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kinzation:
You too sturbborn
Oya go correct that thing right now

Sanity54321:
Hi All,

i have been in marriage for some years now with one child. My wife learnt fashion designing and excelled well at it except that one of her major professional drawbacks is the ability to be accountable and drawing the appropriate lines between business and emotions. Further to that is a major influence of her parents in her life.

I have invested so much in her and her business as a whole. i built the business and still didnt stop investing when need be. so it happened that when i got her a new location for the business as requested, i bought advanced sewing machines and all that she put to my ears that she needs to excel. Then i sat her down asking what the modalties are for her to take in apprentice. so she told me student will have to take up a form for 5k, apprenticeship for 60k and so on. These are things i know but i needed be sure that she is well informed.

Apparently, there have been a back and forth between her and the parents of one lady who was brought to her for apprenticeship. So, there came a day my dad came to my house and there was a need for him to see my wife before leaving which caused me to show up at her shop unexpectedly. This will be second time i have been to d shop since she opened the shop like 6 months ago. i saw legs wandering here and there in the shop and found out she had an apprentice. I then said to her, you even got an aprentice and didnt say a word to me. she replied that the apprentice had only just joined her a day ago. i said to her... didnt you come yesterday? told me sorry.

Then i proceeded to to ask her if she did got the rightful things from the apprentice, only for her to respond to me that the parents came and was begging her all through that the nation is hard. i had to say to her, as nigeria hard.. e no reach you or cos i have been putting money here, you think i dont have my own issues too. Las las, she responded to me by saying "Owo maa tan,eiyan loo maa kuu" meaning money go finish, na human being go remain. this got me mind as i didnt expect this from someone i invested so much in. I felt i was busy wasting my time and resource on someone who doesnt understand the value of my efforts. I jus said to her, did your landlord gave me this shop for free? were these machines gotten for free? did your boss not take money from me even for your freedom? i jus left her there before i misbehaved.

She got home later that night and was offering me noodles for dinner which i declined. later she saw me with bread and was trying to talk to me abt food. I told her that i will appreciate if i our eyes don't cross anymore that night. Next thing she did was take some clothes and that of my child. then left my house, called her father that she was coming home. the father as usual supported her and told her to go to my father's house instead. Then her proceeded to call me instead yelling at me asking me wah happend..i said nothing hapnd and e responded saying, anything better not happen. before i know it he has called my father and friends to warn me. Apparently, the dota told d father that i told her that i shldnt let me meet her at home. i called d father and voiced him to pls stay away from my family. its enof that yu jump in defence of yur dota always buit dont include my parents there anymore. the daughter went to sleep at her friend's house which i dont even know who d friend is according to d fada. I had the intention of mking sure she doesnt return here but pleadings here and there. she came home and still acted like niothing happend, no greetings or pleadings whatsoeveer.

I will leave this story at this stage as i had only come here to vent a bit before i mke rash decisions.

Thank you all as i await reasonable comments

kinzation:
Came keh

tunjity26:
Hello house,
Please are there hook up sites like strictly for business like you hook up with her for just sex and pay her off, where you can bang on price etc

Mivici:
am sorry Fatima, you're wrong, I can't even keep count we do make love all night....I just want to make her my wife.

Mivici:
am sorry Fatima, you're wrong, I can't even keep count

Mivici:
na wetin come dey make the love strong, as I dey make love to her always the love spell, dey catch me

Mivici:
you are a lady, I don't think you will understand

Mivici:
I have a girlfriend in school now presently, she claim to be in love with me but told me she has a guy at home who she is in love with, and she thinks he is more serious compare to me when it comes to who want to settle down with her. To cut The long story short, I called her, told her everything, I can't stand a chance seeing her given another man attention, I want her happiness so I want to leave the relationship, she don't want me to go and also can't choose between we both.


Should I continue fighting for love or run away


Please

Ilamina:
. they act soulless and over serious sometimes
So I like to stay away most of the time

TheWiX:
I see people getting lucky with love online maybe I could try my luck here.

So I'm a simple, slim and single guy 36, average height of 5.8" looking for a distance relationship that will lead to marriage.
Honestly, I am a student in the UK but almost done with my studies which is why I want to start now looking for that special someone I can look forward to settling down with. I already have a decent student job at Amazon and working hard to prepare a decent home for when it's time to join me here in some months.

My kind of lady would be between 23 to 33, a Christian (bonus points if Anglican or Catholic). Genotype AA, a graduate of any field (bonus points if medical or ICT). From any region in Nigeria (bonus points if East or West). I don't care much about looks but I love intelligent people though.

If you are interested please email.
ravenjust21@gmail.com

succyblinks:
So, if am an independent lady who can afford to take care of myself and a guy till infinity singlehandedly, what else can a guy offer me?

Honest answers needed


Modified
So the comments have been rolling in and everyone one is mentioning psychological support, so why are girls being tagged useless. Don't get me wrong I don't support leeches but the truth be told, sex and money are jus secondary aspects of a relationship but the companionship and support is everything

Please let's change our mindsets, everyone is useful and important in their various roles in a relationship
Thank you

Azammmi:
I graduated from King’s college Lagos where we were taught Good English and we know how to speak well to . So after secondary school one day I woke up and declared war on English I say I no go speak em again how will those Brits come and force me to speak there language. Omo na so he start o , I started speaking vernacular or pidgin. Now I’m almost done with university the problem is now if u speak English to me I go de speak pidgin, if I try speaking English pidgin go find one corner enter , English kon de hard me speak. Now I need help what can I do cause my war on English turn backfire please don’t blame me no one told me English has nuclear weapons , na small kitchen knife na watin I go de use fight em.

I’m sorry English please forgive me

Lilpen3758:
are you happy with your life?

Lilpen3758:
so nobody dey Bleep for nairaland now? I don hear una

Lilpen3758:
as if you no dey Bleep
Tell her the truth joor

Lilpen3758:
I just feel like you are not enjoying life to the fullest.........sorry

Independentgbol:
I'm a man in my mid 20s, a natural critique of everything and a philosopher by mind.
My journey into Redpill started when I came across the term here on nairaland. I've been following Ubunja's miseducation which started opening my eyes to the nature of human being. Then I journeyed into the Redpill through one of the numerous threads.
I further read "The manipulated man" book which made me fully aware of the feminine manipulations and their nature. This coupled with the Redpill knowledge gave me so much confidence in approaching females and in successfully evading their manipulations and getting them to do my bidding.
The con of this awareness is the fact that I lost my meekness and I became so direct with females and everyone in general regardless of whoever I'm talking to in terms of status, age or even position. This direct attitude mesmerize some people, intimidates some, and it also outrightly put some people off that they hate me and will refuse to even help me.
Again, the knowledge of Redpill made it almost impossible for me to have a healthy relationship with females without seeing them as object of sex and sexual satisfaction most especially female peers or matured younger ones. I really wish I perfectly understand true Redpill and also able to have perfect relationship with people

Nato008:
asinh...love her more jaree, because bomb dey ur head abi....oga no too carry ur mind for that girl, na there way...just cruise jhooor

calcal:
to end up with High blood pressure

Yusufisraelj:
You know if you don't have something sensible to say, you can just keep shut, you should understand that when someone ask for an opinion you don't have to be sarcastic?? For fvck sake!

@elisha820

Many good suggestions abound here, my only addition is that, if you don't satisfy your curiosity to a point of satisfaction on what she's hiding, it will build mistrust, a very bad foundation for any love relationship.

The truth is, there's no sweeping under the rug this one since it's a concensus between you two to check each other's phone, sit her down and be straight with her on the lack of access to her phone and how you feel about it, no mincing words, let it out, when people know you are real, they come out to meet you at your level.

For me ooo,I don't have that time of going through a babes phone, this works for me, she can go through mine for all I care, if am with a babe am very exclusive, you know why, she either begins to let me know things that are even beyond the phone and we get really close that there's nothing to hide else you see my brother falsehood has a way of failing over time,it was never designed to last, false people have a way of falling off, if you are real this is what works for me Sha.

ghettochild:
Try that at ur own peril Isnt it obvious she's cheating..? Ok since u want us to tell u what to do? End it all.. she can cry u a river.. its what women do.. the emotional robbery. So brother pharmacist... end the relationship now or have urself to blame. She has your password yet u dont have hers n wouldnt let u in her fone... Make i tell u.. She's been fucking...sexting n also taking u as a fool

mmadu4:
fati but your a guy na

Goat007:
[s][/s]Go and sleep

Goat007:
[s][/s] Fraudster

elisha820:
What should I do?