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Amongst African men, are Nigerian men the most sought after for relationship and marriage in African countries and other countries?

Happy birthday to you Daddy Enoch A. Adeboye.

In the last 2000 years or more, no era may have had the highest number of persons in Chronic singlehood than this era. There is rise in the number of guys and ladies in Chronic singlehood.

Singlehood is not the same as Chronic singlehood. Chronic singlehood is when someone has exceeded much the known marriageable age for their gender.

Some Causes of Chronic Singlehood?

(1) Quest for Dream Wedding: Many guys and ladies may have married long ago if they had gone for small & non-flashy wedding. But many ladies & guys may want a dream wedding, and dream wedding may not be easily affordable.

(2) Quest for Classy or too Classy Partner: The kind of spouse some ladies & guys want, even they themselves may not be the spec of the kind of people they want.

(3) Prolonged Inclination to Wrong Partners: Some singles may have wasted their youthful days on the wrong person, and they may be so "addicted" to this wrong person that when the right person comes, they may feel such person is boring.

(4) Diabolic & Witchraft Reasons: Believe it or not, some people in Chronic singlehood are tied down by diabolic or witchcraft powers. For example, if a sugar daddy who is "enjoying" sex & company from his side chic, but wants his home intact, he may use diabolism to hold his side chic so that she won't marry and probably leave him.

(5) Curses and Repercussions from Past Life: Some guys in Chronic singlehood may be having such because of the past evil they did to some ladies; while for some ladies, it may be how badly they treated suitors in their youthful prime. Some may be curses upon them that is fostering Chronic singlehood.

(6) Internal Religious Sentiments & Tribal Sentiment:
When I talk of internal religious sentiments, I mean looking for extra alignment even after finding someone from your religion. E.g. Some people may only want to marry someone from their church, and this may affect them in finding the person they want to marry.
On tribal sentiments, getting the right spouse from your tribe is one of the best, but you have to be open-minded as you may get the right spouse from another tribe.

If many good guys are made to look important, reasonable and exceptional for being good, this may encourage them to remain good and they may end up being good husbands: but when a good guy hears "ladies love the bad guys", he may feel discouraged and may want to convert to a bad guy.

Many guys of this era may prefer to be bad guys, and many or most ladies of this era love the bad guys, and many bad guys may end up as bad husbands. Again, many bad guys to do not change to be good guys for marriage, and many good guys may have higher chances of keeping marriage.

If there is shortage of SIMPS and good guys for marriage, then there may be likelihood of more bad husbands in marriage. Many bad guys may fit many ladies for wild youthful life and not marriage.

Toolegit123:
So she can sleep with her ex but once it's getting close to her wedding day,she should stop?

Not at any time. It is a sin and it is wrong. Both Fiancé and Fiancée shouldn't do so.

Please if you have a Fiancee, talk to her about whom she visits during your wedding preparation, also caution her never to give her EX wedding card in places where they are all alone. Again, if you feel her Exes should not attend your wedding, especially if they have had sex in the past, please say your mind if it bothers you. Don't be carried away with any complain of "you are insecure etc"

I have actually written on this before, and it is about someone I know about who said of a lady that had affair with her EX when she went to give her wedding card to him. Another lady also talked of a lady who had affair with her EX when she went to give wedding card.

I watched a clergy say: either he said 70% or about 70% of firstborns are not from the husbands. This may be for Nigeria. If it is truly so, then we may be in some serious issues on generational, bloodline and lineage distortion.

If things get worse, one day knowing through DNA that all your children are yours may feel like you have won a trophy.

Only God knows every wedding Saturday, the number of ladies who slept with their EXES before that day.

If you say you are a good wife-material, a good wife-material should not sleep with her EX close to her wedding day.

To guys, it is also bad to cheat before your wedding day and in marriage.

If God has given you a faithful and God-fearing lady as your Fiancée, please treat her well and protect her.

If you dont have peace leave now.

Is Court Wedding what you would love to do?

Court wedding is not bad.

Zonefree:
Every music is worldy music.

All songs are produced in the world. No one has ever been to Heaven to record a song.

It is not compulsory to play Godly music in weddings. You can play the type they play in clubs, brothel, beer parlour. Songs that are vulgar, immoral, corrupt, sexual etc, they are not Godly: but if the rapture takes place at the moment you play them, you aint going no where; also if anyone dies playing those musics, he or she goes to hell fire.

Good educational music for kids and schools, good national anthems etc are sinful.

From the beginning and before the fall, God never told Eve to ever submit to Adam. It was after the fall of man that God cursed the woman to be under her husband. He also cursed Adam.

Genesis 3:16 "Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception: In sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee".

Do you know satan never met Adam to deceive him when Adam was alone: before Eve was created?

Do you even when Eve was created, satan still never met Adam, he had to go through Eve to deceive?

Even in the new testament, God wants husbands to love their wives and wives to submit to their husbands.

If God tells women to submit to their husbands, it may also have a spiritual implication against the devil.

Husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church.

With the rate at which several people are increasing in age and still single, they may need to reduce their taste in wedding and marriage.

Once you get the right partner, you may have to shorten the wedding/marriage process, plan for a simple and cheap wedding.

Shortening a wedding/marriage process does not mean you will bye pass what needs to be done, but what needs to be done should be done timely.

Marry quickly if possible.

ebubeson:
Many ladies are single probably because if the husband they truly desire comes, they may go to sleep with their EX etc few days to their wedding day.

Marriage is not a ground for unseriousness. Does is make sense to cry to God for a husband, and if God gives you a husband, you go to sleep with your EX few days or weeks to wedding day?

As a married man having side chic is bad, also, for a lady, having sex with your EX few days or weeks to your wedding is bad.

FINALLY, it is bad to have sex with another person when in courtship or preparing for marriage. It is also wrong to cheat in marriage.

Avoid pre-marital and extra-marital sex.

Faithfulness is good.

There should be no sex before marriage.

ebubeson:
Firstly, you will marry a good and faithful lady. A lady that will not bring in a different first born into your family, making your original first born the "second" born.

If some or several first borns are from good bye sex with EX or someone else, then the next generation will be distorted to a degree. We will have several false bloodline, false ancestry etc.

The percentage of ladies that do good bye sex before wedding day in Nigeria may or may not be more than 50%. It may be less than 50%.

Some who were probably excited about their wedding day may have been victims of their fiancee sleeping with their EX or someone else few days to wedding day, and same Fiancee probably crying tears of joy on the main wedding day.

The lady you will marry will be good and faithful.

We have ladies who are responsible and God-fearing.

SpencerForbes:
One major reason why marrying a virgin should be a top priority: Paternity certainty.

In this age of rampant paternity fraud, marrying a virgin gives you that initial peace of mind. You’ll be 100% sure that your first child is yours even before you think of DNA testing. If after the second or third child she decides to start acting up or showing her "true colors," she is free to pack her load and return to the streets where she belongs.

Yes, marrying a virgin has its own downsides, but if your priority is peace of mind and securing your lineage, then the "greater good" should be your best bet. Avoid stories that touch.

God helping you marry a Good-fearing, well-behaved, polished, neat, very beautiful, faithful virgin in this era is a good thing.

Firstly, you will marry a good and faithful lady. A lady that will not bring in a different first born into your family, making your original first born the "second" born.

If some or several first borns are from good bye sex with EX or someone else, then the next generation will be distorted to a degree. We will have several false bloodline, false ancestry etc.

The percentage of ladies that do good bye sex before wedding day in Nigeria may or may not be more than 50%. It may be less than 50%.

Some who were probably excited about their wedding day may have been victims of their fiancee sleeping with their EX or someone else few days to wedding day, and same Fiancee probably crying tears of joy on the main wedding day.

The lady you will marry will be good and faithful.

Domestic violence is bad in all forms and it us unacceptable at all. No man or woman should do such to their spouse.

When a man begins to get irritated with his wife, begins to treat her badly, begins to carry side chics: it may be a spiritual consequence from the sex the wife had with her ex or someone else few days to wedding day..

Some ladies may destroy their marriage even before it begins.

Starting faithfulness in marriage after bringing in paternity fraud does not make sense. Being a faithful wife in marriage after sleeping with your EX or someone else few days to wedding is not a good testimony. You may have brought in another child while being faithful in marriage.

No man should abuse his wife or cheat on her no matter what.

Couples watching pornography in the name of improving sex life is a terrible thing to do because it comes with several disadvantages. What are these disadvantages?

(1) Animalistic cravings and actions: Porn can make a couple stretch their sexual life until they become sexual objects to themselves. At this point, the wife and husband may begin to try extreme sexual actions that are inhumane, possibly making the wife or husband a sex object instead of someone to be treated with value.

(2) Adultery: A couple watching porn together may develop desire for people who look like the porn actors/actresses they watched, and if the wife or husband sees someone that looks like the porn actor/actresses they watched, they may go push to sleep with such person.

(3) Addiction: A couple watching porn together in the name of improving their sex life may become addicted to pornography and masturbation. The couples may later prefer masturbation done separately than sex with each other.

(4) Divorce: A couple watching porn together may later stop valuing themselves and may end their marriage to find someone else to marry who has the outlook of a porn actor/actress they watched.

(5) So Much Lust: Pornography can increase lust in a person and may cause undue desire for sex.

Especially in this era where faithfulness is not as much as it is in the past: if you want to marry a lady, try to do pregnancy test a day to the wedding day; especially if you have not had intimacy together.

To avoid the lady feeling embarrassed with such request, you can look for an elderly or mature woman you respect, that will design a compulsory test plan on pregnancy test and other tests for you both, a day to wedding day. Let the elderly or mature woman mount very powerful but calm pressure so that it can be done. The woman should also mount pressure on you to do tests also, so that it does not look like you target confirming if there is any pregnancy or not.

Pregnancy test a day to wedding may help prevent future shocks, but if a lady cheats unprotected-sex a day to wedding, it may not be detected even if the sex will bring pregnancy later.

Especially in this era, you may need to be sure of several things you want to commit your life to.

Obapluto:
Thanks to Elon....my wife was my p.a. imagine meeting a virgin @23

Your Wife or Elon's?

We are all wonderfully made by God.

What part of Nigeria has the finest ladies?

Which tribe in Nigeria do you feel cooks best? If in your own view you feel your tribe cooks the best meal in Nigeria, you are free to decide.

If as a woman you get a man that is tall, dark, handsome, a multi-millionaire, polite, with baritone voice, neat, organized, successful in career, kind etc, and only what he wants from you is if you are a virgin; will you qualify for it?

Having Godly and good character is superior. Even if a lady is not a virgin and you see very good character in her, go for her if God leads you.

A Godly lady with very good character that is not a virgin has potentials of being a good wife.

If you are still a virgin, please keep it. Your virginity may speak for you in the future.

Kobojunkie:
High divorce rate have been the norm since the time of your forefathers. However,they hid these facts by different means including demonizing divorced women, shaming them into living as outcasts in community so all blame fell on them and never on the men who wronged and divorced them. 🥱🥱

Can you find this in google? Do the whites, professors, historians have such histories?

Marriage was created specially by God to be enjoyed. It is not a place for complains, bitterness, disobedience, evil etc, though it comes with its challenges.

Now, if you ask historians, intellectuals, professors etc, or if you go to search online, you may never see any period where there was high divorce rate like today. So for thousands of years, you may hardly find any period where there was massive divorce like of today.

High divorce rate probably started from early 2000s.

With what you see today, do you still believe in marriage? I believe in it.

Why is cow is in that outside?

Divine intervention in Jesus Name. Amen

As we keep going from one stage of life to another: lets start from secondary school to higher institution, from higher institution to working, from working into marriage, in marriage to having children etc: however your own stage of life moved. But one day, the next stage of your life must be ETERNITY. You will notice you are no longer in this world. You will see a new kind of place, and then you will be led into HEAVEN or HELL FIRE.

Many people you knew or have heard of are in this stage. They were in this world before, ETERNITY was probably odd to them, but today, they have gone beyond to HEAVEN or HELL FIRE.

Believe it or not, one day you will see yourself in another place outside this world: either by death or by rapture.

Where will you spend ETERNITY?

Confess your sins, accept Jesus today and repent from all sins. Tell Jesus Christ to forgive all your sins.

One of the first destruction of marriage may come from sex with EX or someone else few days or weeks before wedding day. It may be the hidden cause of some domestic violence, unnecessary anger, divorce, lack of care, hatred, abandonment, rejection, having side chic etc in marriage. It may lead to Paternity issues....

Many ladies are single today probably because they will sleep with their EXes or someone else few days or weeks or months to wedding day, when their dream man arrives to marry them.

If you have had lots of sex, abortions, even had hundreds of body count in the past: it is the past. You can turn a new leaf. But it is unfair to have a good fiance and to still "insult" such a fiance by sleeping with your EX few days to wedding day, while you fiance who may have spent millions in bride price & other things may not even know what has happened.

Some, many or most of these sex with EX or others few days or weeks or months to wedding day are not even done with protection. How selfish people can be in gratifying themselves without probably considering if such act could bring a child.

Finally, everything about marriage should be kept very sacred. Men should be very faithful before wedding and in marriage. Ladies too should be faithful before wedding and in marriage.

If you check your early days, you may discover you had several options of good ladies or good guys. For the guys, you may have had several good ladies flocking around you and probably wanting to settle down with you. These ladies may be kind, clingy, merciful, tolerant, available, forgiving etc. They may just be all you wanted, but you were probably so unserious to pray to God if you should pick one immediately, or too filled with lust that all you needed was sex. Today, you may be finding it so hard to even get a lady that is 50% in character of the ladies you didnt take seriously.
For the ladies, you may have seen good husband materials in your prime. These guys may be so handsome, educated, honest, kind, generous, neat, available etc, but you probably needed a bad guy who smokes, clubs etc. Now, you may be over 30 looking for husband and probably finding none.