel your pain. You will get over her. Honestly maybe we are only hearing your end of it, but this woman sounds like she is taking advantage of you and doesn't deserve you. There are so many women who would love to have a doting boyfriend who loves and cares for her as much as you do. You just have to find the right person who you are compatible with.

You men have it a lot easier than we do when it comes to finding a life partner, but it seems like when you fall in love, you fall hard, even if its with the wrong woman. Then you get bitter and take it out on so many good women that come into and out of your life by dogging them out. I hope that will not be the case with you. Take the time to heal and get over her properly before diving into something else. Know what you want, avoid dealing with her type again, and take your time, you are still young. Be strong and take good care.
kiss kiss
RomanceRe: Love Is A Rollercoaster Ride :-( by downcasted: 8:21pm On Nov 21, 2011
You are complaining then you should have seen what my GF did to me

here >>> https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-806457.0.html
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 8:04pm On Nov 21, 2011
^Thank you smiley
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 7:41pm On Nov 21, 2011
embarassed
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 7:17pm On Nov 21, 2011
@pendo89

Thank you smiley
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 6:49pm On Nov 21, 2011
moroh:
Well bros u see. U've not even been single five minutes and u're already getting offers.lol. Why kill urself over her??Plenty of fish in the sea, i tell u
smhhuh
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 6:43pm On Nov 21, 2011
Thanks Y'all for your various contributions
You have all been indeed helpful

Truth to be told, Not one - i repeat Not one person who knows both of us together
told me to give the girl another chance.
Despite im been mad tipsy and high on Vodka as im send this message-
I really want to thank y'all for your help

She is gone and her family seemingly seem to back her on this one
Dont know why - they all claim i listen to people too much without necessarily getting to the root
of the issue when 99% of what these people said are true,
[b]shes been cheating on me but no body addressed that issue instead i am the wrong person here for listening to people who told me she cheating
[/b]She hides things from her family and tries to paint a good image of who she isnt to them, she has turned her family against me and made them
hate me (they always had my backings anyway)

Its all done and completed - and im moving on from tonight and wish her the best with davies
RomanceRe: An Open Letter To The Nice Guy Who Got Heart-broke. . . by downcasted: 6:32pm On Nov 21, 2011
Thanks Y'all for your various contributions
You have all been indeed helpful

Truth to be told, Not one - i repeat Not one person im not talking of here on nairaland
told me to give the girl another chance.
Despite been mad tipsy and high as im sending this message-
I really want to thank y'all for your help

She is gone and her family seemingly seem to back her on this one
Dont know why - they all claim i listen to people too much without necessarily getting to the root
of the issue when 99% of what these people said are true,
shes been cheating on me but no body addressed that issue instead i am the wrong person here for listening to others
She hides things from her family and tries to paint a good image of who she isnt to them, she has turned her family against me and made them
hate me (they always had my backings anyway)

Its all done and completed - you can find the rest of the story here

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-806457.128.html
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 6:12pm On Nov 21, 2011
^Yeah Now i believe she never was meant to be mine smiley
Ive been fighting a lost battle -

Relationships are not worth it,
I'll never venture near one again
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 5:45pm On Nov 21, 2011
**Just a quick update**

Im sending this message on a bottle of raw vodka - amidst tears

I have finally broken the news to her and asked her to move on with her lives, (Just 9 days to when we would have been 5 together)
Seem i called at the best of time, right when she was in the midst of her friends
Initially she cried, screamed while saying we could work sometin out
then i hung up - then she called back saying she wants to go fight someone who she suspects
been feeding me all info about her, (her elder brother's ex GF) if its not guys that marry pro[i]stit[/i]utes 
Then her elder brother rang me saying all sort of bullsh1t followed by a call from her father who finalized it all
saying i shouldnt bother with any introduction anymore!

I guess i just have to face my worst fears and move on obviously without her - I guess her chapter in my life is finally over
Knowing someone since i was 20 been everything i needed in a girl and been accepted by my family gave me hope for a future
I thought i had found someone who would be willing to spend the rest of her life with me.
I never knew Just a year away from my woman could change things - I never turn my back on people i love not to mention a relationship
that i had put so much into (Its all good) I have always said - if she happens to go i'll never have anything to do with a nigerian lady again
(Im sorry for saying that) But i just dont know how i could look into the eyes of another woman and tell her how much i love her again
To be sincere it would take me alot of time to get out of this - But its all good!

I'll take it that im heart broken - maybe i over stepped my bonds maybe i was just been over careful - one word i have always stuck to is if you have a bird set it free and if it comes back its all yours

so Bee (which is her nickname i gave her) Im setting you free tonight and wish her all the very best in life

I declare this thread closed!

Thank you nairalanders
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 1:07am On Nov 21, 2011
^Leavin her rite now is not an option, making a desicion to break up is not a solution to this
I have learnt from this (I KANT talk for her)
My fam arent aware of this cos the minute they are it would be worse on her

I wish someone cud knock some sense into this girl for me, nigeria is so far away  angry
I have always respected her for good 4years cos she never gave me a reason to believe she would look outside
and that even made me believe that not giving her any financial backing wouldnt make her back slide but she did - the trust is completely gone
the love is shaky (I kant even talk about the 2nd girl here too cos shes invisible but never given me a chance to doubt her - how long have i known her like a month) so thats not enough - My girl disappointed me and im utterly disappointed in her -
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 12:48am On Nov 21, 2011
^First and foremost, i wont bring my issue to a Public forum but since y'all aware hence the reason
why y'all should be aware of whats going on, I am not a stingy person and i do what i have to do without looking back
I dont want to believe that cos we had issues during that period meant she would decide to go out there and give another guy a chance
That would be an epitome of st[i]up[/i]idity from her, There is no just another case here to talk about than  for that dude to flash money in her eyes and she forgot where she's coming from, I dont boast either and ive never mentioned a word bout this to a soul - but right from the onset of this thread
when i was indeed down and just had to pour my mind out to make me feel better was exactly what i did

I have always been a 1 man 1 woman kind of being, I chase success which is why i always choose to keep atleast one female partner by my side, I dont want to go further than that, the dude she ended up having that crush on is in no way better than even my younger brother whom im older than thrice but she did -why cos she needed blocking money or what ever she saw in him- Her family asked her to back off but she still wouldn't showing how silly she was, She has admitted cheating on me and thats just the confirmation i need -

what i'll do or what i wont do is a question for another day as i just need time to think this through
why im happy is cos she has agreed that she cheated on me so what ever she sees in the relationship she takes it undecided
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 12:05am On Nov 21, 2011
@valacious
Uhmm im not sure if you read my last response
If she chooses to play or cheat during her NYSC year that would entirely be her loss
She is the first out of my 3 serious affairs to have ever cheated on me
The least out of these affairs ended up after 2years and she was/is my longest so far

we had plans of working things out after her NYSC and what it came as a big blow to me was cos i have never been cheated on either in the past till now, Rite now i expect her to cheat and keep cheating even if a fly pass her - she would explain why that fly went past her
not forgetting that my money is comfortable in my bank so let her cheat - its her loss not mine, if she choose to share in my future she knows what to do, if she choose to Bleep her way with corpers, soldiers or any working staff's just to get a Job in her future, that is also her loss not mine

There is a difference when something strikes you unexpectedly and when something strikes you while you expect it
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger - This case certainly has made me stronger and I have NL, my family and friends to thank for standing by me
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 11:53pm On Nov 20, 2011
^Uhmm sexkillz - Thanks for your response but i Just wanna let you know that im not exactly breaking up with her here
I am this kind of person that doesnt Judge people and always believes in a 2nd chance in everything -
I would accept her back pending her apology but this time with TERMS and conditions
(The financial aspects STANDS) - Not spending a dime not even to the least recharge card which is worth 500naira back in Nigeria
I had countless number of people even from nairaland here speak to her directly and she confessed not having anything to do with that guy
I know how disapointed they would be with me seeing this but they should understand that we are all human's (ladies are also prone to mistakes as well as guys) Its not like i have exactly been good myself just that i always admit to mistakes especially shouting and hiting her when angry

Destroying her BB as a result of that guy as well as mine also came with my temper which i have since started working on, I believe there are 2 sides to a coin and noting good comes easy, through out my 4years with her she never gave me a cause to doubt her so i would judge her on this, I believe in the God i serve and if he says Thou shall not judge, i wont Judge her on this case (Nairalanders call me a fool) If she is not mine, God would clearly find anyway to expose her - they say once beaten twice shy  but if it happens a 2nd time then u flee for good

She mite see this thread again any time soon and knows exactly what im talking about here, she can choose to apologize and still end up doing it again or she can choose not to apologize and change for good - I have since matured rite under her case during these 5years cos i have seen that life clearly doesnt end in s[i]e[/i]x alone but goes beyond that, A nairalander told me a leopard never changes its colour
But i made her understand that dating that guy has clearly been the greatest mistake of her life, My family once washed their hands off this gurl - this is a girl that cooks for my father to eat but today she has to watch her back around my family, they have since forgiven her cos i stuck through thick and thin for her and made them understand that shes still going through a phase

A fact i know is that she has insatiable thirst for money and i believe that is a strong factor that drove her out, if i had lost her today i would have also been counting my financial loss so im still going to keep back that money - she would see but wont touch or rather we both wont see @ all so she can come up with another plan, if lack of me sending money to her for that 1 year drove her out into the hands of another dude who started blocking her courses for her and she started forgetting her 5year relationship then me not giving her money again would certainly drive her out again

i now believe that what 1,2,3,4 people say cant be wrong - i trusted this girl to the extent of doubting my family - they dont know about this cos it would simply inflict more damage to her already dead reputation - she would have to work to earn her trust or i simply know that ive done my best - i can now face my life in peace  undecided
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 11:08pm On Nov 20, 2011
Jst called her and she has finally confessed goin to the dudes house and dating him for abt a month or two while he gave her blocking money to sort her courses  but she never slept there at nite (while swearing) but only went there during the day and dat she's no longer datin him. On the 31st of last month the day i left the country - She's told him that she wants to concentrate on her relationship and he hasn't called her again since then till last week when she lost an aunty and he called her to sympatize - a source there said she was so excited recieving the call from him as she was screaming my boyfriend is calling me before wishing him  sucess for his exam - she said he has never seen her unclothedness bt they av kissed and she took off her top leaving her bra's on but not her trousers - she still insisted that she has not slept wit him and she didn't feel too good when she kissed him so she stopped.

I want to thank Nairalanders for their help, you all have indeed been helpful, goldielucks,sexkills, everyone especially you 190
I feel much more relaxed now, now i see why my family seemingly seem to wash their hands off her, she has acknowledged cheating so the ball entirely lies in my court now, The trust i have for her now is completely shattered and she would slowly climb up the ladder of trust again that is if i choose to take her back, shes going for her NYSC next year and i would use that year as a great test for her, Im happy there are both of them Now and they would both be facing the NYSC test next year,
She is done with her exams now, graduated and moved all her things back to her family house (weneva shes home, thats when she seemingly seem to be reasonable) but in the midst of her friends shes a skanked green snake -  the rest lies with me now and i know Just wat to do

she expects me to dump her as she got really annonyed seeing the responses of people here especially lefulefu and ismeal asking me if i believe she used Jazz on me (that aside) she said i can  choose to follow the responses of nairalanders but whatever decision i make i should let her know (how boastful)

sexkillz sorry i cant take your advice cos not even a dime would still drop from me - TRUST has to be earned not given on a platter of gold, u wont give your money to a stranger, rite now despite after 5years i see her as a stranger, if she had asked me for that money and i didnt have to give her despite truth to be told i do, but cos i wanted to test and see how she would handle issues i xpected her to get from her parents, she was all flashy through out that one year while i battled with my education here

I am so much relaxed now getting to the root of this issue and despite been a gentleman i am, i still want to send that dude  down to cemetary for crossing my line or i could choose not to depends on my mood -
Thank you nairalanders you all have been there for me and i would keep y'all updated on things from time to time

as for the girl in question - She would definitely see this again, I still hold on to my earlier stand of not giving her a dime so if she can move on to the next spot or the same guy, thats issue for another day, i do not regret holding back my money and there by making her go out there - if she really loved me she would never had gone out there to meet another dude - funny she claims she loves me 100% thats why she agreed with her family for the introduction which i would definately suspend and if asked why i would make her family understand that she hasnt been faithful to the relationship so im watching her -

@phlame
yes she a final year student In edostate

RomanceRe: An Open Letter To The Nice Guy Who Got Heart-broke. . . by downcasted: 12:17am On Nov 20, 2011
Thank you OP

Thank you -

She's at the moment saying the dude would call me and confirm there;s nothing between them

That girl has disspointed me, i would never trust a woman ever again

Even if things work back up- she would have to work hard to get me trust her again

after 5years cheating should be the least of her priorities - I thought by now she would be concerned bout marriage

I just dont know why her eyes are too wide - she isnt ready to calm down and think cos shes 22 she got age on her side so she can

gamble away, i got talking to a friend of mine here in cyprus who married her husband (Both Nigerians) she married her husband at 21 and

has been here for her past 5years - I Just dont know why my girl choose to take the path of destruction

I wish i could even put the dude's pic up here but i wont, im too gentle for all that -

Thanks for your encouragement - God would lead me out cos he got me into this 5years ago and he knows best
RomanceRe: Help - Shes Killing Me by downcasted(op): 12:20pm On Nov 19, 2011
now this is depressing

was it wrong i ever loved this girl?

i never should have committed myself into this

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