My wedding was scheduled for March this year, but everything changed after my fiancé's father passed away unexpectedly in November.
His funeral was held just three weeks later, in December. I genuinely wanted to attend, but there was one major problem: my employer had a strict policy against granting leave during the December holiday period. When I accepted the job, this condition was clearly stated. Despite explaining my situation and pleading for an exception, my request was denied.
I informed my fiancé immediately. At first, he appeared understanding. I even contributed financially to support the funeral arrangements.
Then his mother called.
She told me that if I truly wanted to become part of their family, I had to be physically present at her husband's funeral. I tried explaining my circumstances, but she ended the call before I could finish.
When I called my fiancé afterward, I expected him to stand by me. Instead, he asked:
"If it were your own father, wouldn't you find a way to attend?"
I explained that the situations were different because my employer might make an exception if it were my immediate family member.
That was when he dropped the bombshell:
"No presence. No wedding."
I thought grief was speaking. I thought time would calm him down.
I was wrong.
The wedding was officially cancelled.
My family tried everything to reconcile the situation, but his family refused every attempt. Eventually, my father advised me to accept the loss and move forward with my life.
It broke me, but I did.
Months passed.
Then, on May 20th, my ex-fiancé called me.
What he said left me speechless.
According to him, I had failed the test of being a good wife because I stopped trying to convince his family after the wedding was cancelled. He said a "real wife" would have kept begging until she was accepted.
Then he announced that he had "forgiven" me.
Not only that, he had already chosen a new wedding date in August and expected me to start preparing immediately.
As if the breakup had never happened.
As if my feelings didn't matter.
As if he alone had the authority to decide when a relationship ends—and when it resumes.
Without hesitation, I told him I was no longer interested.
His response shocked me even more.
He said:
"I'm not done. You don't have the right to be done."
I blocked his number immediately.
But that wasn't the end.
A few days later, he appeared at my father's house carrying the bride price and all the marriage items he had previously rejected.
My father told him clearly:
"My daughter has moved on. As far as this family is concerned, she is no longer available."
Still, he refused to accept it.
Since then, he and his mother have continued calling, visiting, and pressuring both me and my family despite my repeated refusal.
Now I'm beginning to wonder:
Is this really about love, or is there something deeper behind their sudden determination?
What troubles me most is the mindset that someone can cancel a wedding, disappear for months, return when it suits them, and expect another person to simply obey.
I am now considering legal action because the constant calls, visits, and refusal to respect my decision are becoming disturbing.
My question is:
If someone ends a relationship, then later decides to "forgive" you and resume the wedding without your consent, would you see that as love... or as a dangerous sense of entitlement?
What would you do if you were in my shoes?
What exactly were you guys doing whilst in the relationship...just frolicking in bed? The purpose of courtship is to know yourselves through prayers and interaction! You do not know thus man...PERIOD
Christistruth03: Christians supported Peter Obi with Christian mind
But afterwards Obi sowed Ethnic division
Just as he had sowed division between the Anambra Catholics,Anglicans and Pentecostal Christians when he was Anambra Gov
He cannot unite even a New born Calf with its Mothers Breast Milk
So the APC that were flogging Igbo voters in Lagos were preaching unity! Lagos that went on a demolition spree of Igbo property were uniting Nigerians.......you must be high sir
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In my next 10 lives....I will still vote to come back as an Igbo man.....some people do not have integrity and testicular fortitude!
Time for the zoo to be shut and closed down too! A complex built by private hands ......you want to handover to cortupt politicians.........Ojukwu warned our stubborn Igbo traders! Do not build such in Lagos.......the yoruba majority are not happy about your dominance in commerce...........o seti go!
Razzness: War is never a good thing, but the Iranians are an inspiration. For this life even if person get power pass you, stand your ground. If them slap you two times even if na once you fit slap back, just try your best.
There is no clear path for US and Israel here, unless they somehow manage to succeed in toppling the regime and installing their own puppet, like they did in Syria. The difference is that the Iranian regime is very stable, them no dey snitch and it would be difficult to completely topple. If them kill one person, another person will step in almost immediately to fill his role.
If the US somehow also manage to destroy their nuclear facilities and ballistic missiles, the Iranians will simply wait till after the war is over for them to continue, just like they did after the 12 days war.
Praise Biafra that lasted 30 months ......with onslaught from UK,USSR, and USA combined.......including Arab countries.......we try not be small
These ones are just kidnappers! Narration twisting will never help Nigeria! IPOB in my view never sanctioned this criminality! Anyway now una sabi for that country...
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helinues: Hahahaha. He hasn't seen anything. So as how he would be disgraced across Nigeria
Someone who will lie confidently without feeling any remorse, that's deliberate insulting our intelligent
Imagine saying people don't know where politics ends, from Peter Obi. Hahaha
Has he questioned his own self and his supporters with their weirdo style of opposition questioning every development news by this government but are quick to swallow bad news without no verification
DeLaRue: Mr Obi is the least impressive of the potential major presidential candidates.
He rarely says anything on the economy that comes from original thinking.
He said we should copy Argentina. We should copy Indonesia. We should copy this and that.
Now that Mr Tinubu has applied his own original policies and steadied the economy to global acclaim, Mr Obi has gone quiet on his Argentina advice.
You want to reinvent the will abi? You learn from the failures and successes of others and of course from personal experience too! Your country of charlatans is the largest shithole in the known universe...we are too poor to experiment
festacman: Bring it on my Governor. Lagos State has Atlantic City with an airport and now Anambra State under Prof. Soludo is futuristically and strategically planning massive massive industrial park with an airport.
When completed, ndi Anambra, their business associates and investors don't have to touch down at Chinua Achebe Airport but will fly straight to the Orumba to do their business with hotels, warehouses, and other critical utilities in place.
Chinua Achebe Airport will be active and viable as it will continue to serve Onitsha, Nnewi, Idemilli and FCT area with business activities therein.
Long live Anambra State.
I do not always agree with Soludo but on the proposed Ogboji mixed use park....I support him 100000%........This is a visionary and futuristic project@ as for a second airport.......2 airports in a state like Anambra is not unreasonable! Indiana a middle income state has over 130 airfields and airports! Many Indiana industrial clusters and business parks have airports within the zones
Ronus will forever regret the delay tactics Tinubu used in fighting the bandits........Tinubu should have brought in foreign military contractors to give our offensive a boost ... Whilst retooling and retraining our naija troops...........it will take a near miracle to smoke out all the fulani bandits from kwara and parts of oyo state
Itaekuson3: NORTHERN LEADERS WARN TRUMP! REJECT NIGERIA BREAK-UP, WE DON’T SUPPORT BREAK-UP, UNITY SACROSANCT
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SwighGUbeI0 Northern leaders have reacted strongly to comments linked to Donald Trump, insisting that Nigeria must not be broken and that the country’s unity is sacrosanct. But this statement has sparked serious reactions across the country, especially from Nigerians who feel the reality on ground tells a different story.
In this video, we examine the deep anger, irony, and questions surrounding Nigeria’s unity debate. From claims of religious dominance and unequal opportunities, to issues of tolerance, leadership, and national fairness, many Nigerians are asking uncomfortable questions. Is Nigeria truly working for everyone, or is unity being defended without addressing the real problems?
This discussion has ignited massive debate online and offline, touching sensitive issues around politics, religion, education, insecurity, and coexistence in Nigeria. One particular argument raised in this video may change how you see the entire unity conversation.
Watch till the end, because what comes next might surprise you.
sreamsense: That name ipob/ESN has been bastardized and associated with evils as well as terrorism worldwide. Two of their leaders are serving jail terms for attrocities committed. They should consider changing that name if they want to push another agenda. Their uniforms and flags look like that of satanic costumes, they should change all of them to push another agenda if they wish to be heard or not.
Rubbish....same IPOB that Bwalya said visits Washington DC yo lobby the c congress.........!
Ojukwu’s carbon copy must rule Lagos......he has an Igbo connection.....he will get maximum support from 7million Igbos in Lagos....unbeknownst to GAC seyi has connected with all Igbo town unions in Lagos since 2023.........all he needs to do is to CALL on us
Romance › Re: He Cancelled The Wedding Because I Missed His Father's Funeral… by Eboofa: 6:29am On Jun 08
