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As there are positive surprises in marriage, so are there negative surprises. A man
recently shared with Saturday PUNCH he once sent a text message to his wife,
threatening to divorce her for some particular reason. Seeing the text, the woman
began calling friends and family to plead on her behalf and the issue was resolved.
Some Nigerians shared how they would react to the issue
I will make amends
Success Abili
Probably I offended him and he wanted to use that to punish me, I will beg him. It is
not good for a man to be angry to the point of planning to divorce his wife without
letting her know. If he is responsible, he would let me know my offences, thereby
giving me a chance to plead with him. In marriage, there should always be room for
making amends. It is not enough for a man to say ‘I forgave her yesterday, I forgave
her today, I can’t forgive her tomorrow.’ My husband and I cannot have the same
character, so he must be ready to forgive me at all times and not be thinking of
divorce.
I’d keep quiet
Asagade Tomilola
There is a Bible passage that says, “The heart of man is desperately wicked, who can
know it?” This issue just makes me to remember that men will forever remain men.
They can do the things you can’t even imagine, just like this one. What will it cost him
if he tells me what I did wrong and what I should have done? Perhaps he has seen
another lady to deceive, that’s why he’s planning that divorce. It’s even good to know
early as it will reduce the shock of knowing later.
He’s not serious
Ebube Glory
It shows how evil and immature some men could be. I could as well be thinking of
divorce if he offends me, but because in marriage, you have to give up your ego, that is
why I would never think of such a thing. Marriage works better when we are both
willing to make it work. By the time my husband is planning to divorce me and I hear of
it, it can make me feel depressed. If he insists after much plea that he wants to go, I
will leave him. It shows he’s not serious about marriage yet.
Perhaps I’ve offended him, I’ll beg
Dike Blessing
Misunderstanding is bound to occur in every marriage, but like the proverbial saying
that you cannot relieve yourself of headache by cutting your head off, it is also not
good for my husband to be planning such a thing behind me due to our differences. If
he could tell me my offences, I will gladly beg him to forgive me for the sake of our
children.
If he wants, let him go
Ruth Ovie
Some men just want women to be at their mercy everytime and I don’t understand why.
They have so much ego that they believe they can do and undo. Why should a man
subject his wife to unnecessary high blood pressure by planning such a thing behind
her? He could have told his wife her sins and seek for ways to reconcile rather than
making her to lick his toes. Of course, I don’t support divorce, but if any man wants to
go because he cannot continue with the relationship, let him go. Moreover, if he stays,
he could be cheating on me. So why don’t I let him go?
Confirmation is needed
Nathan Emmanuel
She wants to surprise me, but I will be the one to surprise her by not reacting to the
information. From the day I learn about it, I will watch her actions very well just to
confirm I’ve not heard rumour about the divorce thing. There are some bad people out
there who are bent on destroying other people’s homes, so they peddle rumours here
and there. I wouldn’t let them have me as their subject. If I’ve offended my spouse, I’ll
beg her and we’ll continue our love life.
I’d inform her parents
Olamide Abeeb
I am not a man who believes in reporting to my parents-in-law every offence my wife
commits against me. That’s what feeble-minded men do. But in this case, I think I have
to let them know. They are her parents and they will probably be better at calling her
to order than I do. As parents, they could call her at once to appear before them and
also call me too so we could meet one-on-one and talk about it. Parents have a way of
resolving misunderstandings among couples.
I’d remind her of our children
Bolakanle Moses
Women are naturally emotionally attached to their children; of course, men also do. I
love my children same way as my wife. So if any plan of divorce comes up, I would
approach her to remind her of how long we’d spent in the marriage. I would remind her
of how we started our love affair, our plans and the future we’d both dreamed of for
our children. I know a woman whose heart is not stony would stay when she’s
reminded of all these.
I’d ask her reasons for that action
Fammeya Yelebe
No good woman will do that to her husband. I must have offended her greatly, agreed!
But divorce is never a solution in many cases of differences among couples. Because I
don’t want to give up on her, I would have to swallow my ego and prostrate for her, if
that’s what she wants to stay in the marriage. I know she would be surprised where I
heard about her plan. I’d promise to love her more and pacify her. She will stay if I do
all these.
I’m not going to beg her
Matthew Solomon
Some women could be very funny, though. Why should she go behind me to file for
divorce? What could I have done? Anyway, as much as I believe in dialogue and
resolving personal affairs outside the court, if she is adamant about leaving me, I will
not beg her. It is not pride, but sometimes it is good to allow people to be. Maybe she
will find someone better than me in the long run.

Our youths have refused to learn about reality of life. Why is op after the job that will be lucrative in future when he is supposed to look for business opportunity that will be lucrative in future. Can your future lucrative salary make you richer than the company who employed you? But you future business opportunity can make you the richest person on earth. Ask dangote, otedola, adenuga, Dele momodu and the rest. I beg change ur mindset. Proud business owner!!!

Op u are spot on. I had knew I wouldn't work under anyone cos I fear the word "sack" cos that might be the time u will need some money to finance some projects. I am a proud graduate from the king of all University in Nigeria OAU, a member Institute of chartered account of Nigeria (ICAN). But these certificates I had them cos my parents wanted a degree holder. But me I had wanted to be self employed. To God be the glory since I graduated in 2005 I have been running my biz. So guys don't look for white collar job but save money so that u too can start your own business

Those who are writing 100-150k are either they are Still in school or low salary earners. One thing I will say is that no matter the amount you earn can't be OK except if u can manage your self. I mean if u are saying 150k will be OK. Do u want to tell me that you will buy the same kind of clothes u were buying when you were managing in school or earner less than that, in summary, taste will change when u start earning that amount then you will realize that the money is not enough.

tswagg007:
Oyinbo juju strong pass our own..ask ronaldinho,lol

tswagg007:
Oyinbo juju strong pass our own..ask ronaldinho,lol

Na wa oo

SirJeffry:
I don't trade words with gullible folks like you.

My dad(MSC holder) and my mum(BSC holder)served Nigeria diligently at the federal level before their retirement.

So, for a man with an ordinary o-level to insult them and their likes just because some gullible fellows like you voted him as your president is something I can't swallow easily.

I understand ur point but when your parents served the government was then but we are talking of now. Go to any ministry around 10am you won't see all the staff cos many of them just go to work around 8am to mark register then leave at 10am to attend to their own personal business. Those who Don't have personal business are just too slow to render services.

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Ideye : Nigerian Players Use ‘ Juju ’
Olympiacos striker, Brown Ideye, has admitted that Nigerian players seek the
assistance of herbalists in order to make it as footballers.
According to mirror.co.uk, Ideye said: “I know players who get involved with the juju
men and they can’t get out. It’s a trap. They might get short-term benefits, but in
the long run they pay for it. Juju men have a lot of influence.
“These are men who are just trying to make themselves rich and tell you they can
make your life perfect.
“If things like that worked then instead of Messi and Ronaldo winning world player of
the year it should be some African players.
“I would advise players not to follow this route but it’s their choice, I can’t stop
them.”
In a report by the Sun, top Premier League players are using black magic to try and
improve their games.
It claims the superstitious stars are paying thousands of pounds to witchdoctors in a
bid to find another level.
The players are visiting Juju men in West Africa, where they are shown how to
conduct bizarre rituals that are also said to break the curse of injury.
Emmanuel Adebayor claimed earlier this year that his mum used black magic to ruin
his form in front of goal for Spurs.

kinibigdeal:
100 dollars per barrel under which administration, if I may ask?

http://www.eia.gov/dnav/pet/pet_pri_spt_s1_a.htm
Check how much crude oil was sold in his time. Compare to the budget and see enough reserve or excess money he made. I beg let's tell ourselves the truth cos there is Internet to Google things and we have young ones coming up. The young ones won't ask us anything instead they Google it to know the fact. You too can do that instead of arguing or defending a false man.

kinibigdeal:
That shows you are lost totally with happening in your surrounding. You point is out of reality. Sorry!

then prove it. Afterall I told u of badagry filling stations as fact, also the $100 per barrel which we all knew. So tell me what I didn't know when he was in power

BrainBoss:
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Haha na wa oooo na so u dey book space? I beg let better people comment for my topic jor. OK yes, you reading what do you have to say?

kinibigdeal:
You are only quoting the script of lai mohammed. Don't let people decide for you, decide yourself. Nigeria never felt the economic melt down because of the impact of is economic teams. People like sanusi, otteh, iweala and adesina did a very good job. Nigeria economy was affected because oil price dropped drastically. At a point, no country was patronizing our oil again because other option have been discovered in replacement of oil. Global oil price now sell at 40dollars per barrel, please calculate our production per day multiply by 40 dollars per barrel and divide by 12, you will understand better. This are the truth APC are hiding from you but made you believe jonathan ruin the economy. Under GEJ nigeria had a reserve of about 30billion dollars, this same governors forum went to GEJ for the money to be shared due to a unrealistic excuses about their state. It was what iweala published last month when they were accusing GEJ of mismanagement of fund. When you see the sharing formula you will marvel. Try and understand the economic situation before u trade blames. No one is saying GEJ is a saint but not all what u hear are true

Bros no one I deceiving me. Now let me tell u things u didn't know
1... During hi his time a barrel of crude was 100 dollars. Our budget bench mark was $58. My bro the excess crude money where did it go? Reserve? No. You know what OBJ left $37B I beg how come it came to $30B even with excess crude oil?
2... The subsidy money called sure p where is it or where is the project from sure p erected?
3... If you do business in the West Africa you will know where our oil was going to unaccounted for. Anybody living in badagry will confirm to you that under GEJ almost all the filling stations are into bunkery. They collected subsidy money from government and sell to the neighboring Counties.
I beg no let me say more than this. Cos I am on the field and I know what up

Nigeria’s goalless draw against Tanzania in their 2017 Africa Cup of Nations qualifier in
Dar es Salaam on Saturday has attracted criticisms to the team but former
internationals, Jonathan Akpoborie and Garba Lawal, insist the match was not enough
to judge Super Eagles coach Sunday Oliseh.
The game put Nigeria second with four points in Group G behind Egypt who defeated
Chad 5-1 in Ndjamena on Sunday.
It was an encounter that almost went the way of the hosts as they dominated the
second half but Wolverhampton Wanderers shot stopper Carl Ikeme denied the Taifa
Stars what could have been their first victory against Nigeria.
Akpoborie, who is optimistic about Nigeria’s qualification for the AFCON finals, believes
the Super Eagles have yet to blend under their new coach.
“Nigerians should be patient with the team. It was an away game and we had a point.
A point is better than losing the game. The Super Eagles did not really play well in the
second half but that should be expected because it was an away game,” the former
Wolfsburg forward said on Saturday.
“The goalless draw is not the best for the team, but it is manageable. We’re still going
to play against Egypt at home and away, and we’re still going to host Tanzania. I
expect Oliseh to use the friendly against Niger to correct the mistakes he saw in the
team.
“The Tanzania game was a case of lack of experience on the part of the players; it
won’t get better in one day so Oliseh will continue to tinker with the team until he gets
it right. We shouldn’t pray for Oliseh’s failure with the team; it takes time to build a
strong team. The damage to the Eagles has been done a long time ago, so he is only
trying to repair the team.”
His former teammate, Lawal, opined that it is sometimes difficult for both players and
coaches to win their first games, insisting that the draw could be what the team
needed to step up their game.
“Every coach wants to win his first game, but we have to be grateful for the draw. It
could have been worse. First games are always difficult for teams,” Lawal said.
“The players these days are different from those in my playing days. We played by
emulating the senior players in the team, by trying to impress them, so my debut in the
national team was not on a disappointing note. But players in today’s Super Eagles
have no senior players to look up to. They are more or less contemporaries both at
club level and in the national team; they don’t have that competition among themselves
when fighting for roles.
“Nigeria have no choice now but to win the remaining matches in the group if they
must qualify for the AFCON finals.”
The Super Eagles will host Niger in a friendly on Tuesday in Port Harcourt, Rivers State,
but their next qualifying game against Egypt holds on March 23, 2016.
http://www.punchng.com/sports/dont-judge-oliseh-yet-akpoborie-lawal/

eyeview:
He's very correct.
Meanwhile,among all those 'qualified' northern appointees that Buhari has been filling the whole place with,can anyone tell me any of them that is 'qualified' enough to earn himself an international recognition or appointment?

Iweala was a world Bank personal and she served under GEJ and she was recognized all over the world yet she lost economic theory and principles by telling us we are the strong economy in Africa. The same your world known person told us that our economy was strong against strong warning from financial bodies and renowned economists that our economy was heading downward, now few months later she then saw that she was not sound (no be by certificate or world recognition). I beg I will prefer to use unknown brains than world known who is a liar, not sound, not sincere, not smart person.

this Giwa Don turn Enyimba nightmare oooo. Now 4 meetings and I never fit win one. Nawa oooo. Ha!!! Unbeaten run Don spoil well sha I still dey on top. No problem. Sunshine Stars jus go where u belong (no 4 to no16)

kayflexi:
sunshine don fall ma hand again sunshine don fall ma hand again

you dey expect them for top three at the end of the season?

79' GOAL! Wikki 3-1 Akwa Utd # WIKAKW . Ebenezer Odeyemi gives Wikki a 2-goal lead

HT: Heartland 0-0 Rangers # HEARAN
STATS:
Corners: 1-2
Offside: 2-3
Fouls: 8-8
Shots 4-3
On Target: 1-1
Yellow: 0-0
Red: 0-0
Possession 50%-50%

72' PENALTY! Giwa FC 0-0 Enyimba # GIWENY. Scramble in Enyimba's box and
Anyanwu handles the ball in his box. Spot kick to Giwa

73' GOAL! FC Ifeanyiubah 2-0 FC Taraba # IFETAR Chukwude Stephen doubles the
hosts' advantage with a beautiful goal.

82' GOAL! Shooting Stars 2-1 Sunshine Stars # SHOSUN . Tope Orelope gives the hosts
the lead from the spot.

79' Nasarawa Utd 1-1 Wolves # NASWOL. Egbeta equalizes for Wolves.

73' GOAL! FC Ifeanyiubah 2-0 FC Taraba # IFETAR Chukwude Stephen doubles the
hosts' advantage with a beautiful goal.

82' GOAL! Shooting Stars 2-1 Sunshine Stars # SHOSUN . Tope Orelope gives the hosts
the lead from the spot.

74' Shooting Stars 1-1 Sunshine Stars # SHOSUN . Sunshine on the counter. Dayo Ojo
races away, it is 2 to beat one but Ebiaku puts in a super tackle to deny Ojo time and
space

75' Shooting Stars 1-1 Sunshine Stars # SHOSUN . It's now raining in Ibadan

Rangers first substituted Rasaq due to injury bringing in chinedu Udeagha. Heartland
brought in Macmarcel for Brownbraye

77' PENALTY! Shooting Stars 1-1 Sunshine Stars # SHOSUN . Ref Ogabor points to the
spot in controversial fashion.

klarrychenko94:
Man fear God oooo.... How can u tag this papa under 20.. undr 20 for which village.

Na me tag am abi na im picture be that. Abi u no know am?

GOAL Update! Wikki 2-1 Akwa Utd #WIKAKW . Mubarak Umar restores Wikki's lead

56' FC Ifeanyiubah 0-0 FC Taraba # IFETAR. Two bookings in quick succession for
Taraba. First, Konan Boris for a foul and then goalkeeper Ikechukwu Obilo for time
wasting.

58' GOAL! Ifeanyiubah 1-0 FC Taraba # IFETAR Substitute Abdulwahab Bidenu fires
home from close range to give the hosts the lead.

56' Giwa FC 0-0 Enyimba # GIWENY

34' Heartland 0-0 Rangers # HEARAN . Heartland chance. Bright Ejike taps Fortune
Omoniwari's cross above the woodwork from six yards.

55' GOAL! Kwara Utd 1-0 Abia Warriors # KWAABI . David Ayeni with the opening goal in Ilorin
53' GOAL! El-Kanemi 1-1 Lobi # ELK . Michael Ogu equalises for Lobi
50' GOAL! Wikki 1-1 Akwa Utd # WIKAKW . Ukeme Davies with a screamer from a distance to level the score

#GloNPFL at Half Time
FC Ifeanyiubah 0-0 FC Taraba
Giwa FC 0-0 Enyimba
El-Kanemi 1-0 Lobi Stars
Wikki 1-0 Akwa Utd
Shooting Stars 1-1 Sunshine Stars
Nasarawa Utd 1-0 Wolves
Kwara Utd 0-0 Abia Warriors

46' Shooting Stars 1-1 Sunshine Stars # SHOSUN . Second half starts

10' Heartland 0-0 Rangers # HEARAN . Babangida Hassan (Heartland) hits the woodwork
from a stunning 20 yards strike.

15' Heartland 0-0 Rangers FC # HEARAN

Late Kick-off in Owerri. Heartland and Rangers just got underway in Owerri. 0-0
45' MISS: Best chance of the game falls to Taraba's Bishop Onyeudo who drags his
shot wide when put through on goal by Nwaogwu. FC Ifeanyiubah 0-0 FC Taraba
#IFETAR

2' Miss! Rangers' Razaq Adegbite's shot is diverted by Wale Doyeni. 0-0 # HEARAN

After initial disputes over three players, Osas Okoro, Bobby Clement and Orji Kalu,
formerly of Heartland, Rangers accepted to abide by decision of Arbitration Panel and
have now brought in Okey Odita Dada Britus for Bobby Clement and Orji Kalu in the
Rangers starting XI. # HEARAN

45" Esosa Igbinoba rolls in a cheeky free kick to give Nassarawa United the lead on the
stroke of half time. Nasarawa 1-0 Warri Wolves #NASWOL

HT Giwa FC 0-0 Enyimba # GIWENY

Late Kick-off in Owerri. Heartland and Rangers just got underway in Owerri. 0-0
45' MISS: Best chance of the game falls to Taraba's Bishop Onyeudo who drags his
shot wide when put through on goal by Nwaogwu. FC Ifeanyiubah 0-0 FC Taraba
#IFETAR

2' Miss! Rangers' Razaq Adegbite's shot is diverted by Wale Doyeni. 0-0 # HEARAN

After initial disputes over three players, Osas Okoro, Bobby Clement and Orji Kalu,
formerly of Heartland, Rangers accepted to abide by decision of Arbitration Panel and
have now brought in Okey Odita Dada Britus for Bobby Clement and Orji Kalu in the
Rangers starting XI. # HEARAN

40' SAVE: Taraba goalie Ikechukwu Obilo denies Meshack Chukwuibukem from point
blank range after his defenders went to bed in broad daylight. FC Ifeanyiubah 0-0 FC
Taraba # IFETAR

37' Giwa FC 0-0 Enyimba # GIWENY

45' FC Ifeanyiubah 0-0 FC Taraba # IFETAR Six minutes added to this half blighted by
injuries and stoppages.

40' Elkanemi Warriors has been the dominant side after 40 minutes. Chinedu Ohanacho
has been the tormentor in chief to the visitors, laying series of crosses from the right
flank and with a close range header that was intelligently saved by GK Terka Melai of
Lobi. Achiv Douglas of Lobi have tried to also put pressure on the hosts with spot kicks
that almost gave his side the lead earlier in the game but those efforts were denied by
GK George Michael and Auta Yakubu, Agali Emmanuel got the lone goal of the game
for the hosts on 21' # ELKLOB .

Heartland V Rangers game delayed at Dan Anyanwu stadium. Heartland agitation over
fielding of der players dat Rangers have not completed their payment. Rangers insist
NFF did not warn them prior to the game so will not remove d players.

Rangers finally pullout Bobby Clement & Orji Kalu so the game can commence.

32' Lobi"s Achiv Douglas with another hot shot from a free kick, intercepted by Yakubu
Auta of Elkanemi, El-Kanemi 1-0 Lobi Stars # ELKLOB

30'Substitution! Early change for Taraba as John Huan comes off injured, replaced by
Stephen Adah. FC Ifeanyiubah 0-0 FC Taraba # IFETAR

GOAL update! Wikki 1-0 Akwa Utd # WIKAKW . Victor Yakubu with the goal on 25

35' Tricky! Akelechi Enokela of Lobi intelligently chips the ball to the Warriors goal post
but Gk George Michael saves, El-Kanemi 1-0 Lobi Stars # ELKLOB .

mobinc:
Abeg, who is at the Dan Anyiam stadium? What's up with Rangers?

Just stay tuned

21' GOAL! El-Kanemi 1-0 Lobi # ELKLOB . Emmanuel Agali with the goal.

30' Kwara Utd 0 VS 0 Abia Warriors......... The host have been the better side but the
warriors from abia have been solid defensively so far. # KwaAbi # Npfl

Eze Stephen given a red card in the 30th for handling a goal bound ball in the 18yard
and a penalty is awarded to Shooting stars.. Wasiu about to play it

34' PENALTY SAVE! Shooting Stars 1-0 Sunshine Stars. Wasiu Jimoh's spot kick is
saved by Sunshine's Ariyo #SHOSUN