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Kodiwithsauce:
Most of the time, you find yourself filled with thoughts of this lady in question, in your mind you act out different scenarios of how you would approach and initiate a conversation with her. The irony of the numerous plan A, B or C’s you could come up with is that a lot of times, depending on your level of confidence, you remain stuck in the planning stage. You don’t really develop the confidence required to execute your plan; you might as well just end up with a headache because of over thinking it.

For the few who have a bit of the confidence required to initiate a conversation, most of the time they get disappointed by the reaction they receive, their plan A, B or C wasn’t enough. Human beings are not easily predictable, and your so called strategy isn’t likely to consider the external factors that might influence her mood, the way she perceives your message and ultimately how she reacts. Once things don’t go as planned in this case, you’ll find it difficult to continue the conversation. You might also to be a good actor to execute your plan. Actors are trained to suppress and build up different emotions as they please. But you on the other hand, might just appear fake or too cocky as you will overdo it and this would possibly disgust her.

Rather than over think a strategy, here’s somewhere you should embrace being spontaneous as well as original. Try to avoid thinking about this girl, I know it won’t be easy, but hang out with friends, go and see a movie, distract yourself from thoughts of her and if you eventually bump into her, even if you stutter, she’ll recognize how she makes you feel, and if she happens to be a nice person, she’ll help you out. Even if it doesn’t work out for the first time, once you do it twice or thrice, you begin to notice improvement until you become a pro. Remember you’re trying to build confidence rather than trying to score.

“Workout, dress well & groom your hair”

https://sauceandsound.com/2018/06/20/how-to-overcome-your-fear-of-approaching-women/

exactly!!!

Kodiwithsauce:
The timeline of a typical relationship

Boy meets girl in school, they enter a happy 4 year relationship that's not marred by serious arguments. They have big plans for the future.

Time for NYSC comes faster than they thought it would and girl gets her dream posting - Lagos State; boyfriend on the other hand isn't as lucky and will have to endure the scorching sun in Kano for a whole year. They make promises to each other, swearing that the distance will only make the their love stronger.

On the first day in camp, they talk for several hours over the phone, it's obvious that they miss each other.

Days later, still in camp, Lagos big boy sights girl and makes advances, girl turns him down, she tells him her heart belongs to another.

Girl tells boy all about the failure of Lagos big boy, this makes boy happy and his trust for her increases greatly.

Lagos big boy shows girl how persistent a man can be, he buys her expensive gifts.

Girl's friends in camp like lagos big boy because he buys things for them too, they keep teasing girl and urging her to enjoy the money.

Girl decides to keep Lagos big boy in the zone, that zone we all dread

After the 2 weeks of misery in camp ends, they get posted to their various L.G.As. Boys comes over to Lagos and organizes a surprise marriage proposal. Girl says yes and becomes his fiancée.

Boy returns to Kano state to continue his service while girl stays back in Lagos, she doesn't tell Lagos big boy so that she can keep enjoying.

Girl's birthday comes, fiancé gets her a gown and a birthday card, Lagos big boy does what he does best, he surprises her with an iphone 8 and 100k bank transfer.

Girl tells  fiancé about Lagos big boy’s gifts, fiancé gets jealous and tells her to return them, she refuses and they argue.

They give each other "silent treatment", girl is still upset.

Girl gets closer to Lagos big boy, they hang out a lot. Lagos big boy tells girl that he really wants them to be closer.

Fiancé calls girl and tries to apologize, this time they have a big argument.

Girl goes over to Lagos big boy's place and tells him about their argument, she starts to cry, the events of the night become blurry but I can assure you, it ends with sex.

She returns to her place, gives boy a call, tells him things aren't working out and they should give each other some space.

Girl starts big romance with Lagos big boy, they go on several dates, they have numerous sleepovers and do all the things 21st century couples do.

Boy tries to get through to girl but fails, he loses his mind, money etc, his friends tell him forget girl, he finally gives up.

Girl gets suspicious, she feels Lagos big boy is cheating on her, she checks his phone and sees several chats that confirm her suspicion.

Lagos big boy gets angry that girl checked his phone, he sends girl away and stops talking to her.

Girl apologizes to Lagos big boy, he gets tired of her and keeps on ignoring her.

Girl tries to reach out to ex, unfortunately boy rushed into an engagement with another person, the love he has for her isn't as strong as that which he has for girl but he doesn't know how to call it quits.

interesting

I'm not slim, so I'm excluded.

sorextee:
I think wen I was 12 or so.. All those scary yoruba movies my mum used to make us watch those days contributed to it..

lol

Two years ago, I was working on a project with some of my course mates and we had few hours to put together a powerpoint presentation for the next day. This required we work late into the night so we agreed to meet in a friend's apartment which was off campus.

By midnight we were done with the presentation but couldn't leave as the gates were locked and there was an 11pm curfew in that part of town. Instead of going to bed so that we could wake up early the next day, we started behaving badly, gossiping about girls and all sorts.

Our host decided to add to the entertainment as he produced a half empty bottle of vodka from some discreet corner of the room. We poured, diluted, mixed, clinked paper cups and continued our merry making. Our host held up the almost empty bottle of vodka and dared any of us to finish the drink at once for 1000 naira. My friends were hesitant but I, being the champion alcoholic of the group as well as the most foolish, I snatched the bottle and amidst cheers downed the entire content liquid, heat and sting in one humbling gulp.  It burnt my throat but I got the cash. Immediately I felt the room spin and voices fading. I found a comfortable corner in the room and laid down quietly.

I was having one of those out of body experience where I could see myself standing over the toilet bowl but could feel something warm running down my thighs. I jerked back abruptly in alarm but slammed into the wall behind me as I opened my eyes, then it dawned on me. I ran my hands down my legs, the joggers I had on was wet and the rug was also wet.

Luckily the room was dimly lit from the lone bulb in the corridor. I stared at the ceiling for some minutes, different thoughts ran through my mind, I didn't want my friends to know otherwise every single argument that comes thereafter would be won with that single phrase "bed wetter". What if I decide to run for president? I could be blackmailed with this.

I scanned the room, my friends were fast  asleep, thanks to the alcohol. I tip toed to the part of the room where I had kept my bag and put my soiled trousers inside while I put on the ironed clean trousers I had brought with me for classes. I went over to where our host was sleeping and rolled him like a log of wood to my wet spot. He was a deep sleeper so it was easy. I proceeded to move another friend to the spot our host just vacated my heart stopped momentarily as he opened his eyes and mumbled some random words.

I quietly laid down on the newly vacant spot as mischievous thoughts ran through my mind until i fell asleep.

The next day, we woke up to a large map of urine under my befuddled friend who became increasingly glum as some of us made fun of him. we all started raining insults at him. It was obvious that our host had woken up early to roll our second friend to the spot where I had done my business.

He wasn't aware I knew, and of course no one knew who the real culprit was, well we continued to tease our unfortunate friend with the incident and it felt good.

I hope he forgives us when he reads this.

I can relate to 3 and 4

sauceandsound:
men could be worse most of the time

true

Rokia2:
So because of one person experience people shouldn't marry?

What sort of bullshit title is this?

exactly

this scares me like crazy, but why are women like this?

why should he?

I was going through a random playlist on my phone, washing while jamming to hits by Wizkid, Falz , Davido and Tekno to mention a few, disturbing the neighbours and singing as loud as I could then all of a sudden, ‘’Kolomental” by Faze started playing.

The first line, “Ogbono enter plate” (actually “Omo na mental case”) caught me by suprise. I dropped the clothes I was washing, folded my arms and listened silently to the track, paying full attention. Sincerely I was confused.

Like, how did we even jam to this? Trust me, the song is dope. But cool is the new stuff in Nigerian music! Swag and all that!!. If it’s not money or girls or designers, i don’t know what it is.



So, i understand why i didn’t start jumping on my toes and making funny faces immediately i heard “ogbono enter plate(omo na mental case)







Because this generation is about cool. Checkout the artistes we have, Davido, Wizkid, it’s all about the sauce now.




for the kids who don’t know who Daddy Shokey is

While the older generation is about crazy, they had people like Daddy Shokey for example and the way older ones were all about proverbs and riddles, trust me they were the ones with real music.











You see that Nigerian music culture is truly dynamic. I’m still wondering what the next set of guys will be singing about with their Vic O etc.

https://www.sauceandsound.com/2017/08/05/mehn-nigerian-music-really-evolved/

something I want you to know is that you can be able to get any girl you want irrespective and her age or social class. all you have to do is to understand the kind of person she is and be able to play your game well.

during my first degree, I met this fresh banker woman who had a rich way older boyfriend. I immediately understood that what she needed wasn't money but emotional satisfaction that her guy couldn't give her.
I was broke but I played game very well, started joking with her and all that. calling her in the middle of the night when she was feeling lonely and her boyfriend was travelling the world on business trips.

she spent money on me and we did all sorts of things. she was considering dumping her boyfriend for me. but I knew that I didn't really want her. had to stop what I was doing. I'm guessing she is married now.

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osuofia2:
good day fellow Nlanders, your advice is needed ,but for those who only know how to insult without suggesting reasonable solution. I ready for una cos I don't care.
My story.
there is this girl I was introduced to by a family friend, we startd as friend but along the line the emotions startd building, the love was strong, so i felt, and I came to conclusion that she is the one. before now we are like are like 5&6 but off recent she seems to be changing from the her I used to know ever since I confided in her that my place of work is currently experiencing some challenges, as my office is not operational now due to some reasons, ever since I told her she has really been acting cold, communication btwen us is unlike before,
matured fellows kindly advice me as I have planned to speak sense into her but I don't know if that's the best decision.

so, what you are experiencing now is the girl no longer feeling you or the relationship anymore and she's contemplating breaking up with you. Due to maybe she sees you as a loser or something worse. Trust me trying to impress her or asking her what the problem is isn't going to work rather it will make the situation worse. What you should do is ask yourself if you really love her or if you love yourself more
If you love her that much, this is going to be difficult, ignore the whole act she's putting up, act normal, reduce the calls and visits and try to improve yourself. Make her see you improving yourself also and ensure you have results. This may or may not work but it's better that chasing her around.
But if you love yourself more, break up with her. Because she's likely going to break up with you anyway.
Well it's your decision to make, just the advice I'll give to anyone in the same situation.

Oludrex:
Op... u got angry just cos u saw a girl u dont even know u like with another nigga.

thats one hell of dumb quote

its crazy I know

First time in 3 years to feel this way, I've been in several relationships but all was physical. But now I just got angry because I saw a girl I didn't even know I liked with another guy. The feeling is beautiful but I don't want to get carried away. Should I focus or just enjoy this feeling?

lytech1:
Probly you are still where they left you.

im thinking that too

I'm still on this case and I think I'm going to be straightforward abt it. Two of my exes, we broke up 1yr and 3yrs ago respectively. More like they were the ones to break up with me. But we've been thru that whole breakup process and I'm cool with them. The problem now is that whenever we seem to be in the same place, they start acting in an awkward manner or seem to pretend like they don't See Me. While I'm cool with them and don't seem to be interested in long talks, at least a hi don't hurt nobody.they do this mostly when they r with other guys. So I'm guessing is this guilt or what?

There's this behaviour a lot of girls tend to display that gets me confused all the time.
Let's take for instance you get very close to a girl , we may date, we might not. But we get really really close. Then the girl breaks up with you or ends the close relationship you have with her in the case you both aren't dating by dating someone else. Let's fast forward. Her new relationship might have ended or is still on. You've finally gotten over everything and established you are cool with her and you start greeting her keeping the talk short cos u no longer give an f.
The confusing part is that why does she still act in an awkward manner or dodge you.. Even when you don't give an f abt her and you're just trying to be nice.she is even aware that you've moved on
Is this guilt or something else.

The first step to handling an addiction is to first accept you have one in the first place. A lot of people carry on without accepting they have a problem until damage is done. A lot of people accept they have an addiction but are unable to get help in the society because they would be criticized instead. I'll Encourage you to share tales your addiction while I'll provide words that could serve as help to enable you overcome the different addictions.

Talking about the principled chick
From the head downwards her features may include
1. Mild to moderate makeup
2. She doesn't talk or laugh excessively
3. She has this air of superiority
4. proper gait
5. Decent dressing
You don't really need Sherlock Holmes ability to decipher a principles chick, the obvious just stares right at you

About your introduction, what you require is doing something that will make her remember you even if not your name. Trust me, a straighfoward introduction is not going to work 80% of the time. You could do something crazy or funny, but don't try to overdo it.
The follow up requires patience, it could be up to a year, try not to be a pest, phone calls don't work for her. Rather send a text message . Don't send too much or too needy text messages too.
Whenever she decides to reply you, market yourself as someone at her level or even above. She'll see you as being suitable enough here.

1. The principled chick

I'll like to place my steps in the following order
1. The observation
2. The introduction
3. The follow up
4. The right impression
5. The resolution

Let me start with one of my cases.
I met this chick (let's just say her name is Paula)at a function. I didn't intend to meet any girl that day , so I came unprepared. I took a lot of alcoholic drinks and got little bit intoxicated . Then I saw this chick (Paula) by a corner, I observed the way she carried herself and the way she dressed, she looked like the religious type and I immediately put her in this category. I went to meet her and asked for her name .she was probably thinking I came to say something serious, but immediately I started asking other questions, she started shifting away from me. She finally gave up running away from me and that's how I got her phone number from her (mind you, the phone number she gave me was one she didn't regularly use) I sent her a message and waited for one month for her to reply. Probably she was in a good mood when she replied or bored maybe, so I used the opportunity to give her the right impression. I cracked some jokes and told her I had to return to work. Fast forward, we started chatting more and more. She came around one day, didn't go straight to the whole sexual talk and stuff. I treated her like fellow guy . Later that night she started talks about relationship with me but I wasn't that interested.

I'll drop the analysis shortly... Feel free to ask questions

What's the dream of every wannabe player?
To find the ultimate formula to make every single girl go crazy. To find out one single way to make every girl drop her pants down for him. In reality, that's not possible, I'm not trying to say that each girl is unique, don't get me wrong girls are special. Let's look at it this way, your dream formula is like water, we have 3 different girls,

Girl number one is salt
Girl number two is sugar
Girl number three is stone

You realize these different compounds react to water different ways. Salt dissolves with ease, sugar with a little difficulty while stone won't. Here you see the different results a single approach will bring. The ultimate formula instead is understanding the type of girl you're dealing with. I've seen girls who don't appreciate the cool, quiet type of guy. I've seen girls falling for the guy who you think would b brotherzoned. It's all about understanding the type of girl you're dealing with here, stalking is allowed.
Trust me, I went through years of research trying to put girls into 5 categories. A lot of people may say I'm jobless, but I did it for the sake of science and I came out successful. Over the course of this thread I'll describe these girls and give you the tips to get them, trust me, I've tried them successfully several times. Feel free to ask questions too.