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Hmm this check point of old. This is the first check point you get to when going to Ikeja from Oworoshoki. Chai! That place don tay o.

I ply this route wella in 2000 during my computer school days after my secondary school.

Maybe the man don turn okobo for house. When a man fails in his responsibility as the breadwinner, he's bound to face such from his wife, especially if she's using the proceeds she gets from her flirtatious lifestyle to feed the man and his entire household.

That family is cursed. It's only a matter of time before everything fall apart. This is why marriage no longer thrills me.

SIMPonPatrol:
Are you finer than her?

Post your own pic let us judge!

Why should I post my pics for you to see? For what now? Mtchew!

See her ugly face. Be like toad.

Men are scum. See how this one is already dazed by the mere nudeness of a stranger. Tufia!

You're dating a small girl who doesn't understand what commitment is all about and the importance of it in a relationship.
She believes she still has enough time to cruise and test the waters. so don't tie her down with marriage otherwise you'll regret it

Let her go and discover herself. Experience different sides of relationship and mature in the process. Then will she be ready to commit to one man.

Meanwhile, look for someone whos been there, done that, ready to settle down and marry. That girl is not ready.

Huh?

What a question.

Be grateful to God for it, no matter what. Some are not even earning anything yet they are alive.

JeffreyJunior:
The ashewos pay taxes and contribute to their economy meaning Nigerian men's preek acted are catalysts for growth in Kenya's GDP.

Tell me, which foreign policy pass that one?

If nobody will appreciate us, we Nigerian men will appreciate ourselves jare.

SMH..

annayawchee:
It simply means Nigerian men are good catch to them and they treat them right..

How many African men don mobilize for una if eke carry una for where una dey do ashewo for Libya and Italy??

There is level to this things

Imagine... How will celebrate mediocrity in this country is what baffles me the most. Very wrong.

Yeye level.

Zonefree:
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Yes, we are. Do you have a problem with that?

Most Nigerian men went there just to hustle not to start keeping girlfriends or getting married. Some are married here while others get girlfriend waiting for them.

So, when konji arises, they patronise prostitutes. Cum and Go. No feelings, No emotions.

Don't you think your actions are now bringing global shame and disgrace to our beautiful name and country Nigeria?.

It's lame excuses like yours that made a Nigerian man go and disgrace himself molesting teenage children in the UK just few weeks he got there and was deported.

How about making us known and celebrated for great things? Na wa o.

Abeg make una change.

When I first saw this Kenyan woman ranting on Facebook, I felt disturbed and ashamed when she called out on the "Ashawos" to protect their clients ( Nigerian men) . .

Like really?? Of all the countries in the world, Nigeria was the only country it's men were mentioned. As in ....That was a huge slap on us as Nigerians. I mean.. Britain is there, France is there, south Africa is there, Cameroon and other African countries are there... Why was Nigeria the only country mentioned? Does it mean Nigerian men are the most promiscuous and highest patronizers of prostitutes? That's what it means!...

Little wonder, any little discussion here, you'll see many men bragging of carrying olosho. In fact, there are so many hook-up and sexuality sections in and around every social media forum flooded mostly by Nigerian men actively engaging in this act. What you don't know is, the world is watching and taking record of these things. This is the one of the reasons our men are being treated with disrespect in these countries because of the notorious things we are known for. meanwhile other countries are respected and celebrated for new inventions and achievements.

Please, Nigerian men, lets stop dragging our name in the mud. let's try to be appearing in the news for the right reasons. And I've chosen to say this here because if there must be a change, the change will have to start from small circles like this. Please, lets reduce or stop the patronage of prostitutes in and outside our regions. Let's channel our energies and resources to more innovative and productive ventures.

Let's ponder upon this individually, make necessary adjustments and retrace our steps.

God bless Nigeria. God bless our Men.
Amen.

DesChyko:
Just like what you're doing here is immoral. Bad! You're not counselling people, you're condemning her! Eph 4:32 says . ”Therefore, Christians should not condemn others, but rather love others. What you are doing here is selling a negative image of her to people who have never met her; which she may never come across and ultimately, may likely have no impact to change her from her trajectory!

On a side note, I even find my outburst funny. No way in hell I'm of this opinion.😁

I'm not condemning her but pointing out the wrong in what she did and also warning others not to Follow her footsteps. There are other better ways to help someone in such situation, before we all get it twisted and make such immoral act a standard in an already decaying society.

DesChyko:
What if she just wants a child?
What if the man finds a reason to be with her?
What if their plan eventually succeeds like that of a friend did?

Life doesn't come with a manual. We just take the lessons around us and move on. Even if we must judge, we must like a degree of doubt for unexplained random variables that can make what we think is concluded go all the other way.

Another subtle way to justify immorality.
Look, all you stated here doesn't change the fact that what she did was immoral. Bad!

Bigseven:
God don bless you with husband be that na, hold him tight good men are scarce 😆

Is that how God blesses? Something she got with bottom power. Mtchew

thesicilian:
First things first: that is not a lady.
2nd, pregnancy doesn't prevent deportation
3rd, that is the kind of person that can sleep with a stranger for less than 5k or even a pack of indomie and 2 eggs

Exactly

Stomoney:
Ogbon

Don't mind her. What she doesn't know is that if a Man doesn't realy love and choose you, he won't last with you.

I bet you, if this man finds his feet, he'll dump her and follow his heart.

30 mins is too much.

A story is trending online of a Nigerian lady abroad who got pregnant for a stranger just to prevent his deportation. Wrong move if you ask me.

There are other ways you can help a man than opening your legs; a total stranger for that matter. What if he has an incurable disease? Some women don't think. They don't value their life one bit.

Me I wouldn't advise any one to go sleeping with a stranger in the name of help. Everything must not be sex related. Hm!

Read full story here.
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https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid02TSG5dhtXYD1FCBgF5o943QuQE38NPJgZ2mrzUR9VKarF9Cux8Wz8C8xw7CUEGkgml&id=100088447284530&sfnsn=scwspmo&mibextid=RUbZ1f

placeofallure:
Not necessarily for my husband. I just love to be free as soon as I step into the house. I have many tank tops that I wear and bum shorts to go with them. I wear sleeveless short gowns too. The idea is to be free from all entanglements. My husband encourages me as well to bare my skin. These outfits are strictly for indoors - bedroom, kitchen, living room, laundry room etc. You will only see me with wrapper when I want to sleep.

Wow.. cool tips but I know of someone way back who said before they got married she used to dress like this around the house and the husband never complained but after they got married one day she just wore those skimpy outfit and the husband yelled like a mad man at her and told her never to wear such things again in his house.

See, not all men like such dressing. So it depends on the kind of man you're with. Some will not mind like your hubby.

Thanks for the tips though.

collins2057:
Most times the wives leaves the role of a wife to play the role mother…

But you can't blame her now or should she neglect the children just because she wants to keep slaying for you?

You men are expecting too much from women and it's not fair o. Hmm..

Tayorshd87:
Hmmm we are still in it oo

This one you're saying hmmm .. you must be really tired. Abeg tell me what it is.

Is it like most people here claimed that women nag a lot or you no longer find her attractive?

What is annoying you about her?

Please, just take it as a cross and be with her. With time, the love will come back.
May God restore the love in your marriage Biko. I feel for you though but feel more for her.

It is well.

Hotguy27:
This is my 12th year of marriage and staying together but everyday I still desire my wife. We still sleep in the same bed till date. I tried to reduce the closeness by attempting to sleep in another room or a separate bed but she vehemently disagreed.

You see what I'm saying? The mere fact that you tried to reduce the closeness buttresses what my post is on about. It's the men who start creating the gap.
You got bored I guess... Hm

Thank God she didn't allow you.

dhope:
because of the spirit of lust in them which causes propensity to commit adultery

Yeah. That too.

Banbanna:
Babe, no be by fat o. What if the man finds fatty, plumpy women more appealing?

I remember a cousin of mine telling me that the reason his father kept a certain woman as his mistress was because she was fatter than my cousin's mother, his wife. His mother, my Aunt is not even slim o, just kinda thick. It sounded funny to me But then, I began to think the reason the man liked his women heavy was because of slim, smallish stature. It's as if a fat woman amplifies him.
There are lots of factors why these things happen besides getting out of shape, losing their youthfulness or personal grooming. It could be they have become too used to each other, (see themselves finish). Or they've developed new bad habits or traits the other partner dislkes, or their sex life has become boring & spiceless, etc.

Spot on. I thought as much too. See finish can make one get bored of their partners.

richiemcgold:
What if a beneficiary failed to secure employment after graduation? How will he/she pay back?

Did you not read where they said you won't start paying until you've secured a job.

Make una dey try dey read

iamrealdeji:
Some men would even consider her as his mum and call her mummy,using "e" for her instead of "o" of he's yoruba

Exactly! So annoying. Or they'll say, madam. Why call your wife madam?

Tayorshd87:
Happening to me presently ..
If not for society i feel like sending the bull away 😡

Hmmm.. let those saying I'm generalizing come and see. It's a thing with the men. Forget. Majority are just pretending or lying to themselves. They are tired!!!!

Please don't send her away. Na you chop her reach like that. So stay with the remnant, ogar.

korede181:
oooh. you're actually the problem but seem not to know because you dont pay attention.. the man is now wishing he had you as his wife and not the actual wife only if the wife can be as good as you..... see woman... na that pastor wife go pour you acid .. you go say i talk am

Back to you.

Oizee:
There is another picture below your comment, just try and check it out

When a drug addict marries a hookup girl.

LaRosa01:
if you never marry,you no go understand.most women are devils at home.so they use love to do publicity stunt in public.men if its good at home you go know,the man and him wife go be like friends once you see any couple doing public love,just know it isn't good at home.

What of in a situation where the woman doesn't nag or do any of those things you pointed out, yet the man still prefers to hang out with friends for the most of the day, coming back only when he needs to eat or go to bed.

See, I feel it's a case of greed and lack of affection on the men's side. If you don't have affection for your wife, it will be difficult to stay with her and that is why I don't want arrangee church marriage where the church feels bro and sis are getting old therefore they should get married whether the affection is there or not.

saysoo:
Familiarity breeds boredom. If we Africans can imbibe the values of divorce and seperation,not see it as evil or bad but as a means of happiness. We will start having a better society. First e must have a fairly good economy so that dependency will reduce. Am married for 14+yrs ane feels same at times, never seen another woman/man panty.

God bless you for saying the truth. This is exactly what im talking about. Couples get bored of each other ( like cococandy rightly said) at some point. In this case, going on vacation can work, not separation or divorce. Just some time off alone to breathe an air of relief until they begin to miss each other. Only then will that desire be rekindled again. And it should be done from time to time or any time boredom sets in.

Give it a try.

maestro299:
Initially, I concluded the same but I believe a more accurate stand will be to say that the OP is just afraid of something similar happening to her. The problem, I believe is that many women refuse to build their value away from sex and their youthful physical attributes. With advancing age and the accompanying decline in said attributes, there's really nothing else she has to offer that could spark and/or maintain a man's interest.

Says a man who will still use the industrious wife's income to chase side chicks.

Who told you I don't have other values apart from sexual and physical attributes? By the way I wasn't talking about myself here but the married couples I've seen it happen to.

Otaga Usifo whos wife was an industrious and high class woman also got the same treatment when her husband left her with all her values to be with a hookup girl (because of the same sexual attributes you are talking against) who ended his life. What do you have to say to that? The woman lacked virtues?

Majority of you men are the most confused entities. You want to have your cake and eat it. You want a woman of virtue and still desire the harlot outside. You think we don't know?