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Several people have wasted and abused true love, and they may regretting it today.

Yours may be that your partner was clingy.
Yours may be they apologized all the time.
Yours may be that your partner borrow large some of money to help you.
Yours may be that your partner was putting all their best for the relationship to work.
Yours may be thar your partner was too kind.

If you look at today, you may hardly find such. You may find gold diggers, or guys who want sex and then get out. You may eveb be begging for love now.

May you love go in the right direction and not to wrong people.

Try akpu and yoghurt

The best Nigerian movies?

These movies were ...

(1) Isakaba
(2) New Jerusalem/ Last men in new Jerusalem.
(3) Father and Son
(4) The Price

Being moral without salvation in Christ does not make one righteous in the sight of God, but being saved in Christ Jesus makes one righteous: with morality as part of the evidences of such a person's salvation.

Any unsaved person that is moral may have rewards, but such rewards will only be on earth and is useless in eternity. But any believer in Christ Jesus who is moral, has his morality tied to the grace of Jesus Christ, and will be rewarded on earth and in eternity with God.

An average husband of today may have to accept the past of a lady who may have given her virginity and sexual best to her boyfriends or sex partners.

Should ladies keep their virginity for their boyfriends or sex partners, while the husband who is to pay the bride price to then accept what is left?

I saw a post relating to this write-up I wrote, and that's where I got the idea.

We truly have good ladies who may have lost their virginity because they were deceived, maybe naive, maybe promised marriage etc.

God helping you, if you find a good & faithful lady whom you are truly convinced is your wife, but is not a virgin, please marry her, cherish her, protect her and do her good.

Whenever you meet someone wounded by their bad past, do not quickly provide a shoulder for them to lean on, else, if they use you to recover their pains, they may still go back to their past life.

The first thing to do is to tell that person to pray to God for recovery and depend on God, then you may assist in one or more ways: but do not be a full recovery plan of such a person.

No sex before marriage is the best. If you love someone and want to marry them, and they say no sex before marriage, support it: but tell them no sex before marriage means no sex between us and any body else.

Do not let anyone tell you no sex before marriage while they probably satisfy themselves with a sex partner or whoever.

Heaven is so real. Hell is so real.

If there is anything like "gate man" in heaven, it is eternally and extremely better than a billionaire etc that went to hell fire.

Heaven is not an easy place to enter. It demands righteousness and holiness to get in. Your good service in church cannot take you to heaven. You can only be rewarded for your good service eternally if only you enter heaven.

Jesus said "strive to enter in". He said "few there be that findeth it"

You will get to heaven. But you need to fight for your soul. It is a personal race. It is not a denominational race. Your Pastor, Rev Father, Apostle etc, cannot save you. They may only guide you. Only Jesus can take you to heaven. Fight so hard for your soul. So many people are in hell fire.

You will get to heaven in Jesus name. How will you feel when you get there ?

Which Smelly food do you eat comfortably despite it's smell

As humans, it is good to smell nicely, but situations may arise that may cause unpleasant smell. Please avoid any unpleasant smell before sex, during sex and after sex in marriage.

Unpleasant smell may affect your spouse psychologically and might make them lose interest in having sex with you for a long time.

If you notice any bad smell in you, avoid sex with your partner until you sought it out.

Do ladies truly prefer tall dark and handsome guys?

Please look at these questions.

The questions here are:
(1) Will most white ladies from France, Italy, Spain, Netherland, Germany, Sweden, USA, Ireland etc, prefer a tall dark and handsome guy to a white guy from their own country?

(2) Will most African ladies prefer a tall dark and handsome guy to a white guy from France, Spain, Italy, Netherland, Germany, Sweden, USA etc?

(3) Do ladies prefer tall dark and handsome guys only when their options are only within Africa, Asia, Arab?

You can speak to her about the issue in a mature way. You must not shout, except if need be

Have you seen any guy you know boasting that he is sleeping with married women that you know? If such is revealed and he has friends, they may abandon and reject him with disgust. Also, have you seen any married you know boasting openly that she is sleeping with men?

While it is very wrong to cheat, some married men may talk of side-chics, and some side-chics may talk about their married sugar daddies: but a guy sleeping with a married woman may be ashamed to say it, and a married woman may be so ashamed to reveal she is sleeping with someone else.

Married women are sacred.

The rate of complain in marriage is much. If you have a beautiful and successful marriage, kindly tell us how to make marriage a beautiful thing.

Does your church accomodate poor people or do poor people feel like outcasts when they come to your church?

If your church is trying to maintain a particular swagger and class that will provide no placement for the poor, then it is not following the purpose of Jesus Christ.

In the past there was a generalisation that "men are cheats", but I am not sure that statement is rampant as before. The hands of both genders are not totally clean, so no one may have total effrontery to call another a cheat.

You may have heard people talk of how long the have been together with their partners in relationship; but can people date for long without cheating even once? Like people dating for 8 years without a single cheating from anyone?

This is the main story: I watched a video and saw a lady that was interviewed, her face was probably blurred (can't really remember). But this lady said she has shared HIV. Her body was chobby and if someone met her in person, such person may even crave for raw sex with her.

I watched another video. This was in a church, and the clergy called out a lady and revealed that she was sharing HIV. Even a man that had slept with her came out, probably out of shock and fear.

Lesson: the fresh laps, fresh shape, muscular shape, healthy-looking body etc, you may be craving to have sex with, may be infected with HIV.

What if you meet a person that matches all you want in a partner, including such person being so financially rich and wealthy, and same person doesnt need much criteria, is attracted to you, but strongly wants a Virgin as part of his or her criteria for marriage? What will do?

Jennyclay:
This news just made my day

Justice served properly.

We have the law to handle issues appropriately. Do not take laws into your hands, and even if you want to give some punishment, do it wisely and hand over to the law enforcement agents.

We have some ladies that have thrown away aborted babies, and if they were caught, they were probably not punished or arrested.

Many or most of us have sinned in one way or the other. Some have aborted, killed, committed adultery, masturbated, cheated, done diabolism, stolen etc, and if we genuinely repent, God will forgive.

Do not take life!

We have single Mums that can make good wives, and no matter what the society says, there are single Mums that can make good homes.

If you look deeply, a single Mum having a child may not be the main issue of many guys, but below may be the issue many guys avoid single Mums in marriage.

(1) Fear of she cheating with her baby daddy: Do you know how painful it may be loving and supporting a single Mum only to discover she is sleeping with her baby daddy who may be so irresponsible.

(2) Fear of not being a father to her child or children: If after a man marries a single Mum and treats her child or children so well like a true father, and gets dumped in the future because he is not their biological, such may be so painful to him.

(3) Fear of divided emotions: A single Mum may be emotionally connected to both her husband and baby daddy. This might make her husband feel unsafe in the marriage; and if he expressed his concern, there may be outburst that he is just being insecure.


As a lady, never accept to get pregnant before marriage, no matter the promises given. Just avoid pre-marital sex. Again, if baby Daddies had married their baby Mamas, this issue may have subsided.

Please be cautious with any motivational speaker that may encourage you to buy the idea of being your own boss. Do not be motivated into what may drag your future.

Being your own boss is not a bad idea, but you must be destined for it before you take up such, else, when your mates are probably working in powerful companies, you may be battling with generator to meet up with your business demands.

Doing a personal job while waiting for a better employment is not same as being your own boss in this context. Being your own boss in this context means choosing to be a boss for as full career work path.

As productive as countries such as USA, Canada, France etc are, there are many or most working-class people, working as staff than bosses. Why didn't all of them become their own boss?

If you ask many people, they may say they need a peaceful marriage, but when they get a peaceful marriage and see peace for a long time, the peace may look boring to them. The husband may desire to have side chick & the wife may begin to communicate with her ex if she had any.

When you have so much peace in marriage, guard your marriage.

In the past, several ladies were been pampered and been pet, but the rate may have dropped.

As a lady, when last did a Guy genuinely pet and pampered you?

From 2022 till date, the number of times I ate Akpu may not be more than twice. Currently, I eat eba and semo only, but with time, I may see good Akpu.

Eating clean Akpu with Oha, Egusi, Vegetable soup etc, may be a good experience.

Do you eat Akpu?

If someone had a bad sexual past and has turned a new leaf, it is a good thing. Do not shame such person if they now insist on no sex before marriage. Do not say "after having lots of sex, you want to be a good person". If God has truly change a person, it is good they continue in such way.

Before you believe someone's choice of "no sex before marriage", be sure they are not still addicted to sex or still weak in resisting sexual temptations. Anyone saying "no sex before marriage" to you in dating or courtship, but still a sex addict or weak in resisting sexual temptations, may just not have sexual affair with you, but may do it much with others even while with you.

Will you say marriage is collapsing because the ladies of this era are not tolerating the "nonsense" our Mothers took? Before I continue, husbands should treat their wives excellently.

Many of our Mothers gave the best part or totality of their romantic life to our Fathers. Many gave their emotions, virginity, love etc to their husbands: and this may have made them still attached to their husbands even when their husbands misbehave. Some of our Mothers may even have no EX. It may just be only our Fathers they ever had.

For the ladies of this era, many have given the best part of their romantic, emotional, maybe sexual life etc to their boyfriend(s). Even some ladies took "nonsense" from their EX boyfriend(s) until they were probably dumped. Now, if a lady has wasted a lot in relationships, she may be exhausted and may have little to offer and tolerate in marriage. So if she rants that she cannot take any nonsense from her husband, it may be because the best part of her romantic & emotional life were given to her EX or Exes. Again, and why do you hear things like "A married lady is sleeping with her EX or a lady slept with her EX close to wedding day". It may partly be because her romantic, emotional and maybe sexual best was given to her EX.

This does not apply to all cases anyway.

If you do a sample test by bringing 50 different couples, and you interview them with separate questions to know if marriage is for enjoyment or endurance, most if them may give you the idea that marriage is more of endurance than enjoyment.

Marriage is majorly for enjoyment if both couples follow selflessly the God-ordained rule, but several people today do not do so, but are selfish, arrogant etc

Jesus is the greatest and the best.

If a lady above thirty has in mind a dream wedding that is expensive and only a very rich guy to marry, then she may not be serious.
A lady above thirty, especially not in very early thirties should work out these.

(1) Inform parents before hand that your bride price should not be expensive but affordable to anyone that wants to marry you.

(2) Make up your mind for a cheap wedding if advanced wedding doesnt come forth.

(3) Marry a comfortable person if no very rich guy is coming.
If sugar daddies have made you to look at guys who earns 500k as broke, then you may be delayed finding a partner.

(4) Hasten the wedding process if you are sure you are with your God-given partner.