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Dpsychologist:
This argument keeps trending because people keep missing the point.

Some say men are afraid of successful women.
Others say that’s rubbish and an excuse.

The truth sits uncomfortably in the middle, and that’s why nobody wants to stay there.

Let’s clear one thing first and like the tweet in the image below says: Modern men are not strangers to capable women. We were raised by working mothers, taught by female teachers, managed by female bosses, and went to school with ambitious girls. Female success is not a shock. It is normal life.

So no, success alone is not what scares most men.

But let’s not lie to ourselves either. Some men are intimidated by successful women. Not all men and not most men. But enough to make the conversation valid. If men can feel threatened by another man’s success, why should a woman’s success be magically different? Ego has no gender.

Now here is the part both sides tend to avoid talking about much.

What many men react to is not success, but what sometimes follows it. A change in attitude. Respect quietly leaving the room. Confidence crossing the line into contempt. Independence being used as an excuse to avoid accountability.

At the same time, number of women are actually exhausted. Tired of shrinking themselves. Tired of being told to be less loud, less confident, less visible. Tired of their confidence being labelled arrogance simply because it comes from a woman.

Both experiences are real.

The problem starts when people turn personal experiences into universal laws.
“All men are intimidated” is false.
“No man is intimidated” is also false.

The real issue is insecurity, poor emotional maturity, and lack of balance.

A secure man is not threatened by a woman’s growth. He is inspired by it.
A grounded woman does not use success as a weapon. She carries it with grace.

Confidence is not arrogance.
Independence is not disrespect.
Success is not superiority.

Marriage is not boxing. It is not power play. It is not a battle for who earns more or talks louder. It is partnership.

Ideal 'Equality' is not about using history as leverage. It is about shared standards today. Empowerment is not exemption from accountability. It is responsibility with power.

If your success makes someone uncomfortable, it might be their insecurity.
If your success turns you into someone difficult to live with, it might be your character.

Both things can be true at the same time.

Until we learn to talk about this honestly, without shouting “men” or “women” like war slogans, this debate will keep recycling itself.

Now, who is ready for that uncomfortable honesty?

Question is are women scared of successful men? No they are not.
So why should men be if the table is turned?

ruggedtimi:
Epstein’s case has been lingering for more than a decade. For many Americans, the major focus has been on Donald Trump’s relationship and possible involvement with Epstein. My view is that Epstein had world leaders and some of the richest men at his beck and call, organizing parties designed to indulge their fantasies and make them feel untouchable.
Allegations that he was a Mossad agent have been circulating recently, and rumors persist that he is still alive fueled by accounts from the prison warden on duty the day he allegedly committed suicide. To me, the Epstein files represent one of the biggest worldwide scandals since watergate, Wiki leaks and Panama Papers.
The man was a predator, a manipulator and truly a devil’s Boy.
With his global connections, I still wonder how he was ever allowed to be arrested.

There is also allegations that he is a double or triple agent by the Russians, Mossad and the Americans.
The issue is that no one knew for sure where his alliance held. He has Putin on speeddail amongst other people. I so hope we get to know the whole truth.
But I fear that will never happen.
Whichever way, what's important is that the victims get justice

Omooba77:
Nlfpmod, Atiku spot on on this, the money wasted can build at least 3 dangote refinery.......

How much did dangote spend to build his refinery?
He spent more than 1.5 billion

MockingBird:
I'm a Nigerian and I currently live in one of the coldest provinces in Canada with no plans to return back to Nigeria any time soon as it is clear that Nigeria has become over 10 times worse since I left Nigeria about 4 years ago.

The current average life expectancy of Canadians is 83 years versus 55 years for Nigerians. The question that begs for answer therefore is that what are the factors that are responsible for this great difference in average life expectancy.

I may not be able to point to all, but from my close observation having lived in both countries, I have noticed that one major reason for this is DIET.

First thing I noticed is that Canadians have access to lots of fruits and vegetables and these are not just for a select few but they are available and affordable to everybody in the society. It might shock us as Nigerians to know that even though banana doesn't grow in Canada, Canadians eat way more Banana that Nigerians do. Banana (whether organic or GMO) is available to Canadians every single day of the year. Same with Plantains.

As a matter of fact, I learnt how to bake Banana bread because often times, you may have over ripe bananas at home which may not be edible but could be only be used for one thing - Banana bread. So without learning how to bake banana bread, you will have lots of banana getting rotten and thrown away at home.

On the flip side, as one who stayed in Abuja, Nigeria and driving through Berger I remember buying Banana from women and girls hulking banana around the Utako market. Back then it was usually for around N1,000 to N1,500 for a decent bunch. I don't know how much they may be now with the worsened state of the economy. In Canada, you can buy one or two fingers of banana if that is your wish. In Nigeria, you dare not as you will immediately be cursed by the sellers. There are far far more fruits and vegetables that Canadians eat that Nigerians would have no access to.

The second reason I think Canadians have better health compared to Nigerians is because of their access to proteins compared to Nigerians. By proteins, I mean eggs, milks, chicken, meat and fish. Their milk here is majorly a sugarless liquid in 1 to 4 liters compared to the sweetened powdered and tin milk we have in Nigeria. The average Canadian drinks milk like water compared to a Nigerian and you can be sure of the nutrients in the milk as their dairy industry is heavily protected and regulated with price ceilings specified by the government.

My summary therefore is that nutritious food availability is one of the major reasons why a resident of one country may live longer compared to a resident of another country. What do you think. Let me hear your thoughts.

Your assessment of the situation is flawed.
There are lots of reasons why Canadian life expectancy might seem more than that for Nigerian and I will list a few without bordering to explain them.
1) Data deficiency
2) Social unrest/ Riots
3) Insecurity
4) Extrajudicial killings
5) Malnutrition / Diary
6) Migration
7) Social structure
Economy
9) Purchasing power/ Social class/ poverty
10) Government policies

There are lots more reasons but these are the few that came to mind in the short time.
You can all add your own

princeade86:
By now, we shouldn't be celebrating roads or light. We should be dealing with technology and innovation by now

Well said , we really have a problem in naija

naptu2:
https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c3edwx37pd9o?

Photos) President Donald Trump's comments on Thursday about Nato soldiers fighting in Afghanistan angered many veterans and politicians

That's trying to walk back your vomit.
You can't walk back what was already said just like you can't cancel history. It's stuck in time...
NATO soldiers heard you right and they wouldn't forget. Only thing remaining is to make sure his sorry ass is removed, he has caused enough destruction.

nlfpmod:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7f5xpn0uc-4

Tonto Dikeh tearfully shares testiimony in Church of how she reconciled with her ex-husband, Olakunle Churchill, and allowed him into their son’s life.

Olakunke Churchill Reacts:



https://www.instagram.com/p/DT7WCuRDJmc/?igsh=MTRiaGszN3F1ZjMxcw==


Recall that Tonto Dikeh called Churchill A One-Minute Man during their bitter divorce in 2019. Thank God that they've settled.

Actually we don't care

Marvieduke:
In a viral video on facebook where a man got stuck on a married woman in a hotel, in the video circulating online it was visible where people were seen carry the couple together into the back of an ambulance bus. Below is the link to the video that is circulated online





https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1BkewuwT9V/

Fake video

omoredia:
How would u know? U that dont have good roads let alone good schools

Don't insult Nigeria to make a point. They have their issues albeit chronic ones.
But anyone that has been out of Nigeria know the difference.
Go and see for yourself, there is video evidence everywhere

Wallade:
Verify information so that you can balance the news. The NATO Secretary General Mark Rutte was asked to verify what Donald Trump said and Mark Rutte clearly stated that Donald Trump and himself didn't discusss Greenland in their conversation. There was no agreement on Greenland.

Donald Trump is an unrepentant and pathological liar, he is deceptive and perverted. He just lied again!

Exactly, that is why I don't understand people that say they love him. I fail to understand it

Jayjayconcept:
There is No NATO without USA,

If not Putin will white wash Europe.

Love him or hate him, The world needs Trump from all those presidents who has no regards to it celitizen ,

Trump is not your regular kind of politician,He is a business man and do the talk.

The world doesn't need that type of politician , that lies, doesn't say the truth, causes chaos then turn around and say he solve the chaos he caused.
The world doesn't need people that manufacture lies. Spare us the Bs

omoredia:
Agreement is agreement. Power determines how it will go. Oga Trump carry go

The power in this thing was not Trump.
He walked out of that meeting deflated and destroyed.
He would have raved and screamed and posted on social media had he gotten his way and you know that. That he didn't do it shows they destroyed him.
But EU and NATO won't embarrass him cos they would allow him save face

Capernum:
I love trump... He knows exactly how to back out when opposition is overwhelming. The man at some point appreciated the leadership of Iran for not executing her citizens. Trump is just a bully, he's not insane.

He is an insane incompetent Charlatan.

WorkTheTalk:
https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2026-01-19/why-does-trump-want-greenland-could-he-really-take-over-the-danish-territory

Trump can't have Greenland, simple.
No negotiations, nothing.
Am glad the EU general secretary made that clear to him.
Lol, we all saw a defeated Trump come out of that meeting with his tail between his legs.

Nwaikpe:
Trump go for it.

You are the Cyrus of our time.

You are joking right? Cyrus or our times? Really?
That conman, brigand, scoundrel!
OMG!

joachimnkenchor:
If it's for peace to reign
He can have it

Definitely not. The people of Greenland have said "N.O" NO and we are behind them.
You don't give way to a bully, he would come back for more.

WorkTheTalk:
The move by Trump to take over Greenland is more or less a move against Russia and China. Trump would do anything within his means to stop Russia's and China's influence and interests, globally. He even removed the president of a country (Venezuela) to have indirect control against Russia and China.

Then you don't understand Trump's way of thinking or that of the republicans

BlackViper:
Dr. Baridueh Badon writes:




Source

The other issue is to see if it's possible to get tax exemption if you already pay tax in another country.

CyynthiaKiss:
https://saharareporters.com/2026/01/13/yobe-state-hisbah-bans-males-females-sitting-together-public-transport

That's Nigeria for you, 1 step forward 2 steps backwards

lamentor78:
Point of correction Trump is not a coward

He actually is and time will prove it.
You will see he will cry.
If Buhari could cry who is trump

BUSHYANUS:
There was this married woman who used to call me very often. I wanted to test her if she was getting attached to me so I always said I had to tell her something. Anytime we spoke I would postpone this supposed message and she always asked me about it.One day, she asked me to get an item from her husband for her — when I delivered the item, she took me in her car and asked me about the message I had for her. I asked her to visit me in my house but she declined it and asked me to tell her what I had to tell her there and then.Then all of a sudden, she laughed out loud and asked "why do you love me? I will be hurt if you love me because you are my friend." I smiled and asked why she thought that. She was angry and said what message was it that I was still not able to tell her. I smiled and insisted I could not deliver the message there. She got angry but I asked her to call me anytime she was ready to visit me. For three months she never called me and I didn't call her. She called me on December 12, 2025 and I didn't answer. Today, she sent me a message " hi, if you will not look for me I will. Happy new year. Hope you're doing well?" I havent replied yet.

Did I do anything wrong?Why is she calling me after this long?Was she interested in me?How do I react now?
Should I reply her message? Why? What should I say?

NB: I am not interested in her

Na play play butterfly dey enter forest!!

etokhana:
https://www.arise.tv/former-agf-aondoakaa-calls-for-us-airstrikes-to-flush-out-terrorists-in-benue/

Let's not normalize a bad thing!

Botragelad:
This is exactly the Kamala Harris that folks figure is gonna run the whole United States. She's got her eyes wide open to the fact that Nicolás Maduro is or used to be a brutal, illegal dictator who stole his way into power, but she's cool with him squatting there, not lifting a finger to shut him down. Lol

Most of these liberal leaders are cowards always yapping their mouths off with blah blah, promises, etc, but when it comes to backing it up with actual moves, nada

Your real power shows up in what you do, not what you rant about.

It's sad you think so. My initial reply was going to be scathing but I tuned it down.
No one knows it all so here goes.
Dems and Kamala ain't cowards, but it has more to do with moral principles and respecting the rule of law that is the laws already set down.
These laws were all agreed by all countries and those that weren't there at the time were also made to sign their agreement before they joined. I am referring to the UN.

International law states that no other country shall have precedence over the sovereignty of another.
If you understand that then you would understand that what Trump and the republicans did was illegal and undone. Trump is a madman.

The issue now is not just that. The issue is that this action gives justification for Russian invasion of Ukraine, China's next action on Taiwan or North Korea against South Korea.

The other thing is that Trump was trying to deflect from the Epsteinloo saga that was and is still going to cripple his presidency.

This action against Venezuela is his way of trying to bring back the narrative and focus to himself without the Epstein issue.
I doubt it would work cos most people have smelt his fear and blood.

eyesoflagos:
“She Followed Me to My Hotel Room” – Pastor Adeboye Shares Healing Testimony Abroad


https://eyesoflagos.com/2026/01/05/pastor-adeboye-healing-testimony-hotel-room/

Religion is one of our biggest problems in Nigeria

FreeStuffsNG:
Trump says US ‘needs’ Greenland as Denmark PM urges president to stop threats

‘It makes absolutely no sense to talk about the U.S. needing to take over Greenland’



https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/europe/greenland-trump-denmark-venezuelan-atlantic-b2894316.html

All the people voting yes hav no idea what international law says.
For the case of Venezuela, though the move was illegal but there are several arguments to be made.
But as regards Greenland, that one is too clear. It will be seen as a provocation of war.

Putindbutt:
The deranged criminal in the white house has successfully recategorizes the US as the biggest bandits in the world. What's the difference between bandits in Zamfara stealing gold, killing and kidnapping residents and Trump stealing Venezuela's oil while kidnapping a sitting President and killings over 80 Venezuelans?.

They told you he was fighting against a drug lord and a terrorist, meanwhile the same deranged criminal in the white house recently pardoned a former Honduras President who was a convicted drug lord... See the hypocrisy! But h3adléss mob are deep neck into Trump's butt that they couldn't see.

With this Shenanigans, it has given a blank check to Putin to bomb Ukraine into smithereens, for China to evade Taiwan, For Isreal to continue the genocide in Gaza, For North Korea to send thousands of missiles into South Korea. And the US, "the self acclaimed world police" dare not say a word.

A man who came with a promise to end ALL wars in the world is about to leave the world worse than he met it. The deranged criminal knows this is his last tenure as US President, so he rather destroy as much as he could.

The deranged criminal has succeeded in attracting international terrorism financiers to Nigeria after launching his failed strikes in Sokoto state. International terrorist financiers are now heavily involved in backing these terrorists with more weapons to counter US operations in Nigeria. That's why you see increased spate in terrorist activities after US operation in Nigeria. Different international financiers are ready for the proxy war to keep selling weapons and making money.

Wailers and Bitter Obidients, una mind n0 g0 t0uch gr0und.

All all those charlatans to be talking shit. Trump is a terrorist

givedemwotowoto:
Venezuelans are celebrating the capture of Maduro but Agbadorians are crying on their behalf

Actually not true

when2:
You, what have you done for your country?

Really, that's your line? What have you done for your country?
Never allow strangers get involved in a dispute with your brother, they will only cause chaos.
Trump is not a Christian.
His action is just for political clout.

Dpsychologist:
Source by Dpsychologist

They are the stronger vessels

AnoNeeMouz:
Donald Trump is who he says he is
Just dropped bombs and left
Leaving everyone to speculate

All terrorists and their sympathisers are confused because they can't tell where the next target is.

They were expecting bombs in borno or zamfara, but Trump went to the caliphate's backyard to greet them first

The man is s scoundrel and a conman . A cheat and a thief.

dre11:
https://guardian.ng/news/what-we-know-about-the-us-air-strikes-in-nigeria/

This is just a way for Trump to try and distract from his problems and sway public opinion, nothing more

Ibtxxo:
Wetin I no go see for igbo land.
My girl mum , him husband no pay her pride price and now the ndi inchie told me I must pay her mum own before I pay my girl.
Who does that?

They are talking to themselves.
If you woman wants to stay single they can continue, marriage is not by force