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Domestic violence is bad in all forms and it us unacceptable at all. No man or woman should do such to their spouse.

When a man begins to get irritated with his wife, begins to treat her badly, begins to carry side chics: it may be a spiritual consequence from the sex the wife had with her ex or someone else few days to wedding day..

Some ladies may destroy their marriage even before it begins.

Starting faithfulness in marriage after bringing in paternity fraud does not make sense. Being a faithful wife in marriage after sleeping with your EX or someone else few days to wedding is not a good testimony. You may have brought in another child while being faithful in marriage.

No man should abuse his wife or cheat on her no matter what.

Couples watching pornography in the name of improving sex life is a terrible thing to do because it comes with several disadvantages. What are these disadvantages?

(1) Animalistic cravings and actions: Porn can make a couple stretch their sexual life until they become sexual objects to themselves. At this point, the wife and husband may begin to try extreme sexual actions that are inhumane, possibly making the wife or husband a sex object instead of someone to be treated with value.

(2) Adultery: A couple watching porn together may develop desire for people who look like the porn actors/actresses they watched, and if the wife or husband sees someone that looks like the porn actor/actresses they watched, they may go push to sleep with such person.

(3) Addiction: A couple watching porn together in the name of improving their sex life may become addicted to pornography and masturbation. The couples may later prefer masturbation done separately than sex with each other.

(4) Divorce: A couple watching porn together may later stop valuing themselves and may end their marriage to find someone else to marry who has the outlook of a porn actor/actress they watched.

(5) So Much Lust: Pornography can increase lust in a person and may cause undue desire for sex.

Especially in this era where faithfulness is not as much as it is in the past: if you want to marry a lady, try to do pregnancy test a day to the wedding day; especially if you have not had intimacy together.

To avoid the lady feeling embarrassed with such request, you can look for an elderly or mature woman you respect, that will design a compulsory test plan on pregnancy test and other tests for you both, a day to wedding day. Let the elderly or mature woman mount very powerful but calm pressure so that it can be done. The woman should also mount pressure on you to do tests also, so that it does not look like you target confirming if there is any pregnancy or not.

Pregnancy test a day to wedding may help prevent future shocks, but if a lady cheats unprotected-sex a day to wedding, it may not be detected even if the sex will bring pregnancy later.

Especially in this era, you may need to be sure of several things you want to commit your life to.

Obapluto:
Thanks to Elon....my wife was my p.a. imagine meeting a virgin @23

Your Wife or Elon's?

We are all wonderfully made by God.

What part of Nigeria has the finest ladies?

Which tribe in Nigeria do you feel cooks best? If in your own view you feel your tribe cooks the best meal in Nigeria, you are free to decide.

If as a woman you get a man that is tall, dark, handsome, a multi-millionaire, polite, with baritone voice, neat, organized, successful in career, kind etc, and only what he wants from you is if you are a virgin; will you qualify for it?

Having Godly and good character is superior. Even if a lady is not a virgin and you see very good character in her, go for her if God leads you.

A Godly lady with very good character that is not a virgin has potentials of being a good wife.

If you are still a virgin, please keep it. Your virginity may speak for you in the future.

Kobojunkie:
High divorce rate have been the norm since the time of your forefathers. However,they hid these facts by different means including demonizing divorced women, shaming them into living as outcasts in community so all blame fell on them and never on the men who wronged and divorced them. 🥱🥱

Can you find this in google? Do the whites, professors, historians have such histories?

Marriage was created specially by God to be enjoyed. It is not a place for complains, bitterness, disobedience, evil etc, though it comes with its challenges.

Now, if you ask historians, intellectuals, professors etc, or if you go to search online, you may never see any period where there was high divorce rate like today. So for thousands of years, you may hardly find any period where there was massive divorce like of today.

High divorce rate probably started from early 2000s.

With what you see today, do you still believe in marriage? I believe in it.

Why is cow is in that outside?

Divine intervention in Jesus Name. Amen

As we keep going from one stage of life to another: lets start from secondary school to higher institution, from higher institution to working, from working into marriage, in marriage to having children etc: however your own stage of life moved. But one day, the next stage of your life must be ETERNITY. You will notice you are no longer in this world. You will see a new kind of place, and then you will be led into HEAVEN or HELL FIRE.

Many people you knew or have heard of are in this stage. They were in this world before, ETERNITY was probably odd to them, but today, they have gone beyond to HEAVEN or HELL FIRE.

Believe it or not, one day you will see yourself in another place outside this world: either by death or by rapture.

Where will you spend ETERNITY?

Confess your sins, accept Jesus today and repent from all sins. Tell Jesus Christ to forgive all your sins.

One of the first destruction of marriage may come from sex with EX or someone else few days or weeks before wedding day. It may be the hidden cause of some domestic violence, unnecessary anger, divorce, lack of care, hatred, abandonment, rejection, having side chic etc in marriage. It may lead to Paternity issues....

Many ladies are single today probably because they will sleep with their EXes or someone else few days or weeks or months to wedding day, when their dream man arrives to marry them.

If you have had lots of sex, abortions, even had hundreds of body count in the past: it is the past. You can turn a new leaf. But it is unfair to have a good fiance and to still "insult" such a fiance by sleeping with your EX few days to wedding day, while you fiance who may have spent millions in bride price & other things may not even know what has happened.

Some, many or most of these sex with EX or others few days or weeks or months to wedding day are not even done with protection. How selfish people can be in gratifying themselves without probably considering if such act could bring a child.

Finally, everything about marriage should be kept very sacred. Men should be very faithful before wedding and in marriage. Ladies too should be faithful before wedding and in marriage.

If you check your early days, you may discover you had several options of good ladies or good guys. For the guys, you may have had several good ladies flocking around you and probably wanting to settle down with you. These ladies may be kind, clingy, merciful, tolerant, available, forgiving etc. They may just be all you wanted, but you were probably so unserious to pray to God if you should pick one immediately, or too filled with lust that all you needed was sex. Today, you may be finding it so hard to even get a lady that is 50% in character of the ladies you didnt take seriously.
For the ladies, you may have seen good husband materials in your prime. These guys may be so handsome, educated, honest, kind, generous, neat, available etc, but you probably needed a bad guy who smokes, clubs etc. Now, you may be over 30 looking for husband and probably finding none.

Normally, it is not proper to request for DNA test from your wife. Your wife should be trusted and loved, and you should have trust over the paternity of your kids, that they are yours.

But with the way the waywardness is now: Increase in adultery by some married women, some ladies sleeping with their EXEs or others few days, weeks or months to their wedding day etc, you may not have to totally blame some men going for DNA testing.

While babies may be switched after birth, the likelihood of so may be slim.

In the nearest future, if sexual waywardness multiplies more, the joy of some married men may not come from child birth, but may start after DNA testing proves that they are the real father of their kids.

Many ladies are single probably because if the husband they truly desire comes, they may go to sleep with their EX etc few days to their wedding day.

Marriage is not a ground for unseriousness. Does is make sense to cry to God for a husband, and if God gives you a husband, you go to sleep with your EX few days or weeks to wedding day?

As a married man having side chic is bad, also, for a lady, having sex with your EX few days or weeks to your wedding is bad.

FINALLY, it is bad to have sex with another person when in courtship or preparing for marriage. It is also wrong to cheat in marriage.

Avoid pre-marital and extra-marital sex.

There are various things you won't do when you get to heaven some include.

Things you wont do in heaven.

(1) Prayers
(2) Fasting
(3) Enduring persecution.
(4) Reading the Bible for spiritual growth.
(5) Evangelism.
(6) Going to church.
(7) Night vigil
( Church programs
etc.

Heaven is a place of everlasting rest, peace, joy, enjoyment and enjoying the presence of God forever.

These things: anointing, prayers, kindness, speaking tongues, feeding the poor, leading in church, singing, being friendly, being a good person, fasting, evangelism e.t.c, are good but does not take a person to heaven except the person accepts Jesus and leaves this world without any sin. Anyone who leaves this world with any sin not repented of goes to hell.

Holiness makes a person live a life without sin. Without holiness, no one can see God.

We have ladies with good character that have made done bad stuffs in the past, but they are good. Now, those that may be wanting only rich men, read this.

immortalcrown:
Explain "living in sin", since you already said the person is serving God faithfully.

Living in sin is frequently committing sin, especially deep sins e.g fornication, adultery, immoralities, rituals, visiting native doctor, occultism e.t.c

Do men of this era deserve a lady sleeping around before marriage, while they pay bride price and wedding expenses for same lady? Virginity is not old school, but if you are a good lady that is not a virgin, please keep on being good.

Keep your virginity if you are one, and if you are not a virgin, keep build good values and prepare yourself in being a good spouse.

Character is the best, but virginity is good.

Between guys and ladies, who is likely to lose virginity first.

A girl of 19 and a guy of 19, a girl of 20 and a guy of 20. Who loses is likely to lose virginity first.

This year is a fresh year. Do not do things that will Jeopardize it.

Put off appliances properly before leaving your home, business, office etc. Also pray to God for protection all the time.

Some disaster you think is done by haters, may be caused by negligence and prayerlessness.

Which of these bad habits are you willing to stop before next year.

(1) Masturbation.
(2) Fornication
(3) Lesbianism.
(4) Homosexuality.
(5) Smoking.
(6) Gambling.
(7) Sleeping with someone's wife.
( Sleeping with someone's husband.
(9) Fraud, yahoo.
(10) Bestiality.
(11) Hookup, Prostitution.
(12) Pornography.
(13) Wasteful spending.
(14) Laziness.
(15) Procrastination.
(16) Constant Men-pleasing.
(17)Too much lying.
(18) Visiting prostitutes.
(19) Cultism.
(20) Stealing.
(21) Adultery.
(22) Gossiping.
(23) Too much time spent on social media.
(24) Disrespect
(25) Being Toxic



E.t.c

This year was mixed with join and painful times but thanks to God.

Please what is your rating about this year on a scale of 0% to 100%?

This woman did wickedly. She should face the consequences.

Many people love working in church. Some may love standing in the pulpit and holding microphone. Some may love to lead others. It is good to serve God faithfully, but serving God faithfully while living in perpetual sin may cause delay, stagnation, shame, backwardness, emptiness, no glorious presence e.t.c

Having the feeling that you will dance and celebrate in heaven when you are on your way to hell is a great deception. Feeling alright in church, doing church work, being active in church, holding microphone, dancing so well, and having that joy that you will go to heaven, when your life is leading you to hell is also deception.

Do not assume you will make heaven, be sure about it through holy living. Also examine yourself whether you are in the faith.

Hebrew 12:14 "Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord "