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Gerrard59:
They have options to have sex, which does not equate to getting married. Their chances are low. Women esp as they get older, tend to tie sex to commitment, aka marriage.


Cultural expectations towards attraction are different. Being financially comfortable is a standard in Europe. What else does he have to offer? How does a comfortable Nigerian man compete in Switzerland?

It's a perspective issue

AnonPoet:
Man raises alarm after spotting a canal in Sangotedo, Lagos State being sand-filled by a real estate company. He further stated that the developers claimed they had approval from the Lagos State Government to carry out the sand-filling.

Man raises alarm after spotting a canal in Sangotedo, Lagos State being sand-filled by a real estate company. He further stated that the developers claimed they had approval from the Lagos State Government to carry out the sand-filling. pic.twitter.com/dXec7Hbicb

— 𝐀𝐬𝐚𝐤𝐲𝐆𝐑𝐍 (@AsakyGRN) March 31, 2026

I don't see what the news is here. That's how most of VI and Ikoyi was reclaimed.
Also I ounmihht not believe but some parts of Apapa, surulere, Ajao was under underwater before they were reclaimed.
As long as they do it the right way, what it the problem.
They are supposed to lay the water beds with large rocks, then stones before sand comes.

franchasng:
Source: https://www.cnbc.com/2026/03/31/oracle-layoffs-ai-spending.html

Yep the success of trump's administration. Next time they vote wisely. And trump is trying to steal the election again

Gerrard59:
Apologies for being pedantic, but here is my response and do have a great day too.

Hmm? I do apologise in return. I might have been a little brisk in my reply.
Then again, I still don't agree with the statement cos in my opinion it is not true. That doesn't mean that it doesn't happen but for me as regards this topic true statements are those that one can generalise to a wider population group.
That said, black sister in Europe might be lonely doesn't mean they don't have options.
And yes, a Nigerian man that is holding his own, mobile and has a nice apartment in Europe would score way more than his expectations in Europe as well as in Nigeria.
Question always is this; what does it profit him?

pook:
Cuba has everything to gain. Only corrupt politician is Cuba won't like Cuba integrating to USA. They have everything to gain. Even the Cuban Government accept it subtly but won't outright agree so has not to appear desperate.

Very myopic statement

Gerrard59:
The person you quoted emphasised marriage not causal sex. You are stating an entirely different aspect.

It seems that you are the one that didn't understand what the person I quoted was trying to say. I had to go back and reread the posters comment to be sure I didn't misunderstand.
There was no place in his write-up that he stated marriage or sex categorically but once you understand the implication of what he was saying you will see he mentioned sex rhetorically many times.
So to conclude you had no understanding of what he meant. Meaning my comment remains true and correct. Cheers!

goran3310:
My opinion? It all depends on what a woman wants and how much she is worth.
Either adapt to the new society and environment or disappear.
Beauty standards are incomparably stricter.
Everything is on a much higher level. What choice does a Black woman have in Europe? 90% of them have no chance at all to achieve a serious relationship with a quality white man.
What remains for them are Black men who cannot even help themselves, let alone form a family and be even remotely decent husbands. Black men are known for the fact that their ultimate success in life is to get some stupid white woke loser pregnant and run away because they are not capable of anything more. They simply do not have the capacity. And of course what remains for them are migrants, Muslims, who will beat and abuse them. That is all.
That is the reality and that is the truth. The 10% who have the possibility to enter a marriage with some quality white man — that is like me now going to the store and finding a suitcase with a million dollars on the street. Considering the terrible situation in Europe and the overall rise of anger among ordinary people because of migration, the situation will only get worse. That’s it.
White people make up 7% of the world’s population. If anyone is endangered, they are endangered. That makes things even more difficult. When dating, that should also be kept in mind.

That is also not true. Most white men would sleep with anything sleepable and they love exortic things here

koladata:
Ones you enter Germany with your wife , Germany will lecture your wife that she's more powerful without her husband and the more children she has the more money she get paid. Before you know it Nigerian women will chase their husband away then later come back to cry of loneliness.

Actually not true and not secluded to only Germany. Lots of things influence such an occurrence for example:
1. The dating period. Did they know themselves
2. Financial capability. Here might require elaboration.
3. Social status and social group. A goat that doesn't eat yam but follows those that do, will at one time start eating yam.
4. Exposure (matters allot).

LoneSoldier:
"Story spun from where? My friend's life is about to enter a ditch after 12 years of brotherhood and you're talking about 'stories'? This is why I stayed away from this forum for a year—too many people have lost their humanity. If this was your brother being fooled by a Counselor after 7 years of marriage, would you call it a 'story'?"

Whichever way! Truth or fiction! It deserves a reply. Probably wasn't a good idea to have told your friend but it depends on how close you guys are. It is though not the end of the world.
Have seen couple come out of it. The husband himself sent the wife to do it so different strokes for different people.

BlackViper:
🚨: BLACK MUSLIM ☪️ MAN CRIES 😭 OF RACISM FROM SUPERIOR MUSLIMS AFTER HE MARRIED AN EGYPTIAN MUSLIM WOMAN..

People online called me a monkey, said my wife was a disgrace to her family for marrying a black man. When people found out that I as a black Muslim man married an Egyptian, the racism came out. Messages I won't repeat, comments calling me names, telling her she is a disgrace, that her father should cut contact with her, that she betrayed her people by marrying someone dark-skinned. And these weren't comments from random people in the West. These were Muslims, people who post Quran verses everyday and talk about the Ummah.

But the moment they see a black man with an Arab woman, all of that disappears. But you know what? As a Muslim, you always have to think the best about your brother. I'm not angry. I assume they just don't have the right knowledge. And that's why I want to educate them. The Prophet said in his final sermon, An Arab is not superior to a non-Arab, nor is a non-Arab superior to an Arab except by taqwa.

White is not superior to black, nor is black superior to white, except by taqwa. Her father looked at my character, my deen, whether I could protect and provide for his daughter. He didn't see my skin color as an issue. Maybe they never learned this. Maybe no one ever taught them. So I'm teaching them right now. This is what Islam actually says and we need to do better.

🚨: Black Muslim ☪️ man cry 😭 of racism from superior Muslims after he married an Egyptian Muslim woman..

In Islam ☪️ all Muslims are not equal 🤦🏻 pic.twitter.com/cKWoCcO9hH

— SIZWE-BANSI (@SizweBansii) March 24, 2026

Even the post itself is racist.
There is nothing like superior Muslims or superior human being.
Also Egyptians are racist by nature.

Toolegit123:
Good day everyone.

So recently I've been thinking about marriage. Tho I'm in a relationship but the woman I've been dating doesn't really seem to have the same serious interest and intentions like me. I've talked to her severally but it seems she isn't ready to settle down yet. Imagine this is someone whom I've gone to see her people and they know me well. My own people know her too. I've equally talked to her mom since she's the one parent she has . And had also talked to her best friend about it too.

But one thing I've noticed about her is that she's over religious and seems to be too close to her pastor. The last time I talked to her about the marriage stuff,she directed me to go and talk to her pastor. Tho I was initially furious about it but I just had to man up,kill my pride and decided to pay her pastor a visit.

From the conversation I had with her pastor,it seems he's one of the major stumbling blocks. Because he was only curious about my financial status he was even asking me what was my source of livelihood,and of which I told him. Afterwards,he then asked me what was my monthly salary. Saying if I'm sure I can take care of my fiancee with that amount,or if I'm planning to have a side hustle. That he doesn't want a case where any of her spiritual daughter will go into a marriage where she'll be suffering. I told her categorically clear that I'm not a lazy man and I don't intend to put anyone's daughter into suffering in the name of marriage.

It's been over a week since I left the pastor's office, and since then,my fiancee has been behaving so cold towards me.

So I don't know whether to continue with my proposal or I should just kindly look for another lady to marry.

Immediately she referred you to her pastor the game was over cos that is a red flag.
It means that she can't make any major decisions in her life that concerns her, she has to ask her pastor first.
She might as well ask her pastor what position she should take during in the sack or if he first child should be male or female.
Move on, no man needs that headache unless she changes

Kaliningrad:
U.S Negotiating With Itself, Not Us - Iran Rejects Trump's Peace Deal Claim

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Reuters || Strait Times

Yes we saw the video of trump negotiating with himself in front of a mirror. He must have made himself believe it was Iran.

reddingtonblack:
Its greatly depends on the bond shared, for instance me nd my wives friend we are padi's they are fond of me ... I do send my friend wife money direct But the husband is fully aware real time.

If you and the guy are friends, his gurlfriend na Hi ! Hi you owe unaselvez ... It is wrong to send her money direct, you tell your friend 1st nd send him the errand to her

Relationship context matters

Yep, that too. Guy and people here are over reading the issue.

Lithiumite:
I dont know if it's just me but I feel a man has no business communicating with your friends wife out of view of the husband who is your friend.....any communication can be routed through your friend.......how can a si called friend be calking his guys wife to find out how she's doing.... wetin you dey find......I dont have any of my friends spouses contacts even the one that we do transaction together because she runs a a pos business and she provides me cash time ro time, I always have my friend in the loop........people can be very funny.

Yep that is the way to runs things but he mentioned he asked for her account details and was given by his friend. What I can't piece together is if he sent her money immediately or later, which by the way won't matter much if the reason for sending the money was in appreciation for the food

ChristCee:
Call your guy and his babe or better still, pay them a visit. Explain your feelings, why you did it, your motive and pure intentions behind it and how, now, you regret it.

If your write-up is true and it is exactly what happened, then you are just a good guy trying to appreciate the goodness showed to you. However, your good intentions could have been misconstrued. Doing a nice thing doesn't always make that thing right. However what is wrong or right can sometimes be totally subjective. Because the guy gave you her azza directly also show that he doesn't really read meanings to it, so you could be punishing yourself unnecesarily.

As you can see, talking it out is what will really solve this problem. I have this hunch that the lady is probably falling for you or developing a special affection for you. Over time, this could be the real problem. In fact, it could be that her guy was testing her by sending her account details directly to you, hoping she will inform him of whatever you do or not. By discussing with her and her babe (your guy), you will show her, that you value your friendship with her man and have nothing crazy in your heart about her.

except you are interested too.

Because of just a meal and money sent I appreciation? We Nigerians know how to take things out of context. That is just reading too many meaning in a none issue. There's no place in that writeup that suggests anything about falling for anyone

Ruth15:
Good day everyone.

So over the weekend,my boyfriend and I visited a spiritualist. Our reason was because he has been unable to get my pregnant and due to the problems he has been facing in his finances.

After incantation,the spiritualist who is a woman told him that he was the one who has got infertility problem. And the reason is due to the fact that he has a spiritual wife
And thats the reason he has been unable to get me pregnant.

She told us she would perform some sacrifices and appease the gods on his behalf. So ,my people,has anyone here faced such similar things before? Should I be worried? Because I'm a very doubtful person,I think it may just be an illusion or something.

Please mods,help me push this to the front page so that I can get advise from the other elders.

Nlfpmod obembet Dominique mynd44 Seun

Imagine this? Nigerians are the cause of their problems. You men to say that in the year 2026, people are still falling for this scam.

OlujobaSamuel:
Flash your id card and pass.
Govt functionaries, military, paramilitary and other law enforcement agencies, senior civil servants, etc

Ah ok, is that what they meant. Those people can pay just like the rest of us

pook:
Cuba has everything to gain. Only corrupt politician is Cuba won't like Cuba integrating to USA. They have everything to gain. Even the Cuban Government accept it subtly but won't outright agree so has not to appear desperate.

That is actually not true but misinformation. And you don't have proof.

TruthU87:
❌France: said no.
❌Germany: said no.
❌Japan: said no.
❌South Korea: no response.
❌Norway: said no.
❌Italy: no response.
❌United Kingdom: Said no

Meanwhile trump few months ago
Trump: I'm tariffing all of our greedy allies.
I don't know if we need NATO
I don't know if I'd honor article 5.
Canada's our 51'st State.
Greenland will be ours.

WHY WON'T ANYONE HELP ME!!! 😭

That's what happens when you don't check all scenarios before making a bug move.
He went to war on a whim with the advice of just 3 people.
His son in-law
A TV personality
An estate Investor
He didn't tell NATO , Congress and even the intelligence community didn't know about it.
Where the war was mentioned was months back in passing, just before Venezuela and he was explicitly told not to do it. They probably didn't explain why he shouldn't do it then.
I believe now he knows why.

What the west should do is quite simple.
Alienate Trump and the US. Negotiate terms with Iran as regards the strait. Let Israel and the US bask in their defeat.

donleo92:
Donald Trump knows that this is last term, and he is making all this strong chooses that no other president is willing to take

Dude has steel balls

Dude is an idiot. That is not steel balls. What he is doing is causing problems for the next generation.
Tell you what a selfish, self-centred, narcissistic, horrible person he is.
I mean, why would you put the world in turmoil because you know you are done but you are dogged in making a legacy for yourself.
Well he has definitely made his mark in history.
He is the only president that has single handedly managed to bring the US to the brink of destruction.
His story will be told in history for ages as example of what not to do.

AnonPoet:
- "Half Our Revenue Lost to 'Big Men' in Abuja"


source

Which one is VIP privileges? How does it work for the tollgate?

LoopyNigeria:

Would Your Allow Girlfriend Check Your Phone?

https://www.loopy.ng/post/would-you-allow-your-girlfriend-check-your-phone-248a1480

So what. If you have more than a few runs you code them well.
I had a lady friend that had fone numbers of the several networks. When she spends weekends with her serious relationships she only takes the fone that the guys number is added.
The other fones she leaves at home.
Her usual excuse is that oh I forgot my fone at home.

givedemwotowoto:
This is a rejoinder to: Petrol Price May Hit N1,800 In Nigeria- Refiners Warn

20% of global oil passes through the Strait of Hormuz. We get it.

But here are the facts:

1. Almost all of Nigeria's crude oil is sweet crude.

2. Dangote Refinery has the capacity to process 650,000 barrels of crude oil per day.

3. Nigeria's daily consumption of crude oil is 327,000 barrels per day (or 52 million liters per day).

4. This means Dangote Refinery can process 100% of Nigeria's daily consumption locally.

So for the defenders of fuel price increase, explain to us why there is fuel price increase at Nigeria's petrol stations.

Before you come with Canada argument, let me preempt you:
Most of Canada’s crude is heavy crude and almost half of the 16 refineries can’t refine heavy crude, so the crude oil needs to be exported to the U.S. for refining. Because it is exported abroad, global oil price will affect it: you export at a high price due to demand, you import at a higher price.

The issue of Canada exporting their crude to the US has been debunked many times. It's just not true. The US too can't process heavy crude fully and can't store it either cos of leakage, why th y are not taking Venezuelan oil to store.
Also Canada doesn't need to US to process their crude.

BlackViper:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j-Ss1arEsAc



https://www.channelstv.com/2026/03/07/israel-strikes-16-revolutionary-guards-aircraft-at-tehran-airport/

Video doesn't show the strikes

okuta007:
so the guns too need software to leave Afghanistan? Where did the Taliban find the software to use these abandoned equipment ?

The machinery not the guns. They already gave the Taliban's guns so that was not the issue

Melagros:
COMRADES, the place looks fortified, but Israel and the USA still killed him. When the time is up, there's nothing anybody else can do
No wonder his son wanted to inherit the leadership

He was not killed in his bunker but house

peacelife:
Was he killed in a bunker or his house?

He was killed in his house not his bunker

seunmsg:
How? What has Tinubu ever got to do with the Malabugate?

Findout

okuta007:
how did the hardware get there? was it manufactured there? how did the hardware taken away from Iraq leave Iraq in 2010?

Ofcos the hardware was brought there but you miss the point. If the software and technology is destroyed, the hardware which is difficult to transport would be useless. And that is exactly the point there.

Amotolongbo:
Does that change the fact that they are the most spoken languages in Nigeria?

I doubt I said anything different

TheGenius001:
This is not the right section but I believe most Nairalanders are more active on this section.


I have raised a thread like this before asking this same question. What could it mean? Is it something normal?

The latest experience:

There was an issue bothering me about someone who got missing. It weighed me down and so I decided to try my so called gift of seeing strange things to get to know where the missing person is.

Boom, I saw some symbolis (very strange) immediately dozed off (in split seconds, I ha e seen a while lot of things). I didn't really understood the symbol meaning, so I made some research on Google. Instantly I was shocked because already I can tell where the person was. Lo and behold it was true.

Pls what the heck is this thing?

The process is very simple for me. What I do is very simple. I could just focus on a person so much that everything I have in mind at that period is that person. If I proceed to doze off ( I do this intentionally to know certain about the person) I could see a whole lot about that person. The challenges the person is facing. The current situation of the person. The hope of the person and a whole lots of other things. Some of it will be understandable while others are totally not understandable. So I make further research. At the end of the day, I get shocked wonderinyhow on earth such things got to my mind.


Note that I am not really that religious kind of person. More reason I didn't post this topic in that section. Religious people tend to have a one track mind.


Please who experiences this kind of issue? Is it a normal thing for everyone or am I something that I don't know? This is really bothering me.



MODIFIED: I have been having these experiences even as a teenager.

It's normal brain waves flashing