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You may have heard people talk of how long the have been together with their partners in relationship; but can people date for long without cheating even once? Like people dating for 8 years without a single cheating from anyone?

This is the main story: I watched a video and saw a lady that was interviewed, her face was probably blurred (can't really remember). But this lady said she has shared HIV. Her body was chobby and if someone met her in person, such person may even crave for raw sex with her.

I watched another video. This was in a church, and the clergy called out a lady and revealed that she was sharing HIV. Even a man that had slept with her came out, probably out of shock and fear.

Lesson: the fresh laps, fresh shape, muscular shape, healthy-looking body etc, you may be craving to have sex with, may be infected with HIV.

What if you meet a person that matches all you want in a partner, including such person being so financially rich and wealthy, and same person doesnt need much criteria, is attracted to you, but strongly wants a Virgin as part of his or her criteria for marriage? What will do?

Jennyclay:
This news just made my day

Justice served properly.

We have the law to handle issues appropriately. Do not take laws into your hands, and even if you want to give some punishment, do it wisely and hand over to the law enforcement agents.

We have some ladies that have thrown away aborted babies, and if they were caught, they were probably not punished or arrested.

Many or most of us have sinned in one way or the other. Some have aborted, killed, committed adultery, masturbated, cheated, done diabolism, stolen etc, and if we genuinely repent, God will forgive.

Do not take life!

We have single Mums that can make good wives, and no matter what the society says, there are single Mums that can make good homes.

If you look deeply, a single Mum having a child may not be the main issue of many guys, but below may be the issue many guys avoid single Mums in marriage.

(1) Fear of she cheating with her baby daddy: Do you know how painful it may be loving and supporting a single Mum only to discover she is sleeping with her baby daddy who may be so irresponsible.

(2) Fear of not being a father to her child or children: If after a man marries a single Mum and treats her child or children so well like a true father, and gets dumped in the future because he is not their biological, such may be so painful to him.

(3) Fear of divided emotions: A single Mum may be emotionally connected to both her husband and baby daddy. This might make her husband feel unsafe in the marriage; and if he expressed his concern, there may be outburst that he is just being insecure.


As a lady, never accept to get pregnant before marriage, no matter the promises given. Just avoid pre-marital sex. Again, if baby Daddies had married their baby Mamas, this issue may have subsided.

Please be cautious with any motivational speaker that may encourage you to buy the idea of being your own boss. Do not be motivated into what may drag your future.

Being your own boss is not a bad idea, but you must be destined for it before you take up such, else, when your mates are probably working in powerful companies, you may be battling with generator to meet up with your business demands.

Doing a personal job while waiting for a better employment is not same as being your own boss in this context. Being your own boss in this context means choosing to be a boss for as full career work path.

As productive as countries such as USA, Canada, France etc are, there are many or most working-class people, working as staff than bosses. Why didn't all of them become their own boss?

If you ask many people, they may say they need a peaceful marriage, but when they get a peaceful marriage and see peace for a long time, the peace may look boring to them. The husband may desire to have side chick & the wife may begin to communicate with her ex if she had any.

When you have so much peace in marriage, guard your marriage.

In the past, several ladies were been pampered and been pet, but the rate may have dropped.

As a lady, when last did a Guy genuinely pet and pampered you?

From 2022 till date, the number of times I ate Akpu may not be more than twice. Currently, I eat eba and semo only, but with time, I may see good Akpu.

Eating clean Akpu with Oha, Egusi, Vegetable soup etc, may be a good experience.

Do you eat Akpu?

If someone had a bad sexual past and has turned a new leaf, it is a good thing. Do not shame such person if they now insist on no sex before marriage. Do not say "after having lots of sex, you want to be a good person". If God has truly change a person, it is good they continue in such way.

Before you believe someone's choice of "no sex before marriage", be sure they are not still addicted to sex or still weak in resisting sexual temptations. Anyone saying "no sex before marriage" to you in dating or courtship, but still a sex addict or weak in resisting sexual temptations, may just not have sexual affair with you, but may do it much with others even while with you.

Will you say marriage is collapsing because the ladies of this era are not tolerating the "nonsense" our Mothers took? Before I continue, husbands should treat their wives excellently.

Many of our Mothers gave the best part or totality of their romantic life to our Fathers. Many gave their emotions, virginity, love etc to their husbands: and this may have made them still attached to their husbands even when their husbands misbehave. Some of our Mothers may even have no EX. It may just be only our Fathers they ever had.

For the ladies of this era, many have given the best part of their romantic, emotional, maybe sexual life etc to their boyfriend(s). Even some ladies took "nonsense" from their EX boyfriend(s) until they were probably dumped. Now, if a lady has wasted a lot in relationships, she may be exhausted and may have little to offer and tolerate in marriage. So if she rants that she cannot take any nonsense from her husband, it may be because the best part of her romantic & emotional life were given to her EX or Exes. Again, and why do you hear things like "A married lady is sleeping with her EX or a lady slept with her EX close to wedding day". It may partly be because her romantic, emotional and maybe sexual best was given to her EX.

This does not apply to all cases anyway.

If you do a sample test by bringing 50 different couples, and you interview them with separate questions to know if marriage is for enjoyment or endurance, most if them may give you the idea that marriage is more of endurance than enjoyment.

Marriage is majorly for enjoyment if both couples follow selflessly the God-ordained rule, but several people today do not do so, but are selfish, arrogant etc

Jesus is the greatest and the best.

If a lady above thirty has in mind a dream wedding that is expensive and only a very rich guy to marry, then she may not be serious.
A lady above thirty, especially not in very early thirties should work out these.

(1) Inform parents before hand that your bride price should not be expensive but affordable to anyone that wants to marry you.

(2) Make up your mind for a cheap wedding if advanced wedding doesnt come forth.

(3) Marry a comfortable person if no very rich guy is coming.
If sugar daddies have made you to look at guys who earns 500k as broke, then you may be delayed finding a partner.

(4) Hasten the wedding process if you are sure you are with your God-given partner.

You can contribute yours, but Ronaldinho is the most skillful player I know in Football.

Amongst African men, are Nigerian men the most sought after for relationship and marriage in African countries and other countries?

Happy birthday to you Daddy Enoch A. Adeboye.

In the last 2000 years or more, no era may have had the highest number of persons in Chronic singlehood than this era. There is rise in the number of guys and ladies in Chronic singlehood.

Singlehood is not the same as Chronic singlehood. Chronic singlehood is when someone has exceeded much the known marriageable age for their gender.

Some Causes of Chronic Singlehood?

(1) Quest for Dream Wedding: Many guys and ladies may have married long ago if they had gone for small & non-flashy wedding. But many ladies & guys may want a dream wedding, and dream wedding may not be easily affordable.

(2) Quest for Classy or too Classy Partner: The kind of spouse some ladies & guys want, even they themselves may not be the spec of the kind of people they want.

(3) Prolonged Inclination to Wrong Partners: Some singles may have wasted their youthful days on the wrong person, and they may be so "addicted" to this wrong person that when the right person comes, they may feel such person is boring.

(4) Diabolic & Witchraft Reasons: Believe it or not, some people in Chronic singlehood are tied down by diabolic or witchcraft powers. For example, if a sugar daddy who is "enjoying" sex & company from his side chic, but wants his home intact, he may use diabolism to hold his side chic so that she won't marry and probably leave him.

(5) Curses and Repercussions from Past Life: Some guys in Chronic singlehood may be having such because of the past evil they did to some ladies; while for some ladies, it may be how badly they treated suitors in their youthful prime. Some may be curses upon them that is fostering Chronic singlehood.

(6) Internal Religious Sentiments & Tribal Sentiment:
When I talk of internal religious sentiments, I mean looking for extra alignment even after finding someone from your religion. E.g. Some people may only want to marry someone from their church, and this may affect them in finding the person they want to marry.
On tribal sentiments, getting the right spouse from your tribe is one of the best, but you have to be open-minded as you may get the right spouse from another tribe.

If many good guys are made to look important, reasonable and exceptional for being good, this may encourage them to remain good and they may end up being good husbands: but when a good guy hears "ladies love the bad guys", he may feel discouraged and may want to convert to a bad guy.

Many guys of this era may prefer to be bad guys, and many or most ladies of this era love the bad guys, and many bad guys may end up as bad husbands. Again, many bad guys to do not change to be good guys for marriage, and many good guys may have higher chances of keeping marriage.

If there is shortage of SIMPS and good guys for marriage, then there may be likelihood of more bad husbands in marriage. Many bad guys may fit many ladies for wild youthful life and not marriage.

Toolegit123:
So she can sleep with her ex but once it's getting close to her wedding day,she should stop?

Not at any time. It is a sin and it is wrong. Both Fiancé and Fiancée shouldn't do so.

Please if you have a Fiancee, talk to her about whom she visits during your wedding preparation, also caution her never to give her EX wedding card in places where they are all alone. Again, if you feel her Exes should not attend your wedding, especially if they have had sex in the past, please say your mind if it bothers you. Don't be carried away with any complain of "you are insecure etc"

I have actually written on this before, and it is about someone I know about who said of a lady that had affair with her EX when she went to give her wedding card to him. Another lady also talked of a lady who had affair with her EX when she went to give wedding card.

I watched a clergy say: either he said 70% or about 70% of firstborns are not from the husbands. This may be for Nigeria. If it is truly so, then we may be in some serious issues on generational, bloodline and lineage distortion.

If things get worse, one day knowing through DNA that all your children are yours may feel like you have won a trophy.

Only God knows every wedding Saturday, the number of ladies who slept with their EXES before that day.

If you say you are a good wife-material, a good wife-material should not sleep with her EX close to her wedding day.

To guys, it is also bad to cheat before your wedding day and in marriage.

If God has given you a faithful and God-fearing lady as your Fiancée, please treat her well and protect her.

If you dont have peace leave now.

Is Court Wedding what you would love to do?

Court wedding is not bad.

Zonefree:
Every music is worldy music.

All songs are produced in the world. No one has ever been to Heaven to record a song.

It is not compulsory to play Godly music in weddings. You can play the type they play in clubs, brothel, beer parlour. Songs that are vulgar, immoral, corrupt, sexual etc, they are not Godly: but if the rapture takes place at the moment you play them, you aint going no where; also if anyone dies playing those musics, he or she goes to hell fire.

Good educational music for kids and schools, good national anthems etc are sinful.

From the beginning and before the fall, God never told Eve to ever submit to Adam. It was after the fall of man that God cursed the woman to be under her husband. He also cursed Adam.

Genesis 3:16 "Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception: In sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee".

Do you know satan never met Adam to deceive him when Adam was alone: before Eve was created?

Do you even when Eve was created, satan still never met Adam, he had to go through Eve to deceive?

Even in the new testament, God wants husbands to love their wives and wives to submit to their husbands.

If God tells women to submit to their husbands, it may also have a spiritual implication against the devil.

Husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church.

With the rate at which several people are increasing in age and still single, they may need to reduce their taste in wedding and marriage.

Once you get the right partner, you may have to shorten the wedding/marriage process, plan for a simple and cheap wedding.

Shortening a wedding/marriage process does not mean you will bye pass what needs to be done, but what needs to be done should be done timely.

Marry quickly if possible.

ebubeson:
Many ladies are single probably because if the husband they truly desire comes, they may go to sleep with their EX etc few days to their wedding day.

Marriage is not a ground for unseriousness. Does is make sense to cry to God for a husband, and if God gives you a husband, you go to sleep with your EX few days or weeks to wedding day?

As a married man having side chic is bad, also, for a lady, having sex with your EX few days or weeks to your wedding is bad.

FINALLY, it is bad to have sex with another person when in courtship or preparing for marriage. It is also wrong to cheat in marriage.

Avoid pre-marital and extra-marital sex.

Faithfulness is good.

There should be no sex before marriage.

ebubeson:
Firstly, you will marry a good and faithful lady. A lady that will not bring in a different first born into your family, making your original first born the "second" born.

If some or several first borns are from good bye sex with EX or someone else, then the next generation will be distorted to a degree. We will have several false bloodline, false ancestry etc.

The percentage of ladies that do good bye sex before wedding day in Nigeria may or may not be more than 50%. It may be less than 50%.

Some who were probably excited about their wedding day may have been victims of their fiancee sleeping with their EX or someone else few days to wedding day, and same Fiancee probably crying tears of joy on the main wedding day.

The lady you will marry will be good and faithful.

We have ladies who are responsible and God-fearing.

SpencerForbes:
One major reason why marrying a virgin should be a top priority: Paternity certainty.

In this age of rampant paternity fraud, marrying a virgin gives you that initial peace of mind. You’ll be 100% sure that your first child is yours even before you think of DNA testing. If after the second or third child she decides to start acting up or showing her "true colors," she is free to pack her load and return to the streets where she belongs.

Yes, marrying a virgin has its own downsides, but if your priority is peace of mind and securing your lineage, then the "greater good" should be your best bet. Avoid stories that touch.

God helping you marry a Good-fearing, well-behaved, polished, neat, very beautiful, faithful virgin in this era is a good thing.

Firstly, you will marry a good and faithful lady. A lady that will not bring in a different first born into your family, making your original first born the "second" born.

If some or several first borns are from good bye sex with EX or someone else, then the next generation will be distorted to a degree. We will have several false bloodline, false ancestry etc.

The percentage of ladies that do good bye sex before wedding day in Nigeria may or may not be more than 50%. It may be less than 50%.

Some who were probably excited about their wedding day may have been victims of their fiancee sleeping with their EX or someone else few days to wedding day, and same Fiancee probably crying tears of joy on the main wedding day.

The lady you will marry will be good and faithful.