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My family and I moved to the UK in 2023. My wife gave birth to our baby that same year before we relocated. She came to the UK as the student while I supported her financially and paid her school fees throughout her studies.

However, since the birth of our child, she has refused any intimacy with me. Now that she started working last year, her attitude towards me has changed completely and I feel she no longer respects me. Because she is the main visa holder and I’m on her dependant visa, I feel stuck and worried about my situation.

I’m also concerned she may be cheating, especially as she hasn’t allowed me to be close to her since 2023. I even called a family meeting to resolve the issue, but it was unsuccessful.

What can I do in this situation?

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See as dis one sell him bite write to another man. Some people no get shame o.

So Kabiyesi no get ordinary jazz to disappear from dem? Na the repercussions of abandoning our culture and traditions be dat. We abandoned our traditions just because of other people's religions. Na una eyes don clear.

Bottled: Arsenal lose more points...

Dear You.

1. Five games in 12 days isn’t the excuse. Poor squad management is. Timber, Zubimendi and Martinelli were passengers in the second half and should’ve been hooked. Teams are clearly targeting Arsenal's right side now; Saliba and Timber have been exposed for weeks, yet nothing changes. Timber drifts forward chasing moments instead of defending properly. Arsenal couldn't retain the ball, couldn't play simple passes to control a game against a struggling side, yet players like Ben White, Nørgaard and Lewis-Skelly barely see minutes.

2. Over a billion pounds spent. 5 years and only 1 FA Cup won. These players haven't won anything meaningful for Arsenal. They have that opportunity now. Will they bottle it?

3. The subs didnt make sense today; wrong profiles at the wrong time, and once Gyökeres goes off, they lose every long ball and second phase. Arsenal fans are now saying the league run has been poor, and the common denominator is the manager burning out his squad and mismanaging games.

4. Today, they get to the edge of the box and lose all bravery. They start playing sideways, backwards, over and over. Total dominance, zero cutting edge. Nobody shoots, nobody takes risks. Possession means nothing if you create absolutely nothing.

5. It’s anti-football. To go 2–0 up with all that attacking talent and then stop doing the work that earned you control. Concede a sloppy goal, lose your nerve, start time-wasting, kicking balls away, and abandoning the basics. From the moment the subs came on, the intensity dropped. And this falls on the manager. He picks the team, makes the changes, sets the tone. In their situation right now, 2–0 is never safe after 80 minutes, yet Arsenal played like it was over. Poor game management, poor mentality, and they got exactly what they deserved.

6. Really crazy. Arteta brings on Calafiori, and two minutes later he scores an own goal. From 2–0 up to throwing it away. Is that bad luck or poor game management?

7. Arsenal keep trying to walk the ball into the net with endless short passes in the box, no conviction, no shots from distance. Meanwhile, Wolves just pull the trigger and make it count. Sometimes you have to shoot, not overthink.

8. Man City will smile at this result. They are coming for the spot!

9. If they draw one more game in their next 3 games. Arteta could lose his job. Which is crazy. Considering how good this team was in December. At some point this season people felt this was the most in-form club.

10. Saka could be best converted to a false 9. So as to keep scoring goals. They needed more goals today but couldnt do more than 2. Will Saka do well playing as 10? All these decision will determine if the fans will intensifies on Arteta Out or not.

Your Bottled Spotter
Ediale
#ForTheCulture

PS: Arsenal fans are down and hopeless now. Never seen them this defeated. I have always wondered where they get their hopeful attitude from .

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Oyedepo 1-0 Adeboye

● Christmas Day: 12 points gap
● New year Day: 9 points gap
● Valentine's Day: 4 points gap
● Salah Day: it will be 1 point gap
● Easter Day: Second position
● Children's day: They will be clapping for the winner.
▪︎ New Yam festival: We go again! 🥺😩😩

Mirasteel:
Arsenal haters are all on this thread 😂😂😂😂😂

i am number one

Eyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa! The premier league trophy for this season is goned. Dominique sorry o.

Two wrongs cannot make a write now.

Election wey na APC go clear everything.

obaidan:
especially mouth, e be like na follow come

na so o. The thing be like follow come for dem.

Dis guy gra gra too much jare. He is always fighting or complaining wherever he goes. Na so he go scatter leg when him dey waka like sey na him be the king of football.

Kenyan women too dey fine. There only problem are mouth and body odours

Nnamdipapa:
I got these books for 16, 200 Naira today in Lagos, you couldn't get one of these books for less than $15 on Amazon or bookshops in Canada.

the books are sheep here in Nigeria because most Nigerians don't buy nor read books.

See as kro kro full Fela's body.

The sharing formula no work out for dem be dat. They're all the same.

*"PROFESSIONS IN NIGERIA THAT END IN POVERTY — AND HOW TO ESCAPE BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE"*

This one hits hard, exposes painful truths, makes people emotional, and offers real escape plans. It’s designed to go viral, especially with Nigerian audiences.

“35 YEARS OF SERVICE... AND NOTHING TO SHOW FOR IT?”
A painful post about teaching, civil service, healthcare, and other respected professions that leave people broke after retirement.

Have you ever seen a retired teacher in Nigeria?

Bent back… faded glasses… walking to a ministry office every Monday with a pension file tucked under one arm, hoping—praying—that this will be the day his name finally enters payment batch?

Ever watched a civil servant who once wore sharp suits and supervised millions… now begging his son for ₦2,000?

Have you seen a nurse who worked night shifts for 30 years… now sitting in her one-room apartment, sharing malaria drugs with her neighbors because she can’t afford to refill her own prescription?

This post is for them.

This post is for anyone still believing that passion, loyalty, and salary alone will protect them from poverty.

In Nigeria, some professions will give you respect while you’re working… and regrets when you retire.

And here’s the painful part:

It’s not the job that’s the problem.
It’s the mindset people carry while doing it.

1. TEACHING – THE POVERTY HEADQUARTERS IN NIGERIA

Let’s not even sugarcoat it.
Teaching is 001 when it comes to professions that give you a big heart and an empty account.

You build nations, raise presidents, shape doctors and engineers…

Yet when your legs grow weak, and your voice gets tired, the same system throws you into silence.

Let’s talk facts:

Starting salary? Between ₦75k to ₦80k.

Transport fare and food? ₦1,500 – ₦2,000 per day.

What’s left after family, church contributions, and survival? PEANUTS.

You wake up by 5 a.m., go teach stubborn students, mark 120 scripts, attend endless meetings, go home with headaches, and repeat it 5 days a week…

…Only to retire and depend on pension money that doesn’t even come regularly.

Reality:

Teachers get respect, not results.

Teachers are praised in speeches but punished by salary structures.

Teachers retire tired and often broke.

ESCAPE PLAN:

Monetize what you know: Start online tutorials, digital lesson notes, or eBooks for students.

Private coaching: Set up home lessons for rich kids. They’ll pay you more than government ever did.

Start educational businesses: Lesson centres, daycare, education consulting.

Don’t wait for pension—start investing in land, side businesses, or even digital products now.

> "You can die for education in Nigeria—and still die poor."

2. CIVIL SERVANTS – OGA IN OFFICE, STRUGGLER AT HOME

You see them every day:
They dress sharp, hold titles like “Chief Planning Officer” or “Deputy Director”…

But many civil servants are just surviving on loans and promises.

You spend 30 years working… then 3 years chasing your pension.

By the time you retire, your firstborn is already feeding you.

Why does it happen?

Blind loyalty to government.

Zero investment mindset.

Living above their means just to “look the part.”

ESCAPE PLAN:

Use your salary as seed, not your source.
Invest in small businesses, land, or trade.

Learn financial literacy.
Budget, save, and plan your exit before retirement catches you unaware.

Build side income: farms, rentals, retail, even POS.

3. NURSES & HEALTH WORKERS – YOU SAVED OTHERS, BUT WHO SAVED YOU?

Long nights. Ward duties. Emergency calls. Saving lives every day.

But in Nigeria? Nurses retire to high blood pressure, unpaid pensions, and hospitals they can’t afford to enter.

You worked for the system—but the system didn’t work for you.

ESCAPE PLAN:

Start private elderly care or mobile health services.

Build an online brand: health tips, consultations, and products.

Create health coaching services for busy professionals.

Learn to turn your medical knowledge into a product or service.

4. POLICE & MILITARY – “RISKED LIFE, REWARDED WITH POVERTY”

You carried gun. Protected lives. Slept in bush. Fought robbers.

But guess what?

When you remove that uniform, you’ll see that poverty has no respect for bravery.

Many ex-officers are suffering. Not because they didn’t serve—but because they didn’t build.

ESCAPE PLAN:

Start a security consulting firm.

Offer VIP protection services or training programs.

Invest in logistics, transport, or real estate while still in service.

Don’t spend all your salary drinking at mess—buy land.

5. CLERGY & CHURCH WORKERS – “GOD’S WORKER, YET HUNGRY”

Not every pastor is rich.

Many preach for 40 years and still die broke. Why?

No financial plan.

No personal investment.

Total dependence on unpredictable offerings.

ESCAPE PLAN:

Write devotionals, run marriage counselling, or record online teachings.

Start a Christian YouTube or podcast platform.

Sell books or branded spiritual journals.

Use your influence to raise partnerships for income projects.

Even Apostle Paul made tents. Why are you depending only on tithe?

6. ENGINEERS, DOCTORS, LAWYERS – IT’S NOT BY TITLE

Yes, you read that right.

In Nigeria, title is not equal to success.
There are engineers begging for jobs.
Doctors borrowing transport fare.
Lawyers trekking to court.

Why?

Because school taught them how to be professionals—but not how to build wealth.

ESCAPE PLAN:

Learn business. Learn branding. Learn packaging.

Use your knowledge to offer premium services online.

Start side hustles that fund your future—don’t wait for “better job offers.”

Network with business-minded people, not just fellow professionals.

7. FARMERS – THE PEOPLE WHO FEED THE NATION… BUT CAN’T FEED THEMSELVES

No jokes.

Farmers work from dawn to dusk… only to sell at bad prices, face middlemen, and lose harvests to lack of storage.

They produce for Nigeria, yet they beg to survive.

ESCAPE PLAN:

Join or create farming co-ops.

Invest in agro-processing or distribution.

Partner with people who can help scale, export, or digitize farming.

Create farm tours, organic products, or digital farm courses.

THE REAL ENEMY IS NOT THE JOB.

IT’S YOUR MINDSET.

Suffering is not holy. Loyalty is not a retirement plan.

Start investing now.

Start building side income.

Stop eating all your salary.

Stop saying “It’s too late.”

Whether you’re 25 or 55… the best time to start was yesterday.
The next best time is NOW.

IF THIS POST TOUCHED YOU:

Tag a teacher.

Tag a civil servant.

Tag a nurse or police officer.

Tag that your uncle who believes pension will save him.

SHARE this post. Let the world see the truth.
Because in Nigeria?

Profession can give you praise… but only financial wisdom can give you peace.


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This is no longer news now. Tinubu the holder of the National greed is always falling and collapsing too now

May FIFA's verdict not favour Nigeria

Government wey don already damaged itself right from reception. Abeg make we word jare.

Great100000:
Congratulations, Nigeria! We're not just going to the World Cup — we're going there to win it and make history as the first African nation to lift the trophy!" 🇳🇬🔥

if na joke make you stop am o. I no like rough play o.

I love this news. This is the kind of news I always like to hear. E sweet me for body well well.

May their final decision not favour us.

If I talk my mind now, nairaland go ban me for 100 years.

The case should be investigated, if he is found guilty, he should be made to face the full rat of the law

As far as I'm concerned, both of them didn't did anything.

folake4u:
In what way please?

Law isn't based on sentiments.

that's true, it is based on the highest bidder, especially with all the political georgements given by our courts in recent years

folake4u:
Hahahaha G.G, you really dislike this guy. 🤣

But yessssss, he has all lawyers at his beck and call. He thought this would also be a walk in the park for him, since the rich obviously get away with a lot in Nigeria.

Barrister Folake una no try at all o. Na so una dey do to children ni?

Davido I'm available, please come and adopt me. I'm ony 54 years old.

Arsenal is loosing this one again. The premier league is not for babies.