@ all4naija[b] China is a country, shell is a company[/b]. . . e no different for your eye? china is looking to build intl r/ship, i believe shell is there for profit. besides, are if we're constantly going to be looking for companies and countries to do for us because we cannot do for ourselves. . . things will be difficult for us o

Well, it depends on the grounds of the initial separation. the more amicable the separation, the less business you guys should have with each other. Cos since una no quarrel, the timbers of ur romance will still be there. before you know it, u remember the way she used to laugh, or sigh when u touch her, etc. There's really no need to be friends like dat cos there'll kinda always be a string tying you both.

Fhemmmy:

pls tell him oh

I'm a gal!!! Well,like i've been saying,i guess i'm just being optimistic. both of them are close to me and would hate for their marriage to be unsuccessful.

p.s, the beating wasnt a pumelling though.so the question of killing her doesnt really come in like dat.but if its any comfort to anyone, she won the fight. he has the bite marks to prove. i think it was more of him holding her down ( wiv occasional swipes sha).
I hope they look back at this and laugh at their stupidity.

everybody has a threashold for anger. its easy to say all the 'walk away' or 'go for a spin' or 'listen to some music'! but why didnt she do that too? this is where both of them are wrong kinda. its possible that she too had reached her own point of no return. so,she pushed him out of no return. before any of you preach the whole walk away thing.just consider that everyone has a point where they just cant control themselves.

infact,me sef, I dont know which side I'm on.lol

Of course,we can all stand on our moral high grounds and say no man should ever beat a woman. . . . but please, dnt now provoke him to the point where he does that. Although this gives excuse to those men who terrorise their wives for no reason. But please, a woman and a man have lived in the same house for up to 5 years, he has never touched her b4 now. so that means the woman should know which bottons to press and what not. Its almost as if she knew what she was looking for.
Maybe he had really been fustrating her sha. one can never tell. like u've all said, all marriages have thier own issues.
and as for Ffhemmy, if you think this marriage is doomed,maybe you dont know  lot about marriages! no be today yansh de for back. they're most likely going to reconcile and use this as a reference to their lowest point! (am i sounding too hopeful?)

that 2 days after, I find out that he has this steady babe that everyone except me knows about! but i try not to let the fear bother me too much. if it works out, it does. if it doesnt, it doesnt! dem no de die put

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@poster
the husband should have known that pregnant women experience mood and anxiety problems due to their "hormone overdrive" which can affect their day to day sanity. the husband should have understood that and play it down accordingly.

We all know the rules! but that's why I say it takes super human strength to 'walk away' or 'turn the other cheek' when somone leaves ur crown jewels bare! not only infront of children who'll prob forget,but infront of house girl who'll NEVER forget what Oga's 'ding-dong' looks like!

another part of me argues that for her to have done that,the wife too must have been pushed to the wall. but well,in the end, 2 of dem don chop shame na. . . I feel bad.makes me worry about marriage and what turns sensible people into betta morons!

Well, most couples dont 'PLAN' to have quarrels in front of their children. somehow,i feel its easier said than done. dunno. . . sha. and as for simply walking away, he tried to do that but she wouldnt let him.
I just feel bad cos when she was giving me the gist, I couldnt entirely support her. cos i felt what she did was wrong. but some people feel that no matter what a woman does, a man should not lay a finger on his wife. I used to be of this opinion until I saw this case. I pray that I never push my husband (when ever he materialises) into doing this. I think i've changed my views to no man should beat his wife unless inhumanely provoked. not when she doesnt cook the 'eba' well, or she's always singing or some other silly excuse.if u want to rack ur wife,let it be for something u would have racked even mike tyson for!

A friend of mine (pregnant) and her husband got into a heated argument. In the course of the argument, Man brushes her aside (granted,not smoothly). He apologises to her, and goes to take a bath to cool off. As he leaves the bathroom, His wife tears his boxers of his waist! iin front of the househelp and kids. He is terribly embarrased, and he picks up a towel and she snatches the towel off him and leaves him standing naked! He tries to run into the room but she blocks him and pushes him roughly. of course the husband (who is normaly really hot tempered) proceeds to beat her!

Now, I'm a gal, I wont stand for any man, (born by beast, man, or both) to lay a finger on me in this life, or the next even!especially when i'm pregnant.

However, I dont think I will tear my husbands clothes and leave him in all his glory infront of my kids and the househelp! My friend is normally even headed, and so is her husband even with his temper. I have no idea how they came to this. But I honestly feel that she was wrong in doing that to him. I think its only grace that can stop a man (or even a woman) from attacking anyone who does this.

Granted,no man should beat his wife, but should a wife also provoke her husband? He's only human and there's so much he can endure!

lol!i was reading the post and i just realised a few weeks ago,my ans would've been;

I miss the way he used to smile, the volatile chemistry we had, the way he made me feel like I meant something, the way he could be sacarstic but hilarious at the same time, and his wit!(all these r stuff I miss frm 3 diff guys o)

but now,I've kinda found all that in someone new.lol! I honestly hope this one doesnt give me something to miss too!

My sis went to visit her friend sometime ago and bought biscuits for her friends son. When she gave them to the little boy,she was a bit surprised at how greedily he tore at the wrappings and starting grubbing. so,she asked him, bobo,why're you eating like that? and he says
'i have to start eating them before aunty comes.she begs too much!'
he was talking bout his mum's sis!