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Guestmale:
Kudos to our police and more power to their elbow. I pray God will continue to put the enemies of Nigeria to shame.

You be mumu. Apa
Your politicians and Army are the number one enemy of Nigeria who allow bandit to take over this country...

This has never happened before that police track terrorist who flaunt money on social media even though they do it all the time on Tiktok
Is it the fear of Trump? What a Useless security agency we have all this years

Incognito403:
Extremist religious leaders like Oyedepo who insist that Muslim girls must not use hijab in government schools just because the schools have Christian names even when the schools are funded by the government and there's court injunction.

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Don't blame him, it's because hijab has several times been associated with terror, disguise and for concealing bomb before detonating it on innocent masses.

This shows The main problem of this country are the politicians and extremist religious leaders.
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The politicians use religion to divide the people for their gain. Yet they themselves are not religious, they don't even know or follow God's law.
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Did he use same Xmas tree he used years ago. Blogger

Double0h7:
You can’t touch the dancers before the bouncers play you like basketball 🏀 and bounce you outside. It’s a nice atmosphere. I’ve been to a strip club on a first date. It’s no different to a good club just that the ladies where less when they dance. Op, be honest you just don’t want your girl to cramp your style. 😏

Strip club on first date.
You no be better pikin... that date only signifies the relationship is mere chop clean mouth

Perhaps you should wait for a more concrete evidence while you keep monitoring her. If a woman cheats once, she will do it again if she thinks you have forgotten or moved on

Useless government of retrogression... Always about rules, regulation, stiffling innovation instead of supporting innovation. Always sniffing to eat where they have not planted.
Instead of invest in pharmaceuticals, Vaccine production and research, human capital investment in local drug problem, trade skills... All they know is regulation, tax, ban, and nothing else. Bunch of dead head sadistic leaders

Onegai:
Nice one 👏

The boy is still seeing life in linear fashion. He has to realise life is not always a straight line. Imagine Judah in the Bible ending up having sex with his sons wife after the death of his son, unknowing to him. Because he committed the formication in secret but it still boomerang home. Yet this lineage still end up beggeting Jesus.

What of David, committing adultery, killing the husband as a secret affair, yet this same taboo led to the lineage of Jesus.
His problem is that he doesn't know life can be lived even with its complication. He only needs to reconcile with himself.
The man doesn't deserve all the pain he wants to bring to him at old age because of his childishness and fragile heart.
He should use the information to take control of the house in a positive leadership sense

1. Being more loving to the man, calling him more, asking him more personal question about his own life, health, experience, sending him money and gift often and when he least expect, like being a good son. That's the least he can do. Even if he gets to know before his death, so that he can be happy to accept him as his son
2. He should use the information to always put her mom in her place. If na me, I will make my mom fear me, and I will use it to modify her behavior such that she won't have the choice to treat the man like an angel. I won't condone any disrespect or bad treatment by her to the man. I will never tolerate it
3. That biological father, I will give him strong warning to respect himself and keep his distance. I will stand up to his fake gift. And tell him you don't need it that you are fine. Tell him to his face you don't consider him a good moral man he wants to be for the fact that he had the conscience to hurt another man by impregnating his wife.
The boy should not condone that behavior and not even allow him in his wedding, if he like his mental health and wants to be in control of this whole mess.
He needs to take charge with that info and not take nonsense, as well as take care of the other children her mom birthed and be a good responsible leader and example to them morally, spiritually, and financially.
Getting more close to the man making him his good friend and buddy is very crucial here cos most men always feel neglected when old

Kcash200:
Hi guys,

I have a problem i have been dealing with since i was 12. I am from a large family and when i was 12, my mum told me my Dad is not my biological father and for me to make it a secret. I did not know what to do with such an information at that age but i knew it was wrong but i couldnt talk so i am not the one who destroys the family. Everyone lives in peace but i always wonder what will happen if only they know the truth. My biological father has other children and some of them know me that i am outside. He was involved in my life financially from 12years as far as i am aware of. He sent me money then and i kept quiet too and also supported me financially a couple of times though we have no personal relationship asides 2-3mins phone calls here and there and it is been like that for years.

I know my biological father and we kept in touch while i was in secondary school. Now that i am an adult now, i feel really sad about the whole thing and sometimes i even cry on my bed. I have been living in secret and a double life and fearing i might be outed one day. Some people in my mother's family are aware which is very strange and i find it shameful as a man now but i did not choose my fate. I have always tried to forget it and just leave my life but it is always just there especially when i think about starting my own family. I am striving hard for it not to define the way i see marriage and life as i am trying to write a different story for myself.

I grew up with my father who is not my biological father and i have been a good son to him as well and still taking care of him but it bothers that my whole life is a lie and it is hard knowing what i know and i can't say anything as that will scatter the family. I met some girls from a very good home who i can marry but i am scared if i tell her or other girls, that her parent will not let me marry her with that secret.

I am scared of getting married publicly as someone can take the news to my biological father as i do not intend to invite him as my biological father but i always feel heavy anytime i think about it. I want to start a new life for myself but i don't know how to handle this. I do not plan to tell my father as he is getting old and this can kill him at his old age as he has been through a lot in life. He is finally enjoying and i am taking care of him very well and he prays for me all the time.

I am building a good life for myself as a professional and have a lot of girls around me but i don't know what to do. Should i keep quiet and tell the girl i marry after marriage ? Isn't that me building my marriage on deceit. It is a shameful thing to talk about if you look at it.

Sometimes, i feel like they caused me trauma putting me in this position but i am an adult now and will bear responsibility for how i live my life and cant continue to blame any trauma or anyone. I am the one who has to keep quiet for peace to reign in the family.

I don't want to wait too long just incase it is a dealbreaker for someone but i also don't want to be disclosing to anyone.

Aside from marriage, i still do not know what to do with that information.

This case requires a lot of wisdom and very complicated.
It has to do with your happiness, conscience, Surrogate father whom you love, mother who you also care about since she's your mother. In your shoes this what I will do.
First thing first. If your surrogate father hasn't heard it from you, then no woman in the guise of girlfriend, wife, or her family deserve to hear. So the question of telling your girlfriend without your surrogate father first knowing is a big disrespect to him. If you can't tell him then keep shut from telling anyone close to him who can use it against him or you.
Keep it to yourself and be a man. You dint die all this while. How can you even ever thought of divulging your most sensitive secret to a woman. You have to be wise. Every family has secret.

As regard your mom, if she's happy and the family is happy. Don't be the one to ruin her or her family. She already regrets it
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Just pray the secret doesn't get let out while the man is alive. You have to live with it cos it's too complicated. But you have to use this pain and information to treat this man in a more loving and caring manner that he will feel grateful you are a good son. So be more loving to him as your father. And it's good for you to distant yourself from ur biological father since he doesn't really have connection or stake in your life. In fact, the more distant u are to him for now, the better for your mental health. Cos any stunt from him can ruin you.
Now, imagine if this man wasn't alive to care for you, do you think your biological father would have cared and nurtured you the way this man did? So let him have his bliss and be good son.
But if he finds out. Go to him, cry, beg him, tell him you want to remain his son, that you have no father you know. make him know you are with him and against the evil of your mother.
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For now stop accepting gifts from your biological father he's only using that to soften your heart and confuse your identity.
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So be a man, if u didn't know this secret you won't worry, and since u know, use it to be a man, and also always use it against your mom so that she fears you and know her boundaries for the pain she caused you. So you can use the information to your advantage. It's time to be a man
As regard your girlfriend. Go on with her, love her, do your marriage. Keep it secret. In fact live your life as though you dint know this secret cos u are not even supposed to know. It's your secret and pain, bear it, and be strong. Child who has no memory or knowledge of their father and mother gets married, why not you. You have not committed any crime. The problem is you thinks life should be perfect. No you can't determine how life will relate with you. So be grateful for your life and be strong. Message me if you want further advice.
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I repeat, never you tell your girlfriend because she will use it against you, and she will never respect your mother, let alone her family respectin ur mother. They don't deserve to know that part of you. They don't. Give your head sense, respect urself, ur in-laws shouldnt know everything about u

I still don't take this man serious
A man that waited for Trump before he starts talking about terrorism in Nigeria. He's a fraud and lier

As you already known the Genesis of your troubles, what else do you want us to say Oga.
You just have to choose btw the orgasm she provides you at night and your success in business. Pick one and let us rest werey.

How many can they even catch
How many kidnappers have they caught

Cum4me:
She doesn't have any right to fight a uniform man. She will be dealt with

But the police has the right to be flipped over by a woman

This woman definitely beat her husband at home

pointblank247:
Jesus said that if you look at a woman and lust after her you have fornicated. now you have sex in the dream and even ejaculated and still mistake your self for celibate abi?

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Wet dream. Anything can trigger it. But doesn't human free will necessary for sin to be counted. So if you kill in your dream then you are murderer by your analogy

helinues:
The audio billionaires did not make the list

Una wahala too much for this village.

Diamond098454:
why people believe in those things about fair people especially female? A male lecturer always called me (mami) but nothing like that

Not you will tell me nothing like that. Let me finish my 21 days fasting on your head fess. that's if I truly love u to fast for that matter

Target wetin.?
Una don come again

we wont be disappointed if they crash away at the group stage cos, we never kuku healed of the last heartbreak

Mariangeles:
Emotional blackmail/manipulation does not work with me.

Have a good day.

You that I'm still studying.... If you like keep failing all my tests....Soon, I will just pick another person

Diamond098454:
hahaha hahaha🤣🤣🤣🤣 you are funny

The way I suspect those species ehn....A fairy woman has a lot to prove that she's not a water demon as far as I'm concerned... But a black Queen, gbewa

Mariangeles:
What is my business what your existence and your happiness?
Do I owe you that?
You're known to have issues with everything. Probably with life itself.

My posts are not for everybody.

By the way, what have you done for humanity lately, you selfish being?
In what way have you given happiness to people?
Any way at all? Even the intangible.

Only thinking about yourself. You think you're smart.

Maria, Maria, Maria
Don't always let your emotions get the best of you.
I can be your NL helper tomorrow

QuinQ:
Bit men will remarry while the wife is still alive!😅🤣

You get us

But we won't bring you bastard child to train why ur alive

I'm never wrong for always preferring dark ebony queens to fairy water deity

Mariangeles:
Of course.
Food section is my favourite section on nairaland, and I like to contribute to keep it active.

Stop gossiping, and keep your negative energy to yourself.
I could block you again from seeing my posts.

What do you suppose your virtual food posts add to my existence and happiness? I would rather you focus on more serious matter

BAILMONEY:
You are not making any sense at all. Lowering your gaze involves watching porn and fornicating.

Almighty Allah knows what you reveal and what you conceal in your heart.


CHRISTIANS SEF

You people are much more concerned about public display of piety and holiness. I ask you, what does it matter if you lower your gaze, and ask your women to cover from head to toe and yet consume volumes of porn in your secret. Islam isn't particular about secret sin as much as public display of piety

papiilo:
that one is much worse oo

Abi that's why Jesus teaching doesn't give room for you to hide or practice performative holiness until your heart is truly transformed

... In fact Jesus doesn't want us to be hypocrites because no place for them in his kingdom

This girl too like food. She's only known for food threads. Kai.
Hope she's not fat from over feeding sha. That's my only fear

ManknowThyself:
Respect man!!!!

That's why marriage is never my life priority, generate happiness from inside through values of life.

I can never settle for less when comes to marriage.
That's was never his wife but a toxic woman.

But do you know that 80-90% of women will remarry in less than one year especially if their husband left considerable amount of wealth? Do your research and find out. It's so because the wealth will allow them to do and make any decision without consequence. Especially if the children are young. Older children can still caution or fight their mother if she tries nonsense, but younger children, most of the women will marry in 6month- one year

Jesus already said it that from the heart comes the sin of fornication, adultery. Even just by looking with passion one has already committed sin.

Lowering your gaze is a practical way to clear ones mind of incessant views of women's sensitive body.

The question I will ask is, if you lower gaze in the public but you enter your room and unload your gaze into xvideox and pornhub....Everything never spoil? Does Quran has anything to say about that?

But best believe that only extremely few men in both Christians and Muslim practice this law to the utmost holiness. Na why most people from both religion dey go hellfire be that