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Illiteracy & Religion Fundamentalism Are Evil

The Passion Behind The Vociferous Calls For President Muhammad Buhari To Address The Nation Or Better Still Return To The Country Makes Me Wonder If His Return Will Solve All The Socioeconomic, Political & Religious Challenges Nigeria & Nigerians Are Facing.

It Is Unfortunate That Nigerians Like To Jump On Bandwagons & By So Doing End Up Trivialising Issues Of National Importance. Our Malaise Goes Beyond The Long Absence Of One Man, Albeit He Is The Incumbent President.

Does PMB's Absence Stop State Governors From Leading Their States? Does The President's Sickness Stop The National Assembly Or The Federal Executive Council From Carrying Out Its Constitutional Responsibilities?

There Are Constitutional Provisions Covering Absence Of A President From Office Due To A Reason Or The Other. And Members Of The NASS Are Well Aware Of These Provisions. Hence, Until The Moment PMB's (In)Actions Contravene These Provisions, Nigerians Should Learn To Refuse Being Used As Tools In The Hands Of Those With Political Agenda.

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While I Have Regards For History & Records, It Is Worth Nothing That There Are Certain Histories/Records Which Are Better Left Uncelebrated. Whether Crude Oil Was Found First In Ebonyi Or Bayelsa Does Not Solve Any Of Nigeria's Myriads Of Problems. Rather, It Will Only Create Fresh and Unnecessary Tribal Superiority Debates. Thanks

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Don't Relent. Greater Things Await You.

Let’s face it, happiness and work do not tend to go hand in hand. A 2013 Gallup study, which reported data from more than 180 million people, found that just 13% of us consider ourselves to be “happily engaged at work.”

Those who do rate themselves as happy are 36% more motivated, six times more energized, and twice as productive as their unhappy counterparts.

The good news is that just 50% of happiness is influenced by genetics—the rest is up to you.

When it comes to making yourself happy, you need to learn what works for you. Once you discover this, everything else tends to fall into place. And making yourself happy doesn’t just improve your performance; it’s also good for your health.

A critical skill set that happy people tend to have in common is emotional intelligence (EQ). TalentSmart tested the EQs of more than a million people and know what makes high EQ people tick. Below are 16 great ways that emotionally intelligent people create their own happiness at work.

1. Remember That You Are In Charge of Your Own Happiness

You have two choices in any dead-end job: find another one or make the most of the one you’re stuck with. Either way, your happiness is up to you and no one else. Remind yourself of this anytime you’re feeling stuck.

2. Don’t Obsess over Things You Can’t Control

It’s good to know how Greece’s economic troubles might affect US markets or that your company could merge with its largest competitor, but there’s a big difference between understanding these larger forces and worrying about them. Happy people are ready and informed, but they don’t allow themselves to fret over things that are beyond their pay grades.

3. Don’t Compare Yourself to Other People

When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from comparing yourself to others, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When you feel good about something that you’ve done, don’t allow anyone’s opinions or accomplishments take that away from you.

While it’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don’t have to compare yourself to others, and you can always take people’s opinions with a grain of salt. That way, no matter what other people are thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within. Regardless of what people think of you at any particular moment, one thing is certain—you’re never as good or bad as they say you are.

4. Reward Yourself

Working hard is important, but never allowing yourself to take a break is detrimental to your happiness. A study of radiologists found that they made more accurate diagnoses when they received small rewards prior to reviewing patients’ charts. A Cornell study found that small rewards make people more generous, friendly, and happy. These small “thrills” also made people more productive and accurate in their work. Rewards activate the pleasure pathway in your brain, even if they are self-induced. Effective rewards can be small things such as taking a walk down the hall or eating a snack.

5. Exercise During the Work Week

Getting your body moving for as little as 10 minutes releases GABA, a soothing neurotransmitter that also limits impulsivity. A University of Bristol study showed that people who exercised on workdays reported improvements in time management, mood, and performance. The benefits of exercise always outweigh the time lost in its pursuit.

6. Don’t Judge and Gossip

Judging other people and speaking poorly of them is a lot like overindulging in a decadent dessert; it feels good while you’re doing it, but afterwards, you feel guilty and sick. When you’re tempted to speak of someone else in a way that might be negative, just ask yourself if you’d want someone saying the same about you.

7. Choose Your Battles Wisely

Emotionally intelligent people know how important it is to live to fight another day. In conflict, unchecked emotion makes you dig your heels in and fight the kind of battle that can leave you severely damaged and unhappy for some time to come. When you read and respond to your emotions, you’re able to choose your battles wisely and only stand your ground when the time is right.

8. Stay True to Yourself

Crossing moral boundaries in the name of success is a sure-fire path to unhappiness. Violating your personal standards creates feelings of regret, dissatisfaction, and demotivation. Know when to stand your ground and express dissent when someone wants you to do something that you know you shouldn’t. When you’re feeling confused, take some time to review your values and write them down. This will help you to locate your moral compass.

9. Clear the Clutter

I don’t need to remind you of how much time you spend at work. Take a good look at your workspace. You should create a space that’s soothing and uplifting. Whether it’s a picture of your family, a plant, or an award that you’re proud of, display them prominently to keep them on your mind. Get rid of the junk and clutter that hold no significance and do nothing positive for your mental state.

10. Give Someone A Hand

Taking the time to help your colleagues not only makes them happy, but it also makes you happy. Helping other people gives you a surge of oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine, all of which create good feelings. In a Harvard study, employees who helped others were 10 times more likely to be focused at work and 40% more likely to get a promotion. The same study showed that people who consistently provided social support were the most likely to be happy during times of high stress. As long as you make certain that you aren’t overcommitting yourself, helping others is sure to have a positive influence on your happiness.

11. Let Your Strengths Flow

A University of Chicago study of peak performance found that people who were able to reach an intense state of focus, called flow, reaped massive benefits. Flow is the state of mind in which you find yourself completely engrossed in a project or task, and you lose awareness of the passage of time and other external distractions. Flow is often described as an exhilarating state in which you feel euphoria and mastery simultaneously. The result is not just happiness and productivity but also the development of new skills through a heightened state of learning. The key to reaching flow lies in organizing your tasks such that you have immediate and clear goals to pursue that play to your strengths. As you begin working on these tasks, your focus increases along with your feelings of adequacy. In time, you reach a flow state, in which productivity and happiness flourish. Set clear goals each day and experiment with task order until you find the secret formula that gets you flowing.

12. Smile and Laugh More

A study at Mannheim University in Germany demonstrated that we can actually manipulate our emotions by changing our facial expressions. One group of participants held a pen in their mouth horizontally, which forces a smile. When asked to rate how funny a cartoon was, the participants holding pens in their mouths found the cartoons much funnier than participants without pens.

As the study shows, it doesn’t matter if your smile is genuine because your facial expression can precede the feeling. If you find yourself in a negative spiral at work, slow down and smile or watch a funny video on YouTube. This mood boost can turn your day around.

13. Stay Away From Negative People

Complainers and negative people are bad news because they wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions. They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. People often feel pressure to listen to complainers because they don’t want to be seen as callous or rude, but there’s a fine line between lending a sympathetic ear and getting sucked into their negative emotional spirals. You can avoid getting drawn in only by setting limits and distancing yourself when necessary. Think of it this way: If a person were smoking, would you sit there all afternoon inhaling the second-hand smoke? You’d distance yourself, and you should do the same with negative people. A great way to set limits is to ask them how they intend to fix their problems. The complainer will then either quiet down or redirect the conversation in a productive direction.

14. Laugh at Yourself

When you take yourself too seriously at work your happiness and performance suffer. Don’t be afraid to show a little vulnerability. Something as simple as laughing at yourself draws people to you because it shows them that you’re humble and grounded (it also keeps them from laughing behind your back). Happy people balance their self-confidence with a good sense of humor and humility.

15. Cultivate an Attitude of Gratitude

It’s all too easy to get caught up in things that could have been different or didn’t turn out the way you wanted them to. Sometimes the best way to pull your mind away from negativity is to step back and contemplate what you’re grateful for. Taking time to reflect on the good in your life improves your mood because it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23%. Research conducted at the University of California, Davis, found that people who worked daily to cultivate an attitude of gratitude experienced improved mood, energy, and physical well being.

16. Believe the Best Is Yet to Come

Don’t just tell yourself that the best is yet to come—believe it. Having a positive, optimistic outlook on the future doesn’t just make you happier; it also improves your performance by increasing your sense of self-efficacy. The mind has a tendency to magnify past pleasure to such a great degree that the present pales in comparison. This phenomenon can make you lose faith in the power of the future to outdo what you’ve already experienced. Don’t be fooled. Believe in the great things the future has in store.

Bringing It All Together

Applying these strategies won’t just improve your happiness at work; most of them will also improve your emotional intelligence. Pick those that resonate with you and have fun with them. And please share what makes you happy at work in the comments section.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/16-ways-to-create-your-own-happiness_us_59541afbe4b0326c0a8d0d77?section=us_healthy-living

“You need to hear this. It might not necessarily be what you want to hear.”

You’re probably encountering adversity, delays, setbacks, etc.

Yet this doesn’t indicate that you need to move on and try something new.

Despite what most people think, adversity is an indicator that you’re moving in the right direction. Because let’s face it, if everything was easy and smooth sailing… it would be a clear indicator that you’re not taking enough action.

Anyone who has built something great has overcome obstacles, adversity, and defeats. Delay is not defeat. Setbacks and those things are part of the process, and you have to trust the process.

You’ll Want to Move On When Things Get Difficult, But That’s a HUGE Mistake!

You can look elsewhere or give up when things get difficult.

Think the grass will be greener on the other side? But once you loop back around… you loop right back around to that same place you’re struggling in now. Those same frustrations will reappear.

You need to push through frustration and uncomfortableness and think of them as tools.

THE BLACKSMITH ANALOGY

When you’re forging a sword out of a slab of metal, refining your process, pounding on that metal is equivalent to taking out those frustrations. Heating the sword in a blazing fire pushes all the impurities in the metal to rise to the surface.

The Blacksmith can then scoop them off. It’s the same with YOUR business. You can work out those impurities in the process. When the Blacksmith is done, he has a beautiful sword that can be used as a mighty weapon.

When you have worked out the impurities and pushed through adversity and frustration, now things become infinitely easier.

On day one…you and your business are just a big slab of raw unrefined metal.

If you mold, refine, and hammer through the adversity, setbacks, and frustration, you have every capacity to become a mighty sword that can move forward and advance.

When you’re going through adversity, you’re finding out what you’re made of.

What’s inside of you? How much heart do you have?

Adversity is a good thing, because it brings the impurities that you need to get rid of to the surface .

The moment that you start owning your successes AND your failures puts YOU in a position of POWER. What matters is that you have the strength to own both and move past them moving forward.

As you do this, you’re going to jump from level to level in your biz!

CLIMBING THE STAIRS OF SUCCESS!…

Picture a stair step. Where most people start (The 1st stair step) as entrepreneurs or when they join a marketing system like Eagle Aurum Company (EAC) is with the thought of, “I need to make money.”

Sure it’s motivating, but that’s not truly the best mindset.

The second step is when you start realizing you need to produce value.

And then you get to that deeply inspiring place on the the third level. That’s when you realize you want and need to help people. You start to focus on helping people and giving them value they need. The fourth step is having a desire to leave an impact.

As you’re moving between steps in this entrepreneurial journey, in each step or level, you start encountering different obstacles and levels of adversity.

The toughest step will always be level one.

When you’re in a place of thinking, “I need to make money,” and that’s all you’re focused on, your marketing…that’s all that your subconscious can hear!

It’s screaming in your subconscious’ ear!

Prospects can smell that desperation a mile away!

When you’re trying to recruit, people can sense that attitude. They can feel it in your copy, and in your emails. It always comes through in everything you do.

Therefore you’ll encounter MUCH more adversity and obstacles when you’re thinking isn’t correct. When your mind is constantly on what’s in it for you.

“Often times your victory and breakthrough comes in the 11th hour, when the pressure is deepest and most painful.”

You have to choose to get back up again and hang on a little longer and push through. Because each time you do, You Grow Stronger.

http://blog.myleadsystempro.com/the-secret-power-of-adversity

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Any battle-hardened individual will talk about the darkness before the dawn—those make-or-break moments when they could have quit but held on with stunning success. Here are nine ways to stay optimistic when your life hits a speed bump.
1. Know that you’re probably about to succeed.

Years ago, I read this Chinese saying, “The temptation to give up is the greatest right before you’re about to succeed.”

There’s something magical about the saying. I don’t know if something deep in our subconscious mind realizes we’re about to succeed. But the 11th hour is when the pressure builds and things seem to go wrong; once you hit midnight, things start to go well.

Remember this dichotomy: When you don’t feel much pressure, you’re often not close to success. Feeling despondent is a sign you’ve made it all the way to 11 p.m. When you feel kind of jolly, you’re probably further back at 2 p.m., with a long way to go. It’s almost a double-edged sword.

2. Keep a calm head.
I’ve had many dark moments over the years; everyone has. The key is understanding these are essential for building yourself or something significant, like a business.

Nothing grows without a make-or-break moment. Understanding that challenges are part of growth gives you the calmness to handle what might normally be a very stressful time. When problems arise, assemble your dream team of experts to look at the problem and work together to find a solution.

Go after solving the problem with the same tenacity, vision and effort that you used to build yourself and the business. Then move on in a positive way.

3. Weather the storm.
I’ve experienced many failures, including once being $750,000 in debt.

First, realize that “this too shall pass.” The tides will rise eventually.
Then surround yourself with friends, mentors, coaches and people who tell you how it is.
Be open to criticism; it’s the only way to develop.
Build your emotional immune system. Get used to extreme highs and lows. Don’t freak out during a “low low” or overcompensate (i.e. party like it’s Friday) during a “high high.”
Visualize your ideal day and life. Every night, I visualize my life. Every morning, I visualize my entire day in the shower for five minutes, including what I’ll say and how I’ll react. It’s super-powerful.
By default, humans want to keep everyone around them but cut the energy vampires. Some people will never serve you, regardless of how much you serve them. They’ll suck your ideas, strength and enthusiasm when you need it most.
Finally, don’t take yourself seriously. Always ask: “Are you doing something to impact and serve others or serve your own emotions and ego?” It’s harder to quit when people are counting on you.
Read More. http://www.success.com/article/9-ways-to-stay-optimistic-when-all-you-want-to-do-is-quit

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Which Day & Time Of The Week Do You Consider Most Suitable For A Live Business Seminar?

Most Will Say Saturday Morning. However, I've Observed That Some Would Rather Attend One Social Event Or Another.

So, Inputs As To Day & Time Of The Week Most Suitable For A Business Seminar Is Most Welcome, Please

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He Was There At The Launching Of APDA.

So It Was Always A Matter Of Time

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No. Each Pupil/Student Is Given The Choice To Attend Classes In Line With Their Belief

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But this is somehow not okay. So pupils will be taught Islamic and Christian Topics all together since the subjects are now joined.

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Work Towards Immediate Reconciliation With Your GF

What Brought The Issue Of "Quit Notice" Into This?

I Hope You Understand The Full Implications Of What You're Doing

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You Find One In Most Teaching Hospitals.

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Some Budding Talents There Open To Be Developed Into Potential Champions.

However, Nigeria Presently Lacks The Structure To Tap Into Such Human Sporting Resources.

I Pray The Kids Don't End Up As Weed Smoking, Miscreants Serving As Bouncers To Some Local Celebrities In Mushin, Lagos.

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OP, What Do You Personally Stand To Gain? Nothing

There Is Nothing Unusual Here.

They Are Only Travelling Home Ahead Of Conclusion Of The Ramadan Period.

I Wish Them Safe Trip To & From Their Homes