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My apologies

engrfaruq:
Tomorrow is Christmas and the federal Govt has promised to pay salaries nationwide before the Xmas. All hope is not lost but am a bit doubtful

Wake up bro, that dream has expired.

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Toks2008:
Nice curves..hope the pix no be google extraction...lol...just asking..

I have always preferred guys who like me for what I have in my head and not any body part or shape. I felt strongly about that in my teens and despite the years......I haven't changed.

Do have a lovely day

[quote author= XYZ...234 post=41301460]Kneeling down to apologize to ur woman doesn't make u less a man. Don't mind all these 20yr old boys that are just developing testosterone. "Big boys", I have seen guys who represent the definition of that word in every sense apologize to their women. If as a guy you haven't seen a woman worth going the extra mile for, Then you are still growing up. Cos their comes a point in a man's life when you just have to let go of the player thing and love someone for real.
The problem is most women tend to go for the guys who are still playing.[/quote]

Toks2008:
If you truly love a woman,and you really offended her,there is ansolutely nothing wrong in kneeling on one leg to beg her but when you go on two legs another thing don enter..lol

Both of you are gems. Part of the very few REAL MEN I have read from on nairaland. Lots of children spewing stuff they know nothing of. In real relationships (I mean those that last) there is no power struggle.

phoneport:
This is really cool on the wired side though.
But i guess she was all made up to look like a Bini princess/queen, all in one. But the red beads goes too way up, and they making a whole
outfit out of it nailed the cofin.
This is not good for our image though. Well is entertainment if nothing else.

Am looking at the pix and wondering what part of that dressing precisely resembles that of the Bini princess/queen. Can you help me clarify? I crave your indulgence

It is strange how people talk about trust. Yes trust is the basis of a relationship but it cuts both ways. Where there is trust, there is no need to check your partners phone but on the other hand where there is trust there should be no need to lock phones up either.

The moment you feel a need to lick your phone then you definitely are involved in something shady. A relationship where there is a standing rule that phones must not be touched is not a trusting relationship.

Where there is trust, there is no need to check the phone formally but there could be a reason to use your partners phone for example, you want to collect a picture or you are looking for a particular info. For example, hubby has sent me an apple I'd sometime ago and I deleted it after reading the message. Now I need it and have forgotten and he is sleeping I don't want to disturb him, I should be able to check his phone to find it without being scared of a rule or what I will find.

It is not a good thing to call every girl you meet outside swthrt or honey or such endearments because in real life it could complicate things cos it puts ideas in the heads of some girls so why call different people by pet names on your phone? In an emergency situation where your close relatives are needed, imagine how dangerous/cumbersome it will be for a stranger who want to help to filter through all the swthrts and honeys in your phone to find the right one.

That being said finding a one sided communication on a partners phone should not cause alarm. However, if your partner responds to the conversation in a manner which shows infidelity, I would rather know my status in the relationship and decide if I want out or not than to stay blind

valmunich:
Her full name, she actually saved my number with a dot when she found out

Hilarious

Oh!

Berrylite:
lolz...

Quit laughing jor.

Oh well...maybe I am going to descend on my husband with a vengeance

Dh beware!!!

Hmmm, ko easy rara, odikwa very risky...

1. Success
2. Lust
3. Honesty

What the heck is that middle one?

Hmmm, sad. I mailed you. At the email you referred to as Real email on your profile.

Hello Safarigirl,

I just stumbled on this thread and am curious. I know the semester is over. In fact, am sure the session is over now. How did you fare? Did your interest increase or decrease. Please let me know. Am curious

Handsomebeing:
@1st. I hope it's not the same company I know that outsourced their employment a friends company and in the terms they stated that staffs have no right to resign. Lebanese guys. I will advise you take the second one if its the same company I am thinking o.

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Seriously An employer will state in their contract of employment that the employee has no right to resign?

Biko, that na craze naa! It can't be legal or enforceable. Rubbish!

@ QuiinnBee,

It isn't an offence for a lecturer to like an undergraduate. Heck, in my 200 level two of my colleagues married two of my lecturers and in 300 level, another one married another lecturer. All three are still married with kids today and that was about 13+ years ago. I still see them today.

My two cents, tell him politely that you appreciate his interest in you but the fact that he continuously singled you out for a special greeting in class has led to gossip about the two of you which you are not quite comfortable with and would not like to encourage by going out with him. Tell him that if he genuinely likes you, he should give you some time cos the fiduciary relationship created in the lecturer/ student relationship makes you skeptical as you do not want to be involved in a sex for marks situation. When you do this, please ensure that the whole discussion is recorded. A visual recording would be better and is admissible in Nigerian courts by virtue of the Evidence Act 2011.

An audio recording will also be admissible but the probative value will be less as he could deny that it is him.

However, I implore you that you should not for any reason let him know that you have a recording of him. It must be a last resort.

Now, having done that, you must read the course like mad. If I knew your university I would have been in a better position to give you precise advice but you need to find out who your departmental exam officer is. If the exam officer is a female, investigate to find out about her kind of person. If she is approachable discuss with her that a certain male lecturer has been making advances at you but do not mention his name. Ask her if it is possible for you to write your exam with a number which will be known only to you both after which you can apply for the result as a missing result under the guise that you mistakenly wrote down a wrong matriculation number.

In this scenario, the lecturer would not know the mat. No with which you wrote and cannot fail you. Also, your earlier discussion with the exam officer will enable your result be computed along with the other results, or failing a discussion with the exam officer, if your institution and department works like a well oiled machine, you still get your result.

Lastly, Pray, pray and pray.

N. B:

If you appreciate this advice and want to discuss it further, you can pm me.

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Let me advance some reasons:

Some men are spendthrifts, they spend their money doing good outside (which is not totally bad) except that sometimes, it impoverishes the home. Then they come home and toast their wives to raise them, which is also not bad except when the man has no control and goes back to use the money for Sara forgetting the needs of the family. Oh! We don't blame them, cos we know its not deliberate. They just don't know how to say no to people outside. So if he does not know how much you earn he can't feel bad if he asks and you say you don't have cos you know what he wants to do with the money and in your accessment, his need is actually a want.

Some men upon knowing their wife's salaries stop spending for the home because of the archaic belief that they own the woman and everything about her because they have paid bride price.

Some men upon knowing their wife's salary want to dictate and decide what she spends her money on and complain if she spends (too much in his estimation) on her family, forgetting that without her family she would be nowhere...a nobody.

A good wife helps a man plan their life by channeling the family funds to the right projects I.e buying a land, building a house, saving for the kids, some men just don't think about these things.

Op, I want to opine that the reason your wife is keeping it secret from you is probably the same reason why you are anxious to know it. However, am sure when you married her you intended to be the head of the family in terms of responsibilities. Please carry your responsibilities like a man and forget about her salary. You should only worry if she does not spend a dime of her money in the house irrespective of what she earns. If she spends her money on household stuff, plans your family with you and occasionally buys you gifts, biko let it rest.

Just so you know, I have been married 8 years, and I don't think we have ever formally discussed my salary. I don't care how much he makes though I have an idea and am sure he knows mine too because I leave my pay slip around but when we discussed the issue of a joint account, I refused it and I am glad I did. It definitely would have caused some issues.

My two cent.

CoCoLav:
Her lawyer messed up! Its supposed to be breach of promise to marry with an action for damages and she will smile to the bank.

Chai!!! Coco, why did she not brief me now? Depending on when the child was born he may have waived his right to complain about having the child for another man sef

I'm in