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 Romance › Why Women Lose Value And Respect In Relationships by Elbisco(op): 7:59pm On Jul 04, 2017 |
Women are beautiful, aren’t they? But, why do men disrespect women in relationships? All of us know women are very important to the development of any society. However, as beautiful and amazing as they are, many of them are being maltreated, and abused on a daily. The purpose of this post is to shed light into the reason the above happens and proffer solutions so as to check further occurrences. Women have and were created with very soft emotions, even though many of them look very strong on the outside, this is why, most do what they do. Their emotions are not weaknesses, even though many men make it seem so. They were created to be soft, and they just can’t help it. Despite this beautiful nature of women, why do many men play on their intelligence? Why are they been abused? I will in the next few paragraphs highlight things women do that are wrong, and should top. This means they must develop themselves in expectance of the harsh society they find themselves. The list is in no particular order. Top reasons you are being abused/mistreated 1. You’ve given away exclusivity: There are women who do not have anything special about them anymore (to the guy). Such girls have done everything to prove to their lover that they love them and will go the extra mile for them. Yet they are cheated on, jilted and dumped, one of the numerous reasons is that they (or you) gave away exclusivity. What do I mean by that? You visit him, perform wifely duties. He lays with you. You walk around the house nude, etc. there is nothing special, nothing hidden, and nothing to hope for, nothing new anymore. Do you know guys love to be in dark? When they get everything you have to offer today, they’d seek somewhere else tomorrow for a new adventure. They were created like that, only a few have taken the decision to distinguish themselves, only a few have improved. Don’t be surprised when you see any disrespectful relationship behavior from him when you give away exclusivity 2. Cohabiting: Mostly on campuses, you find ladies living with their boyfriends, and in some cases, the guys move in with the girls (mostly for financial benefits though). When you give away such, at an early stage, there is almost no reason he won’t dump you. It goes back to the previous reason, nothing is special about you anymore, he feels that is how you have been with other guys, especially if you held nothing back from him (I hope you know what I mean). 3. Living your life to date: When you live your life because you want to date, then you have nothing special to offer, A guy loves girls who continue to improve themselves, and are full of amazing surprises. When you wake every day to be the girlfriend of yesterday, he will abandon you at the site of another girl who have something that stands her out. 4. Incompleteness: You don’t need to ask why do men disrespect women in relationships if you think you are incomplete on your own. You as an individual are a complete whole. You don’t need a guy to complete you, and this is in the first place the first rule to dating; you must understand that you are complete by yourself. The presence of a man in your life only complements you, without him, you are still who you are-no less. Many ladies have remain in bad relationships because they think they cannot stand alone, I discovered this when I wrote on Reasons why Ladies remain in abusive relationships. Its high time you understood you are complete, no guy makes you complete but their presence is just an add-on, a compliment! 5. Being too around: Don’t you have a business of your own? When you are too around, he gets tired too soon . You love him and that’s fine, you don’t have to make him feel like he’s the air you breathe (although he might be), such feeling would make him feel indispensable and no guy is. Sometimes, be absent, what is seen too much loses its value. The sun for instance loses its value, because it shines for a very long time, everybody wants the rain, curses the sun and stuff like that, but during the raining season, we all crave the warmth of the sun, we all pray for sunlight, this is the cycle every year. Learn to be like the sun, withdraw your presence once in a while and make your presence and absent felt, loved, respected and missed. Use absence to increase respect and honor. Sometimes, when a man calls you always and will not let you have a life of your own, it’s a sign that a man is disrespecting you. 6. Money conscious: Do you think dating him shifts your financial burden to him? If you do, don’t be surprised when he leaves. He feels you are more special when you support him. On your dates, you pay for just the Ice cream, (as little as that may seem), on our way to his house, you buy him fruits, pay your fare or at the petrol station, you pay. Sometimes, you don’t take money from him, but you give him, even though he has. No matter how small, he’s no fool (I don’t think you’re dating one), he’ll appreciate. When you think he has to satisfy all your financial needs, he’ll do it for a while and when he perceives someone who is independent, and leaves you for her, don’t be surprised. Your boyfriend is not your employer, and he doesn’t owe you anything financially. In fact, I take being money conscious as a disrespectful relationship behavior 7. How did you start: If you have issues with number three and four above, it’ll be obvious here (at least). He came to you today, and as though he’s the Jesus you have been expecting, you jumped on board. So soon? No! I am not of the opinion you should play too hard to get, but truth is, no guy loves what he gets cheaply, no guy values it. You don’t have to be rude, harsh or conversely, too easy. If you do not know how to blend well in between, go, - learn it. Else, he will surely show you signs of disrespect, sooner or later. The few tips above are reasons why guys disrespect young ladies. So many ladies have given their all, yet they have been met with being embarrassed and broken hearted. If you study these tips and improve on yourself, you will make yourself extremely valuable, and guys will sought after you. What are those things you think makes women un-respected in relationships? As a lady, in your opinion, why do men disrespect women in relationships? What are the signs that a man is disrespecting you? Source:Culled from https://inspiredfully.com/why-do-men-disrespect-women-in-relationships/ 3 Likes |
| Politics › Re: List 5 Things Nigerians Have Benefited From This Administration. by Elbisco(m): 8:51pm On Apr 11, 2017 |
Its preposterous no one is seeing nothing good as regard Nigeria so far. Maybe it is time we take our destinies in our hand and do something for ourselves since the government is not planning on improving. Amazing things found only in Nigeria |
| Romance › Re: See What Man Does To Wife During Over 15 Years Of Marriage by Elbisco(op): 1:17pm On Sep 27, 2015 |
vinelli:I subscribe... |
| Romance › Re: See What Man Does To Wife During Over 15 Years Of Marriage by Elbisco(op): 11:30pm On Sep 26, 2015 |
henribj:great fact |
| Romance › See What Man Does To Wife During Over 15 Years Of Marriage by Elbisco(op): 10:50pm On Sep 26, 2015 |
Help me please, I have a friend, we are a group of best friends, five (5) in numbers, we all got married years ago and we were all there for ourselves, we still are. The sad thing is that there is this one of us (John) who went ahead and put another woman in the family way. At first we thought it was a “mistake”. It happened again, and then up to the fourth time. For about 15 years now, he’s being keeping these secrets from his wife. See what he does to the names of the kids, he calls the children of wife 2 the same name he calls the children of wife 1. So when people call him by the name of the children in front of his wife, it won’t reveal anything. This woman (the house wife) has been very good to us, she takes care of us when we visit and these hurt us his friends because she’s a good woman. Whenever I see her suddenly, my heart jerks. What should we do? We know this secret, should we inform her or we should just walk away. source: http://www.inspiredfully.com/2015/09/infidelity-to-wife.html |
| Literature › 5 Crazy Areas Of Your Life To Review As The Year Runs Out by Elbisco(op): 9:26pm On Aug 26, 2015 |
(No part of this write up should be reproduced in any form,or copied to any blog. all rights reserved) Hello friends,how are you doing today?. Today,we're going to observe five easy to overlook aspects of our life. Yes I said easy to overlook because many of us see it as unimportant as one time or the other.Five crazy things you should review thisyear.Ofcourse after reviewing them,you'll make a decision either to continue,quit,or amend. At one time or the other either past,present or future you'll see how any of these can affect your relationship with people,family and friends. TOP FIVE CRAZY THINGS YOU SHOULD REVIEW »»»1.Your hairstyle:-Many of us are very passionate about our hairdo. We go extra miles just to make our hair look good,and why not? When you have a beautiful hairstyle,it improves your look.Your duty is to determine your work or school environment so you'll have a style that'll fit into it. Inasmuch as a nicestyle looks good on you,you have to make sure its responsible enough.People see your physical appearance before they even say a word to you. So you have to review yourstyle,make sure it defines you. You'll pass a wrong message to me if I see a wrong hairstyle on you on meeting you on the first time. »»»2.Your clothing:-Are you fond of wearing what you love in place of what is right? It's high time you stopped that. Your occasion or outing should determine what you'll wear. And on casual occasions,you should be unpredictable. Don't dress in what I call"informal uniform". You should diversify.This would make the people look out to meeting you again the next time the need arises and certainly,you won't disappoint. »»»3.Your body cream,roll on etc.:-If you're into cosmetics,then this is for you.If you're not,you need it too because you definitely need a cream at one point or the other.You should try to discern if your cream is a bleaching cream and quit it if you don't do bleaching.Don't wait until you exhaust one bottle before you stop.The harm might be done already before you know it.Your perfume should smell nice,don't buy cheap products that have poor smell just because they are cheap,rather buy one you love the smell and not because of the price.Your roll on and others not exempted.NB:Quality should be your priority,however being expensive does not mean it's quality »»»4.Your lifestyle:-Do you keep late night?,this is the time to decide if you'll continue or quit, do youtalk too much?. You go late to meetings,church service?or what do you do?. Definitely you need amends. Review this and you'll be happy.. »»»5.Your attitude:-what kind of a person are you?...do you answer questions with questions? Do you get angry at the slightest mistake? are you abusive?(c'mon,you know the rest,I aint gona tell you all what you do.) all I know is that you must as a matter of fact scrutinize them and improve. You don't want to remain at a point or stagnant. You have seen my top 5 list of what youneed to review and improve? All of all this might look small to you,but until you're applauded or criticized for not doing the right thing.perhaps you have something to add or contribute,feel free to use the comment area below (source: http://www.inspiredfully.com ) |
| Phones › Re: Top 10 Addictive Games On Android by Elbisco(m): 8:56pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
FOLYKAZE:he's using a cup cake android. So no be d guy fault |
| Phones › Re: Top 10 Addictive Games On Android by Elbisco(m): 8:54pm On Jun 21, 2015 |
chefremy:#D0PE |
| Celebrities › Re: Omg See Photos Of The Most Expensive Se'xx Toys Ever by Elbisco(m): 12:13am On Jun 21, 2015 |
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| Celebrities › Re: Meet Wande Coals Son by Elbisco(m): 12:09am On Jun 21, 2015 |
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| Family › Re: Is Mother In Law Making Moves On Him Or Does He Have A Dirty Mind? by Elbisco(m): 9:00pm On Jun 20, 2015 |
fem29:lol...when the devil wants to live with you,if you tell him there is no space,he'll tell you he can manage your nostrils |
| Family › Re: Is Mother In Law Making Moves On Him Or Does He Have A Dirty Mind? by Elbisco(m): 8:53pm On Jun 20, 2015 |
demmy0325:#Bolded |
| Family › Re: Is Mother In Law Making Moves On Him Or Does He Have A Dirty Mind? by Elbisco(m): 8:50pm On Jun 20, 2015 |
Feranchek:...*coughs*... |
| Celebrities › Is This The Best Time For Him To Quit? by Elbisco(op): 12:26am On Apr 26, 2015 |
Someone asked a question on social media,and it got me thinking,perhaps I thought too much about it-maybe too little,but I thought about it anyway. He asked "is this the best time to quit"?...definitely he must have attempted probably all possible measures known to him to achieve a purpose to no avail,and is now contemplating quitting. This situation is not unique to this young man alone but peculiar to the human race as a whole, whenever something good is on its way, what we see is the direct opposite of the ultimate result,hence we are tempted to quit.Now if you quit-you'd have succumbed to life's trick(s),but if you persist and try every available means possible and remain discipline and determined,then you learn about the various tricks played by the phenomenon called "LIFE"and ultimately you'll learn one or two of the lessons it teaches. One of the lessons life expects us to know at this time is that "whenever we have a positive thought,ambition and or aspiration, it(life)would first present us with the negative manifestations of that reality(usually proportional to our dream"...so our ability to handle the hard time of such reality would determine if we are ready to handle the success of our dream or not. so in conclusion life is not wicked afterall, its just a teacher that teaches in the "university of hard knocks"...if you're able to take many knocks and continue learning,you'll graduate before you know it,but if you attempt to withdraw because of its hardknock on you,you'll just be hiding from the reality,because life only stops dealing with us when we stop breathing. So friends resolve not to quit.and my answer to that fellow is this "the best time to quit is in the grave-else NEVER EVER EVER QUIT"...that's exactly how I replied him. Don't quit,though the journey seems tough,Dale Carnegie stated it plainly "tough times never last but tough people do"...if you're tough life would bow to your genius,consider Thomas Edison who failed for about 999 times,but still succeded,remember Ben Carson,Nelson Mandela and others...NEVER EVER EVER QUIT. STAY SMART! source- http://www.inspiredfully.com |
| Career › Is This The Best Time To Quit? by Elbisco(op): 12:18am On Apr 26, 2015 |
Someone asked a question on social media,and it got me thinking,perhaps I thought too much about it-maybe too little,but I thought about it anyway. He asked "is this the best time to quit"?...definitely he must have attempted probably all possible measures known to him to achieve a purpose to no avail,and is now contemplating quitting. This situation is not unique to this young man alone but peculiar to the human race as a whole, whenever something good is on its way, what we see is the direct opposite of the ultimate result,hence we are tempted to quit.Now if you quit-you'd have succumbed to life's trick(s),but if you persist and try every available means possible and remain discipline and determined,then you learn about the various tricks played by the phenomenon called "LIFE"and ultimately you'll learn one or two of the lessons it teaches. One of the lessons life expects us to know at this time is that "whenever we have a positive thought,ambition and or aspiration, it(life)would first present us with the negative manifestations of that reality(usually proportional to our dream)...so our ability to handle the hard time of such reality would determine if we are ready to handle the success of our dream or not. so in conclusion life is not wicked afterall, its just a teacher that teaches in the "university of hard knocks"...if you're able to take many knocks and continue learning,you'll graduate before you know it,but if you attempt to withdraw because of its hardknock on you,you'll just be hiding from the reality,because life only stops dealing with us when we stop breathing. So friends resolve not to quit.and my answer to that fellow is this "the best time to quit is in the grave-else NEVER EVER EVER QUIT"...that's exactly how I replied him. Don't quit,though the journey seems tough,Dale Carnegie stated it plainly "tough times never last but tough people do"...if you're tough life would bow to your genius,consider Thomas Edison who failed for about 9999 times,but still succeded,remember Ben Carson,Nelson Mandela and others...NEVER EVER EVER QUIT. STAY SMART! Source http://www.inspiredfully.com |
| Family › Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Elbisco(m): 5:58pm On Apr 13, 2015 |
quivah:Nothing can be "truer" than this |
| Family › Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Elbisco(m): 5:57pm On Apr 13, 2015 |
[quote author=Moana post=32665885][/quote]YES |
| Family › Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Elbisco(m): 8:12am On Apr 13, 2015 |
Moana:she's harming them by belittling herself. By done the right thing at the wrong time |
| Family › Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Elbisco(m): 8:07am On Apr 13, 2015 |
quivah:(If you wont get angry for quoting you). You've made sane points,you're 100% correct,however, the more evil cohabition does is that the lady performs allllllll the functions of a wife. Its bad enough that we engage in pre marital intimacy,but salt is added to injury when she stoops low to perform the said functions without the right things done first. I hope I didn't overstep my bound! |
| Family › Re: Girls Who Cohabited In The University Do Not Deserve Bride Price!!! by Elbisco(m): 7:58am On Apr 13, 2015 |
Rapmoney:one word.... D0PE!!! 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: What Is The Most Annoying Habit That Your Boyfriend/ Girlfriend Has? by Elbisco(m): 12:14pm On Apr 03, 2015 |
TheSonOfMark:so sure you love her "scatter"... |
| Politics › Re: What Jonathan Told Buhari On Phone by Elbisco(m): 12:11pm On Apr 03, 2015 |
Equalizer:alot! |
| Romance › Re: 10 Gifts To Get For Your Man This Valentine Season! by Elbisco(m): 7:50pm On Feb 09, 2015 |
purplesummer:lol I like it this way! |
| Christianity Etc › Re: Small signs to show The End Is Coming by Elbisco(m): 10:25pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
brocab:thanks..quite lenghty but I read it all...did the pope really say that? (and which pope?)... And is internet the beast? 1 Like |
| Jokes Etc › Re: Funniest Joke Ever Lwkmd Accent Brouhaha!!! by Elbisco(m): 9:37pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Lol bestestgirl:wake up let me faint my own... |
| Jokes Etc › Re: HELP!!!! My Host Is Tired Of Me,she Says I Should Cook! by Elbisco(op): 9:21pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
delishpot:lol..I b turn my fone upside down read ur post |
| Celebrities › Re: HELP!!! My Host Says I Should Prepare Stew by Elbisco(op): 9:19pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Airforce1:Jona? How come? |
| Celebrities › Re: HELP!!! My Host Says I Should Prepare Stew by Elbisco(op): 9:15pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Airforce1:lol...see ur smiley teeth....na wa o |
| Celebrities › Re: HELP!!! My Host Says I Should Prepare Stew by Elbisco(op): 9:10pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Airforce1:no b from dis one |
| Jokes Etc › Re: HELP!!!! My Host Is Tired Of Me,she Says I Should Cook! by Elbisco(op): 9:08pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
delishpot:bros I dey pack come ur house...send me transport abeg... |
| Jokes Etc › Re: HELP!!!! My Host Is Tired Of Me,she Says I Should Cook! by Elbisco(op): 9:07pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Bridgetown:no insult abeg...na joke we dey |
| Celebrities › Re: HELP!!! My Host Says I Should Prepare Stew by Elbisco(op): 9:03pm On Feb 04, 2015 |
Airforce1:lol....I hope u sabi say na joke be dis? |
... Mama needs help... She must be a psycho.... And ask ur wife wah shes bn tellin her mother behind.. 
Bro, you've been holding yourself for a while, please continue doing so.
Nor be letter of invitation. 