₦airaland Forum

Giddyperson:
Lmao, I call them the cumin position , they never fail

O. M. G! I said it!!!

The son of man has spoilt her!


I was expecting you to blush the blush and smile prettily while lowering your eyes!!!


How is giddybaby?

Giddyperson:
Engymababe when how and where did I spoil biko

Lol, I have been reading up and saw a post where you suggested a 'position' no actually two positions and I was like

Giddyperson?

Zaynieeee! I gbadun you! Keep it up!!!

fabulouskay:
...Or get a vet to administer Oxytocin injection. Better still if u can do it urself cos an ample costs #50

Oxytocin to the mom?

Thank you

Help Needed Urgently

Good day all.

My GSD littered recently. Seven. Lost one at birth. On Monday, the vet came over and gave them their first vaccine. Suddenly, all the puppies are down. Fortunately two have been adopted. Lost one two days ago, remaining two.

I just noticed that the smallest one is worse and she is only active when she is suckling from the mom. They had been weaned at about 6 weeks so I feel she can't be lactating much.

What can I give her to boost her lactating? Should I resort to milk supplement?

ekhai:
THIS WOMAN NEEDS TO BE CHARGED TO COURT FOR CHILD CUSTODY ABUSE. HOW CAN A SIX YEARS OLD BE MADE TO CARRY A CHILD OF 13 MONTHS ALONE ALONG A ROAD? CAN SHE EVEN TAKE CARE OF HERSELF?
MAY THE INNOCENT CHILD BE FOU D UNHURT.

My thoughts exactly!

A 6 year old and a 13 month old coming from extramural classes? I smell something funny.

By the way, has Nigeria gotten so bad that the keke could not be chased or the number taken? Keke oh not bike!!!

aribisala0:
hehehe
NO I love lawyers actually ,I have many in my family and I employ at least two. I particularly resent the Nigerian variety of lawyer. Our legal system is based on the British or more accurately the English legal system. I have interacted with lawyers in England and other Commonwealth countries and still do till tomorrow.That is the standard that I compare with.
The fact is Nigerian lawyers live in the 18th century with a lot of outdated bombast and ultimately at the lower levels are worse than useless. For you to get any value out of a Nigerian lawyer he or she must have well over 10 years experience after getting a law degree and going to law school. They cannot speak proper English most of the time and will cost you a lot of money if you trust simple tasks to them.

Do you know that in England you do not have to have a law degree to become a solicitor? Still a solicitor with two years experience is worth all the money.This is not a matter or race. It was not like that in Nigeria 30 years ago
I have to work with lawyers virtually every day so sentiments do not come into it. I employ full time and also contract others in and out of Nigeria. My observation is Nigerian lawyers are quite often a waste of money. If you give them a job such as drafting a conveyance agreement be sure to read it over because most likely it is a cut and paste that you could have done yourself

Maybe because the judiciary is so corrupt in Nigeria and success does not depend on hard work or some other reason,I can only speculate all I can say is Nigerian lawyers are very poor

Back to the subject whether or not I love or hate them can you deal with any of the issues I have raised on its merits? Am I right or wrong?

Imagine the rubbish that clown wrote about power of attorney in Abuja!!

Where do I start to answer the issues you have raised? They are kind of fused but let me give it a shot!

The barrister and solicitors in England bill per hour. They are not paid 15,000 at the end of the month sometimes without appearance fees and with insults as an allowance. The Nigerian lawyer is not appreciated. The Nigerian will prefer to give 10% commission to the agent who directs him to a property than to give 10% to the Lawyer whose duty it is to conduct a search and ensure that the buyer has a good title on purchase. The Nigerian would prefer to go to a letter writter or computer center to have an agreement 'carpentered' for him.

The overall attitude of disrespect and underappreciation directed at the Nigerian Lawyer is responsible for the cut and paste syndrome. If we get value for our services am sure my colleagues will ensure that we put in the required effort.

There are a lot of short cuts taken by the average Nigerian lawyer but I believe that it is not enough to warrant the disdain and apathy you bestow upon us. An attempt to compare the British and Nigerian lawyer will NEVER be equitable because they work under different conditions of service. Bring the British solicitor or Barrister to Nigerian for just one year and you would be stunned beyond speechless.

The truth is that your attack was unwarranted. There are a lot of engineers like you but I am also willing to bet that not all Nigerian engineers are conscientious and hard working and you will feel hurt if someone starts to bash you simply because of his/ her experiences with another or indeed other engineer(s)

I cannot speak for all the lawyers as regards their personal attitude but I can assure you that my reputation means a lot to me. I prefer to have the reputation of a lawyer who does her job asap rather than one who delays cases by way of adjournments simply to collect appearance fees. Just as there are lots of market women in the market selling a variety of wares in the same way there are several lawyers and a litigant need a to be wise and search for one that suits their purposes.

By the way, if you check my first post on this topic you will see my allusion to jurisdictions where by practice of lawyers POAs are used to transfer title in a bid to circumvent certain taxes and bureaucracy. Well, the Abuja based poster who spoke about POA was speaking from experience. I remember being taught about that in Abuja law school. I did not pay it much of a mind cos I really only need to focus on the practice in my jurisdiction as I will likely never get a brief from that jurisdiction.

By the way, there is a saying that 'God forbid that a lawyer should know all the LAW. He just needs to know where to find it' All the advice on this thread by lawyers were not paid for. In England before getting advice from a solicitrr, you will pay consultation fee right?


Oh and by the way....I am 10 years post call.

@aribisala0, I wonder why you are actively trying to rubbish the effort of the lawyers who have taken pains to enlighten the op.

All they/we did was to restrict our answer regarding the POA to transfer of title in land because that is what op needs.

However, you have abandoned the issue and decided to rain insults on Donnyperry personally and lawyers generally.

I must confess that it seems you have been deeply hurt by a lawyer. Whoever he/ she is...I crave your indulgence...










Please, forgive and forget.

Peritus:
I will advise you not just as a lawyer, but as a property law practitioner. You see, even if you are collecting deed of assignment, make sure that you have power of attorney. Many have told u that it doesn't transfer title. Yes, but it does a better work than transfer of title. For a deed of assignment to be valid, there must be consent (in Abuja, by the minister for FCT). Getting a ministerial consent takes time. It can take up to a year.
Now, somebody can transfer all his power (right) over a property via power of attorney and equally foreclose his own right. He can give u power to sell to anybody and to urself. He can also donate to u power to collect any compensation upon revocation of title. What it means is that he can no longer act on the property, and ur powers are irrevocable. Here, the property in real sense belongs to u without u going through the huddles of regularization or registration.
Once consent is not obtained, ur Deed of Assignment becomes a love letter, and no transfer is deemed in law. POA is very necessary, and to me more important than DOA if well couched by a good lawyer.

Exactly why I mentioned earlier that in certain jurisdictions, a need to circumvent some tax issues may necessitate the use of POAs.

Despite been lawyers, one can only ever really be grounded in the practice and procedure of your own jurisdiction. I remember this distinction from law school but you elucidated it. Thanks for refreshing my memory

ANENEANDASSOC:
Deed of assignment is mere paper not backed by law .But Power of attorney is a legal document transferring ownership of property from one party to another. it is signed,sealed and stamped and entered .It is very essential when processing your certificate of occupancy moreover i hope you have checked with AGIS and FCDA the authenticity of such land that you purchased. ..If you need enlightenment contact me on whatsapp 08024808190. m an estate surveyor and valuer.

O. M. G!!!



Op Op, Op!!! How many times did I call you? Consult this guy at your own peril.


@MrMcJay, thanks for those links. I had to go read them to verify whether the information is up to date.

It is also worthy of note that in some jurisdictions like Lagos, the use of Power of Attorneys is common because some parties want to avoid certain property taxes so they resort to POA's instead of the proper documentation without averting their minds to the pitfalls enumerated by Omonile. In some other jurisdictions like Benin, POA's are rare.

By the way, even a Deed of Assignment which is properly executed can become a worthless piece of paper if it does not contain a proper root of title. Some people brandish a Deed of Assignment without a root of title of documentation attached thereto and that is so wrong. Op, do not be deceived, consult a lawyer before you pay for any land so that he can do a proper search for you and request an epitome of title from the owner's representative.

doskie:
this person is well informed. You are indeed an expert in the field. I was wondering myself. There are so many irregularities in the story. Like.... it took a university lecturer 3 days to realise his atm is lost? Haba! Not a market woman oh! University lecturer fa!
Is he the one that developed the software? They just said software! What software? How come nobody else has heard of an atm pin breaking software.

It is very possible to not realise that your atm is lost for days cos you might not need it and have an assortment of cards in your wallet giving you the illusion that it is where it should be.

It does not take intelligence, one just needs to be busy and not have an immediate need for the card.

Pavarottii:
Think again. And let me let u know incase u don't know; there is a plan to increase fuel price.

No matter how much we think we will not make any difference if the powers that be decide to increase it. The same NLC will go quiet as soon as their pockets are lined. When we need them they are not available.

Even if it is increased to N500 those of us that can be will buy and if we can't, we park our jalopies and buy lamp shikena!

I cannot come and go and die!!!

henrysam:
This is what zombies displayed when all of us supposed to support NLC when fuel was increased to 145 naira per litre
At leas we could have been buying at 100 or 120/ litre now
Who is suffering it?
Your answer is as good as mine

Really? When did NLC protest? They have been snoring since eternity and they just woke up.

We don't need them, we are NIGERIANS, we will continue to suffer and smile. Whether NLC likes it or not the sun will rise again tomorrow. I am tired of idiots that make vows and go quiet as soon as their private pockets are lined.

RichyRodman:
Investing 5 years of your life in a relationship is not 5 days deary also u can't "dump" him and just move on, is there no other man in your life apart from him? Time waits for no one baby, don't say no to your admirers and toasters,unless u're ugly and your life depends on only him so don't put your eggs in 1 basket else u find yourself in 1 casket! if any of them (other men approaching u) is serious he would make the bold step of seeing your parents,if his own family don't want to be part of " The wedding" they wouldn't be part of the pmarriage either! Move on but don't dump him

Choi! Am shocked that this advice is coming from a guy. Move on but don't dump him?

Tomorrow it will be 'two timing bitch'

@AdaAda1331, I have only read the first page of your thread and some things immediately hit me hence this response.

1. I can understand your feeling of self worth and what you mean when you say they do not know your worth. I understand it as not pride but the knowledge that you have a lot to offer your man and his family in terms of being the best wife possible. I can relate

2. I think that even YOU do not untherstand his brother's comment that you are selfish and controlling. Lemme explain what I am certain he means. Your man has been financially and otherwise dependent on his father and step mother all his life and in particular during his educational pursuit. Now he is in his finals and he has set a wedding date for immediately after he is independent. Which means that as soon as he graduated and starts earning an income he intends to focus solely on you his wife and abandon the hands that fed him. That is where the selfishness comes in because you are not seeing it like that. The control comes in because they believe that you made those plans with him and if he is already taking a stand at independence it is obvious that you control him albeit in a subtle way. You decide what he actions he takes.

My take. You mentioned being 22. Why the hurry? If the family feels that you guys should wait for four years why not make a compromise? To my mind they do not hate you but see you as wanting to reap the fruits of their hard work. Why not compromise for two years and within those two years make the family realise that you being around does not mean he will not assist them financially. Also, within those two years nothing stops you from also ingratiating yourself in their hearts by buying them gifts on worthy occassions and making yourself a part of the family. I don't think you have done that.

Also, something you said makes me feel you are immature. The reason I say this is because you said you have already decided to call the relationship off. That tells me that you do not know the real meaning of love. Love is not something you switch on and off. If the guy is as amazing as you made him out to be well...I would fight for my love

Just so you know, I write from experience. I am married to a man whose bling said he (hubby) will marry me over his dead body. Today we have been married almost 9 years and that same brother is putty in my hands. He calls me mama now. His parents said no but they now call me every time to thank me for one thing or the other.

I think you still need some time

@ Op, I agree with graphiti, fawklicant and wealthywiseman. You have handled it a wee bit too lightly.

I am a female and married. The way she betrayed your trust was too much to be handled so lightly. I appreciate the sanctity of marriage but what happened to seperation. I would have preferred if you had:

1. without first informing her send her to the home of one of the sisters for an undetermined time period. After staying for some time they will definitely start seeing her as a burden and when she calls to come back let her stay there and see how her sister treats her husband. Do the same with the other sister too and when they start asking what the problem is and saying she is your wife and you should not dump her with them then you play the CD for the members of her family who complain.

2. From spending time with her sisters in their matrimonial home she will realise that a. You can do without her b. That for a mature woman,nothing beats her own matrimonial home, c. She will experience what life would be without you, d. Maybe see that her siblings treat their own husbands in a different way from the way they want her to treat you etc


To my mind, telling her you love her and will not let anyone including her sisters destroy your marriage was like giving her a free pass. It was not just her 'sisters' she played an active part. She has probably been complaining to them that you do not give her spending or upkeep money and you now keep late nights etc hence their advise. She is the biggest and most important culprit and you just gave her a free pass.

By the way, you need to be careful. Eat only from the same plate with her for the time being. If she is not eating from the same plate do not eat and let her know it is because you do not trust her.

Please do not let things go back to business as usual

My two cents!

While it is not bad to check your baby's dressing, this baby is dressed appropriately for a ballet dance class. She is wearing a tutu for God's sake. Any guy who looks at the child lasciviously is a paedophile

torqque7:
Ehnn dp cute in a naughty naughty way..just wanted to see the face of the calabar girl il be taking lessons firsthand from that's why I went to check ,and just as I suspected she is naughty naughty naughty .

Oh! Thank you for bringing your observation about the dp to my notice. It took me a couple of minutes to identify what made you feel it was naughty.

It's been rectified now. You can get your mind out of the gutter.

torqque7:
:oAre you confirming what he said?pls educate us more so we dn't become victims..interesting dp by the way..

Actually I am not in a position to confirm or deny what he said. Just made an observation.

The dp is cute right? Wonder why you went to check it out.