₦airaland Forum

She doesn't feel comfortable with body contact

My best memory of my late friend was when I visited her when she was sick. I took her out and spoiled her with the little money I had. She told me she knew I'll always be there for her even when everyone runs away from her. I was glad because she knew how much I valued our friendship.
I felt sure of that one friend who I can call at any time, who had my best interest at heart.
she called me that she needed to see me as soon as possible and we agreed to meet two weeks later.
only to be told she died
I lost grip on reality. How did someone so beautiful, pure, intelligent...just die? When I think of my friend all that comes to mind is her purity and determination.
I miss you so much G.G. The years pass and I'm still trying to make sense of ur demise. One thing I've finally been able to stop is lying...like you always said, Princess, you should lie to no one and for no one, its never worth it. She was 21.

dacutie1:
I had never lost anyone before, never understood what people went through until i lost my baby @ full term. I was just counting the days before i could finally hold him in my arms. His room was ready, clothes n all. only for me to go to the hospital and there was no heartbeat. I never even got to see him but I was so attached to him. I even used to go for scans just to see him move n hear his heartbeat. We already had a name for him so i always referred to him as if he was already there. Its been a yr + and I still feel so empty, i feel robbed and i'm still not over him.I doubt that I could ever be. It hurts everytime I see a baby of about the same age. I'm still praying for another child and I know that will ease the pain n heartache.........

I'm so sorry about your loss

God be praised

They are not hungry

Meet with your in law and have a deep discussion with him. Don't tell your sister.

hardbody:
Thanks man. Lets go there someday. The only challenge is that my place is addictive. All my friends that visited with me now go on their own without even letting me know. I am however happy that they are happy.

I'm not a man

hardbody:
LOL. Where I come from, every end of year, we compare notes with the guys abroad and so far we are doing better than most if not all of them, so none of these issues arise. Apart from the older generation that hit it big (my uncle who is in Houston and was already large before he traveled and continued doing well, employing oyinbos in his companies both in Nigeria and abroad) and a few others in his category, all my school and classmates are still struggling to make an impact. It was severally a point of discussion as we were hanging out this xmas. We point at their parents dilapidated houses begging for retouch and renovations, you cant see the one they have built for themselves, they bring in one Tokunbo car that they sell when they are done in the Villa, they are stingy with buying booze (we the locals declare for all as many times as they want). All we see around them are large sporting wears with big canvass and a lot of wanna wanna gonna gonna.

Like i said, where i come from...

l like where you come from already

I'm a catholic and my parish priest or any other priest can not decide who I will vote for. Same way I don't tell him who to vote for.

jaybee3:
You got scammed so move the Bleep on with your life na abi wetin you want make we do?

We can't basically yank him off from the other home nor can we help you plead that he increases the time he spends with you.

harsh but true. The truth is always bitter.

We call it afia ekwong in Ibibio. But for reasons i don't know we don't eat it

IkeNwanyiCalaba:
i cannot even understanding you. you talk in idioms. you have some explane to do. next time try make yourself easy in your explnatione and i will know to help you. From the small i understand, you are fighting with your boyfriend. my simple advise is live boyfriend girlfriend thing alone because all is vanity upon vanity. give your life to christ. thank you.

I'm guessing this was a mistake because all u dey yarn no follow

Imyourex:
*Falls from my mum's back and starts ROTFLMAO!*

this one that you are falling off ur mum's back, how many of ur wives will die?

sylvalord:
[color=grey]EVIL CHILD!! [/color]

its a mistake, I meant to say I felt it will happen. That's why I stayed back

emusmith:
I believe you...
can you show us for some doudter's sake...

that was in 2010. The phone got bad 2yrs ago

I went to visit my uncle (of blessed memory) in Oron for new year and Xmas hols in Oron. There was something like a street carnival where all the masquerades parade all the streets and people watch from their houses. A particular one was coming, ma uncle asked me to go inside that females don't look at that one. Me I was busy snapping away with my phone (cybershot Sony Ericsson) from his room window. I was sure. Next thing. The procession turned to my uncle's house, they came and hit machete all over the place, at this point I was scared. I ran away. They told my uncle a female was watching them that they shd bring me out, my uncle was begging. That I'm new, he gave hot drinks and some stuff they asked for and they told him to warn me.
when they left my cousins and my uncle came into where I was hiding and asked what I was did. I said I taking pictures. They asked to see them...we found nothing on my phone, just blank shots like I snapped a white background. But my old pics were still on my phone. It baffles me me till today. I was sure I took those pics. I even viewed them while I was hiding.

When I was about 7, I dreamt how a baby died. I woke up to hear people wailing in our neighbor's apartment. I asked mum what happened, she said our neighbor's baby died a few mins ago.
another time, I dreamt of how my parents had an accident, so that morning I refused going to mass with them. I pretended to be sick. Somehow I felt if I went with them, the accident won't happen. Minutes later, they came home that they had accident just as they turned off our street. I screamed as she described the exact scene in my dream. I told her I saw it. She begged me that anytime I saw anything, I should tell her immediately.
growing up was tough on me cos, I'd see someone and the next thing, I'd see what's about to happen to the person, I didn't know what it was cos we are Catholics and I had no siblings to share it.
one day I begged God to take it away, that I'll go crazy.

When I was in boarding school...i used to misplace my things a lot. SS1, mum bought me a cardigan and warned that if I misplaced that one again, that would be the last one she'll buy for me till I finished school.
somehow, despite how careful I was, the cardigan still got missing.
I and my friends searched for it everywhere, but we couldn't find it. I was so worried cos that term none of my things missed.
some days to end of the term, I was in class after afternoon prep, I kinda dozed off
a voice asked me why my mind is troubled, I said I really wanted my cardigan cos I didn't want mum to be angry with me.
the voice asked what else I wanted, I said I wanted my friend to pass math, cos she cried after our math exam.
the voice and asked what else I wanted, I said nothing else. He told me that I'm a child, that I shd go to the next class, that I'll find my cardigan on the second desk and that my friend will be the best math student in our class.
I woke up and went to the next class and found my cardigan on the second desk. My friend had an A in math from that day right up to WAEC/NECO
I never told her, I mean, I couldn't explain what had happened to me. That was the 2nd time. I was 13

Forbidden fruit tastes d sweetest...its d rush in knowing that u r doing what u shouldn't be doing. Distance makes the heart fonder...u get to see so little of him, so he makes the little time he gets to be with u to be very interesting.
some married men r always gonna complain to u...my wife is boring, she's not sexy, nags...bla bla bla but by 7pm he's already in a rush to go back to 'that boring woman'.
be wise? Call urself by ur name and advice urself

rezzy: Is there any proverb/saying like

It is better to be late than to be late.

Yes there is. It means it is better for one to arrive a place late than to arrive dead (Late Mr so so n so). Just like saying 'it is better to be safe than sorry'

Cpumping: IF WISHES WERE HORSES, BEGGERS WOULD RIDE... Me i never still comprehend dis one..

Sm1 shd please explain.

in idiomatic expressions, u don't look at d words as they are, u look at d hidden meaning.

smileysmiles: go figure. lol. shes 87 tho if she hangs on till 90 i'll give her kids to feed, but for now all i av is a dog!

lolzzz...u r in for more trouble from her till further notice.

smileysmiles: @least your grandmother doesnt tell your dog that she only feeds kids and not dogs.

OMG!!! She didn't really say that right?

PDA is cool...but can we just keep it private n simple for only ourselves?

I get cash from my dad for that when I'm home n broke. Poor man doesn't know d price...sometimes 2k or more.

Its supposed to be funny...but d over exaggeration dulled it for me. None of what he said rings true. I'm an only child. Female. Raised in Nigeria. But my parents raised me like a son. I do everything I'm sure most male children do. A girl shd be raised to be graceful when need be n roll her jean n do the needful when such situations arise.

francesoly: Thanks fr dis topic, I think am suffering from it too cos after I lost my Hus a yr ago, am always sick n I have treated several times both malaria n typhoid n I have even tasted fr hypertatis cos of my frequent sickness BT all in vain, I don't understand myselm n my system again n dat gets me frustrated cos sometimes when am having dis symptoms of malaria n typhoid I don't bother going to hospital or taking drugs cos I know its d same old story n as am writing dis I have been having dat signs. Of sickness fr 2wks n am not ready to drink any drug. I change my WK n location to know if I can recorver but Noway, I don't tell pple or relative anymore cos they are tired of my complaints n don't seem to understand me. Other symptoms am having are sleeplessness, lack of appetite, body pains like a sign of malaria,emtptyness is sometimes I feel like dying BT if I look at my children I reject dat one, I always WK overtime in my office not dat I like it but to keep myself busy cos its worse when am at home doing nothing, even d little sleep I will have will be full of dreams n I don pray n tired abt waking up every morning to cancel any negative dreams I had. Pls I need yr assistance bf I go mad

I can only imagine what you are going through...sometimes people really do not understand. Find a therapist if u can't do it alone. And allow urself to heal at least a little. U r hurting from ur loss n emotional pain is a rollercoaster. I imagine u even get panic attacks. Be strong. For urself n for ur kids

chimerase2: Rip to u ma hero
I luv the way she act her movie she is a no nonsense person like patience she is ma mentor
She has really touched ma life with her movies
*sobs grabs handky*
Death why why did u take her any frm us no more war film for me again

. lwkmd...r u 4 real?

wiseguy: I listened to that news. I am not a fan of the President but I think Mr. Sawyer or whatever deserved worse. Infact, describing him as crazy is just putting it very mild. He is no better than a terrorist. I bet Mama Peace would have done a better job here. Where is the first lady when she's needed most?

on point...lolzzz

This must be a joke...wtf

She has left u. Its a little consolation package

I can't really remember my 1st A...bt my 1st F stands out in my memory cos I broke down at the notice board whr the results were pasted. No be small cry o. My exam officer passed by n saw me cry, d man could not help laughing o. And to think it was a single unit course...PHY 112 sha...Uniuyo