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If you marry the Susan, she will grow wing Th inking you have agreed to do all the house chores hence you marry her, part 1 students may see better man in her life. Be frank at Susan, guve her deadline to improve and d implications if she didn't do so. Sit her down n talk to her. Marriage matter n.a. serious matter. God go lead u.

ambassadorgozie:
6th of January 2020 is the day I won’t forget. I work as a personal assistant/secretary to my boss who happens to be a former politician.

My boss came to work with her housemaid for her to help in sweeping, cleaning and tidying up the office being the resumption day. She instructed us on how to go about it before she stepped out from the office promising to come back in the afternoon.

We started the work immediately until afternoon time when I decided to rest and eat. While eating I beckoned the grown up housemaid to come and eat or at least rest before she continues the cleaning but she declined. After like an hour, I told her to rest small, she declined yet again. This prompted me to go close to her in order to convince her to eat something or rest.

My worst mistake and nightmare was attempting to put my hand on her shoulder in my stupid bid to convince her. Immediately my hand touched her shoulder she started shouting continuously that I want to rape her, that she will deal with me; in fact that I will get sacked. At first I told her my intention, but she wouldn’t hear me, I then resorted to pleading, I even knelt down begging her that it wasn’t my intention to rape or grab her. She couldn’t stand my talks and pleading, she called the boss immediately telling her that I want to rape her. We narrated everything to the boss, (a lawyer), when she returned. After hearing from us she said she has stayed with her maid for couple of years, thus she trust her, and it may be true that I wanted to rape her or lure her for sex. She couldn’t see my explanation, pleadings and even crying. She said she has two options; either to call police for me or to sack me. That’s how she later sacked me that day.

I have been devastated and depressed since that day, not because of the sack but the allegation and accusation that was not even on my mind. The worst is that as an introvert I have no one to talk to, I am damn down.

Notes: 1. I have no intention of raping, grabbing or having sex with her
2. I will not be so stupid to rape or have sex with the housemaid in the office knowing that the boss will come at any time
3. I have not raped anyone or plan to do so in the future because I know is morally and legally wrong.

My father once said, stop being nice to woman and don't be alone wt dem bc dey don't need evidence to bring men down. Learn to be on your lane. However, if you r true wt dis both her n your boss won't go free. Just stay n watch

[quote author=SaintsSamurai post=85793716]My beautiful ladies and handsome gents of nairaland.

What i am about to tell you is a true life story and i feel i should let it out because I've been worried for days now.

Well last December on the 30th, a neighbour of mine lost her husband in a ghastly car accident along Ring road in Benin city in Edo State.

Before then I've been a close friend to his wife and i was very close to the family.

It was wailings and rain of tears in my area and In all my neighborhood.

Well two days later he was buried amidst tears.

The next day, when i went to visit the widow of the dead man, it was chilling because of the heavy harmattan. It was late and lots of people that came to pay their condolences have all gone home so it was me and the widow In her room, there were just two persons in the sitting room.

Well to cut the long story short, one thing led to another and we had sex together.

Note: I'm human and she is too, so please don't blame us.

But what I'm worried is if there are spiritual repercussions for the act?
Because I'm a little bit worried.

Criticisms are welcome.

Both you and d wife killed d man. How come 2 days after d burial. .... Fear women. How does she have feelings in a mourning states. Well if any of u have hand in his death n.a. accidental accident soon....

Sister Just dey enjoy herself. Free her jor

Samuelkingsley:
we have been together 16 years and married for 14 years I can easily say she's the most amazing most important person in the world after our children. We have six adorable kids, 3boys and 3girls including triplets. Everything seemed smooth and I was happy. That all changed about 3 weeks ago, I went out to celebrate my friend birthday and I asked my wife and she said yeah.

That night out was wild! Drinking partying like I was single again. I got really bleeped up and drink. It got to the point where I couldn't walk. I got my friend to drive me home and I get home and remember going straight to bed. I don't remember anything other than that. So once morning comes I wake up and go to the sitting room for breakfast, and all my kids wouldn't look at me. That changed when there mother walked out of the kitchen . She walked into the living room with a swollen Black eye. I looked at her shocked and asked what happened. She looked at me and cried and walked away. I didn't know what happened, so when my younger kids went to play I talked with my oldest 13 years old. And asked what happened. He said I came home drunk mad and started to fight everyone. He said I punched and kicked and abused my wife. I was shocked .

I instantly went to my wife's room and begged for forgiveness. I told her I loved her and I was an idiot and that it was a mistake but she gave me the cold shoulder. So everyday I have been begging her for forgiveness and buying gifts and showing her she's the most important thing in the world. I'm trying my best to show her I Completely regret it and feel horrible that I did that to the woman I love. We haven't had sex in 3 weeks , let alone kiss. She seems like she's opening up to me again but it's not the same. What else can I do to show her I'm sorry and to show her I love her?

You will countinue begging till she forgive u.

ZiriMane:
my opinion, don't involve them again openly. You can seek for their help or advice discreetly and jointly make agreements with your wife that would cater for the home.
I think both of you would need to seek professional help cos from your write-up both of ur minds want the union to work. A professional help would be trusted by you both instead of the family that she is wary about.The Professional help could be a counsellor, psychologist or revered religious leader. Always be the Man, crate the aura of manliness around her don't be conformed by her wit don't be soft and neither should you be too hard. Take charge of your home by dictating with love

Two times I have mentioned dis. (Professional help). But she will neva agree. I knw am not perfect but some matters I quiet knw she is wrong. I knw wan go deep but let me giv u 1. Some1 come to borrow her rapper. (Ofin) I told her not to giv to d woman. 3rd day d woman return d cloth n.a. me dey home. When she returned I show her d cloth n asked Y did u giv her? Sort of words but no apologize.

Ladylite:
Here is what to do.

Stop eating her food.
Stop talking with her
Try hard to show a face that has no emotions
Show joy and play with friends, neighbors and the kids but not her
Provide for her but don't be there for her

Guess what, SHE WILL BREAK.

She will report you to her mum, don't bother talking to her until you get both parents from both sides to meet with you & your wife physically.

When you speak in the meeting, you will be heard and feared and she will see a different side of you and adjust.

Treating people nicely is why they take advantage of you, save your marriage by refusing to allow bad traits in your home.

It is practical advice I give you. If you try to reason with your wife, you will be debasing yourself and she will have the upper hand.

Jah bless.

I don dey think in dat direction also. But pple will still blame men that why did I keep silent.

ZiriMane:
why are u so quick to call a third party?
My honest opinion is dat I feel she thinks you are a weak Man that doesn't see anything wrong with involving his parents or any other third party instead of addressing his home as the head of the house that you are.
The people that you are always wanting to call is that they never had issues or was this how they involved their own parents too?
I know why you are justifying involving your parents... it's because she involves her mom right? very lousy reason for you to do the same if you truly are a man. If we ask your wife if she insulted your parents now she would deny.
Boss, you marriage would have lesser problems if you leave the 3rd party out of it. Iron things out amicably between yourselves without any external interference and if you attempt to seek for external help never make her find out.

I understand your points but I do involve 3rd party after I have try reason wt her. She's d type that everything she do is write. I can't remember when she apologized last.

Fellow Nairalander, I need your matured advice, criticism also welcome as usual. My wife hate it anytime I talk about us to my family but she can discuss anything with her mother about us. Recently, I beg my father to help me ask her what am doing wrong (tho I shed d reason from my dad)so I can improve on our relationship due to d fact that all my efforts to let her talk proved abortive. Since then she has being cursing my parents calling them different names that dey want to destroy our family. She tell her mother everything. Anything that come from my side is wrong while everything from her is best. Am thinking to call our parents (both mine n hers) and discuss with them bc I can bear anything but not to be cursing my parents. I knw dat wl hurt her. Pls I need ur advice.I have called her parents attentions abt 2 times but dey didn't do anything, she even come back home nntell me that did I think dey wl beat her.

Do things that make her happy

A sorry case

Before jailing him,Nigeria need to borrow sense from him how to conduct free and fair electio

I believe,this is half story.

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