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Good day Nairalander
Few years ago my mother and I invested in someone's business for 1 and half years he paid us our dividends monthly then one day he stopped

After so many back and forth I realised there were other investors totalling our money to 28m
He couldn't account for the money all he kept saying was his sales rep duped him how much was he duped of he is more saying

Pls how best can we retrieve our money, police will just extort us and do nothing

My mom hasnt been herself that was suppose to be her retirement money

If you know what we can do pls help and drop information I am begging pls

Thank you for your contributions. If you know me you would know that I am a peaceful person. When u get married the first few years are not usually rosy it's still the getting to know process. Like I said the signs were not there when we were dating it's a different ball game
and I wasnt even desperate to get married.
My parents are to be partly blamed for all this because when he comes to them they accept to listen and end up blaming me all in the name of I want your home to be peaceful.
If I refuse and stand my ground it will be war I eventually succumb but I can say I wasnt this matured then it's different now. Forever is a long way to go
I dont believe it's too late to make some changes i only need tips on how to go about it. I am not looking for a flawless man but someone who can be on the same page with me.

Marriage is a beautiful thing I just want mine to get better, I want to know I tried before I quit. I am not a person to want to suffer and die all to be called a MRS.

African men DO CHORES! I have brothers who are doing it happily in their marriage.

If you have any nice tips on how I can solve all of this I will appreciate it, it's too late to start crying now I just want a solution.

Thank you.

The signs were not there actually. I think he only shielded this kind of behaviours away from me. Talking about being educated he is very well educated and exposed. I think he just thought I will be under his wraps forever and not grow into the woman I have become right now.
He is 5 years older than I am and to him he feels like he know everything better than i do.
His mom is the only I can talk to I d rather not do that she supports him totally with whatever he does and for my own parents everything has become clearer now everybody is just tired.
My mom said she doesn't understand why he came to report me to her over such a small issue.
Everybody is just fed up.

I have been for 5 years now but there has been no lasting happiness here. Smile for 2 weeks fight for month.
You see I have a manipulative husband he can do no wrong in his own eyes, I have to be at fault for everything. He has painted it to everybody that I am always the problem.
In the beginning of the marriage I took a lot of bullshit from him and his family all in the name of I want to please my husband but it has never been enough.
We had an issue some days back and boom he has called my family members to report me it's what he loves to do. I was shocked because this is an issue we could have sat down to iron out.
Here are the problems
He is old fashioned he believes he can insult u but you shouldn't do the same
He doesn't help with the major chores in the house only the few ones that are simple and this is only done at his convenience, if I decide to talk about this na fight!
When he borrows money from someone and I tell him to return it gradually he doesn't listen more like he is not a good in saving
He likes to keep malice and rejects food once we have issues
He is always his phone doing what I dont understand (I dont think he is cheating)
He never owns up to his mistakes he wants me to always beg
He doesn't make any effort in sorting issues amicably it has to always be me
I am always the chatter box
He doesn't go out of his way for me
If you mistakenly tell him to say what I did wrong during a quarrel jeez he paints me awfully black to everyone
So many things I cant write here
I am tired to be honest I am a good wife I support him virtually in any way I can. I have my own issues afterall no one is perfect but I sincerely watch it because I hate drama

Now I have grown a thick skin to him, I dont even love or feel loved by him anymore.
I want things to change and work out but i am tired of being the first person always he takes advantage of that all the time and never changes
Chores are crazy we have 2 kids. I virtually do everything by myself
I just want to be heard and have a good marriage but its exhausting making all the efforts all the time. I just want him to make the move genuinely so we can be on the same page.

What can I do?
Pls note I have sat him down countless times no changes.

I just want a better marriage first before thinking of divorce.