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Mindfulness:
@FrankDude

She wants to be your FRIEND, NOT your LOVER.

Either you take it (she seems to be a very nice and considerate friend / person) or you lose her.

Do you have a female friend that does those things to you that I mentioned? She knows I am not a Catholic, so I guess that's why she is holding back, because of her Catholic beliefs

sseunth:
What do you gain by posting same story twice...

More insight and opinion

Shemmyglo:
Tell her by next semester you won't be able to relate with her like before if she refused to give you her heart because staying with her without any relationship is affecting your emotions. But during this period (between now and next semester), don't stop telling her your mind. If she really want you she go gree during that period.

Thanks

Chillisauce:
Too long.

Time you took composing this you would have finished one of the first chapters of your school handout.

Go and read your books!

Time you took reading it, you would have made some cool cash.
Composition kor, essay ni.

agarawu23:
It's crazy if you think she is the next person for you to date

If she was in love with you, she would have broke up with her bf to be with you. (I have seen cases like that)

That's another logic ladies use, they use you as their plan B incase plan A didn't work out. You told her not to share her relationship issue with you and she accepted (which means she doesn't give a damn about u). She doesn't feel your emotions and love for her while in the "friendzone" now that she has been dumped by her bf, she thinks you are the next for her.

Blv me or not. The relationship won't last. You can give it a trial

So if she share her relationship issue, that means she gives a damn about me. Damn ur logic is incredible

Remember the long story I wrote about a girl I was confused of, whether she has friendzoned me or not, well the truth was that, I know she has friendzoned me, what I don't understand is her clinginess to me.

Well now I understand, she just loves my company, I am a very funny and light headed person, I know how to cool off the tension and make people feel so relaxed and comfortable that they can tell me absolutely anything, yes that's the way I am, I have that charm to make people very comfortable that they open up to me. She has never seen such a guy before, and she really valued the friendship being the first of its kind she would experience,and it wasn't because I was the typical "nice guy", who always get friendzoned, she has even told me before that I wasn't nice. I always speak up my mind, I am not an a$s$ licker and I am a cool fellow to hang out with .

Anyway. The truth is that, if I keep on being her friend, I will keep on tormenting myself and getting jealous beyond my control because the feelings will still be there and I am fvvcking straight. It's impossible for me to be just friends with her without having desire for more, and I totally understand that she is a girl and it is VERY easy for her to be just friends with me because she is a lady and female brains are wired differently from male brains, scientific researches has confirmed that straight males can't be just friends with females without having desires for more once in a while or just at least once. Check the research work here--->
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends/
So thanks again for those who gave good comments, for those who came here to mock, for those who came to look for trouble, for those who just came here to ask me to face my book, as if I told them I am not serious with my education, narrow minded people

tuk2ato:
Create value through scarcity.

I will make sure I do that. In fact I would stop replying her msgs on WhatsApp immediately to create the illusion of a very busy and upgoing person

missmary:
Shes as confused as a bisexualist

Lol ok

Montaque:
ok. I asked about her age not for the number sake. Some girls are 20 and they are already eyeing marriage while others are 29 and still want to do boyfriend stuffs
but the real matter is that you haven't shown this girl anything in the picture of bigger than boyfriend.
that's what I mean to say when I say that girls think long term.
shalom

Ohh, u feel she needs a future husband and not just a boyfriend. Anyway. What do u have to say about the entire situation?

Montaque:
How old is this ur friend?
She may have seen u as not 'marriage - ready'.
girls think long term.

That means u didnt read the article. That was the first thing I wrote.

duduade:
rubbish....small boy, if truly you are then learn not to be distracted. ..

You are a big foo00l and i am not makiñg a mistake to have said that. U have mental problem. U are one of those who think in a unidirectional sense, very narrow and closed minded idi00t.

Tell us ur CGPA.

duduade:
1. Is this what your parents sent you to do in school. ...?

2. I hope this is how you answer your CAT/exam questions correctly?

Dude am on first class. How is my academics related to this. Learn how to say relevant things.

BuddhaPalm:
Introduce another girl (or other girls) into the equation. Jealousy is your friend.

Women are the most competitive creatures on earth. And she will take your love-sausage right in the Ass - if that's what will WIN you FROM the other girls.

Be ruthless.

Good advice. Thanks

halfrica:
Nope u will av her time its d begining of ur new love u go all crazy nd all later on u wud start givin ur new gf space nt cos u dont love her bt u guyzs wud start workin wiv diff time e b like say na evil spirit dey infect relationship wit myspace syndrome

Dats why dis days relationship crack are as a result of no time to spend wit one anoda
Its a natural tin ok so sooner or later u wud need ur frnds time dan gfs even marrid men stay wit their frnds more often

The same girl who says it wld be a nice experience if she finds someone who loves her so much but she can't reciprocate the same feeling, someone who feels what she isn't capable of feeling.

cozy7:
Take this from a pro.....stay single (4now), don't get hooked up, keep spending time with her. I can assure u that she's got eyes for u and is coming but is taking things slow, I suggest u don't rush, if u do, YOU'LL LOOSE HER. I'd also suggest u periodically take her to cozy environments, admire her n give her d impression that u got s rare choice, but keep your distance. I'M SURE SHE'LL BE YOURS. BUT BE CAREFUL BRO, SUCH KINDA LADIES OFTEN LUV 4REAL, ONE MISTAKE N SHE'S GONE 4REAL.

Wow, so u are sure she isn't using me to replace her bf's absence?

halfrica:
A sign she loves u ok

Bt wants u to still be her frnd

She is happy wit u she is like wat if u guys av misunderstandings which happens while datin

Who wud she talk to?

I kinda reason like her too i av guys i pour my feelins to bt wudnt date cos if we break up or av misunderstandin i wont av my frnd bck even tho we end up as frnds again it wont b like before truss me

No wonder she always avoid fighting with me, she always take her time to make sure she explains everything to me whenever it seems like I am angry , and she goes extra mile to do so. The day I told her I can't be her friend again, she was so emotional, although she was hiding it, she used those friendship display pictures "I want someone who would accept me even if I have nothing to offer" on her picture. She got so upset and sad. I think I believe she values our friendship more than dating. U are right. But she still my friend till now and I see how greatly my actions and words affects her, I effortlessly stir emotions in her but she always bury them.

trilobite:
Young man, you are almost in the friendzone.

You've made it too easy for her. When women know they've got you they will misbehave.

Ask her out again, profess your love, say all the sweetest things for a set period.

If after that period she still says no, you run like hell.

Tell her you're no longer interested. Ignore her.

She will beg. Fact!!!

Once you've done this, ask her out for the last time.
If no again.

Forget her finally and move on with your life.

There are many fishes, woman never finish.

Thanks for stopping by. Really appreciate this.

halfrica:
A sign she loves u ok

Bt wants u to still be her frnd

She is happy wit u she is like wat if u guys av misunderstandings which happens while datin

Who wud she talk to?

I kinda reason like her too i av guys i pour my feelins to bt wudnt date cos if we break up or av misunderstandin i wont av my frnd bck even tho we end up as frnds again it wont b like before truss me

Ohhh that's it abi?

No problem she wld remain my friend.

I hope she would be able to withstand seeing me kiss another girl on my dp? and not paying any attention to her like before.

If that's how both of u reason, u still loss , because now that I didn't date her and went for another girl, she will still lose my friendship because I won't have her time again cos I am giving my babe time. So its a lose-lose situation for her na

IykeWest:
This lady isn't far from d truth,she tried but didn't say exactly what's happening and am gonna tell ya,u in d fucckin friendzone brah,sorry I swear a lot. Anyways,u in d friggin friendzone,her intentions is to use u to maintain life,like u re dat guy that she cares about a lot but can't see herself nailing. Take me for example,if I take too long on a girl,i'll not see her as a Sex material,i'm not taking long cos I ain't gat d balls,am taking long cos der are other girls to nail,other girls to know so I just don't have much time for her,and once it clocks three weeks and,i'll loose d urge to Bleep her,i'll start seeing her as a sister and treat her just like dat girl is treating u. So yeah,no hidden intentions,just normal friendzone,she's askin if u gat a gf cos she cares about u and love d time u guys spend together and probably doesn't want it to end,and it's normal for her to get jealous,women are possessive in nature,they like to be able to say 'He's mine' even though u guys don't,u know,play around wid d lights off. Chow!

Ok, I guess I shld get another gal den , since I am not in control of her feelings. Life goes on. A lesson learnt from this.

benkings:
welcome to the friendzone op...never u escort a gal everywhere she goes,u be proffessional escort? abi u b hilux?

Ode, go bàck to primary school to learn English comprehension.

halfrica:
M tryin to ease d tension off u

To me she likes u too nt necessarily as mch as u do
Bt she feels wen u date she myt nt av dat frnd again bt bf av u tot of why shd had u as a frnd while still datin she needs a bf nd a good male frnd sum ladies are like dat tho only if u can prove to her u can be her frnd nd her bf u kno she wud av had past experiences wiv guys too

Now dat she aint sayin anytin try ur luck nd talk to her never say never we all sing it bt never act it ok
Dnt buy her anytin for now u only goin to entice her i dnt tink u want ur heart broken talk to her as an adult treat her ryt bt no gift if she says no den move on wiv life nd stil make her ur frnd


Most bf always forget to be frnds wiv their gfs

Dats why most ladies datin stil av male frnds ok dats in my own opinion o never forcin u to bliv ok

Ok, so she just wants a male friend, that she can hang out with during the evening, talking about how couples get romantic at gardens,move everywhere with the guy, make everyone think they are dating, does everything the guy asks her to do except romantic stuffs and be friends ever after. that makes sense uhn?

halfrica:
B lyin telme lemme talk to her

Dnt u kno m d love whisper cupid master love surgeon let me fix ur love nd heart surgically

Pls be serious. What do u have to say to this?

halfrica:
Is she from unilag

No.

fajani:
For her to disclose to you that she is no more in a relationship, she's simply expecting you to do something that will put her on the line... Buy her a nice scenting perf. She will really appreciate such thing.. Again she doesn't want you to mention another girl. Do a practical thing one day, fake a lady's call and look at her reaction

No she didn't disclose it to me directly, it was a conversation that led to her telling me she broke up. I don't think I wld buy her anything, that wld look desperate.

mordtonia:
she has feelings for you, she's attracted to you and would like to be your girlfriend. but something stronger than her desire is holding her back. could be the recent ex or bf, could be uncertainty, etc etc. I advise you overlook your emotions and FRIEND ZONE her. focus on other girl for relationship and see her as a sister. if she can't open up about why she can't give in to her feelings, we don't have time to waste on her either.

Hmmmm. Nice one.

fajani:
Do a surprising thing for her, If you can buy her attractive gift and after this, let ur face be scarce or pretend you are sick. She will reflect her true feelings. This is not friendzonig, she's really into you. Dnt give up. She's yours but don't rush her...

Can u tell me what u observed that made u say this. This wld be really helpful to me.

[quote author=missmary post=37507815][/quote]U mean she wants just sex and fun from me with no commitment?

I doubt that, because I have hit her on the ass before and she didn't like it, told me not to do it again.

[quote author=missmary post=37507815][/quote]U mean she wants just sex and fun from me with no commitment?

handie:
You don't know weeweechu? Abeg who'll help explain d meaning of weeweechu to this gentleman?

So u expect everyone to know every slang?

What's deedoski? U shld know what it means na.

sseunth:
well, it has been working well for me......a guy can't Bleep a girl alone....u share with em guys mst especially if it is in schl.....

So u are telling me that girls in Ur school use to open their legs for u after u have advised them and solved their relationship? Dude u expect me to believe that?