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oarowosola:
Honestly, you guys are funny as hell. Some of the roasts had me laughing, some were annoying, but overall I enjoyed reading the comments.

But one thing I need people to understand is this, I didn’t come here because I was looking for relationship advice. At the point I made that first post, my mind was already made up. I was already mentally done with the relationship long before I even typed anything.

The reason I shared the story was mostly because I was exhausted mentally, and I also wanted people to see how extreme certain situations can get in relationships. Sometimes people think you’re exaggerating until you start explaining the details.

Truth be told, this breakup didn’t happen overnight.

I had already been thinking about ending things for a very long time. The only thing holding me back was the fact that she is actually an amazing person in some ways. She has a soft heart, and I knew breaking up with her was going to hurt her deeply, so I kept trying to find the best possible way to do it without completely destroying her emotionally.

But the events of that final weekend just pushed me over the edge.

The way she left my kitchen after staying over, combined with everything that happened the night before, was what finally made me snap internally. It wasn’t that I suddenly realized all the issues that day. No. Those things had been building up in my mind for months.

Before I eventually sent the breakup message, I had already started emotionally withdrawing from the relationship. I stopped calling as much, stopped texting often, and stopped engaging the way I used to. She noticed it too. She kept asking what was wrong, and I would just say I’m fine, even though she knew something was clearly off.

Eventually I realized I couldn’t keep dragging it out forever. I didn’t want to keep pretending while mentally checking out. So I finally sent her a message telling her I was no longer interested in continuing the relationship.

At first, she was shocked.

She kept asking how someone could end a relationship of over a year through text without explanation. She asked if there was another person involved. She begged me not to ignore her. She said she was trying to stay calm because she was outside in public.

Honestly, reading those messages affected me because despite everything, I’m still human. I’m not heartless.

So instead of completely shutting her out, I told her we could talk later because I was busy with work at that moment.

Later that night, I finally picked up her call.

And for the first time, I explained everything fully.

I explained how draining the relationship had become for me mentally. I explained how uncomfortable I constantly felt because of the difference in our lifestyles, hygiene, responsibilities, communication patterns, effort, and overall approach to life.

I explained the incidents that stayed in my head for months, the constant untidiness, the dirty environments, the financial imbalance, the times I felt taken for granted, the moments I cleaned her entire house just to prove that basic cleanliness was not impossible.

And no, cleaning her house was never a sign of weakness or simping to me.

I did it because I loved her.

I genuinely believed maybe if I showed her how simple it was to maintain a clean environment, things would improve. That was all. But instead, things kept repeating themselves over and over again.

I also explained how frustrating it felt to constantly give financially, emotionally, and physically while feeling like the same level of thoughtfulness wasn’t being returned consistently.

By the end of the call, she broke down crying and started apologizing repeatedly. She begged me to give her another chance. She promised she would change. She promised she would work on herself and become better.

And honestly… I softened.

Maybe because deep down, despite everything, I still cared about her.

So I gave her another chance, but I made myself very clear.

I told her this wasn’t about pretending for one week or acting differently temporarily because she got called out. I told her real change has to become natural. Cleanliness, responsibility, effort, and self awareness cannot be something you perform temporarily just to save a relationship.

I told her:

“Please change for yourself, for your future kids, and for me too. Don’t just act differently now and later return to old habits. Let it become part of you naturally.

As a lady, I honestly expected you to even be correcting me on certain things, not the other way around. I’m putting a lot on the line emotionally, and I don’t want to regret my decisions later in life.

I’m not saying this like I’m doing you a favor. There are billions of men better than me, just like there are women better than you. Nobody is irreplaceable. But while two people are trying to build something meaningful together, both people should be actively working on themselves.

You are free to call out my own flaws too because I’m not a perfect human being. Relationships are supposed to be about growth, accountability, and complementing each other. The moment two people stop growing and start merely tolerating bad patterns, the relationship slowly becomes exhausting instead of peaceful.”


So yeah… that’s the full update.

Some people roasted me in the first post. Some understood me immediately. Some thought I was overreacting. Some thought I was being too soft.

But at the end of the day, nobody truly understands how emotionally draining a relationship can become until they experience living inside that reality themselves.

Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/8677133/cleaned-girlfriends-house-instantly-wanted

Burob:
So he shouldn’t say the truth again.

Felicity001:
Distress! Distress!! Distress!!!

8months registered 2007 Mitsubishi Outlander.
First Body, tokunbo standard, ac chilling, suspension 💯
Engine and gear 💯 Untouched.
Interior super neat.

Absolutely nothing to fix
Price: 4.2m slightly negotiable
Location: Abule Egba

08035132876

Felicity001:
2006 BMW Series 1 Sport Edition.
tokunbo standard.
4 cylinders untouched engine with turbo, excellent automatic gear selection.
AC chilling like Moscow
Suspension 💯
4 brand new tyres 💯
Interior super neat, with android screen, reverse camera.
Thumb start.
soft powerboot.
A car to own, buy and use, nothing to fix
Price: 3.650m asking
Location: Abule Egba, Lagos

08035132876

Felicity001:
Distress! Distress!! Distress!!!

8months registered 2007 Mitsubishi Outlander.
First Body, tokunbo standard, ac chilling, suspension 💯
Engine and gear 💯 Untouched.
Interior super neat.

Absolutely nothing to fix
Price: 4.2m slightly negotiable
Location: Abule Egba

08035132876

Felicity001:
2006 BMW Series 1 Sport Edition.
tokunbo standard.
4 cylinders untouched engine with turbo, excellent automatic gear selection.
AC chilling like Moscow
Suspension 💯
4 brand new tyres 💯
Interior super neat, with android screen, reverse camera.
Thumb start.
soft powerboot.
A car to own, buy and use, nothing to fix
Price: 3.650m asking
Location: Abule Egba, Lagos

08035132876

Felicity001:
Distress! Distress!! Distress!!!

8months registered 2007 Mitsubishi Outlander.
First Body, tokunbo standard, ac chilling, suspension 💯
Engine and gear 💯 Untouched.
Interior super neat.

Absolutely nothing to fix
Price: 4.2m slightly negotiable
Location: Abule Egba

08035132876

Felicity001:
2006 BMW Series 1 Sport Edition.
tokunbo standard.
4 cylinders untouched engine with turbo, excellent automatic gear selection.
AC chilling like Moscow
Suspension 💯
4 brand new tyres 💯
Interior super neat, with android screen, reverse camera.
Thumb start.
soft powerboot.
A car to own, buy and use, nothing to fix
Price: 3.650m asking
Location: Abule Egba, Lagos

08035132876

FarSide:
Car parts dealers. I want to know the current price of Corolla 2005 engine. My car has been on my neck lately and I just want to change the engine completely. How much could it cost please

CyynthiaKiss:
By Steven Skiena and Charles B. Ward



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WizardOfNG:
I have always strongly condemned xenophobic attacks against Nigerians in SA. It is unacceptable. This round of it that has led to the death of two of our citizens must not be tolerated.

Yet, our indolent leader must not use the development to burnish their own reputation.

Why does Oshiomhole suggests soft targets, i.e South African-owned businesses operating in Nigeria, when he should move for cessation of bilateral trade with South Africa beginning with Nigerian ending their supply of crude to them?

Is it because he knows that will affect the income of Nigeria which may affect him and his private interests?

They are taking you for a ride bro. Leaders know what they have to do to protect Nigeria globally. Yet they never do those things. Na today?

They leave us to our fate globally to be mistreated and then begin impotent sabre rattling when issues like this arise.

Why can't Nigeria cease bilateral trade with South Africa instantly till we get justice for the Nigerians killed in SA?

You think other nations won't view us guilty of distractive cowardice and failing our people if the best we can suggest is targeting businesses when we can go directly for the jugular of SA over trade relationship with them?

WizardOfNG:
MTN and DSTV are businesses. They cannot be held responsible for what ordinary South Africans do. If you build a great business in Ghana, do you want it destroyed when some Nigerians over there attack and kill some Ghanaians?

Your business must be destroyed or taken away from you simply because you share nation of origin with wrongdoers you don't know and do not even approve of their action? This is too ignorant from Oshiomhole abeg.

Felicity001:
2006 BMW Series 1 Sport Edition.
tokunbo standard.
4 cylinders untouched engine with turbo, excellent automatic gear selection.
AC chilling like Moscow
Suspension 💯
4 brand new tyres 💯
Interior super neat, with android screen, reverse camera.
Thumb start.
soft powerboot.
A car to own, buy and use, nothing to fix
Price: 3.650m asking
Location: Abule Egba, Lagos

08035132876

Felicity001:
Distress! Distress!! Distress!!!

8months registered 2007 Mitsubishi Outlander.
First Body, tokunbo standard, ac chilling, suspension 💯
Engine and gear 💯 Untouched.
Interior super neat.

Absolutely nothing to fix
Price: 4.2m slightly negotiable
Location: Abule Egba

08035132876

Felicity001:
Check in

Car is in perfect working condition

Catalyst intact

Low fuel consumption

madridguy:
Is she too big for her dad to discipline or what?
No man will be happy beating her adult daughter in that manner. She should listen to her dad and be a good girl.

Ten06:
The guy seems to be trying to describe the sound engine make when you start it and the oil has not pump. That rough sound that the valves make when oil has not touched them

fyzaila:
There is nothing wrong since they are same gender. I can go topless in front of my daughter but I can't go pantless in front of her.

Felicity001:
2006 BMW Series 1 Sport Edition.
tokunbo standard.
4 cylinders untouched engine with turbo, excellent automatic gear selection.
AC chilling like Moscow
Suspension 💯
4 brand new tyres 💯
Interior super neat, with android screen, reverse camera.
Thumb start.
soft powerboot.
A car to own, buy and use, nothing to fix
Price: 4m asking
Location: Abule Egba, Lagos

08035132876

Felicity001:
Distress! Distress!! Distress!!!

8months registered 2007 Mitsubishi Outlander.
First Body, tokunbo standard, ac chilling, suspension 💯
Engine and gear 💯 Untouched.
Interior super neat.

Absolutely nothing to fix
Price: 5m slightly negotiable
Location: Abule Egba

08035132876

Felicity001:
Distress! Distress!! Distress!!!

8months registered 2007 Mitsubishi Outlander.
First Body, tokunbo standard, ac chilling, suspension 💯
Engine and gear 💯 Untouched.
Interior super neat.

Absolutely nothing to fix
Price: 5m slightly negotiable
Location: Abule Egba

08035132876

Arkmanbuddy:
This Anioma fight for statehood isn't going to be easy as there are many people who're against it. The plan to make it an Igbo thing will be strongly resisted.

Felicity001:
8 months registered 2007 Mitsubishi Outlander.
First Body, tokunbo standard, ac chilling, suspension 💯
Engine and gear 💯 Untouched.
Interior super neat.

Absolutely nothing to fix
Price: 5.350m
Location: Abule Egba

08035132876

Felicity001:
Check in available

Odin13:
Atiku/ Obi remains the winning ticket ..


If Obi is on ticket as president and kwankwaso as vice .. tinubu will win before breakfast

Kwankwaso/Obi is also a good ticket

Northerners has the voting power .. and they’re king makers .. no matter how the south wants to vote with all their might .. they can’t out vote the north

NORTHERN Nigeria registers for ADC because of Atiku.. north is mobilizing for Atiku and not Obi

Anything Obi on ticket as flag bearer will see tinubu win without qualms