₦airaland Forum

Happy Birthday. May uur days be long and filled with the graciousness of God.

Truth is not always that easy or simple! Same way our fathers could not help themselves, most guys, and babes too, end up not being able to show affection. It just becomes a very vicious cycle that most of 'we' cant control. Must people cant even have a civil discussion with their fathers. very disheartening but so true.

I see this almost everywhere fathers pulling stunts that they are men and in the process alienating their sons. I've been there and i got my experiences to show for it. Though I'm not a father yet, not even married, I'm learning all the wrong things not to do to make sure my children remain close to home. Home not just referring to the building but to the joy the word connotes.

How do we begin to teach our fathers to show love to their sons. ok yes i believe that the majority of them no next to nothing about showing love cos they never experienced it growing up. but should the vicious cycle continue?

I see fathers that can't talk to their sons about the simplest things when they hit puberty. Most fathers don't even know. Yet they don't let out on any opportunity of asserting their fatherhood. Pleeaaassseeee!

Wont even bother to use OBj and son as an example that is so grouse. But if you were to look around, maybe not in your own house if you are one of the few lucky ones, but check next door, and you'll begin to see.

Maybe we should start an NGO that will begin to help men to be good, if not great fathers. The consequence of the absence of fatherhood is rearing its head in the western would. Lets stand up for the children yet unborn. Men must be great fathers.

Waiting a little bit may not be a bad idea.

Maybe if the women would stop expecting too much and just be ready to go the long haul with the guy, maybe, just maybe all the excuses will vamoose.

Rich, i t all depends on you. you know best where the shoe will fit you best. We can help you with the colour, or maybe even shoe type, but we cant help with the size. If you buy one size too small, sorry for your toes. One size too big you are on your own!

Love and marriage as nothing to do with age. If you love her like you tell us that you do and she loves you too, whatever you guys do, just send me an invite to your marriage. send plane ticket too o. Lol!

I don't know if i should share these here but ,

His name is ( I know) Temitope Akinniyi. He was 12yrs old. And he meant more to me than i ever would have thought that anybody could be. He was not family yet he was more than family.

I taught in their school and in contrast to the teaching code (well I'm not a real trained teacher) i became a buddy of most of my students. He happened to be the most special. He was small for his age yet he was so sweet. He never ever bothered anyone and even gave his provisions to his friends (yes I was also in the hostel with em).

Then i woke up one Sunday in December and he was gone. That was the scariest day of my life. I wanted to die. Even begged God to do a swapping, He never even answered the prayer.

It's four years this December and I still think about him everyday. I still get emotional when i talk or think about him.

The only consolation for me was that he knew God. And i hope to see him again one day.

Tope, you still are to me my very own baby. Love you always.

I know how you feel. Children are gifts from God, that's what the bible says.

But i need to ask you this question seriously can you take care of this baby? Give it all the love and attention it requires? If not, my advice to you would be to drop it and let the baby have a right to a good life. Period!

I feel you like mad. No matter how 'mannish' we want to be we all want the approval of our parents. And in your case, the need for the validation is much more. i'm also a first son/born so i do understand that part.

My advice to you would be to work out your own 'salvation with fear and trembling'. We all make mistakes and we have to live with the consequences of it. If you can do well in treading the part that you've set your mind to, that is all that matters. I guess your father too made his own mistakes and he will soon come around once he sees in you are standing firm with the decision to change for good.

Don't sorrow over it. Like i say 'Shit happens'. Just keep loving yourself. That matters a lot.

To love even when the other can hurt you. To love and fail is much better than to never experience the joy of loving.

The bad thing about love is that the other person may not love you back. Ha! Ki de de? That is life. to know if she loves you? Learn to trust your instinct. It almost never lies.

Another good one is to always look her in the eye when you are talking. They say the eye hardly lies. If you see the sparkle, if not ,

Bros oh bros! i like you style. And i gree say you no lie. Send the setting to me at oluwaseun2@yahoo.com. if it works you get a 400 recharge card. Abi?

No matter what you say, being shy as no known advantage. I tell you from experience. The only thing that you get is the compliment that you are gentle; which may not be true.

I can't really tell how i came to be freer with people, not like i'm completely over it, but now i enjoy myself more around people. My gist with others are now better spiced because i give part of myself to the discussion.

I also like to encourage younger people, let them know that they can whether the storm and all that, and the only way is to talk to them. And gues what? Engaging teens in gist is one of the most daunting task, ever . They would tune of in 10secs if your gist is stale. However i've developed myself and now can practically work up to a stranger, if i feel drawn to him/her, and begin a new gist.

That is the beauty of life; Relationship!