Felabrity:
As expected

Though the numbers are too low due to the voter apathy, thanks to INEC

Atiku won his state
Kwankwaso won his state
Peter Obi floored his state
Only one unserious candidate lost his state

but will win the presidency

LesbianBoy:
If Peter obi should miraculously win the presidential election its time to go for Lagos governorship.


Godfatherism has to end. How can one person be deciding the fate of so many people

Why na only lagos u mention? Na only lag godfatherism dey?

It depends on the individual, infact the individual might be a responsible, loyal babe and all, but she can along the line change. I bought my gf a 2013 toyota camry, full option, thumb start, panoramic ...etc. The first day she ever said I LOVE YOU like for real the way it sounded was real. Months after we had issues, she claimed she couldnt drive home that night, but drove to GRA at one of her clients apartment hotel to stay the night, she was given an executive suit. That night I drove behind her, trying to stop her not to go, but omo she speed speed speed, i just dey talk am for my mind sey see this life, car wey i buy this woman na him she take her hand drive herself go her client apartment go sleep. I off.

ONDO WOMEN AND INFIDELITY NA INDOMIE AND EGG

wey the money first?

nighter:


What does libido have to do with love now?

I tire ooo!!

mariahAngel:


How about you talk things out face to face with her first?
Do you not love her?

We have broken up up to 7 times, and trust me there was a time I mustered courage to actually move on cos I do really love her, but whenever we meet to talk and end it, she will just bring this face and my heart of kindness and love will just melt and i wont be able to take it seeing her so hurt, by virtue of that, I will just reconcile with her. Infact our last reconciliation was just like this, but i told her that she would really have to work on somethings to avoid all this break up bruhahaha, she said no P, he never reach 2weeks na him she start all these ones.

satandeterrible:

My man, learn not to flog a dead horse.
You can never beat a woman to her game. Never.
Women are masterful manipulators and will make you fell guilty for the crime they themselves committed.

You didn't tell the whole story early enough though. Its always good to tell the whole story.

For what it's what, you need to forget that girl.
Move on, learn important lessons and forge on with your life.

Any attempt to get her back is a further confirmation of your weakness and I assure you, it won't end well.

I didnt want to block her so she feels am just giving her space until she tries to move on, but she keeps bombarding with messages that what she said was a mistake, and as of the time I cautioned her she stopped, that if she continued after I had cuationed her, was when I should start acting this way, oh well I just landed her a block on all platforms, I wanted her to be able to move on easily cos she is the type that falls seriously ill after a break up, at this level na she sabi

Sweetvie:
Lol
Guys are just funny
U get babe for side and you're worrying abt ur gf crushing for someone else?
No hard feeling, that doesn't suppose bother u na

You dont get it, as i get side fuckkkk, she nor know, she sef go get i nor know, but i get crush too, i nor dey blow am for her face, she blow hers for my face thus this yawa now. Spot the difference?

I wouldnt say some people here influenced my decision, but many attimes when we come to Nairaland to share our pains and thoughts is just based on the fact that we need to hear different opinion, knowledge and insight from different people to be able to help us make wiser decisions, and I can tell for sure am making a good decision, I have ended it and thus her response as attached.

satandeterrible:

See bro, you can't actually stop a woman from cheating is she so desires.
For a man, it is always important to set boundaries for the woman/women in your life.
Always be straight forward in stating the things you accept and the things you don't.

Women constantly shit-test men, sometimes even subconsciously (they do not even know wine they do it). When you continuously fail a woman's shit tests, she begins to despise you, she begins to question her attraction to you, and - in your case - her attraction towards Kunle continues to grow.

Perhaps you've given her the impression that you badly need her? You've given her the impression that she's your world? You've given her the impression that you can't replace her?
Whatever the case is, it is clear that she is not afraid of your relationship with her coming to an end. She's not afraid to lose you.

You must be clear about your likes and dislikes. You must be clear about boundaries. You must be resolute in punishing, when your boundaries and redlines are crossed. That's the way with women.
With women, the way up is the way down.
If she's not afraid to lose you, then you've already lost her.

You must now be clear with her. State your dislike about how she crushes on the Kunle of a guy. Make sure she understands that the relationship will end if she continues.
You don't need to be overly serious while telling her this. But make sure she understands that you're not joking and you'll carry out your promises.

Either way, prepare for breakfast. Perhaps she has been influenced by bad friends, just immature or you've severally failed her shit tests.

Try to be the one to break up with her first.

Bro you know I just thought about something! Because in as much as I have really lost feelings and just broke up with her yesterday, my mind isnt at rest yet as it keeps wondering why all of a sudden the spewing of the thrash and all? I now got to calculate the time frame and all the incidences that occured during that time. Days before this whole thing,we have been having issues with trust matters, I saw a chat on her phone which supposedly was between she and a guy I have been warning her about probable cheating, after all the accusation and all, to sort of like reach a conclusion between us, we opted that we get a polygraph test done and I was to pay. Damn! So i confessed that sometimes january last year when we had a 2weeks break from each other, I cheated, and there wont be any need for me to do the test, it will be a waste of money, but that she wey still dey form HOLY, make she run am i go pay. We are yet to do the test though. however my confession made a teary and sad. And i can recall it was after she got herself back together she started saying all those kunle this and kunle that.
Could this be the reason? If it is then maybe it gave her the audacity and the confidence to spew what she had kept in mind way long before, or shes saying it just to make me feel jealous?

Anyway sha I dun break the relationship, and this was her response, though she tried to twist the whole talk back on my head, saying things I never said, omo fear some women.

Persephone1:
Reverse psychology from a scheming manipulative woman! Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but your woman is long gone. She's so into Kunle, it's only a matter of time before she lets him have her. The bolded is just a way to eat her cake and have it. Form jealous to divert attention. Be wise!
Yes attraction respects no one but anyone in a committed relationship should know to deal with feelings for another person before they grow out of control.

Gbam you are right! I don even use style Ghost am from here. I ask Kunle to give me him phone sey i wan call person wey dey owe me sey him nor dey pick call, i come send am go buy water to quickly do my searc, i nor see the babe 3 phone numbers for both called and receive calls and also on whatsapp. I go just free the matter like that dump the geh! Maybe she sef don tire wan use style bail out.

satandeterrible:


Guy, women are fickle. Very FICKLE.
That you broke up with her serveral times and still made up is even a sign that you are weak. Thatbis what she assumes in her subconscious and she believes she'll always get you back anytime you break up with her. So she's not afraid of losing uih. Instead she'll be the one to break up with you once she has drained you up.

My guy, with women sometimes forgiveness is a sin. You can't be breaking up and making up that many times. She's has lost the intrigue, the mystery in you. She's looking out for another source of roller-coaster ride, another challenge.

Always take decisions that'll be in your very best interest. Women are machiavellian and don't hesitate to take descions in their very own best interests, regardless of who else is involved.

Say what you want to say, the truth is that she doesn't respect you. That is why she is openly showing affection for Kunle. You haven't strongly reprimanded her and she's taken that for weakness and that has fuelled her attraction.
It may be too late now to make her stop.

My last word to you is, be ready to wield the big hammer. Take a firm and uncompromising decision, if it comes to that.
There are always better women out there. Why would you choose to stay with an immature one?

My brother trust me, she just started this all of a sudden oo, this immaturity just started all of a sudden, the bond we share is strong, so plotting a break up now is somewhat too early just because i sense her crushing on kunle

satandeterrible:

See bro, you can't actually stop a woman from cheating is she so desires.
For a man, it is always important to set boundaries for the woman/women in your life.
Always be straight forward in stating the things you accept and the things you don't.

Women constantly shit-test men, sometimes even subconsciously (they do not even know wine they do it). When you continuously fail a woman's shit tests, she begins to despise you, she begins to question her attraction to you, and - in your case - her attraction towards Kunle continues to grow.

Perhaps you've given her the impression that you badly need her? You've given her the impression that she's your world? You've given her the impression that you can't replace her?
Whatever the case is, it is clear that she is not afraid of your relationship with her coming to an end. She's not afraid to lose you.

You must be clear about your likes and dislikes. You must be clear about boundaries. You must be resolute in punishing, when your boundaries and redlines are crossed. That's the way with women.
With women, the way up is the way down.
If she's not afraid to lose you, then you've already lost her.

You must now be clear with her. State your dislike about how she crushes on the Kunle of a guy. Make sure she understands that the relationship will end if she continues.
You don't need to be overly serious while telling her this. But make sure she understands that you're not joking and you'll carry out your promises.

Either way, prepare for breakfast. Perhaps she has been influenced by bad friends, just immature or you've severally failed her shit tests.

Try to be the one to break up with her first.

My brother, the relationship is a complicated one, I have broken up with her like 4 times. The first one landed her in the hospital, second got her emotionally drained that her sisters had to be calling me. 3rd one she almost used her blood to swear that she has never cheated on me to prove innocence, 4th, we met at a restaurant and by the time I told her it was done, it was rush of tears that I had to reconcile with her the next day. Truth is, I love her, and beyond every reasonable doubt, ever since have been dating shes the best so far, she nor wan leave me, yet she suddenly started displaying this acts, though if u see from my initial write up, shes been saying she likes him since last year oo, i nor even reason am go that side, and there are times when i wont sleep in that house leave her in the room while kunle and his brother are in their own rooms, who knows if the guy don dey kpansh am since, cos that yesterday surprise me as i dey tell kunle sey make him buy blood tonic, her mood changed, and went into thinking mode, omo that shit go me internally mad.

frozen70:


I think she likes and loves kunle but was waiting for him to make the move of which she may agree

But kunle understands her body language and will avoid anything that will bring issues with you and kunle

Don't be surprise after this period that kunle babe us around, she will change am for kunle and look for one excuse for you to exit kunle

That's when you will understand her games

How are you sure Kunle understands her body language, I never said anything to that effect. Though kunle had called me yesterday on phone sey him babe wan meet me, she come sey why would I want to meet her, I was like its there a big deal there? That it seems anything concerning Kunle now seems to be of ur attention, that I dont understand. She said stylishly " hmmm they want to meet fine boy" must you meet her. I just ignored.

eventainment:
When dating your gf you meet ladies you catch feelings for but discipline keeps you with your gf and a reason. it happens to anyone at the end she might have crush on the dude but it's you she is still with its normal in short if she loves only al through without having crush on someone means her libido is extremely low

I agree with you, i have crush on other women out there, but not to the extent of saying it to her face, its normal if she does have crush on some other guy, but not to my boy who stays with me and then splashes it all in my face.

satandeterrible:
Bro, the honest truth is that it is not just a 'silly crush' as some people are suggesting here.
She has fallen so deep for the Kunle of a guy.

I'll tell you without mincing words that she'll gladly fuk the Kunle guy if he so much as shows a little interest in her. She probably even masturbates with a mental picture of him.

Anybody in a relationship who develops a crush on another person should work towards killing it. But in your case, not only has she not worked on it, she has fed it and it has probably grown too big, being control.

You sound like you're soft on her.
Now let me tell you this, since you've failed to sternly correct her, she'll soon begin to despise your weakness and it'll only fuel her attraction towards Kunle or maybe some other guys out there.

I honestly don't see that relationship lasting for much longer.
I think you've exhibited weakness and women despise weakness in men. You didn't sternly warn her, you didn't make it clear that if she ever talks about Kunle again, she'll have an axe to grind with you.
Imagine if you were the one crushing on a girl and did all of the things she has done, she'd have raised hell.

Prepare for breakfast my gee. It is coming onto you and its inevitable.
The only way out might be relieving that Kunle guy and his bro of duty. But that's bullshit. A guy shouldn't lose his job because of the looseness of your so-called girlfriend.

Solution: Do the breakup yourself.
If I were you, I'd make it clear to her in no uncertain terms that she's playing with fire and you'll no longer tolerate that. I'll make it very clear that if she continues to show such attraction towards Kunle, that will be the end of our relationship.
After telling her this, you'll have to be prepared to execute the action without flinching.
You must show no more weakness. If she's not ready to change, breakup with her and let her go.
If you don't, she'll only continue to despise you.

And if Kunle is that kind of guy, he'll soon be fuking your hoe behind your back.

Let that bitch go.

Bro I pretty much understand your points, am glad I could pick one or two things thereabout. The most confusing aspect of all this is that she's this kind that respects me alot not to even talk or showcase her crush indirectly in my presence, I have been trying to analyze reasons why she's now changed and doing totally the opposite. It was when she actually said that she will go sleep in his room was when I flared up and sternly warn her about disrespecting me, but I didnt want to give a deliberately or a penalty warning like " the next time you ever mention or make remark about him, you will have to find yourself another relationship" because if i do that she might pretentiously stop but still be exhibit the traits in her mind, i want her to continue to spew more so I can have a valid reason to THROW her out of my life.

RealEzee:
Shebi u won pursue both brothers pls add ur babe to d list as u set her up with sir K,easy stuff

If i set her up now, she go know wetin dey cos me sef don do mistake go dey tell am sey I know sey she get crush on kunle

realestate99:

Mr Man, the feelings of a woman is unstable like a wind, all these Epistles is in no way reasons for her action, the two years together might be boring to her already, it is just that she is showing it at the wrong location ( your side), assuming kunle was an outsider far away from you, believe me, kunle will be vandalising her pipeline and you will still be thinking you are in a committed relationship.

The problem with relationship nowadays is that attention span is very low, people get bored easily and makes fidelity an utopian task but for me, I have a principle, no unwarranted exposure of my girlfriend to my pals, I do not accommodate visitors that would be staying with me for long no matter the circumstances, most times girls I have dated do complain about me having no friends, I just dey bone face like Abacha.....it is easier to get over a betrayal from an outsider than people you call friends.....I don't have any contact or conversation with my friends partners too.

To your story, the battery of that your relationship is 7% with no power bank in sight, that girl have strong feelings for that kunle and for your mental health you have to really analyse this relationship with that girl, as it is, if you are in town and kunle is alone with your girlfriend at home, your heart will be beating like a marathon runner.....for your sanity, pause your emotional attachment to that girl till situation changes and do not hate kunle because of this, he is not at fault, he didn't ask for this to happen.

Truth be told, I drove out one day to get food, so the food she wanted was not available so I called her and she was not picking, probably slept or something, normally i would call Kunle to go knock the door, instead I called his brother to go knock, that one went to go knock but she didnt respond or open until I got back. So its true, I have started having this form of doubt which infact is showing in my thoughts and actions.

JovialJune:



I'm so glad this is coming from a man, now you've all accepted women can cheat without feelings involved, nice one

Yes na, so me am complaining based on what I know, you think if shes cheating and i am talking constantly about someone, she wont feel the same way am feeling now?

JovialJune:



So why are you butt hurt since you know she has side guys? Since both of you dey deceive yourselves, why can't you commot face for her likeness of Kunle? You no suppose create thread to lament wetin two of una dey do, abi no be so?

FYI I'm holy, 100% holy, don't mistake everyone as your gf or enclave.

Thats why the secrecy should be mutual, nor be wetin person know person go complain about? Mind you a woman and a man can love either and still cheat.

JovialJune:



I take my previous comment back, you have another babe on the side yet you're bothered that your babe likes another guy? No wonder people say that jealous possessive boyfriends are mostly cheats

If only she will learn to be secretive like you

Them tell u sey she sef nor get side guys? Oga everybody dey Bleep everybody for this Lagos, as long as sey u be my number 1, and i dey give u emotional, financial and all the kinds stuff wey relationship require, who am I not to have a side Bleep? You holy?

JovialJune:



I actually see her as being a curious cat, wanting to know everything about her crush, and since he is close by, makes it obvious for Op to notice her countenance and demeanor of Kunle, I may be wrong though.

You are right. There was a day we were both leaving the house, I was ahead of her, she was at the back, so kunle showed up from the kitchen, omo the way she take greet am with sexy voice, i hear Haiiiiiiii. I weak

IceColdVeins:
Perhaps you need to set a more explicit trap for her or something. Catching her red-handed might be the only way out.

As for me, I’ve got no chills, I’d have sent her packing the very moment my instinct caught her.

Instinct resulting to a 2years relationship? He nor easy ooo like that bro. Me sef don dey use style dey fire her back with sense, and na she hate this kinda shit pass.

JovialJune:
As far as she has not been caught red handed, she's only crushing on the guy, or do you want to say that since you've been dating her no other girl has caught your fancy

Definitely yes! But will never emotionally cheat on my gf, its absurd to forget yourself in fantasy world and start to say things your partner aint suppose to hear.

UpInTheSky:
According to your other thread, you're 38 and she's 26, a whole 12-years (a preteen) between you two.
I'm going to assume this Kunle guy is around 26/closer to her age and probably handsome, so no wonder.

Guy I feel you, to be sincere, When this thought started coming to reality in my head, I started analyzing what could be the probably reason why shes attracted to him. Below are certain things am suspecting:

1: The boy is short, like 5'2, so he usually gyms, so he;s got a fit body, mind you am like 5'6 I dont gym, i dont have big belly neither am I fat, just averaget athlete body.

2: He has dreads, but she once claimed dreaded people arent her spec, could be a big fat lie

3: He's normally good looking, but I am more handsome than he is.

4: This is more of the highest suspicion of it all, I am an average dick sized guy, but this boy most times when he is gyming, wears only pant, and to say sometimes when he;s on this pants, hes got this kinda like bulky bulge that shows, so am thinking some of the time he had gone to open door for her, she has probably seen this thus her interest in the boy. different reasons it could be, but what I have stated up there are 100% true and no lies.

Afrobasic:
Oboy, na why I no get time for woman matter.


You are housing her, feeding her and probably doing much more, yet she is stressing you mentally.


Time to start searching for a new chick. Cause that girl will disgracefully disappoint you if left alone with the young bull.

I doubt if that boy will ever betray me, but nothing new under the Sun, he might judging from how seductive her look is.

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Stormtrooper11:
You dey date for this economy?! You suppose dey EFCC net.

No be everybody be broke ass, go get a job or a paying hustle.

SarutobiEky:
I would not lose any sleep on this if I were you. She's not worth the stress brother. Let things flow. And please be on the look out for another babe to use hold side.

Bro we have been together for almost 2 years, are u saying its obvious shes catching feelings for him?

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