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Yes, I believe that the two of you are a bit too close for comfort.  First off, I don't believe that cousins (especially closely related ones) should be in any type of emotional relationship, let alone physical.  Second, him being 21 and thinking sexually about a 14 year old, cousin or not, is disturbing.  Although your body may be developed that should not really give him a pass to speak to you in a sexual way, especially if it makes you feel uncomfortable.

If you've come to the point where you really feel uncomfortable you should let him know immediately that you do not appreciate that sort of attention from him.  Also, try to control the conversations with him.  If you see that they are turning sexual, tell him you don't want to talk about that and change the subject or simply hang up.  Do not enable him or his boldness can grow daily insomuch as him approaching you in a way that it completly unacceptable.

Try to put your foot down, sis.  This is not a healthy relationship.

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You know this truly happened in Chicago, I believe it was Chicago. A man and woman met and fell in love only to find out before the wedding that they were brother and sister but both had a different mother. They even grew up down the street from one another as kids.

In Illinois they were not premitted to marry because it's illegal but they were able to do so in Maryland after they both swore never to procreate. They're both still happy and married. I, personally could not see myself marrying a family memeber. If it took me 10 years to find out that this person is my twin then I obviously had not been paying attention to my spouse like I should have.

Wouldn't you think you'd become suspicious by the looks (this person looks like me!) or by the mannerisms (this person does this just like my mother/father!). The similarities should be uncanny and worth an investigation.

seun: So maybe some faithful unattractive men are not saints. Maybe they are just unsuccessful cheaters, eh?

That gave me my first laugh of the morning, thanks.

I really don't think it's a question of whether you're handsome or not because it all lies in the eye of the beholder. There is someone for everyone. I think what makes you a cheater or not is not your looks, or your money, or your status but rather your security (or insecurity, which ever you prefer). I've known men (and women) who cheat just to see if they "still have it" with the opposite sex.

I think it more adheres to one who is looking for something to prove to others or to themselves and not relatively based on materialistic / vain things.

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I'd have to say a female only because they would understand emotions better than men. I also tend to think they'd be more compassionate although I may be wrong. I've never had a female supervisor.

Rhodalyn:
so will i Flower please say yes
i'll also have a wonderful marriage

Yes, you as well

Ono, we are celebrating 3 years of marriage in April.

Seun: I'm sure you'll have a wonderful marriage because it seems as if you're truly interested in seeing what will make it work.

Thank you all. I appreciate the welcome

Of course you can marry someone from a broken home. There are many great children that grew to be amazing adults that have come from broken homes. Someone mentioned earlier about experience being the best teacher and I have to agree with them.

You can always see how your family struggled to deal with a broken marriage which could only motivate a person to work hard at keeping their union together. Also, as in any relationship one must work hard at keeping it together. If you're dealing with two determined people, no matter the background they would strive to make it work.

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Don't worry, for a man they'll undeniably perform a c-section

My nails grow extremely fast. Every two weeks I used to go in for a french manicure but now I just break them off to be a short as possible but enough nail to scratch my husbands back but not so long as to halt my efforts at speed typing

My toe nails are the same. I keep them trimmed with clear polish. Nothing really special.

I know that he loves me because inspite of my mistakes, my blemishes, my imperfections, he stays.

I had to learn a long time ago that marriage takes a lot of work. I aim to make it my full time job, everything else is secondary and I let him know that.

Someone told me at my bachlorette party that marriage is a garden. It needs plenty of sun, you need to put a fence up around it to keep the critters out, constantly look over it and pull out any weeds you see growing, and give it a lot of time and attention to be sure that things are growing in a healthy way

Ultimately, it's up to the woman. She is the one who will be carrying the pregnancy.

These things seemed to work for us:

1. Go out on dates
2. At times I place notes on the steering wheel of his car
3. I make him a CD with our favorite songs
4. Wear sexy lingere around the house
5. While he's in the shower, I'll sometimes join him
6. Put on some music and dance for him
7. Make his favorite meal and we'll eat with soft music playing and some candle light
8. Do different things while making love. Try positions that will turn him on.
9. As soon as he enters the house, I'll sometimes jump him right there and we'll make love on the couch
10. Shower him with compliments.

Ok, that's all I can think of for right now.

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Thank you for the welcome!

Hello Fellow Nairalanders,

A friend of mine has nothing but high thoughts of this place and has encouraged me to join. I hope he's right!

I am a female, in my 20's, and married.

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