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Make sure you prayerfully repent and clean up yourself from your past sexual issues before you marry.

May God help you in Jesus name. Amen.

No matter how some people "pretend" to be homely, good husbands, good wives etc. they are "tormented" with thoughts of past sexual escapades and may want to replicate it again even in marriage. They may complain about their spouse performance in bed, but their spouse may be normal and okay, probably suffering the consequences of their own stretched sexual life and experiences.

Now, what are the negative impacts past intense sexual experiences may cause in marriage?

(1) Sexual Satisfaction from External Thoughts: Many married people may be suffering from the issue of having sex with their spouse and at the same time imagining their past sexual partners in order to get excitement or maybe fulfilment.
I got part of this insight from someone.

(2) Tendency to Commit Adultery: A married person with past wild sexual experiences may be used to varieties and may see it as a burden having sex with only one person throughout their lives. This may lead to committing adultery if care is not taken.

(3) Introduction of Unacceptable Sex Patterns: A pervert who is used to certain perversions may "endure" for some time in marriage and may want to begin to force or introduce such perversion to their spouse.

(4) Recurring Sexual Struggles: Even couples who are genuinely serious about becoming sexually responsible in marriage may have recurring sexual struggles because of past intense sexual experiences. These may come as strong memories of "past sexual escapades, undue sexual urge, hard endurance in subduing temptations e.t.c.

(5) Inability to attain Orgasm from Moderate Sex: What may seem to be moderate and enjoyable sex, may not be sufficient for someone with past intense sexual experiences. This may lead to frustration from the unsatisfied spouse and probably depression to the spouse who has done his or best in satisfying them sexually.

(6) Tendency to Resort to Masturbation: A person with intense past sexual escapades may sort for things like intimacy gadgets to augment for what their spouse have not fulfilled. Those who do not want to go outside may see masturbation as a way of cooling off. This is also wrong.

You can be good and better if you work on yourself.

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Which of These Options Scare You Most in Modern Day Marriage?

(a) Paternity Fraud.
(b) Cheating in Marriage
(c) Disrespect
(d) Fiance or Fiancee Sleeping with EX/Someone before wedding day.
(e) Spending your hard-earned money on the wrong person.
(f) Deceit.
(g) No true love in many people.
(f) Past body counts.

We have good marriages anyway.

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So you want people who have been stark naked with their sexual partners in bed fornicating, from monday to saturday, to rush and hold microphone on sunday? So is the urge to work in church better than the urge to spend time in repenting and dealing with fornication?

How can someone be living a lifestyle of fornication and still be dedicated worker in church? This is not an issue of maybe a one-time carelessness of which someone can repent of and seek counsel from trusted leaders; but a conscious lifestyle of fornication.

Where is it clearly stated in the Bible that a Christian should not take cocaine? But is taking cocaine a righteous act?

immortalcrown:
You want to change the topic because you cannot justify your post.😂

The topic is not about whether I am a fornicator or not. The topic is that you are telling fornicators not to work in the church but God himself has not told fornicators not to work in the church.

So you want people who have been stark naked with their sexual partners in bed fornicating, from monday to saturday, to rush and hold microphone on sunday? So is the urge to work in church better than the urge to spend time in repenting and dealing with fornication?

How can someone be living a lifestyle of fornication and still be dedicated worker in church? This is not an issue of maybe a one-time carelessness of which someone can repent of and seek counsel from trusted leaders; but a conscious lifestyle of fornication.

Where is it clearly stated in the Bible that a Christian should not take cocaine? But is taking cocaine a righteous act?

immortalcrown:
Waiting for you to use any Bible verse to support your point.

If you are living in persistent fornication, be a normal church member.

You want me to pamper fornication with church workforce?

Where is it clearly stated in the Bible that you should not take cocaine? But is taking cocaine a righteousness act?

immortalcrown:
The same way God does not force anyone to serve him is the same way God does not say that certain people should not serve him. So, why are you trying to set the boundaries that God himself did not set? Are you wiser or holier than God?

Don't serve God in church with iniquity.

Someone cannot be wallowing in fornication, abortion e.t.c, and be serving God. The person should take a break and sincerely tell God to deal with the fornication & sins, then the person can become a dedicated church worker after been set free.

What is the point fornicating from monday till saturday, then rushing to church as a church worker on sunday. Is that not self-deceit?

God is very merciful to sinners and He wants them saved; but same sinner should not do rush into church workforce until been saved.

immortalcrown:
You are yet to mention the Bible verse that supports this your opinion.

Do not serve as a dedicated church worker with iniquity.

God did not force anyone to serve Him as a fornicator, sinner e.t.c. Such services is useless to God.

A church worker may fall into fornication and repent; maybe due to pressure e.t.c, but fornicating regularly while being active as a church worker is a useless service before God.

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You can do other normal things for the church like sharing of handbills, joining in any general church sanitation for members e.t.c...

To be having regular fornication and still rushing to church as a dedicated worker is self-deceit.

You can be a normal member and if you have repented and God has helped you on the issue of immorality, you can become a dedicated church worker.

A dedication church worker may fall into fornication if not watchful. But fornication shouldn't be a regular thing for a dedicated church worker.
If a dedicated church worker falls into fornication, the person can repent and seek counsel from trusted Christians. But doing fornication regularly as a dedicated church worker is bad.

immortalcrown:
Where are you getting this idea or principle from? Does the Bible stipulate how near a sinner should come to God?

A sinner is very free to come to God. God does not discriminate. But a sinner that fornicates often should leave pulpit work or as a dedicated church worker.
See, a Christian may even fall into fornication and repent. But let it be a "mistake" or an issue of not being careful. But a committed church worker regularly fornicating should leave church work. He or she may help on stuffs that are for church members in general.

How do you see it if someone fornicates 15 times in a month and still hold microphone to sing or preach or serve as a dedicated church worker?

immortalcrown:
I never said that fornication is good. But you are taking the topic out of context. God does not say that certain actions should make some people to be prohibited from working in the Church. This is why the Bible, instead of saying that certain people should not come to God or call God's name, simply says that not all who call the God's name or do miracle in God's name will enter heaven. You are going contrary to that scriptural statement when you say that it is wrong for fornicators to work in the church. Your logic is the same as the mentality of those who tried to condemn Jesus Christ for eating in the house of sinners. Are you wiser than God? Or, are you more correct than the Bible?

The church will look clean when cleaned, whether the cleaning was done by a righteous person or by a sinner. This is also why God does not withdraw his gift from a sinner. If you have the gift of healing, that gift will continue to be active in you even if you start fornicating. But that gift will not give your soul salvation when you are fornicating. So, fornication cannot stop the gift from working but can stop your salvation. This applies to every form of sin, not only fornication.

Living in sin can prevent salvation of the soul but does not prevent the sinner from working in the church.

Righteousness is about salvation of the soul. The Bible does not say anywhere that a sinner should not be allowed to work in the church. So, what exactly is your point?

A sinner may work in the church casually when general announcement is made for church members, such as coming to do general church sanitation, assisting with general physical labours for members; but to be a dedicated worker, climbing the pulpit as a dedicated worker, being in the choir as a dedicated worker, ushering as a dedicated worker, teaching and preaching as a dedicated worker, being in church department as a dedicated worker; yet living consistently as a fornicator is not good.

immortalcrown:
1.
"Fornicating" and "serving God faithfully" cannot be in one sentence unless you are not talking about the same person.

2.
Struggling with sin does not mean one should withdraw from serving God. While struggling to abstain from sin, don't hesitate to do your best in serving God. You can be fornicating because you are yet to be able to resist sexual urge. But it does not mean that you should not do whatever you can do to the glory of God.

3.
A fornicator that works in the church while admitting that fornication is a sin is actually trying to serve God faithfully. But a fornicator that works in the church and claims that fornication is not a sin is a hypocrite.

If someone fornicates by mistake, it is different from someone fornicating as a lifestyle. God is not forcing anyone to serve Him faithfully in church work, and He doesnt want pollution done to His works.
You may do things low-key as a normal member. But to be committed to deep service/church work while living in fornication is wrong.

Serve God, but do it in the right way.

It is better to be a sincere benchwarmer in church than to be fornicating while still being active and faithful as an usher, pastor, choir member, protocol, prayer warrior, greeters, in sanitation unit e.t.c.

You shouldn't be an active fornicator and an active worker in church. And it is wrong to have a steady sugar daddy while still being committed in church work.

Spend quality time in not deceiving yourself.

Repentance is a change of old sinful lifestyle into a life of Godliness.

Going for altar call is one of the methods of identifying yourself as a sinner or backslider in need of repentance. It is not a way to bribe God or to pacify your guilty conscience, but an act for the purpose of repenting from sin.

If you have committed terrible sins & you are feeling so guilty, going for altar call is not a way of looking for how to make your conscience feel alright & then go back to sin after pacifying your conscience. Repentance is a change of lifestyle that is aided by the HolySpirit.

You should be determined to repent when going for altar call. After repentance, you are to stop your old evil ways, apologize & make peace with those you may have offended, study your bible regularly, pray always, attend a bible-believing church, serve God faithfully.

Make sure you do not die without making peace with God.

Do you know singing, anointing, power, good preaching, prayers, good church, good pastor, positive confession, impact, evangelism, crying during worship, dancing like David danced, giving, having a good heart e.t.c, are good but cannot take you to heaven if you do not have holiness attached to it?

God may overlook certain things to bless you on earth, but He will never overlook holiness when it comes to you entering heaven.

Again, God makes holiness achievable if you hunger and thirst after righteousness. But many people are not so positively desperate for righteousness and holiness. Many are comfortable with nominal, worldly and compromising christianity. Matthew 5:6 "Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled"

Hebrew 12:14 "Follow peace with all men, and holiness without which no man shall see the Lord"

Let no one choose another rapture date in october.

Jesus is coming when God says so.

This boils down to ladies who may enjoy the drama of toxicity, while probably disliking peace, true love, gentility attention.

Some ladies may prefer a rough, toxic, wild, careless relationship than a good one. They may prefer such and may settle with a guy that suits that. Such a guy might make them baby Mama and may even kill them in marriage.

If in the nearest future the 9 months pregnancy of many or most ladies and their painful child birth is not celebrated with joy until DNA test is confirmed to align with the agreed father of the kid, then it is a serious issue.

Please wait until it is officially announced who the winner is.

Many people with flaws, bad character, cheating character e.t.c, will not want to marry a cheat or promiscuous person. This is not a good way to go. Some may be vehement on marrying a virgin or a God-fearing guy. You cannot be promiscuous while looking for a decent person to marry. As a promiscous person, will you like to look for a promiscuous person to marry, and then try to work on their character?

Be cautious, prayerful and careful in relationship and marriage. Get tested before you commence marriage process and if you sleep around, do not marry.

Assuming your age is taken back to 12 years ago with the same sense and experience you currently have, who will you become? I mean, if you are maybe 35, and with all the experiences, wisdom and life lessons you may have had, then your age is now made 23 years: life gives you another chance again, who will you become?

Many people who have made mistakes, had experiences, made foolish decisions, grown in wisdom e.t.c, may become the best ever.

Lesson: Be careful how you use your life. Time is going and no chance to go back in age.

When you meet that lovely woman who truly loves you, gives you attention, is not after your money, is faithful to you, is very sincere to you and is someone you like too; do not get too familiar with her. Do not misuse or abuse her love, attention e.t.c. Never see her as an object for sex. Never see her as a person for "chop-clean-mouth". You can both put sex on hold till you get married; and if you are relatively okay, you can pay her bride price and tie the knot.......
Finally, do not waste the time of such women in engagement and do not betray them. If you hurt them, you may never see someone like them again.

When last did you win any tangible money through betting? Have you not seen you have lost more than you winning? You need to stop betting today.