Damian457:

I know someone that did this. He was married to a Nigerian woman, after relocating to Australia she started messing up.
Baba deceived the woman with Vacation in Nigeria.
When they came, he seized her Residency Permit and Japa.
It was easier for him because there were no kids yet.
The woman is now operating a tailor shop now and she’s still not married

chinchum:
You need to be wise as a serpent and gentle as a dove. I am not a harbinger of bad news, however the marriage is technically over except God touches her heart. I analysed all you said so far on this thread. She does NOT love you. I am married and do not live in Nigeria. I understand the danger in your situation. Sadly, i have to tell you she is like an enemy within. Self defense of your career,life and residency is key NOW. Things will most likely get worse once she is financially independent.

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I'M NOT HERE TO TELL YOU THAT I AM A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS THE DEVIL. I HAVE UNFORTUNATELY JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY WOMEN TEND TO PRACTICE WHEN THEY MOVE ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I succeeded and they finally arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my Pali and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

OUR SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

RuudVanNisteroy:

This is why they start making visa requirements stricter for Nigerians and making us scapegoats. They have data on nationalities that overstay their study,work or visitor visa.
And that is how they decide which countries will be visa free and which countries citizens need stricter requirements to enter the country.

EDDYBABA01:


Thank you for this brilliant information.. and some people will be coming here to discourage young fals who want to help demselve mteww

Hadampson:


A wise man learn from the experience of others. Experience is not always the best teacher.

South Korea is a good country but not advisable to relocate to. To see menial jobs there is not easy and the only menial job that you can see is factory work. I'm sure you know how stressful factory work can be.

Asian countries are not that open to immigrants like North America and Europe, so if OP has the substantial amount of money to process any European country, let him go for it

chukxie:


Student visa is the best route. Check online for schools running post graduate programmes for international students. For bachelor's your age should be below 25 for you to secure admission.

dunk2011:


Naw I don relocate back to 9ja..time to hustle before man settle down lol..

chukxie:


Thanks, bruv. Enjoying the life in Europe? You dey Sweden abi?

chukxie:


Comrade, I dey ooo. Chengdu na nice place. Lots of greenery, hi-tech industries, spicy delicacies and pretty chics. Me, wifey and daughter dey head to Harbin (Ice City) tomorrow for the annual ice sculptures festival. Na -17 °C there!

chukxie:


How far?

kenugwu:
My brother in law Mr. Hyacinth Nwani left Nigeria in 2004 for South Korea. Since then till date, no one has heard from him.

mankan2k7:
How can u recover what was never lost?
How can d Nigeria army recovered a baga town that has never
been lost to boko harram.
I am just curious

eurozone1:

That's good bro. How long have you been living there?

adesbaba:
Pls dunk

What's tuition fee like in Sweden and can you work n support

IstandWitBuhari:


I. have a Masters degree in Engineering with a 4.58/5.0 cgpa. Please can give me tips on to apply for PhD scholarships in Sweden. Thanks

chukxie:


I know a couple of Nigerians who are married to Korean women. And guys with Chinese wives.

eurozone1:

I can attest Swedish girls are great, although I haven't had the time to visit Sweden. Which city do you stay?

IstandWitBuhari:


Bro, are they scholarships available for PhD candidates in Sweden?
if yes, how can one find them?

I have been searching google for them but no success so far, please help me.
Thanks

boja28:
some Swedish ladies I met in Copenhagen

chukxie:


Nice. Deagu fine, too. I bin get one German-American sugar mommy for that side. Great to know you've moved on to Sweden. How's life there? I'm in Hunan Province which is in the South of China.

chukxie:


Baddest! Baddest! Baddest!!! You know every every my brother from the land of Koko! I just dey visualize your exploits. Kinda nostalgic right now. I crest that place die! E bin get two twin sisters for hooker hill. One day after much grooves for that club wey dey on the top of that hill, all men don kpeff die omo na so me and one of my Benin friend land for those twins door mouth. Those twins lick man yansh oooo! Real licking I want run mad. I no go forget that experience. True talk. The best country to try yankee, Canadian, Aussie, Kiwi all western, Russian, Filipino kpekus na Korea particularly Seoul (Itaewon). I lived in Itaewon Dong, 2-Ga, Yongsan Gu. E dey near that welcome to Itaewon sign before Macdonald's. I made some pretty good money teaching English at several 'hagwon' English learning centres in Seoul. I had friends in Suwon, Ansan and Dongducheon. I miss koko I no lie. I dey China now. Which zone you dey now?