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Enizo:
Firsty welcome

donugapi:
Very true.. My wife stayed with her family for nearly 4 months... her family were so nice.. They even gave us their car to use plus gas money sometimes sef. They bought so many gifts for our baby and gave her plenty money.. before we left we opened an account for her with nearly $2k in there.

Some people naturally just have bad attitudes

happytbaby:
My dear people,

I am wondering if I am the only one that read the part where Girlloom said she is waiting for visa money as most people keep saying she should get out of the place. I noticed that one other person said she should ask her family for money though.

Heirloom, please pardon my question, do you work? I have noticed men tend to behave the way your husband is behaving when you don't have your own source of income. And at the people saying what her husband should have and should have not done, please note that every marriage is very different and when people tell you what they can take or not, we all have different thresholds, you will be surprised at what some people take from their spouses.

Abeg, if you are happy with your marriage aside of this in law issue, protect your home. This you can do by apologizing to all the parties concerned (it's painful I know, I will not be able to share my experiences here because it's a public forum and it's a very small world), try as much possible never to tell your husband anything wrong that his family members do (it's very hard my darling). Always say only positive things about them. One day they will misstep and it will be glaring that even though the are his people they have faults like every other person. Trust me on this, it always works but it's a game of patience.


The person I blame in this current fiasco is Girloom herself, pardon my castigating you. Even without knowing the background, JW, Favoredgirl(i think) and I advocated that caution cos it's in law issue, you for give background.@Vavum, you said the man should also have thought of what this would do to the family, the man has nothing to lose o, it's her marriage that is at stake.

It's unfortunate that in this part of the world, we treat wives as if our son is doing them a favour, which should not be because it's an exchange of value. The MIL issue, I can't really blame her for lashing out cos such things hurt especially when it's about our kids, but patience is endless in a Nigerian marriage, sometimes am tempted to say 'f. .k it, your son isn't doing me a goddamn favour' but I hold myself. An in law once asked me where I got a fair baby from, my Mum was there and was livid, I smiled sweetly and didn't utter a sound, I be like 'go do DNA test , that's the last you will see the child' . I know people who are lucky to have lovely in -laws but if you and yours don't see eye to eye, best thing is distance.

Please don't leave, manage them, do some damage control, don't let them come between you and oga, block the SSN and never mention it to your husband.

On a lighter note, please Girloom people plenty here wey you go dey call 'Aunty' ooo. Personally, I like it when people form Aunty for me cos if we went enter cab, obviously na Aunty go pay nau, abi how you guys see am?

LadyGuinivere:
Enizo of all the opinions so far. I align with urs 99percent. (The 1 percent na Minus the swear word )
I sincerely don't get it when men cannot be a Cover to their wives.

ansol:
Hello Everyone.
Congrats to all those whose visa was granted recently.
Quick update: I received wife and new born back to Nigeria last week. Had to change flight date though.
For the record, God bless firsttymum and others who posted details about the 2 bags (23 kg) for baby on united. My wife used this from Dallas to Lagos and no issues at all. Check in 4 bags (23 kg) plus diaper bag, hand luggage (10kg), breastpump and baby car seat free.

I kept calling their US office to confirm and they did, I even sent mail to their customer service in US and got affirmative reply just to harm wifey when going. Meanwhile the united office in Nigeria said It is only one bag (10kg)....and that was shocking. Just shrugged it off and went with the US office response. all in all, they offer is valid for now.

Once again, thank you all.

biollar1:
Hahahahahaha see dis preggie o! Lmao!!

My joy ryt now knows no bound dear, GOD BLESS @firsttymum, @mrsbnw and @sylolo PLENTY for the Form A tips, I for still dey para upandown

May God Continue to illuminate una world with beta beta blessings.

missmalachi:
Pls make una help me touchlight dis matter

Its been more than 6 month i had my baby n yet AF never show pls how do i knw wen i ovulate.

Modath twchinnie firsttymum n my fellow sabi mama

jacksparow:
Congrats. It happens. my 1st and 2nd are just one year apart. Oluwa will surely provide the means to do the missionary journey and care for you all thats my prayer.

isysleek:
Hello house, just popped in to say hello. Been awhile. Congrats to all new mamas and papas.
@ Firsttymum, I see you o. Congrats! Don't fear to do the test. You dey husband house so nothing do you. I know four mamas that are preg right now and their babies are not upto one! It's not their fault jor! The harmattan was just too cold jare! Lol.
And hospitals/docs are now increasing fees,exchange rate is gangsta! Donald Trump ish sef dey one side. Hmnn...It is well o.
Maybe me sef shuld start reasoning number 2. Pressure from mum and others is getting too much sef.
Shagaman,tvegas,phema,bj2012golf etc, what are you pple waiting for o?
Oya make I continue my search for PTA...for vacation o biko!

ahnie:
Choi firsttymum...congrats,now yu are gonna need lots of courage n perseverance.abov all,you need additional caregiver.may the lord make it easy for you.

modath:
Firsty Firsty, enzhoy my sisita, nohin do you ojare, the more the merrier...

If people ask, just say dem be twins; born 10mths apart...

As for mamas here being pwetty, you told no lie..

favoredgal:
Hey congrats dear

Talk about the super fertile
I use you as a point of contact to the ATC sisters. Baba!!!! Do it for them too

ozycy:
Canada, good idea. And watch how traffic will shift to Canada if you update the house. And I guess medical care is cheaper there.

mubzay:
Welcome back. Smiling in swahili. Happy bumping.

ozycy:
Wow, I tot you were kidding us in the oda thread. Congratulations dear. You be real love master Valentine kpekus result for the second time.
Teamnovemberclasscaptain#
Make una no do wetin una do here in 2015 ooo. Oya team November, begin show yourself asap.

For mamas wey don carry another belle sharply but still hiding cos they think say we go laf them, abeg report yourself now, we no dey laf anybody ooo.

bepop:
Please someone should please help me out on this information i am hearing about oakbend. i contacted Dr Fagbohun 2 weeks ago and he gave me hospital bill of 2300. Now i am seeing it has been increased. Please how can i confirm this from him or what can i do? I am so confused. Any other hospital in Texas? pls help me i beg. thanks.

ozycy:
Kikikikiki, I don't want to believe this, am sure you are pulling our legs, anyway kikikikiki. Go and run test and confirm.
Am sure you will dig out a cheap hospital as Oakbend don hike price

biollar1:
Chai! What of pple wey dem don give invoice and all but yet to pay? See wetin dis banks cost o....I for don finish with dis Form A Isshhh since. *sigh*

nefertitiram:
We could teach peeps, but we got to charge! Hehehehe

zoemummy:
Hello house, just passing by and thought to hail everyone. I've been back from my missionary journey for over a month now. Congrats to those with successful VO and POE testimonials.

Firsttymum, FinanceFitness, tvegas, nogen, justwise, Shawlar, nefertiti, neks, ladyG and every every. God used you guys to guide me from VO through POE to documentation and back. Thank you.

God bless everyone that's passed on information freely and made the journey smooth and seamless for the next person.

This platform saved me from goofing;
1. I was able to negotiate about 60% off an unexpected bill;
2. Got my BC and passport same day-meanwhile i met a non-nairalander naija mom who was headed to a post office with her baby's BC. I'd never heard of such, but before I could share the info on passport office appt with her, she'd left the BC office. I felt bad for her lack of info. She even looked at me weird when I mentioned I was headed to the passport office

3. The ETC process with Amb. Stella is just sweet. Very pleasant woman. I've referred 4 friends to her so far.



To everyone that's contributed to the wealth of info here;may you be watered as well

I give God all the glory for a successful missionary journey. May he bless, preserve and protect our Children in Jesus Name! Amen.

Bisoye82:
Bigfido please don't break my heart o because if it isn't so you will see me crying in your dream o.
Lemme quickly go and test it