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Dollarheist:
A woman who fall in love with you within a month of meeting you is not in love with you but fantasy of you
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As seen on the street of twitter

SMH, she just use you cure konji and she is manipulating you already use your head bro

Advise him to go and read the manipulated man, he will understand the game better

Oluromantic:

They said if a person wants to give you a shirt, the most commonsensical thing to do is look at the one he/she's wearing.

How many people have you helped financially in your lifetime. Even Dangote who has changed the life of many won't call someone stingy

You have the right to call someone stingy only when you're richer and a better giver than that person. And not because he didn't meet up with your personal and selfish needs. Your needs are your responsibilities first before he gets involved so don't get entitled to anything or call someone stingy. That word is bigger than your mouth.

There's more honor in going out your way to bless someone else, guy or girl than expecting that someone will come and spend for you..that's a loosers delusion. What stops you from seeing urself as someone who can help him than expecting to be helped

You couldn't have said it better than this. Most people have never in their life spent, help or given someone money but they can collect like an ocean ehn and they will be the one to tag people stingy

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Oh really, I don't really know about that though but most girls that call guys broke are just broke themselves and might even be broke upstairs

Millenniumlady:
Can't date a broke guy

I have phobia for broke girls, can't date one at all

God forbid, public liabilty things!

jidololade:
lovely concept, is itn't it?
mine is 22nd june

Am also June 22nd

piamily:
Okay. There’s thing guy I met one time last year. So he came up bold and said he was interested in a relationship. He didn’t even waste time. I was impressed . Normally I was supposed to dish out my “naija shakara girls style” you know, but I didn’t . After some days I agreed to date him.

I found out he’s easy going so I decided to give in and be mutual with the love and attraction etc. as soon as I got interested, he withdrew.

I noticed it . I don’t understand why a man will do this. Was he not interested? And does he expect the woman to hate him.

I see some men complain about ladies being hard to get and now a lady didn’t play that much hard yet the man withdrew a bit. Still don’t get men sometimes sha

I can relate with this your story very well, Its physiological but I can't really explain now

Zoie:

Your cup of gravel, my dear. I don't give a fvck whether you agree or not.

Has it gotten to this already? Am sorry if I touched a nerve!

Zoie:
The average Nigerian man suffers from an extremely weak self esteem that needs to stay constantly bloated to stay functional.
That's why they chase after ladies who treat them like shi.t and avoid ladies who show them love. The hunt makes them happy. The thrill of having to constantly woo a woman makes them feel good. Makes them feel she is better than the one who shows love even without being wooed..even if the former is a retired runs girl.

I don't totally agree to this your assumptions becos i think you are talking the other way round

piamily:

Wrong impression

How wrong could it be? Though as for me, I don't take any lady that shows interest in me for granted, I was just talking from the experience I had with some of my male friends

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit.I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

That may be becos they sensed that the reason for you getting interested in them is for your personal benefits and not for a mutual benefits

Hisincrease:

I like that part of "love back".
This is perfect.

That's how it should be brother

VivleBriella:
Good day everyone
I've been a guest for a couple of years now, created an account to seek advice

My dear nairalanders, does it always end well marrying the Breadwinner of a family? He's the last born with 4 elder siblings but they all depend on him, yes, I knew he was the Breadwinner from day one but I thought with time, everyone else will be able to stand on their own, but it hasn't happened yet, we've dated for 3yrs now and he doesn't support me financially, I don't complain but he feels entitled to my money and when I get tired of him always asking me to lend him some money and decide to say no, he nags and tells me I'm not being supportive enough, this is driving me really crazy cause he reminded me of how unsupportive I've been to him and his family, he's driving me insane, you can't possibly put the responsibility of your family on my shoulders, that's crazy and insensitive, over the years, I've borrowed him nothing less than 500k which I know for sure he's never giving back, is it normal to be in a parasitic relationship whereby the female remains the host that's being fed on?

I'm only 24 while he's 31.

In as much as being supportive to your partner, it shouldn't be at the detriment of their sanity and well-being. The write up applies to both gender and i think the best thing to do in this kind of situation is to call his or her attention and take heart to heart with the partner but if he/she feels there is nothing bad in being a leech then, you sure know you done for. You can't carry someone else's problem and leave your own behind. We all have one or two things we are aiming in life. Don't allow anyone to take advantage of your generosity for foolishness.

ebohstepn:
Good day nairalanders, am 24 years old and I just rounded up my NYSC early this year. I have a girlfriend that I have been dating for almost 7 years now( I will say it's has been a on and off kind of relationship). before we got really serious last two years.

She is kind, lovely, beautiful and she is loyal. but her problem is money, anytime she sees or hear about money, all she thinks is how to spend it and she does not rest rest O'Neill the money is finished. that shit has bankrupt me so many times.

This luckdown has really made me to relax and think,
if I make such person my wife in the nearest future, I will not even buy land talkless of building a house.

We will be a couple that has like 4 cars in a rented apartment, and no savings, am tired and I d'nt want to make any mistake closing a life partner. I have talked to her about it several times but she can not change.

I d'nt know, just confused. I am thinking of breaking up with her now that I think I can bear the pain of losing her. I need ur advice guys.. no insults please

sorry about my English.

Does she make money as well, does she spend her own money like that or its someone else's money she like to spend?

Hisincrease:


You feel me right?
I don't wanna FALL in love. I want to Love.

I don't want to SETTLE DOWN to marry. I have peace already. I want to get married.

Like you said "retrogressing".
I'm not allowing that to get into me.

I want to love and be loved back, no retrogression, no one-sided love, no love drainer

oluspicy:
It is true that love grows gradually, but it grows only where it is watered.

Some people go into relationships believing that with time they will get to love the person they are with. Some even get married with the confidence that they will get to understand and love each other later in marriage. Most times the pressure is from our parents and family that care about us. Talking about;

"Don't worry, Daniel is a nice man, you will learn to love him as you move on."

"Yemi is a good woman, you may not love her now but you will learn to love her later when you're married."

And yes it is true, they are not wrong at all. Even for two people who love each other crazy from the start of the relationship we still need to keep growing our love for each other as we move on. It doesn't start and end after 'I DO'. We have to keep learning new things and new ways to keep falling and falling and learning and growing the love we have.

But love has to be watered. There is no magic moment anywhere inside a relationship or marriage that will make you fall deeply in love with that person just like that. It doesn't work that way.

Let me show you how the science of falling in love works;

In other for anything to grow, first there must be a SEED, and there must be a committed GARDENER.

Not just one committed gardener. But two;
The one you are hoping to fall in love with, and the one that is already In love with you.

Then the seed that needs to be planted and consistently watered? - Is PEACE!

Being at peace means you are comfortable with the person and the qualities they possess.

Being at peace means that even though you are not in love with them right now, you cannot say you don't find them attractive. I mean that peace that will make you scream YEEESSSSS when they want to touch you.

Being at peace means that you might not be in love with that person but you feel comfortable around them, and they make you happy. Being at peace means you that will be willing to go through what it takes to give falling in love with that person a chance. This means you are willing to be open, welcoming and ready to reciprocate their efforts as you seek to water your relationship with them.

Don't just take "love grows gradually" and run with it. Make sure there is something to grow. Love will not grow where you cannot stand the idea of being with someone. Love will not grow where their touch irritates you. You have to first feel that inner peace on your inside and on every side, that's the seed that will grow into the love you want to build.

Remember; "flowers do not grow in the garden of stones".

And to you, the one who is already in love, your SEED is PATIENCE.

Stay blessed.

I rest my case.

Are you already in love?

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So what's the motivation behind your write up?

Honeydenz:
1. Men generally don't like commitment but love hunting ladies[color=#000000][/color] for sex

2. An average Igbo man loves money more than else in this life

3. Most Igbo men like to be very comfortable first before venturing into marriage

4. Success comes with time, hence most Igbo men usually marry when they are already far off into their late 40s, some 50s

5. Those who make it into old age dies before their own 40years old sons starts to think of procreating.

Note: In few cases they get to see thier grandkids, stay with them for a few years but it's basically those who started off with girl child as ladies marry at a younger age than guys.

So, are you now saying other tribes are better of in terms of commitment when it comes to marrying early?. Because am trying to figure out what really inspired this your write up. And i guess you are an Igbo lady?

my2019mind:
OK, I just realised that the business name registration actually falls under the company name registration.

My dilemma Now is the screenshot bellow. The two options with prices attached to them. I really do not understand them and it looks like they are optional. Can I skip them?

Pls, someone should help to answer this particular question

GreenKalada:


Don't mind those doubting you. I was in to such in my younger days when I was a student in Uniport, I was living in portharcourt then later Bonny Island. It's real and it's still codedly happening even with black husband's. They called the shit 3some. Even some men get aroused when it's happening. They pay u very well and cut off all contact with u. Even some barren married women did it with there husband's consent... It's a strange world we live in.

3some is the word, you got it right. Some even indulge in 4some having a guy and a lady to join the couple but they do carry out test before going on

Birdeyeview:
If he smell's nice i go from 0-100 real quick

Are you into photography?

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Pls, contact him asap

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Cry for what na

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What's making you to cry bro

2dice01:
What happened bro?

They just seem to get full of themselves

Ayomideayo:
They don break my bros heart

Lol break which heart kwanu?

Gwagone:
Do you believe

How true can this be?

Hmmm

ElArchana:



OK sire
thanks�

You got someone yet

Bluntintrovert1:
Awwwww......I almost dropped a tear�. I love this. I pray God blesses you with your bone and flesh of flesh. Honestly finding who truly loves you and willing to stay is more tasking than finding the vaccine for Covid-19.

Stay Positive sweetheart!

Lwkmd @finding who truly loves you and willing to stay is more tasking than finding the vaccine for Covid-19. If you have him now, would you have him stay to start with?

Admissionclass:
It doesn't matter how pretty most lady are they will always feel inadequate and insecure about their looks and personality. have you ever wondered why women flood social media with seminudes or even nudes just to get likes,comments and dms, have you ever wondered why women do life threatning surgeries,bum and boobs enlargements these even though these women are naturally beautiful but they keep comparing themselves to other women until it dangerous to their well-being when you depend on people's compliment to feel good about yourself then there is a problem.
Did you watch big brother last year? Did you notice what Tacha did when she first heard she has body odour she quickly ran get a deodorant then spray herself on live tv which made people believe the rumour more even though Tacha among the most beautiful women in the house.

Have you heard of Stockholm syndrome :it is a psychological disorder in which one tends to be emotionally attached to people who treat you badly most women have this syndrome without knowing it and I believe it is the reason they rarely fall for guys who treat them well.i once had a girlfriend who I lost when I started being caring and nice to we broke up later but immediately I stopped giving a Bleep about her she tried winning me back by all means but I have lost interest.

People with very low self esteem later develop Stockholm syndrome it get to a point you don't like people showering you with compliments because you believe you are not worth it .you tend to like people who criticise you because you feel you need to impress them and the journey never ends.

Am not generalizing though .

It is well is all i can say for now