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I doubt if all boxes were ticked for either the man or woman- most cases though.
Cheating starts when a vacuum is created.
Most marriages work because both say; "We must make it work". More so, God helps sustain a blissful marriage.

Otti deserves a 2nd term. He gave life to something presumed dead.

When a child dances with a masquerade he know nothing of its ancestry, is likely to be hurt.

...wisdom is profitable to direct.

They just succeeded in making her a heroine; she would be nominated for series of awards. You would see.

Unless I didn't get it correctly; there is no evidence that she cheated or cheats on you (your findings proves that the man in question is not within your locality). I feel she admits that it's morally wrong to have indulged in such conversations. We all make mistake, don't push your marriage further before it breaks, everyone would suffer when it happens. Consider ways of making the relationship stronger and better. Forgive and move on with your life. From your write-up, she's a nice woman. Take good care of her and your son.

What has happened has happened. The thing that should be considered here is to move on. I never! and can never support abortion. Every child for me, is never a mistake as we might view humanly (this notion could be wrong though). Let her have the baby and continue with her studies; let her not marry the guy now until it is clear that she's truly in "love" (when she becomes an adult). No need to be hard on her; we all make mistakes which this could not be excluded. Always make her see the brighter side of life and I'm sure everything should be in place. Ensure the existing relationship is severed; he just took advantage of her.

free2ryhme:
The police doesn't value life that much. See the way they treat their own who get hurt in the line of duty.

I think joy and his family should just call on the God of heaven for justice.

Everyone should learn to carry his/her cross. Take responsibility on your children. There's no free money anywhere.

Looking towards people for help will easily entrap you, especially your girl child

I feel the story is pathetic; the woman was not in anyway looking for "free money". At every point in our life we were helped by people.

I am in support of Christians marrying Christians but let us never count someone who marry from other religions as being nonsensical or stupid.

God has no limit and as well His grace; He does things His own way to prove our wisdom wrong. All we read is what our mortal eyes can see. He sees beyond this point.
Who can believe God would approve a prophet marrying a prostitute................................................ Hosea did
Who can imagine a chosen of God marrying an idol worshipper...... ..................................................Jacob did
Who can ever believe that God would have interest in someone who killed and persecuted His people.....He had in Paul

All we leave it for is, if God approves of it...definitely....there is success at the end.

Christianity is never a political party of disassociation or feeling with discontentment with others but winning souls for the kingdom.

Some of us feel it is better for one to have a friend who womanizes and goes to church on Sunday than an atheist. For me, I think both are the same, they share the view that God doesn't exist or if at all He exists, He is blind from their actions.

However, marry someone who would never make you lose your SOUL.

It beats my imagination why most topics are given a heinous tribal face.
If someone is a thief lets tackle it based on the facts on ground not colour or tribe.

Frankly, I feel there is a problem somewhere:
Firstly, elected senators do not bend Senate Standing rules; they work with existing standing rules for their election into positions.
Secondly, in the investigations or petitions by the Police, the Senate President and his deputy were not listed.
Finally, is this a case that the Senate can't handle internally?

Though the only alteration was the issue of open ballot system in which "secret" voting was administered but this is something I feel the house could have resolved on it's own.

Pardon my ignorance if you feel otherwise.

Firstly, I must say that there is no problem without a solution. Like some people rightly pointed out, it's a smooth sail if you are related to the woman but it doesn't make it a dead end.

The question you should ask is; "What are her likes and dislikes?" Most times, we are highly insensitive to this owing to the fact that we feel people should tolerate us the way our parents do. Wrong!

Some women are natural fastidious and captious; that does not make them evil but for such people assisting in domestic chores could calm them down.
At times they read a script of acrimony silently instituted against your family; this might not be easy to overcome but you should engage in good, well channeled conversation with her and give her credit often e.g. I love your meals...uncle is really enjoying. The kitchen looks dirty, I would make out time to mop it tomorrow and I think you deserve a bigger cabinet etc

Never make it obvious that you are terrified by her actions rather paint a picture of a bold and composed man, who is in full control of his emotions. TV programs and the rest would not be a problem when you win her over by your sleight commitment.

Finally, I wish you a happy stay and don't expect anyone to pity you; be focused always.

Marriage so long as I am concerned does not have a definite formula. The first question should be 'Who is your spouse?'The answer to this question has a lot to do in your relationship or openness as the case maybe. It is a clear application of wisdom. It's good to be 100% open but what if it is likely to cause a very big problem; u might reduce the percentage at that instance. Some people easily forgive while others, any ill done to them is revenged and they always want the bitterness to last for long if not forever - So for these different people, different approach is required.