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Did you know that a black person invented the stop light?

I see. So since we have no way of seeing for ourselves you may very well be lying.

Butter, please

high heels or flats

I'm thinking, "why does ocho hate Saturdays?"

Definitely football (American that is, not soccer)!

It is sad that they don't laugh out loud in public.  There's nothing that makes *me* laugh even when I'm upset more than hearing the laughter of someone else.

Genius or mediocre

There's no place quite like home, is there? I'm sorry for your saddness. Maybe you can start to save a little here and there, pretty soon you'll have enough for the trip.

All of these guys are professing such great looks and none of them are willing to prove it with a picture. Hum, ironic? I think not.

I'm thinking, "Come on weekend!!"

Can I choose a loud laugh? I constantly break out in them

over or under

Hard

drive or fly

Did you know that Madam C.J. Walker was the first African American to be a millionaire in the US? She invented the hot comb.

how so?

If my husband buys me lingerie, that means he loves my body and wants to see more of it. It means that I turn him on and that in turn activates my senuality for him

It's something you both enjoy, it's not selfish at all.

It got slammed by the critics but then again, I never listen to thier opinions anyway. If it comes on tv, I'll check it out.

I have not seen get rich or die tryin but I have seen 8 mile. I liked Eminem's movie because of his freestyles, they were nice.

Did you know that you could not hold your breath until you die, rather, you cannot suffocate yourself.

Jumbalya (New Orleans dish)
Spaghetti
Chicken Fettucine Alfredo
Meatloaf/ mashed potatos
Plantin
Groundnut soup
Eggs, bacon, pancakes, waffles
Steak and cheese
salads
Tuna salad or pasta
Baked zeti (pasta)

Um, neither.

Conservative or Liberal?

Did you know that a one month old baby can only see as far as 10 inches away?

Is it lunch time yet?

The good thing about lingerie is that it not only makes you look sexy for him, but it has the ability to make you feel sexy as well.

Idekeson:
Babes love fine boys. Unfortunately, we're not enough to go round. So, we cheat to give as many as possible the opportunity to experience the good life. That's some selfless service for humanity. Thank you for the appreciation, ladies. It gives us the strength to do more.

I don't think I've laughed so hard today.

It's pretty pathetic to think that in order to experience "the good life" one must date an obnoxious gent who thinks he's good looking. If we've come to that then we're one vain species.

I can believe that. When dating someone it's difficult to truly be yourself if you're insecure. You end up trying to be everything that this person wants you to be instead of being true to yourself. The minute you get comfortable, you shift into who you really are and that's when the problems kick in.

First off it's no one's business how many men a woman has slept with unless she's in a physical relationship. Even then the number is not necessary, only the papers saying that she is free and clear of diseases.

Secondly, this woman is focusing on the wrong problem. The problem is that her husband was unfaithful to her and not only that, but he was irresponsible enough to have unprotected sex with a woman he didn't know. I use the term didn't know because he did not know her health condition. Why would anyone sleep with someone without protection is beyond me.

Why are we so busy wondering what someone else is doing? We seem to look so hard into someone else's life, we can't see the leaks and holes in our own. Sad.

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It's all really about paying attention. Pay attention to your spouse, see what they like and try to do more of it.

It's a shame that because of your looks those you date are insecure. Pretty shallow, actually. Looks fade.

I would stand right there, clear my throat so that they'd know I'm there, then I'd ask the woman to leave.

I will stand there while she gets dressed and escort her out.

I would then let my husband know how angry I am so it'd be best if he left me alone for a few days so I won't do something completely out of character.

I'd have to get my head straight before then approaching him to find a solution.

Farriel:
And Flower, yes. I think that's correct. But the question why one cheats is a tough thing to answer, really. Lot's of people cheat for various reasons, whether or not their needs are being met by their current partner[s]. Times I think it's an innate part of man, acutely inherent to his primal foundations, which are the basis for his overall behaviour.

Not entirely something that reasons can be attributed to. Do you believe that some people cheat without consciously being aware of it? It's so a part of them, or us rather.

Excellent points, Farriel. I'm really enjoying this topic.

Now we're getting a little deep because I'd like to say, "Yes, we know if we're cheating or not because we should know the basis of cheating." That would mean that we were taught or we have a knowledge or moral standard already within us to gauge our behavior. I think we do, at some point, become aware of what we're doing but we try to lie to ourselves to make it easier.

What I mean is this: Let's say I'm flirting with someone and I'm married. I'll maybe second guess what I'm doing but then reassure myself and others that it's simply innocent to enable me to continue without feeling guilty. It was unconcious but then brought to the forefront by maybe a feeling I started to get, or I find myself trying to be with this person more and more. At some point it becomes a concious and deliberate action. It's at this point I decide whether to continue or not. Make sense?

If that's the case then everyone's a cheat because you can't tell me that no one has ever looked at someone from the opposite sex before

Yes, I believe so.  It could be part of it.  The question is really why does one cheat?  I've never heard a man or woman say, "I cheat because I'm fine."  I hear them say, "My husband/wife has/is neglecting my needs," "I need to know if I still have it with the ladies/men," etc.  You could say that they have something to prove.

Let's take the first example: My husband/wife is/has neglected my needs. 

They can then be out to prove that they are worth loving and someone out there is going to do it if their spouse does not.

Here's what I will say: Being good looking, having money, and/or having a high status in life may provide a better avenue to cheat but I find it hard to believe that it is the basis of why one cheats.

1. Adoption is always an option. There are plenty of children out here that have no home. Be a blessing to thier lives and adopt.

2. Marriage is for better or worse, in sickness and health, till death do them part. I don't remember hearing an "if, but, or except" in those vows.