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Agriculture / Tonnes Groundnut For Sale (use For Groundnut Oil And Kuli Kuli) by Fayeloja007: 10:54am On Apr 29, 2019
My name is Fatai we have lots of groundnuts in stock.
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Business / Tonnes Groundnut For Sale (use For Groundnut Oil And Kuli Kuli) by Fayeloja007: 10:49am On Apr 29, 2019
My name is Fatai we have lots of groundnuts in stock.
We are looking for groundnut oil manufacturer and Kuli Kuli makers like yourself a to purchase this from us. If you are interested, kindly contact me - +2348189111119 (Whatsapp Only)
Properties / Re: Help Me Before Termites Collapse My Building by Fayeloja007: 8:02am On Nov 27, 2018
dejonathan:
Bury dog somewhere in the compound... U no go see dem again(Na wetin my dad do wey work for am o)I be Yoruba guy o,and am sure e dey work

I was about to say this as well. We also did dis at my dad's compound.
Also, go to saw mill and ask for a chemical called Soligum, I may not get the spelling well but it is pronounced that way. The carpenters painted all the plank used in make our roof with this dirty oil look alike chemical. You will not see termites any where again.
Nairaland / General / None Of The Above Box In The Ballot Paper by Fayeloja007: 9:53pm On Nov 13, 2018
Guys whats your take on this? To add a box that says "NONE OF THE ABOVE" in the ballot paper when voting in 2019.

Education / Re: 22 Quotes That Will Make You Think by Fayeloja007: 5:07pm On Feb 27, 2017
sekundosekundo:
"No matter how BIG a woman's bosom is, it can't service itself".........Robert Mugabe.
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Properties / Advice Please: Where Is The Best Place To Start A Family In Lagos. by Fayeloja007: 10:31am On Jan 24, 2017
I am in need of an affordable room and parlour (Mini Flat) self-contained not far from Oshodi and very affordable.
Please help me out.
Thanks
Politics / President Gej Is Handling Over A Dead Economy by Fayeloja007: 12:08pm On May 23, 2015
PRESIDENT GEJ IS HANDLING OVER A DEAD ECONOMY WITH THE LOOK OF SITUATION WE ARE IN, RIGHT NOW IN NIGERIA. FUEL SCARCITY CONTINUES, ELECTRICITY GENERATION DWINDLING, LABOURS ABOUT TO STRIKE AND BUSINESS CRUMBLING. WE NEED TO START PRAYING SERIOUSLY INSTEAD OF TREKKING UP AND DOWN FOR DIFFERENT POLITICIANS.
GOD COME AND STRENGTHEN AND SUPPORT PRESIDENT-ELECT BUHARI IN RUNNING THE AFFAIRS OF THIS COUNTRY TO A STATE OF TESTIMONY WITHIN A SHORT PERIOD OF TIME. ONLY YOU CAN DO IT BABA GOD. GOD BLESS NIGERIAN PEOPLE, GOD BLESS NIGERIA. LET OUR DREAM OF GOOD CHANGES COME TRUE
Politics / Re: See What Some Nigerians Are Claiming They Saw After Buhari Was Announced Winner by Fayeloja007: 2:49pm On Apr 03, 2015
This is not new jare, I see this almost every month around my area in Kwara state.
E don tey, since i was a kid my Dad dey show me this kind of unusual circle around the moon.... wink
Politics / Documentary Lies Of AIT by Fayeloja007: 8:35pm On Jan 30, 2015
i saw dis on a friend's page on fb, so i decide to share with my guys here.
Documentary: The Lies Of AIT/GEJAIT/GEJ Lied To Nigerians
1. Fela NEVER mentioned Buhari in $N2.8B scandal. He mentioned OBJ. AIT edited that part off.
2. Buhari did not expel Ghanians from Nigeria. Shagari of the NPN did. AIT made a FALSE assertion.
3. Gloria Okon did not disappear under Buhari it was under IBB and Dele Giwa was murdered for it.
4. GEJ went so low to bring Buhari’s daughters into politics. Can one use Dame’s inability to bear a child as a campaign issue?
5. Fela’s mother the GREAT Funmilayo Kuti died after OBJ Kalakuta in 1978 Buhari came into power in 1984.
6. All Politicians that was sentenced to prison by the 1984 Military Tribunal were found to either enrich themselves with public funds or diverted public funds. Non were convicted by fiat
7. GEJ and AIT went after Buhari ’s late wife and daughter. How low and desperate can Jonathan get?
8. AIT/GEJ alleged that Buhari has been losing since 1999. This is a lie. Buhari's first shot was in 2003. In 1999 Chief Olu Falae of ANPP/AD contested against Obj.
9. AIT/GEJ criticised Buhari for Heading PTF Board. Whereas, PTF is till date the most successful parastatal ever in Nigeria. Through PTF, the Amazon Dora Akunyili was known.
Vote for GMB/APC for Change in Nigeria. PDP propaganda is distasteful and obscene. Should be condemned by all.
The AIT documentary on Buhari will not make him less popular. President Jonathan is still playing catch up...
Yester
Politics / Re: What Femi Fani Kayode Said About GEJ. by Fayeloja007: 7:57pm On Jan 30, 2015
undecided i guess everyone has a price at which we compromise. oooga
Romance / Re: Mr Nairaland December 2014: [Eliminations Round 1] by Fayeloja007: 12:15pm On Nov 18, 2014
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Romance / Re: Mr Nairaland - December 2014 Edition [Preliminary Eliminations Round 1] by Fayeloja007: 10:56am On Nov 14, 2014
MizMyColi:



CC: Ezepromoe


1. CHIEFOLOLADE

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Family / So, What About When Women Abuse Men? by Fayeloja007: 7:58am On Aug 08, 2014
While waiting for our delayed flight to Asaba
sometime last December, I joined an ongoing
discussion with a group of friends. One of them,
Emeka Ossai, one of Nigeria’s foremost actors and
television content producers, complained
vehemently about the injustice that this world did to
men. He contended that there was so much talk
about the abuse of women while everyone
pretended that men did not go through some
measure of abuse, sometimes even deadlier than
what women went through.
Ossai told his listeners, which included Fidelis
Duker, another Nollywood stalwart; Biodun Kupoluyi,
publisher of E-24 Entertainment magazine and Femi
Davies of Metronews.ng that he had already formed
a group in response to the silent emasculation of
men through emotional and psychological abuses
from their wives. He then solicited for membership
from those who agreed with his position that
afternoon.
A couple of weeks after this discussion, Ossai said
to me in an interview as follows: “A lot of men these
days are walking corpses who, due to gross
psychological and emotional abuses, have become
empty shells waiting to drop. Women have become
increasingly aloof in a supposed union with their
spouses, while the men have become increasingly
powerless to even complain, lest they are labelled
as insecure. We are saying enough is enough! I
have come across these in people who have
confided in me, those I have counselled and some
others I have observed. These days, you have
cases of women beating up their husbands,
beheading some, doing bodily harm or wrecking
them emotionally with no one in the society
reacting. But on the other hand, mere exchange of
words with a woman can result to a lot of societal
backlash. This is unacceptable! So, under my
leadership, we have started a movement of Men
Against Spousal Psychological and Emotional
Abuse. We intend to sensitise fellow men to this
ravaging plight and the society in general to wake
up to this new reality. We will encourage abused
men to speak up and relate their experiences,
engage women of vintage upbringing who do not
encourage this trend and are ready to do something
about it; and organise counselling for healing and
support…”
I gave no further thought to this matter until I
attended the July 2014 edition of the monthly film
screening organised by Gothe Institute, Nigeria and
the Lagos Film Society.
One of the films screened during two-day event
was Not Right, a short film on domestic violence,
produced by Nollywood’s Judith Audu. After
watching the 10-minute film, comments were
allowed from viewers. While everyone praised the
efforts put into the production by Ms. Audu, some
men in the audience wondered why no one was
talking about the abuse of men.
A particular gentleman informed the gathering that
there was no type of abuse that women go through
that men do not experience. He claimed to know a
number of men who were regularly beaten up by
their wives and that these men refuse to speak out
to avoid the reproach that would most definitely
follow. “A lot of men even get raped,” he offered as
he pleaded that more attention should be given to
this issue of the abuse of men as a lot of men die
silently.
There is anger all over the world that a lot of those
who pursue the rights of people in abusive
relationships continue to make the female gender
their primary focus. This is despite the fact that the
scanty data available from the Home Office, United
Kingdom statistical bulletin and the British Crime
Survey show that men make up 40 per cent of
domestic violence victims between 2004 and 2005,
this rose to as high as 45. 5 per cent in 2007-08 but
petered out to 37.7 per cent in 2008-09.
It will be shocking if an equal, if not higher,
percentage of Nigerian men do not suffer some
form of domestic abuse or the other from their
partners, in spite of our penchant to live in denial.
Maybe, it is safe to assume that not a lot of women
in this part of the world would raise their hands
against their husbands, but what about the
emotional torture that a lot of men receive daily?
Some researchers in fact believe that the effects of
emotional abuse could be more dire than that of
physical abuse. This is more so because men are
prone to internalising their sufferings since society
expects them to be stoic, strong and in control.
But some men actually do get physically abused by
their wives. This kind of abuse includes the use of
physical force against another in a way that injures
that person or puts him at the risk of being injured.
This form of abuse could range from physical
restraint to pushing, tripping, slapping, hitting,
punching, grabbing, shaking or choking the victim
Emotional or psychological abuse on the other hand
includes the use of words, tone, action or lack of
action to control, hurt or demean another person. It
includes ridicule, intimidation and coercion.
A typical example of the latter is the story that I
read an article in a book by Smith and Loring in
1994. According to the article: “This man stated that
his wife called him ugly, refused to walk next to him
in public because she was ashamed to be seen with
him, threatened to kill or castrate him while he was
sleeping, taught their son to call him “dummy” and
“wimp,” found the negative in everything he did
(including hugging her and buying her flowers), and
accused him of having affairs. He felt frightened for
his life, blamed himself for everything, and lost 31
pounds…”
This story may sound strange to many but I bet that
hundreds of thousands of Nigerian men go through
this situation daily. I remember reading the story of
a woman who allegedly cut off her husband’s
manhood in Lagos not too long ago. Like other such
victims, this man refused to speak up about the
abuse in his home until he landed in the hospital.
They are trapped because they suffer a condition
known as traumatic bonding, a situation in which the
abuser alternates abusive behaviour with kindness,
creating a bond that involves intermittent positive
reinforcement. This type of bond is difficult to break
as it leaves the abused partner hoping that his
oppressor would change for good.
However, such a man must certainly end up a
nervous wreck. The constant abusive words would
gradually erode his self-esteem and possibly lead
him into post-traumatic disorder like you find in
women. It could also lead to alcoholism or even
behaviours that could be suicidal, self-destructive
or self-mutilating, all of which pose a danger to
society. Such relationships are also prone to
produce children who would grow up thinking that
abusing each other or being abused is a normal
way of life and then subject their own spouses to
such abuses or even worse.
This is why it is expedient for rights crusaders to
begin to consider increasing awareness on the
occurrence of the abuse of men and the attendant
danger. The society loses out in the long run when
men and women cannot play their natural roles as a
result of spousal abuse. This is why the issue must
receive comprehensive attention,
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Phones / Now That BBM Is On Android... Telcos Should Harmonize Internet Pricing by Fayeloja007: 11:53am On Oct 22, 2013
shocked NOW THAT ANDROID BBM IS FINALLY AVAILABLE ON ANDROID PHONES, I DONT THINK WE NEED TO BEG THE TELECOM COMPANY IN NIGERIA TO GENERALIZE INTERNET SUBSCRIPTIONS TO ALL O...ATLEAST LET US ALL USE THE SAME INTERNET SUBSCRIPTION PLAN AND AT FLAT RATE... shocked ABI WETIN UNA SAY I TALK
Nairaland / General / Re: Sex Workers Take Over Lagos Banks At Nights (asewo Dey Use Bank Take Work @ 9yt) by Fayeloja007: 2:07am On Oct 07, 2013
Everybody go chop sha...Security guards doing intrapreneurship...ett naa ni shaa
Nairaland / General / Sex Workers Take Over Lagos Banks At Nights (asewo Dey Use Bank Take Work @ 9yt) by Fayeloja007: 2:06am On Oct 07, 2013
Hello handsome. My name is Ella – Emmanuela. I’ll give you a memorable night. If you can’t afford an all night, we can have a ‘short time’ somewhere around. It’ll cost you much less. Just pay the security man there (pointing to a bank opposite) and it’s as good as done,” a call girl on Allen Avenue tells one of our correspondents.

A bank? Yes. By 4pm on any business day, the doors of banks in Lagos State, like in every other part of the country, are shut to customers. But by 10pm, many of these banks play host to another set of customers.

Saturday PUNCH investigation reveals that the numerous commercial sex workers who throng the Allen Avenue-Opebi and GRA Ikeja business districts in Lagos, make use of bank premises to service their customers.

The Allen Avenue and Opebi axis is known as a hub for commercial sex workers in Lagos mainland.

It is not strange to see scantily-dressed young women of all shapes and sizes parading both sides of the road at the Opebi Roundabout around 10pm every night.

As a man passes by in a car, some of them, with heavy make-up and brightly coloured glossy lips, will wave through the window, calling out to such prospective customer, with endearing words like “Hey gorgeous!” or “Hi handsome!”

Every night, this area is always a beehive of activities for these night workers and their patrons.

During a visit to a popular club in Opebi, where many of these commercial sex workers station themselves, Saturday PUNCH had a chat with a young man who confirmed that he had used the premises of a bank for ‘short time’ purpose.

Uche (not real name), 29, is a frequent patron of the Opebi club.

He tells Saturday PUNCH that no matter how tired he is after closing for the day in the insurance company where he works, he likes to visit the clubs in the area.

He says, “I was going home after visiting some clubs in Opebi one Friday night and I was bored. While driving through Allen, I saw a girl that caught my fancy and I stopped to talk to her. I knew I could not take her home. So, I asked where we could do a ‘short time’ and she pointed to a bank.

“I did not understand what she meant. There was an ATM at the front of the bank, so I thought she meant that I had to withdraw money and pay her first.

“But before I could say anything, she said I should go and talk to the security man at the bank and give him N500. She told me the guard would watch over my car as well. After we were done, I gave the girl N1,500. That was a funny time because we even broke the security man’s bench and had to leave in a hurry before he noticed.”

It was indeed a funny story. Saturday PUNCH decided to find out if the premises of some other banks in the area were being used this way. It turned out to be true.

Around 11 pm on a Friday, Saturday PUNCH correspondents posed as patrons of these sex workers.

At Allen Avenue, one of our correspondents signalled to a young woman who stood on the side of the road.

Saturday PUNCH observed that she she was putting on a silky top that was so short that it revealed her belly button. The shorts she wore was outrageously short as well.

She was Ella – Emmanuela. There was no doubt that that was not her real name. The young woman was very fair in complexion.

The discussion switched immediately to how much she wanted for her service.

Ella said, “I just came out and if I have to go home with any customer, I won’t collect less than N15,000 because that means I will be losing other customers. But we can use any of these places around for a ‘short time’.

“The bank?”

“Yes, we use them as well. That will be just N2,500,” she said.

Pretending that she was too expensive, Ella was dismissed.

But one of our correspondents approached the guard who sat on a plastic chair in the front of a new generation bank in the area and asked if he could use the premises for a short time.

“No problem bros,” he said, without any hesitation.

Asked how much it will cost, the guard says N500.

“What will happen if another person comes and wants to do the same here?”

“The person will have to wait now. Unless you don’t mind them doing theirs while you are still there,” the young man said.

Saturday PUNCH visited another bank in the area with similar request.

It turned out that if the price was right, the security guard there too would be willing to ‘let out’ the bank premises for the short service.

“Why didn’t you use your car if you cannot pay N1,000? The security guard, who wore no uniform, said.

When told that the car would not be comfortable enough, he seemed to agree.

He said he will accept N500 but he won’t provide a bench.

At one of the banks on Allen Avenue, however, a guard told Saturday PUNCH that one of the employees of the bank is a regular patron of a club around the area and he could not risk being discovered.

The young man, who identified himself simply as Joseph, said the part of the bank that he could have allowed one of our correspondents to use was not properly concealed from prying eyes passing by on the road.

Saturday PUNCH also had another encounter with a commercial sex worker who said her name was Sade.

At first, Sade said the ‘short time’ would be done somewhere at Ikeja Under-bridge but when she realised that our correspondent did not like the idea, she suggested the premises of a bank.

“We could go to the bank over there. I would give you value for your money,” she says, trying as much as she can to lure our correspondent.

But another commercial sex worker who was nearby had eavesdropped on the conversation.

She walked up to our correspondent and introduced herself as Jennifer after Sade had left.

Jennifer magnanimously advises that going to secluded areas with commercial sex workers was trouble.

She told Saturday PUNCH that some girls connived with street boys to rob their clients before, during or after sex.

Some commercial sex workers are also said to be adept at picking their clients’ pockets.

Jennifer said, “It is a good thing you did not go with her. When you go to somewhere scanty, some of these girls have area boys as friends who protect them.

“What they do is lure men to a secluded place and these men rob them. Sometimes, while having sex, they also pick pockets. I don’t do that.”

Jenifer confirmed that the sex workers had sex with men in the premises of banks around Allen and Opebi.

She said she had taken her clients to bank premises before.

“But most times, it depends on the security guard. They make money from it. Some of the guards make much more than their salary in a week,” she said.

At about 10pm on Monday, our correspondents also visited Isaac John, a popular area for night clubbing in Ikeja GRA.

There, they met some commercial sex workers waiting for customers.

Thinking she had spotted a potential client, a young dark-skinned lady probably in her early 20s walked up to the car.

She introduced herself to one of our correspondents as Ronke. For the night, Ronke said she would accept N10,000. After much debate and when she realised it will be ‘short-time’, she said she would settle for N3,000.

The venue was to a newly acquired property by a bank opposite a fast food joint.

Ronke said, “If we were to go home, it would have been N10,000 but since it is short-time, I will take you somewhere but you will pay me N3,000.

“I can also perform orals, but if you don’t want that, I can collect N2,000 and the gateman will collect N500. I can ask him to collect N300. He would watch the gate for us.

“The place was just bought by a bank. We use the place well so I am sure the man will cooperate.”

Ronke is not so pleased when her ‘potential customer’ promised to call her later that night.

On the same street, Emem, a fair and busty commercial sex worker corroborated Ronke’s claims that the security man will take home at least N3,000 a night.

She stated that they pay him between N300 and N500.

“If you are close to them you go in free at times or at a cheaper rate,” she said.

Emem is not sure if the security men of the banks patronise the sex workers as she said none of them had sought her service before.

However, the activities of the commercial sex workers at the Allen Avenue-Opebi business district seem to be under a heavy police protection.

This is why the commercial sex workers operate without fear in the area.

Saturday PUNCH noticed, on three different nights, that at least three police patrol vans would stationed in the vicinity of the roundabout where the sex workers paraded regularly.

On Monday night alone, there were five police vans in the area.

A young woman, who once visited a club in the area, told our correspondent about how the policemen threatened her with arrest because they thought she was a prostitute who had come there to operate without approval.

The young woman, who pleaded anonymity, told Saturday PUNCH, “I was going to a club in the area with a friend on a Thursday night and just a few metres from where some prostitutes stood on the sides of the road, some policemen stopped us.

“They asked who I was and what kind of job I was doing. I told them I was a student but they said I was a prostitute and will arrest me. I was confused because there were so many prostitutes around there whom they did not arrest. But because I was not known there, they wanted to arrest me.

“We had to go and call one of the managers of the club to convince them I was not there as a prostitute but was there with my friend to relax.

“The club man (manager) who came to my rescue said all the girls around there are protected. But a new girl who comes there to operate will be arrested. Such girls will either bail themselves out with money or with sex.”

Saturday PUNCH notices that the policemen were obviously well-known to the sex workers because of the way they related with them.

Whenever a vehicle passed by, they shone their flashlights into it to see who its occupants were.

But the Deputy Police Public Relations Officer, Lagos State Police Command, Mr. Damasus Ozoani, said policemen in places believed to be the hub of prostitution in Lagos were only doing their legal duty.

“Of course, prostitution is still illegal in the state. But how do you prove those ladies you see standing on the sides of the road at that time of the night are prostitutes?

“Gone are those days when you could arrest people merely for wandering in the night. Policemen conduct searches in areas like that when they have genuine reason to believe that some people who have criminal intent may come there to operate.

“Those same ladies you see have the same legal rights to be protected by the police as you and I have. Unless the ladies are caught in sexual acts in a public place, one cannot conclude that they are prostitutes.”

Ozoani said patrol was usually intensified in places like the Allen Avenue-Opebi business district at that time of the night because of the tendency of criminals to operate there.
http://www.punchng.com/feature/super-saturday/sex-workers-take-over-lagos-banks-at-nights/
Nairaland / General / Seriously Speaking...i Miss Those Days by Fayeloja007: 12:36am On Oct 05, 2013
[b][/b] cheesy I miss those days when we roll tyres around in the street calling it driving.
i miss those days when we go as far as third street to play with our friends and no one would be worried if you will be kidnapped
i miss the 1Naira stick ice creams, fat suyas for mola side for Ijeshatedo surulere area....men those days sweet...light dey, every thing just dey bam....nothing like Jonathan grin
Education / Make Use Of Opportunity We Dey Inside Asup Strike by Fayeloja007: 12:02am On Oct 05, 2013
AS ASUP INDEFINITE STRIKE DON START SO..WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO DURING THE STRIKE PERIOD....SOME SAY THEY WILL USE THE OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN A TRADE...ME STILL DEY THINK WHAT I WILL DO WITH MY TIME...JUST MAKE SURE SAY THE TIME IS NOT SPENT DOING NOTHING.....IYA­LAYA AWON ASUP AND JONATHAN
Education / Re: The Deplorable State Of Infrastructure In Nigerian Universities (Photos) by Fayeloja007: 11:32pm On Oct 04, 2013
TO BAYA, YOU PEOPLE WILL SAY UNIVERSITY BETTER PASS POLYTECHNICS....Come to Federal Polytechnic Offa...come check out our SLT labs...well equipped and up to date...ARCHI, MECH ENGINE, U WAN TRY AM?.....YE YE PEOPLE
Islam for Muslims / Re: American Company Sells Pork-laced Bullets To Fight Islamic Terrorists by Fayeloja007: 2:55am On Jun 28, 2013
Na like dis some white fool reach. Shootin a terrorist with pig meat bullet wuld dem 2 hell. Very funny

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