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PeterZoom:
May I drop aza boss? Fatherland hard. Thanks to you know who.

Drop

culkid:
You get consent before putting the babe picture here?

You put her family matter for here as well and even called her lazy.

This thread may find its way to her family and that will be your undoing.

You should know better.

That’s why I didn’t post any pictures and I directed people interested in verifying to go to TikTok because it is banned in India so they can’t access it in India

jamesversion:
Make I give you Buguma or Abonnema girl?

I still dey mourn my relationship, make I mourn finish

Entanglement:
take advise from men were don see tree from farrrr ahead!

Her not too pink toto too sweet to the extent you no won let her go! You go regrett ohh. Free that babe to go meet her family and prepare your heart from long text message breakups.

Dust yourself and move on! As far as you be black guy plenty girls especially Asian girls are in line craving for ya.

I no sure say I go fit look Asian girls side again 🤣💔

Entanglement:
oga ! Free that girl make she go India go solve her problem or otherwise you go regret your actions

If you love someone so much free that person and if that person return back to you! The love will be even stronger
Note: this method is not applicable to Naija women

So what I'm saying is that you should persuade that girl to go see her parents so that you will get rest of mind and let her be the one to break up with you due to her parent choice. No go do telemundo dey shout love love like native fowl 🪿 free her make she go abeg.
Her pale come die now them go dey blame you for the rest of your life.

Speaking from experience I have almost identical case with one India lady like that parent no gree ohh. She cry tired carry her two leg go break up with me! Shall I happy small come married one useless India man! He no reach 3month this girl dey beg me say she make the biggest mistake in her life and wanted to come meet me ( like runaway) me I tell her say I no dey do that kind package ohh! Make you stay with your husband since na you make that your choice to break up with me.

That woman stalk my life no be small. With long long message and suicide message. I kukuma block her and now I'm with someone far much beautiful.

As a man you have a lot of options! Na women no dey get options as them be like flowers ohh. So guy no carry this stuff for mind. Just persuade her make she go see her family and dey watch how things play out. No do like those useless simps

Exactly what I plan to do I’ve told her to go see her dad atleast after all she always wanted to go back to India until she met me, they used to beg her to stay but she refused she was asking them for money to return they refused but since she started dating me they’ve been begging her to come back.

I’ve told her she can go and her sister said she’ll send money for flight her mom also said she’ll send money for flight everybody now wants to send money.

She’ll be going back to India soon. She does not Like working and in India she doesn’t have to work her family can foot her bills easy but in Canada she has to work.

So there’s that also her eldest sister told her this “why do you want to suffer with that boy when you can get married to one rich guy in India and never need to work in your life”.

Yeah I’ll let her go. 💔
But in telemundo all these things always end differently why them they deceive us? I honestly thought we were special and our story would end in happy ever after 😳 it’s unfortunate. Thanks for your advice

jjman2322:
Not sure how old you are, but run run run AWAY

I dated an indian girl for a few years. Her dad HATED me, would stalk her and leave notes on her car when she visits me.. Don't ever ever settle/marry a girl whose family doesn't accept you. It will not work in the long run.. You guys will have problems in the future and she will go complain to her family and they will convince her to leave you.

Indians are extremely racist. You will never be accepted by people around her. My exgf was sweet, beautiful, but her uncles/aunties spent all day trying to hook her up with an indian boy even though she had a long term nigerian BF..

Also, my exgf was extremely jealous. This is fun initially but its not sustainable in a long term relationship or marriage. ASK any married person here, a jealous girlfriend will never change. She will eventually frustrate you to death. She will want to know who called, who you called, where you went, etc.. as a man you need to be relaxed and chill and not be stressed out.. I can talk to you more about this,

Im now happily married to a girl who is still from asia but her parents and family love me and she never ever gets jealous or checks what im doing.. amazing peace of mind bro.

Sir everything you typed is what I am going through now, they keep sending her rishtas (cv of Indian boys) she keeps rejecting and they keep sending.

As for the jealousy I unfollowed all female friends including our mutual friends 🤣
I stopped talking or texting them because she would get jealous to the extent that even the girls around us notice one told me
If a girl passes or says hi she will be gauging my response if I say hi back in a certain way, if I respond with more than hi problem. Also she goes through my phone at night searching texts and social media and calls and all that.
But I don’t mind for now atleast because I have nothing to hide but there has been occasions where she misinterpreted things on my phone, like on of my friends who posted pictures on WhatsApp or one social media platform I don’t remember I replied jokingly you done dey get Nyansh na you no want us to rest you done dey find attention” this is someone I don’t have any intentions to do anything with I have known this person for long and there’s no sexual attraction between us but my Indian girl knows what Nyansh is and she went beserk she was saying I’m going to cheat on her with Nigerian girls that I like Nyansh and she doesn’t have enough of it. That she is not my spec that she doesn’t even know why I’m with her.
There was one time a colleague at my previous job who is an events organizer was throwing a party and he wanted a ticketer he had none so he asked if I could do it since I had the stature I am 6ft1and relatively athletic built she knows the guy, I told her about it she called the guy asked him if she could come as well, she followed me to the party 🤣 because lots of girls were going to be there and she wanted to protect her man 😂 I honestly thought it was cute but you are right now that you mentioned it all these interactions are just replaying in my head, I also left my previous job partly because of her, there were lots of girls there and she always wanted to spend time with me. So I need a job that gave me more time at home and a job with no girls or fewer girls; one day she came to pick me up at work and she asked one of my colleagues “do you know where BD is?” The guy said no, then the girl next to him said “yes We we’re just talking some minutes ago” the talk was about a my name being printed wrongly on some material that had to be pasted but did my babe want to here that? She flipped out.
I had to beg and beg and explain to her and even try to get the girl to explain to her but she got upset that I was trying to embarrass her before the girl 😮.

Basically she’s a little insecure and very jealous, So I can honestly see how that’s going to be a problem in future.

But I HONESTLY see it like this; every woman get problem and na her own problem be these. Another thing is we have so many memories together starting over with someone else “what’s your favorite colour, how many kids do you want etc” is something I don’t want to do

But from what you have said and what others have said, I will let it be. Thank you very much for your advice.
I haven’t been in a lot of relationships so I don’t really have experience to gauge these things against, also I am someone who can endure, if enduring was a course I will get an A+ in it.

I’m also a little reserved or shy and private so these are things I can’t discuss with people I know. So thank you very much for taking time to read and reply. God bless you and God will always provide for you. 🙏

jjman2322:
Her family will actually disown her if she marries you and has those black babies. She will eventually resent you in the future. There is more to marriage than "BLIND LOVE" Trust me..

im an older man now, ive seen a lot, ive never seen a guy in a happy marriage where his wifes family dont accept him or disowned her

Thanks for your advice it means more than you can imagine, it’s not easy to find people to talk to everybody has their own problems so I appreciate, if she calls it quits I’ll just let it be.

We were doomed to end from the start, they already promised not only to disown her but also cut her off the will and infact they just told her that if she continues with the relationship she will have to pay them all the money they spent on her to bring her to Canada and all that and the money is over $40,000 she came as a student and has been here for 4 years since. But if she ends the relationship they will cancel/forgive the “debt”. The pressure is just too much.

nobody not even 1 supported us only my family were indifferent about it and we had one mutual friend who eventually after much convincing the girl said ok I’ll let you guys be. Our story long.

So basically when we started dating everyone at where we worked and friends where all like “what the heck?” Nobody even said congratulations. One girl let’s call her X promised to give me another girl if it’s an Indian you want don’t worry I’ll arrange for you, I was shocked, she tried to put me up with another younger shorter Indian girl than the girl I was with I said no I’m not interested. X is from East Africa so she said she’ll hook me up with her friends, all these things only made me want The girl I’m with even more.
They also tried the same thing with her X tried to match my girl with a black guy from Zambia and some guy from Bangladesh.

X is African and Christian, I am African and Christian
And she was trying seriously to put my girl together with a Muslim east Asian guy from Bangladesh I was like wtf? She went ahead to say and do all she can to break us up it didn’t work so at the end of the day many months later when we started living together and it was clear she couldn’t stop us, she called both of us and admitted all that she’s been doing and said we should forgive her and made us promise to continue to be together but we told her about the challenges ahead at that point her parents hadn’t been informed about us but we suspected it wasn’t going to be easy but we greatly underestimated how difficult it was going to be for many reasons
1. Both Her parents are educated
2. They lived in the city
3. Her extended family don’t live with them or close to them
3. They let their 2 older daughters get into love marriages (but with fellow Indians)


However we didn’t focus on the fact that
1. Her parents were arranged married (her mom was 12 or 14 her dad was 18 or 21

2. The place she is from still has under age arranged marriage going on and it is very commonly practiced even more than other parts of India.

3. Since both elder sisters love marriages failed and ended in divorce they weren’t going to let her the last daughter get into a love marriage more so with a non Indian who is black and non Hindu.

4. They lived in the city and were educated and let their daughters travel and get into love marriages which were good things but their extended families saw all these as minus as negatives and were already talking bad about them for these.

Currently they are promising her heaven and earth.

Sapasenator:
Those foods are delicouse, where is the Naan bread!

Here it is
Butter garlic naan and plain naan

Sapasenator:
O boy! You have to tread carefully O. My experience with a Chinese lady was so sweet. She was so hard working, loving, and even prepared food and bring to my office. she taught me how to eat delicious dumplings.

I do not like lazy ladies as the stress of chores will be too much for you. They will try very hard to stop her from marrying you if you guys are serious and if you eventually marry, every slight disagreement or conflict will be used to take her and your children away from you.

I actively avoid Indian ladies but I love their food sha I no go lie.

I’ve been to many Indian restaurants and eateries I’ve also tried almost every Indian food and snack available here.

1Sharon:
Well in other words you're saying she can't pick between you and her family?

I’ve only been with her for a year and some months, her uncles and aunts don’t like her parents because they chose to go to school and sent their daughters abroad and they feel they think they are better than them because in fact they have more money than them and their children are more well off.

Her cousins are already all married off, some were arranged married at the age of 14 and 16 so for them to leave their daughters unmarried till 24 and 26+ is already a big deal not to talk of sending them abroad unsupervised. So her parents are already looked down upon for being bougie and upper middle class.

Her dad’s health has also deteriorated and they were saying it’s because of our relationship that’s given him serious thinking and all that so he isn’t responding well to treatment and what not.

For her to be with me till this time with all that has happened and all that’s been said for an Indian is quite a big deal to us it may mean little and to white people it may mean nothing at all. But to them like I have said before they have this herd mentality they
LOVE to fit in. Standing out is taboo. So doing what everyone else is doing is the order of the day there.

Sapasenator:
That is good, culturally she does not have a say in her relationships and even after you guys are married and have kids together, she will be getting strong persuasions from her family to leave you behind. indian has a strong caste system with the black skin being at the lowest rung in society.

I once saw an Igbo guy in Canada who traveled to a rural village in India to marry a wife and brought her to Canada.

Bro I know all that even before I met her I had seen lots of documentaries about the caste system. She is from the warrior caste so her parents want to arrange her with guys from the 2 upper castes above theirs or theirs at worse. But I’m the problem to their plans.

Her parents have threatened to disown her if she continues and that’s not something she wants so I honestly feel our relationship is coming to an end

They are not individualistic at all, they have herd mentality. Person like me I don’t send what anyone is saying but she will be crying and I can’t stand it. I’m just tired.

But come how did that your guy run that package 🤣 traveled to India to marry wife and return to Canada that’s crazy what part of India is the girl from do you know? And is she S.C (caste).

1Sharon:
Then she should be able to stand up to her family, if she truly wants you.

Her family is all she’s got asides me, for an Indian she’s from a comparatively small family and they have no sons so…. They are almost like Naija in those aspects you know what that means for a family with only girls

They do all that “I born before you”, “my children sabi book pass your children”, “I born boy, you no born”, “my children married high caste yours didn’t” etc

Sapasenator:
O boy! You have to tread carefully O. My experience with a Chinese lady was so sweet. She was so hard working, loving, and even prepared food and bring to my office. she taught me how to eat delicious dumplings.

I do not like lazy ladies as the stress of chores will be too much for you. They will try very hard to stop her from marrying you if you guys are serious and if you eventually marry, every slight disagreement or conflict will be used to take her and your children away from you.

I actively avoid Indian ladies but I love their food sha I no go lie.

Guy she dey come work come pick me at close of work, she also brings lunch and all that. She’s genuinely nice and sweet.

Sapasenator:
I hate that close kinship.

If you want to date Asians, go for the Filipinas, Vietnamese, Hong Kong, and Taiwanese, They are traditional like Africans, hard-working, and loyal to the core. Indian ladies can be dirty as well.

I hate that kinship too honestly it’s irritating and it’s too much I have stories on that

1Sharon:
Black men and always begging for acceptance.

I am not begging for acceptance oh na she dey cry, dey fight she wants me, her parents don’t.

Person wey dey sleep next to me dey cry almost every night make I no find solution ? No be human being she be? No be human being I be? I get conscience abeg.
Even if it was an animal, my pet crying almost every night will I not try to find solution?

modify: Relationship of over 1 year in a first world free country. How can you say I am begging. lol anyway she has gone this is the later/card she left for me to open after the flight takes off.

Sapasenator:
I have lots of Indian lady friends who always complain to me about their marriages and the control of family members. This lady, her MIL asked her husband to divorce her and listened to his mum. The parents are everything in the Indian culture and they like to live together with their children.

The Asian ladies are the cleanest in the world from my experience.

Brooooooo you know a looooottttt she WORSHIPS her dad and they are using that against her SERIOUSLY.

But for house work honestly she’s lazy, she has her days when it enters her head she’ll do a lot but on a normal average day she’s lazy.
But I assumed it’s because she was raised with silver spoon. They have lots of maids at home 1 for cooking another for cleaning etc. And she’s the last born of 3 girls.

Kaczynski:
Yahoo boy don land

I’m not a yahoo boy oh abeg, I dey Canada my papa na judge my mama na Police we get small money abeg.

Sapasenator:
O boy, why do you want to date Indians na? The Kenyan guy with an Indian wife and a son for my church about 10 years ago, the parents eventually convinced her to divorce the black guy and take the child away.

They are too cultural with their families always involved in their marriages. I can never date an Indian.

I just like the babe she’s beautiful and understanding especially for financial aspect.

But like every human being she also has her down sides she gets very jealous for example but I can live with that.

Sapasenator:
I hate that close kinship.

If you want to date Asians, go for the Filipinas, Vietnamese, Hong Kong, and Taiwanese, They are traditional like Africans, hard-working, and loyal to the core. Indian ladies can be dirty as well.

You know a lot

RealityKings:
The Uttarakhand and Jammu & Kashmir tribe are the ones that are most beautiful I think and the parents aren't that difficult

The parents are difficult the father even called crying begging her to break up and using some racist “unkind words” (to put it mildly).
She is beautiful but she isn’t from Uttarakhand or Jammu and Kashmir.

I have videos and pictures on Tik Tok
@ Biobele 10 (it’s all one word no space)

santaclaws:
Difficult parents on the Indian side or the Nigerian side? Either ways, Indians are very selective when it comes to their choice of marriage partner, especially the Hindus, most likely for religious reasons. If you're dating a Christian or Muslim, it might be much easier to understand each other.

Another issue on the Indian side is colorism. A lot of people may not know but Indians (mostly old generation) could be racist and color (skin complexion) plays a role in their relationship...

Personally, I wouldn't date any Indian person that falls into the above category, except she's a Christian with enough international exposure.

They are Hindus from Maharashtra and yes they are colorist it’s extremely common in that part of the world

Abeg if you have experience let me know I need tips

I will keep adding context to this as you guys keep contributing and asking questions and discussing.

So Yh we have been together for over a year now, her sister thought we were good together and “cute” so she sent our pictures to their family group and that was the beginning of the end.

They told her to leave me, they all kept calling and crying and begging and all that, recently though the mother started coming around.

But her relationship with her mom is not the best, so her dad’s relationship with her is the best so even if her mom says yes that yes doesn’t carry half the weight as her dad because she is much closer to her dad than mom.

And her dad has been sick everyone traveled to go see him including the elder sister who shared our pictures with them. But she didn’t go because we especially me know that if she goes they’ll probably not let her come back, but the sisters have assured us that if she goes back and she won’t be forced into an arranged marriage which is what her parents have always wanted for her.

For context both her elder sisters refused to do arranged marriages and their marriages failed so they are strongly against her going through the same love marriage route as her sisters.

The pressure lately has been too much and I can feel it, she cries almost every night.
And we have arranged for her to travel back so this is going to be the ultimate test.

I do not want to break up tho I want her to do it, if the pressure is too much for her then fine I’ll understand but on my path I’ve got no issues.

This isn’t our first test by the way, the other one (first test) is story for another day. Or when I have more time on my hand to type.

Unlike Wike, Wike refused to pay salaries when he first entered.

Wano sike na mumu man
Wike go dey Abuja dey remote am

Dem go shot am for mouth him go get sense
Make MEND catch am mend am

When I see him video and pictures I been think say him add weight I no know say na bullet proof him go wear under cloth

Meanwhile, E sure me die say him no buy bulletproof vest give him boys oh
Na only am qualify to wear bulletproof
Na him own life mean something pass

Nice one

As a Niger Deltan this is a step in the right direction, hopefully more keeps coming.

Basic123:
Are you still alive

Yes I am still alive, thanks for reminding me of this I just went through my japa pictures because of you and I am smiling any how. Any way back to the topic yes I am alive.

I saw the trajectory things were going and I knew Tinubu would win so I Japa. You should look at my later posts after this post here on NL and even on Twitter the same thing.

I knew it was inevitable, I was supporting Amaechi. But after he came second by such a large margin I used my tongue to count my teeth.

With the new tax proposed, subsidy removal and much more you can tell I wasn’t wrong about what Tinubu and his like would do to us as a people, but all the same election has come and gone now I wish Tinubu and Nigeria all the best.

The highlights of his government so far is 1. The coastal road and 2. Wike building roads and flyovers in Abuja that’s all.

BondRiv:
A servant is a servant. Instead of Fubara to stick to the master who brought him into office, he is now serving a new master, an expired politician called Odili. He will always be a boy. Incompetent thing.

Who is Wike’s master? And is Wike loyal to Amaechi and Odili? So why should Fubara remain loyal to Wike? And let Wike put his hands in Rivers treasury? Your mumu never too much?

Magnus na mumu man
You were fighting Wike all these years to become governor, he didn’t support you when he could have,
Instead of teaming up with Amaechi to be strong opposition you refused. Now that Wike can no longer make you governor and there is a new governor instead of aligning with the governor you decide to run to Wike? At your old age Magnus ?!?
Maybe Magnus just like being number 3 or 4

Why is Naija like this sef

GWR is no longer what it used to be but all the SA congrats bro well done.

Gbam gbam… make e go cool off for Kirikiri or Ikoyi small. Body done too Chark am.
E sure me die say him go lose small weight. E go chop water water beans for 6 months body go tell am.