₦airaland Forum

Pain: No wonder a lot of people never succeed after NYSC. Im sure most people are naive about the jinx and curse that goes with having sex in the woods. The spirit of the woods breeds poverty. Some will rubbish this but who cares?

ddeola: Bros,you are 100% wrong.Getting involved in relationships is purely a personal or individual thing. People do what they choose to do just like you did during your service year. I think it's not right to run into conclusions and generalise that people are this or that without carrying out any research. Your actions are based on your personal values and character. We still have thousands of young men and women in this country who will never do such. To all he corpers, I say "Ajuwaya"

Realest123: But believe me a lot are !

Orikinla: [size=18pt]Majority of Nigerian girls and women come cheap and in fact they are getting cheaper by the day. And they are even shameless as they continue with their unsafe promiscuous lifestyles before NYSC and afterwards and then later run to church claiming to be born again when they want to marry after using themselves as pubic toilets during their campus days and during service.
Presently I can lay as many as even five on the same street, even the married ones too. But only the fear of God keeps me faithful to only one woman, because I love her and she is among the few well bred and noble young women in Nigeria today.[/size]

Abel202: [b]My people, I hadly comment on such posts as I prefer politics and the economy. But this one touches home right where it pains. Ordinarily marrying a virgin is and should be a thing of immence joy and pride for any man. But with my experience now, I don't think I will advise any man to consciously go for it. My reasons:
I have been married for seven years now. I have three issues, and honestly I have a very lovely and wonderful family that is the envy of most of my peers. However I have a huge problem inside. And am scared of what the future will bring.
My wife was not particularly a virging when I married her, but she was "almost" a virging, therefore she had little or no experience in matters of sex and intimacy. Incidentally I had many girlfriends then and one of the major reason why I chose my wife above most of the other girls was because she is faithful and can not mess arround, and I can completely trust her on that. We dated for 3 years before we eventualy got married. I saw the signs that this girl doesnt realy like sex but since I was preserving her for marriage I never realy disturbed her but unleashed my exploits on the other girls. Then we got married. Then I decided to become a responsible married man. Suddenly I realised what I had gotten myself into. My wife does not like sex. She will only do it (once in a while after several excuses) to please me. She has refused to learn anything from the first time we met till now ten years later. I have tried every reasonable way to teach her. I have taken her to counselling. I have pleaded, I have cajoled, I even withdrew my belt and flogged one day (very unlike me), yet all to no avail.
Now I have almost resigned to my fate. Now that is what scares me a real lot. Because I know myself. I love life and I love sex. I do not have unrealistic expectations as I know that my wife never had the experiences I have. But what I have gotten is a raw deal. All I expected was a healthy sex life with my lovely wife. Is that too much to ask? I sometimes think its a purnishment for all the girls I have dribbled before settling down.
What scares me is that if this continues I am bound to mess up. I have such a lovely family. My wife is such a good wife, responsible, takes good care of my home and kids, pretty, respects me a lot, infact every other thing is okay except the sex life. And this is what you can't tell your next door neighbour.
So I am a very happily married man, but inside I am realy turtured because my sex life is zero and I do not trust myself if things continue this way. Infact I have done a few runs outside and it was as great as before, but guilty conscience made me quit.
If I were a European or an American, I would have divorced my wife, reason -Sexual incompatibility. But that reason is bullshit here. I can't throw away the lovely family I have just because of Sex (that is precisely the problem).
My senior friend has advised me the way out - that is to get a secret concubine.
I have tried it and believe you me, it worked. I do not disturb my wife any more, and she is happy that she is not being disturbed for sex again as she would prefer not to have sex even for a year unless its time to make babies.
But the problem is the other lady. Some of them are always scheeming, either for money, or to displace the one inside and come inside too. And they could even be diabolical or do something funny to your lovely family just to get a part of you too. Infact though this arrangement works for now, there is no guarantee that something ugly might not come out of it later.
I am the responsible family man type. So having concubines is not realy my style. But am forced to do it.
So my advise is that YOU MUST KNOW THE SEXUAL CAPABILITIES OF YOUR WIFE-TO-BE BEFORE MARRIAGE, AMONGST OTHER THINGS. Or else you might find out that this Sex thing can derail a marriage and life you have painstakingly built. I rest my case.[/b]

Abel202: [b]My people, I hadly comment on such posts as I prefer politics and the economy. But this one touches home right where it pains. Ordinarily marrying a virgin is and should be a thing of immence joy and pride for any man. But with my experience now, I don't think I will advise any man to consciously go for it. My reasons:
I have been married for seven years now. I have three issues, and honestly I have a very lovely and wonderful family that is the envy of most of my peers. However I have a huge problem inside. And am scared of what the future will bring.
My wife was not particularly a virging when I married her, but she was "almost" a virging, therefore she had little or no experience in matters of sex and intimacy. Incidentally I had many girlfriends then and one of the major reason why I chose my wife above most of the other girls was because she is faithful and can not mess arround, and I can completely trust her on that. We dated for 3 years before we eventualy got married. I saw the signs that this girl doesnt realy like sex but since I was preserving her for marriage I never realy disturbed her but unleashed my exploits on the other girls. Then we got married. Then I decided to become a responsible married man. Suddenly I realised what I had gotten myself into. My wife does not like sex. She will only do it (once in a while after several excuses) to please me. She has refused to learn anything from the first time we met till now ten years later. I have tried every reasonable way to teach her. I have taken her to counselling. I have pleaded, I have cajoled, I even withdrew my belt and flogged one day (very unlike me), yet all to no avail.
Now I have almost resigned to my fate. Now that is what scares me a real lot. Because I know myself. I love life and I love sex. I do not have unrealistic expectations as I know that my wife never had the experiences I have. But what I have gotten is a raw deal. All I expected was a healthy sex life with my lovely wife. Is that too much to ask? I sometimes think its a purnishment for all the girls I have dribbled before settling down.
What scares me is that if this continues I am bound to mess up. I have such a lovely family. My wife is such a good wife, responsible, takes good care of my home and kids, pretty, respects me a lot, infact every other thing is okay except the sex life. And this is what you can't tell your next door neighbour.
So I am a very happily married man, but inside I am realy turtured because my sex life is zero and I do not trust myself if things continue this way. Infact I have done a few runs outside and it was as great as before, but guilty conscience made me quit.
If I were a European or an American, I would have divorced my wife, reason -Sexual incompatibility. But that reason is bullshit here. I can't throw away the lovely family I have just because of Sex (that is precisely the problem).
My senior friend has advised me the way out - that is to get a secret concubine.
I have tried it and believe you me, it worked. I do not disturb my wife any more, and she is happy that she is not being disturbed for sex again as she would prefer not to have sex even for a year unless its time to make babies.
But the problem is the other lady. Some of them are always scheeming, either for money, or to displace the one inside and come inside too. And they could even be diabolical or do something funny to your lovely family just to get a part of you too. Infact though this arrangement works for now, there is no guarantee that something ugly might not come out of it later.
I am the responsible family man type. So having concubines is not realy my style. But am forced to do it.
So my advise is that YOU MUST KNOW THE SEXUAL CAPABILITIES OF YOUR WIFE-TO-BE BEFORE MARRIAGE, AMONGST OTHER THINGS. Or else you might find out that this Sex thing can derail a marriage and life you have painstakingly built. I rest my case.[/b]

Abel202: [b]My people, I hadly comment on such posts as I prefer politics and the economy. But this one touches home right where it pains. Ordinarily marrying a virgin is and should be a thing of immence joy and pride for any man. But with my experience now, I don't think I will advise any man to consciously go for it. My reasons:
I have been married for seven years now. I have three issues, and honestly I have a very lovely and wonderful family that is the envy of most of my peers. However I have a huge problem inside. And am scared of what the future will bring.
My wife was not particularly a virging when I married her, but she was "almost" a virging, therefore she had little or no experience in matters of sex and intimacy. Incidentally I had many girlfriends then and one of the major reason why I chose my wife above most of the other girls was because she is faithful and can not mess arround, and I can completely trust her on that. We dated for 3 years before we eventualy got married. I saw the signs that this girl doesnt realy like sex but since I was preserving her for marriage I never realy disturbed her but unleashed my exploits on the other girls. Then we got married. Then I decided to become a responsible married man. Suddenly I realised what I had gotten myself into. My wife does not like sex. She will only do it (once in a while after several excuses) to please me. She has refused to learn anything from the first time we met till now ten years later. I have tried every reasonable way to teach her. I have taken her to counselling. I have pleaded, I have cajoled, I even withdrew my belt and flogged one day (very unlike me), yet all to no avail.
Now I have almost resigned to my fate. Now that is what scares me a real lot. Because I know myself. I love life and I love sex. I do not have unrealistic expectations as I know that my wife never had the experiences I have. But what I have gotten is a raw deal. All I expected was a healthy sex life with my lovely wife. Is that too much to ask? I sometimes think its a purnishment for all the girls I have dribbled before settling down.
What scares me is that if this continues I am bound to mess up. I have such a lovely family. My wife is such a good wife, responsible, takes good care of my home and kids, pretty, respects me a lot, infact every other thing is okay except the sex life. And this is what you can't tell your next door neighbour.
So I am a very happily married man, but inside I am realy turtured because my sex life is zero and I do not trust myself if things continue this way. Infact I have done a few runs outside and it was as great as before, but guilty conscience made me quit.
If I were a European or an American, I would have divorced my wife, reason -Sexual incompatibility. But that reason is bullshit here. I can't throw away the lovely family I have just because of Sex (that is precisely the problem).
My senior friend has advised me the way out - that is to get a secret concubine.
I have tried it and believe you me, it worked. I do not disturb my wife any more, and she is happy that she is not being disturbed for sex again as she would prefer not to have sex even for a year unless its time to make babies.
But the problem is the other lady. Some of them are always scheeming, either for money, or to displace the one inside and come inside too. And they could even be diabolical or do something funny to your lovely family just to get a part of you too. Infact though this arrangement works for now, there is no guarantee that something ugly might not come out of it later.
I am the responsible family man type. So having concubines is not realy my style. But am forced to do it.
So my advise is that YOU MUST KNOW THE SEXUAL CAPABILITIES OF YOUR WIFE-TO-BE BEFORE MARRIAGE, AMONGST OTHER THINGS. Or else you might find out that this Sex thing can derail a marriage and life you have painstakingly built. I rest my case.[/b]

Abel202: [b]My people, I hadly comment on such posts as I prefer politics and the economy. But this one touches home right where it pains. Ordinarily marrying a virgin is and should be a thing of immence joy and pride for any man. But with my experience now, I don't think I will advise any man to consciously go for it. My reasons:
I have been married for seven years now. I have three issues, and honestly I have a very lovely and wonderful family that is the envy of most of my peers. However I have a huge problem inside. And am scared of what the future will bring.
My wife was not particularly a virging when I married her, but she was "almost" a virging, therefore she had little or no experience in matters of sex and intimacy. Incidentally I had many girlfriends then and one of the major reason why I chose my wife above most of the other girls was because she is faithful and can not mess arround, and I can completely trust her on that. We dated for 3 years before we eventualy got married. I saw the signs that this girl doesnt realy like sex but since I was preserving her for marriage I never realy disturbed her but unleashed my exploits on the other girls. Then we got married. Then I decided to become a responsible married man. Suddenly I realised what I had gotten myself into. My wife does not like sex. She will only do it (once in a while after several excuses) to please me. She has refused to learn anything from the first time we met till now ten years later. I have tried every reasonable way to teach her. I have taken her to counselling. I have pleaded, I have cajoled, I even withdrew my belt and flogged one day (very unlike me), yet all to no avail.
Now I have almost resigned to my fate. Now that is what scares me a real lot. Because I know myself. I love life and I love sex. I do not have unrealistic expectations as I know that my wife never had the experiences I have. But what I have gotten is a raw deal. All I expected was a healthy sex life with my lovely wife. Is that too much to ask? I sometimes think its a purnishment for all the girls I have dribbled before settling down.
What scares me is that if this continues I am bound to mess up. I have such a lovely family. My wife is such a good wife, responsible, takes good care of my home and kids, pretty, respects me a lot, infact every other thing is okay except the sex life. And this is what you can't tell your next door neighbour.
So I am a very happily married man, but inside I am realy turtured because my sex life is zero and I do not trust myself if things continue this way. Infact I have done a few runs outside and it was as great as before, but guilty conscience made me quit.
If I were a European or an American, I would have divorced my wife, reason -Sexual incompatibility. But that reason is bullshit here. I can't throw away the lovely family I have just because of Sex (that is precisely the problem).
My senior friend has advised me the way out - that is to get a secret concubine.
I have tried it and believe you me, it worked. I do not disturb my wife any more, and she is happy that she is not being disturbed for sex again as she would prefer not to have sex even for a year unless its time to make babies.
But the problem is the other lady. Some of them are always scheeming, either for money, or to displace the one inside and come inside too. And they could even be diabolical or do something funny to your lovely family just to get a part of you too. Infact though this arrangement works for now, there is no guarantee that something ugly might not come out of it later.
I am the responsible family man type. So having concubines is not realy my style. But am forced to do it.
So my advise is that YOU MUST KNOW THE SEXUAL CAPABILITIES OF YOUR WIFE-TO-BE BEFORE MARRIAGE, AMONGST OTHER THINGS. Or else you might find out that this Sex thing can derail a marriage and life you have painstakingly built. I rest my case.[/b]

Inova: Wrong. She would realize how sweet it is and if her hubby starves her one bit she could give it to someone else to help her.
Its just like a kid eating candy for the first time. You stop giving him and he would collect it from his free giving friends

Okija_juju: So because you have a job and contribute to the household funds, you and your husband are now mates abi?!


Thats why you wont cook or clean the house abi?!

Thats why you cant run him a bath or do his laundry?!




What kind of life is this sef?!

Richvkunt: The problem now a days is that single girls dey waka waka too much.
Some girls commit more than 50 abortions/D&C before they reach 25 years of age. So no man wants to buy broken goods.
They want to test the goods to make sure they are working and can successfully produce the end product -a child.
I do not blame any man that insists on pregnancy before marriage- it is a vicious circle we live in.

stillwater: By sleeping with the lady before marriage is he not contributing to this so-called 'waywardness'? Nigerian men are hypocrites! Freaking razz things.

iamtheprincipal: This issue has always been one that has raised certain concerns from different quarters as it's unbiblical but the waywardness and lost of values in our present day young ladies leaves much to be desired as it has eroded the 'trust' factor that existed in the days of our fathers and made most men absorb this concept of pregnancy before marriage.
Men are scared of getting married to their 'fellow-men' and hence, their decision.

mutiply: mtschewwww,up till last now, the corpers have not been paid for the services they rendered during the risky election,shameless people