₦airaland Forum

Carlyboi:
have you been able to resolve this?

Makavelli25:
just tell the truth,do you need money.
My monthly allowance can feed you a year

softwerk:


See anonymous handles revealing their true identities for a meagre 5k

Emmy9ite02:
New class starts on Monday 17th February

CreativeLuvDoc:
I will start by saying that it is good asking for help when you don't have answers.

I will also say that the road you're taking is one a lot of people have passed through.

My candid advice as a relationship counselor is that you seek expert guidance.

If you need my services and assistance I can offer them free of charge on the basis that you're a teenager
and the young lady in question is a minor.

That said, let me offer you some preambular advice:

1.) Nigeria is a signatory to international laws that protect the rights of women.
Our Constitution also guarantees and protects the rights of women.
The same Constitution (1999) also confers on all citizens rights to dignity of human person.

To force a minor into marriage, amongst other things, is a violation of her fundamental human rights.
Her father doesn't have that right to force or conscript her into marriage against her wish.

2.) Your "girlfriend" as you have defined your relationship with her,
is presently undergoing so much emotional turmoil and disturbance. I understand.
This is why she is contemplating taking her life.

Suicide has never helped anyone and never will. As long as there's life, there's a way.
Also, in life we're bound to face challenges.

Challenges are part of human existence. What matters is how you respond to them.
If you remain resolute, tactical and continue to think or look for a solution, you will
eventually find one.

The lives of many people who went through difficulties in life are testimonies and proofs
of this all-time true reality of human sojourn on earth.

Your female friend needs counselling from someone with experience in these matters.
She needs to realize that what she's going through is but a phase of life. She will overcome it.
Suicide isn't the way out.

I have so much to say but I don't have all the time to say them here.

3.) On her father--
He's being manipulative and devious. He is using threat as a means to enforce obedience.
Love isn't something you force on someone.

She will most likely never enjoy that marriage. First, she is a minor. It is unlawful to force her
into marriage against her will and consent. Second, she doesn't love the man they want her
to get married to. Third, she is inexperienced in the ways of the world.

If they force her into marrying that man, she will one day decide to come out of it when she is of age
because by then she would have developed the maturity of will power and strength of purpose.

Her father doesn't know all this. He is only playing a script based on his background and upbringing.

If he wants to send her and her mum back to the village let him do it! Tell your female friend
and her mum not to back down. No matter how remote and under developed that village
may be it isn't a death sentence.

Manipulators always resort to threats and forceful coercion in order to perpetrate their acts.

Even if they end up in the streets, that isn't the end of the world. I am not saying they will end up there.

4.) For you--
I will advise that you tread carefully. Don't act in anyway that will make her parents know
that you are a stumbling block or that you're interfering in their family affairs.
Remember, you're not married to your female friend.

Both of you are only friends. I will advise that you don't show up or be seen or heard from by them too often.
Help her by advising her and telling her all I have written here because you care for her as a friend and not
because you hope to get something from her in return tomorrow. Read that twice or even thrice.

Never help someone because you're expecting something in return. Never help because you
hope that tomorrow both of you will get married. Help her because she's a friend and it is the right
thing to do. The help I mean here is ADVICE. Nothing else.

Both of you may get married tomorrow or may not. Don't be too certain on this now.
Face your future as a man now and help your friend now the much you can.

5.) Lastly, this needs to be reported to an NGO that protects the rights of the girl child.
If you know any, do speak to them. Call their office or visit them and explain what is going on.
They can help. They will most likely intervene. If you want me to recommend any for you
do let me know too.

Your friend is too young for such early marriage. She has a great future ahead of her.

I wish her all the best.

God bless you.


THE CREATIVE LUV DOC.

Taywon:
Op focus on ur ambition in life....

Money will get u the good tinx of life....


But u need flogging

PrimadonnaO:
The bone of contention isn't about saving his relationship. It's more about a little girl being married off to an old man (most likely) whom she's never met or loves.